Punch Safely, Vacuum Joy Etc: Woo Quickies
- Luna Robbie
- Aug 7, 2023
- 23 min read
A compilation episode!
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Luna
There are sex stories in the park. There are listener emails that I read and respond to, and there are some listener voice memos. Remember, if you want to write to me with a story that I can share with our audience or if you want to use your very own voice, visit six Stories podcast.com and or email me at Six Stories podcast at gmail.com.
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Luna
And if you want to join me for sex stories in the park on Sundays, make sure that you are signed up for my newsletter at WYO Live.com. Enjoy! So I'm here in the park with what's Your name?
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Lorde
My name is Lord, like Jesus. I'm 38. I'm trans mask. My pronouns are he him. I'm pansexual. I like all the pretty people. I'm Polly, I'm dating a few people and some sexy things I'm into. I just like straight up objectification. Like I'm into feet. I'm into asses and lactating titties off of all genders. This is my day job.
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Lorde
This is my full time job. And I also write for a nonprofit music magazine called Razor Cake. I wrote a column called Dumb Mom Diaries. It's about my work, and I'm also a parent of a young child, so I write about that. People can find me at Lord Destroyer on Instagram, Twitter, all that stuff, and especially my only fans.
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Lorde
I would love for you to come say hi. I'm going to tell you a story about a play party I went to last night. The context for this party is it's a over 30 queer, quote unquote, your own play party. It was the inaugural one. It was the first one. So I got a ticket last minute. It was in a dungeon downtown.
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Lorde
It was at Justine Cross's dungeon. And I had such a fucking good time. Damn it.
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Luna
Okay, now I wish I'd gone. I almost went, okay. I'm still scared of play parties a little bit. Okay. To go alone.
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Lorde
I love bringing people into the fold. I mean, people who are cool and respectful. I love being like a kink tour guide book speak. So if you do want to go to a party, I'm done. Yeah. And this one was good. This one is ten out of ten. It was also for experienced players, but there was one or 2 or 3 brand new people.
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Lorde
So it wasn't like, no, you can't come in. But, it was for experienced players. So there was kind of a super jump in headfirst vibe. Okay, usually at parties, people kind of like, you know, mingle a little bit or kind of like hang back on the wall. But this was like straight to that.
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Luna
That's what I need because I can't do the secret social signals. I'm like, what are we doing now? So have you been going to Beads femme? And like other of her events, I.
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Lorde
I went to Beads Femme online. Oh, that was my first event with Justine. And that was during Covid. Yeah, yeah, I haven't been in person. I haven't been to a party since last summer. I just hadn't honestly been in the mood and people kept getting Covid. And yeah, one of the requirements for the party was bring your negative Covid test.
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Lorde
So that was nice. And then I got to kiss someone. I felt okay, but I'm having like a little make out okay okay. That was good. Highlights. Lots of trans people. I'm trans felt super at home. The queerness was there. The just go head first delicious enjoying each other's bodies things was there. It was second was allowed which some parties it's not allowed.
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Luna
Or it's only allowed in certain zones.
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Lorde
Sure. Yeah. And this was allowed and that was really nice to just be around that energy and see people enjoying each other. Can I talk about my fetish that I got to please? Yes. So I'm a program at the top, but I will bottom for mommies. I'm like a definitely have a lactation kink. Really? Yes.
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Luna
Oh my god oh my god. I had my first lactation experience like a couple months ago. I had stumbled into it. I was in a threesome and I was like, oh wait. And she was like, oh, I have a baby. Yeah, it was great. Oh my God. Sweet. So oh, hot. Okay. Keep going. Sorry for you.
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Lorde
I want to hear that story later. The best part about it for me was it was two trans women like two. And one of them brought a pump and the other one was just hand expressing. And one of them invited me to just feed from her. And I kind of got to co feed with someone else. Oh my God, it was so erotic.
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Lorde
And I just felt like I just got sucked into this tunnel vision of like, I am doing this, it's me and this nipple. It's just us. It's beautiful. Dude, it was beautiful. She was very much enjoying it. And she was talking about how she was going to stop lactating soon. So it's just kind of like a last hurrah and people would casually pass by.
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Lorde
It'd be like, oh, if you want to get more out, like express like this, like pull from the top and like push down, it's like me had a hand express it was such a community.
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Luna
That experience really sweet. It was like, that's a rose. That's like hot. It was like, that's the kind of like community nurturing that I dream of being a part of.
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Lorde
I love that I think people don't always think about kink being a really communal experience, and not just like two people going off to a room to suck. It's like, yeah, we're all in this. The other, highlight hard left was getting to the top and just put the beat on someone. One of the mommies, actually, she asked me if I would do some impact for her.
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Lorde
Put her up on the cross. She has a shiny latex pencil skirt and like this really meaty as. And I just went to town on it with the Dragons Hill and,
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Luna
Single tale.
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Lorde
Single tale. Thank you. It looks like a dragon.
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Luna
Yeah, yeah, I always imagined it as a dragon tale.
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Lorde
Exactly. And she wanted to get marked up. She's been talking a lot lately, and she was like, I want to bottom. And I had been bothering a little bit lately, so I was like, I want to top. So it was perfect.
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Luna
On that thing.
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Lorde
She also let me punch her, which not everyone is down for that. But I'm a boxer also, so I'm like really into punching. And she was like, punch me. It's like, punch the shit out of her tits. It was great.
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Luna
Well, will you give a little, like many verbal tutorial on punching? Like, where do you punch? What do you have to avoid?
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Lorde
You definitely want to avoid the vital organs for sure. And avoid the bones. Go for like the meaty muscle tissue. Like asses are good or like thighs. Maybe if they're okay with that. But that's also you have to negotiate your level, like give them a little a little knock and be like, this is medium and this is hard.
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Lorde
And how does that feel? Usually people want me to do harder. I usually on less.
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Luna
Yeah. You punched a mommy.
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Lorde
I punched a mommy in the teddy. It was just like. And just the fact that she loved it. I mean, that's what being a top is about for me. It's like I feed off that energy of, like, they're just loving this. And it becomes like the recycle symbol and it's sending energy to each other. It was delicious.
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Lorde
And you know I exchanged some numbers by the end of the night which is nice. Yeah I went home and took a while to come down. Yeah. That's the, the one drawback is like today I might be crashing at like 7 p.m..
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Luna
So that's my biggest problem with play parties and my goal over the coming year ish is to start hosting day once I have the most energy. I'm a daytime person. Like noon, show up at noon, I'll feed you brunch. I'll take pictures of anyone who wants erotic photos, like I'll create a nice space. That's the plan. That's the near term.
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Lorde
You know, they have day raves. Why not? Day play party.
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Luna
Oh my gosh, bubbles are coming at us. Oh, no.
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Lorde
Oh, this is a very serendipitous encounter we're having here. This beautiful sunny day in the park with bubbles floating. It is.
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Luna
Damn. Wait. So would you mind sharing, like your approach? It sounds like you knew some of the people here, but also sounds like you didn't know a lot of the people there. So like, how do you show up? Because I get fucking weird and I'm like, maybe next time I need to just like, tape my mouth shut and right shy, stubby and please touch, you know, or something on my body.
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Lorde
That's a brilliant idea. I fully endorse that idea. I'm an introvert, truly. I'm a performer. So I'm like a fake extrovert. My first party, I was super shy, and I think I put on a yellow wristband, which was like, approach with caution. And I was lucky enough to have someone just bring me into the fold. Their name is Aaron Piglet, and one of their jobs at threshold, which is a dungeon out in Burbank, is to like socially liaison newbies.
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Luna
I would love to.
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Lorde
It's a social support pig that helped me. Like I literally had someone at my first party be like, hi, do you want to pet me? They're in little piggy space, so it's like it just made it so easy.
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Luna
I love that they're amazing.
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Lorde
If you can't get Ahold of a social support pig. Yeah, I would just recommend doing exactly what our host said, which is this is a place to say exactly what you want. If you're like, please touch that. You can write that on your chest. Do that. A lot of people still wear their masks at these parties. It's a Covid conscious community.
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Lorde
It seems like it's totally okay to wear a mask, you know, for health concerns or you just kind of like, don't want to be red and you want to be a little bit more shy. Maybe I would wear a hood. You can wear whatever you want. Well, there's sometimes there's a dress code, but it's not usually heavily enforced.
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Lorde
I've gone where I just wanted to hang out and watch. Okay. And that's okay. When I have been on low energy. But I don't want to be at home. It's a nice place to go. That's with adults and it's not usually I'm not a big drinker, and it's not usually a place where they encourage intoxication. So that's nice for me.
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Luna
Yeah. So I don't do the drinking. Yeah.
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Lorde
So just go put on your appropriate wristband like it's okay to watch for a little bit, say what you want or write what you want if you're shy.
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Shares
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Luna
It's interesting. I have such a responsive desire. I think I might actually just need partners where I have a little bit of a plan, or someone who's in charge of me that just wants to order me how to get used, because otherwise I literally have to, like, sit down and like interview someone and be like, where are their overlap?
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Luna
Let's find it, you know, and so I can be a little bit intense in that way.
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Lorde
You want someone to negotiate for you, like as you're.
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Luna
Just like the property and or like the love puppet, like I'm just, you know, I'm just I mean, not like an actual. I haven't been an actual puppy yet, but it's on my bucket list. I have a very long bucket list, so. But basically I function with music as like erotic muses. And so like, I've been very into spanking lately because I stumbled into a spanking partner.
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Luna
And so I tried a spanking skirt last week for the first time. And it's.
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Lorde
You know, you like it.
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Luna
Oh, I loved it. I just didn't know they existed. You know, since I've been getting spanked a little bit now I don't get as many bruises. And so I'm like, maybe I need a little break. And then I want to have a lot of bruises again, you know.
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Lorde
With the leather ass.
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Luna
Dude, I had a hairbrush. Like a dryer, a wet brush. So it has holes in it. And for my birthday, it was like my whole ass was like purple. But with these beautiful little circles. And I love circles.
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Lorde
That's a birthday.
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Luna
It was a great birthday.
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Lorde
My heart melted a little. And you said, happy place on your bucket list. I see like a collie. Like a very like, hard working, attentive Polly.
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Luna
Oh, wow.
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Lorde
That's just like, so beautiful.
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Luna
Let me go fetch. I did recently have a fantasy I was too shy to share with a partner about, like, wanting to fetch them. Another partner, just like, was a little like such puppy, I don't know. So maybe there's puppy play in my future. Do you want to tell us about your work as a DM? So also maybe sometime you would want to do a long form interview.
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Luna
I, I interview professionals as well as everyday people.
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Lorde
Oh, we can do a more in-depth one. Oh, I would love to read. I can but.
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Luna
Like yeah, give us the highlights. Like how do people find you? How do they what's your specialty? What type of a Dom are you?
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Lorde
I can be found on most platforms at Lord destroyer. I kind of market myself as a professional bully slash hypno daddy. I specialize in hypnosis. You know, I'm actually like a sweet guy, but I am incredibly sadistic. And like, I do get hella giggles out of breaking people and using them and bending them and molding them.
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Luna
That's amazing.
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Lorde
Indoctrination, brainwashing, psychological devastation. It's heavy. The niche is called a mind fuck, right? So I'm really good. I learn this from having manipulative parents. Thanks mom and dad. You're making me money. I learned how to really make people question their experience and be like, oh, I don't know. Is that is that what's happening really good at getting in people's heads consensually?
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Lorde
You know, that's what they want. It does get to be a little gray area where it's like, how far do I push? Especially with the hypnosis stuff. I mean, it's real, it works. So if someone's like, I want you to hypnotize me to never come again. And I'm like, are you serious? Because I do you really, really want that.
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Lorde
But most of them get off on the severity of the finality of that. I could irreversibly change them. That's the fetish, right? So I have to dance along that line of really almost doing it. And kind of not doing it.
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Luna
When did you discover these proclivities?
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Lorde
You know, the clients really shaped me. My first things I did were online and I marketed myself as a bisexual cum factory, I think was my listing. And I was just about cum eating, but it was my own and I didn't know I was such a noob. I didn't know that people wanted competing instruction for themselves. Yeah.
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Lorde
So then I was like, oh okay. And that immediately put me into the Dom thing where it's like I'm ordering them to do that and my nature is just dominant. So I went more dominant. And then one client was just really into hypnosis and kind of muse pedestal ization, adoration, kind of I'll die for you kind of. I love the obsession.
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Lorde
It just feeds my ego. I love when people are obsessed with me.
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Luna
I love to obsess on people.
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Lorde
See, that's the beauty of King is there's a yin for the yang. There's a.
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Luna
The puzzle pieces.
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Lorde
The puzzle piece for someone, and it's okay. And it's not weird. Codependent, you know, it's all consensual, negotiated.
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Luna
It's its own sort of balance.
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Lorde
Temporary codependence maybe. So, yeah. A particular client who I just talked to last week, actually, one of my first clients got me into hypnosis. And mind fuck, I also really like pheromones play. So I'll play with that. With the hypnosis I can give him people like things with my piss on it or my sweat on it. Okay, maybe like this is a trigger and I'm really into chastity.
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Lorde
I don't want anybody to come. Really? Yeah. I want me to come. And then there's sacrifice slash suffering just like, feeds my. And it's like a nice circuit because that's what they want to do. I'm just like a silly, mean boy with a.
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Luna
Fucking love.
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Lorde
Hypnosis fetish.
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Luna
How lucky for me that you were walking through the park today.
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Lorde
You know, I don't like. I had the play party energy and I was like, yeah, I want to tell somebody about what happened. So I'm glad you were here to hear it.
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Luna
Oh my gosh.
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Lorde
You're the first to.
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Luna
Hear it. I'm super grateful. Are there any other play party highlights or any other fresh thoughts or learnings or inspirations from last night?
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Lorde
Oh, I would say it reaffirms my gender identity for me. I'd been bottoming for a few weeks for someone who's more a mask than me, and I'm starting to like, mess with my head a little bit. So I just really glad I got a chance to be a dominant top mask and like, have a cute girl call me a gentleman because her ass was sticking to the acrylic chair, so I gave her my jacket to sit on.
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Luna
That is very gentlemanly.
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Lorde
While I zapped her thighs with the electric steam and kissed her neck. It was very. I was like that top. I was like the magic Mike. Like queer and like, with pain devices. That was really. Yeah. I had a nice little sensual mini top session with someone who knew exactly what she wanted. Do this. Do it harder.
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Lorde
Enough. Stop! Yes, and I appreciated that.
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Luna
There's, like, so many layers of inspiration and hot things I'm experiencing right now. I'm heavily considering shifting my sleep schedule so I can go to things like this. Laura Destroyer, thank you so much for sharing on sex stories.
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Lorde
You're welcome. It was my pleasure.
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Luna
Lovers. I'm going to read you a couple of listener emails and stories, and if you have something that you want to share with our audience, please write to me at Six Stories podcast at gmail.com. First email positive kink story from Bebe. Hey, while thank you so much for the podcast, I really enjoy episodes when they come out. I really enjoy the positive discussions you have about sex in all forms.
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Luna
It has led me to be compelled to tell you and the audience about my story. Please keep me anonymous. There is no two ways about it. I have a fetish for vacuum cleaners. Ever since an experiment as a young boy, this fetish developed and it doesn't appear to be going away anytime soon. Fast forward many years. I do get a girlfriend that doesn't need to be plugged into the wall.
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Luna
As you can imagine, I was deadly scared to tell her about my fetish and kept it a secret. No, I never imagined secrets. This at times led me to awkwardly hide my boner any time she vacuumed her apartment. Eventually, once when I was at work, my girlfriend asked if she could borrow my laptop that I rarely use. I duly obliged, however, her absolute shock when she opened the laptop, she found unclosed tabs with links to videos of women doing all sorts of things with vacuum cleaners.
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Luna
Oh, like what? Details please. When I got home from work, there was an inquisition. Oh, inquisition sound mad to me, after which I admitted my fetish to her and effectively came out, so to speak. I was braced for the worst and expected my girlfriend to break up with me. However, between her point of discovery and me coming home, she had gotten over the initial shock and invited me to go and grab the vacuum for play.
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Luna
Fast forward again, and now I have the most magnificent and understanding wife who never has to vacuum the house, a chore she previously hated. And in return, she just lets me give her boob a quick vacuum or she gives me a vacuum job she has. Okay, I want details on all of those things she has previously observed. Blowjobs are much easier when the vacuum does the sucking and cleans up all the mess.
00:18:03:05 - 00:18:10:15
Luna
Oh, like just the vacuum and no mouth. I'm like, point of hygiene information. We have one vacuum for cleaning the house and one for playing with. Oh.
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Lorde
I love.
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Luna
That. I want to know if they're the same model or a different model, and how many different models have you tried on your cock? I hope at the very least you found this story interesting. Yes, this is the first person. Keep up the good work thing that makes me so happy. You were the first person who I have encountered who's had a vacuum fetish, so I fucking love.
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Luna
This is the thing I'm learning so much. My research list is gigantic. I've been thinking lately too. I'm like, how do I research all this porn? You know, it's one thing to be capturing. I'm very good at, like, capturing what is in front of me based on the given goals. It's one thing to be like on set, either like with still photos or with the camera, the moving camera and like capturing what's sexy.
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Luna
That's easy for me when I start to think about planning my own porn, my own shoots like directing and being in front of the camera and all of it. And like what is going to make it juicy and beautiful and gratifying to me, especially since I'm so good at capturing stuff and I have some control stuff there when it comes to the creative, because if I'm going to like, do all the creative output, I want the visuals to be at least as good as I would make them.
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Luna
If I have a real clone. All of that is to say, damn, now I need to add vacuum fetish to my list. And I'm like, I've used a penis pump on my pussy, which was really, really hot. This seems like a sharper version. Like, I would like to also know if you have played with like, vacuum oriented toys, if that's interesting to you at all.
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Luna
And like, is it vacuum specific? When did you first become aware of it? Like damn. So interesting. And is it syncing action. Is it sound, is it vibration? Is it all of it? Is it the smell? I feel like vacuum cleaners have a very specific smell. And I'm also now just having a vision of like lots of sexy humans, like on a it's a carpet on a big carpet, like all like synchronized vacuuming, like synchronized swimming and like, like you maybe here at the middle, like getting the vacuum job from your wife or like, I don't know.
00:20:04:00 - 00:20:24:11
Luna
Yeah. And tell me more about vacuuming the boobs. I want more details out of this story I love it. Thank you for sharing. I fucking love that. Okay. And now we have another email from H.W. poo. This one doesn't have a title but begins. I'm 63. I've spent my career in the nuclear power industry. Let me tell you how I expanded my sexual life.
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Luna
Back in high school. I met my first wife. She didn't want to give me a blowjob. After a while she once or twice sucked me. Anal was out of the question. This brought to mind that maybe I was asking her to do something gross, so I decided that if I wanted, my cock sucked. Wondering if it was horrible for the one sucking, I needed to try it.
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Luna
So I found a guy that would let me suck him. I loved feeling his cock grow in my mouth. I loved the sweetness of his prick come up late when he exploded, I enjoyed that. Oh, details please. Where did he explode? Did he explode in your mouth? Was it on your face? Was it on your body? So I did the same for anal.
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Lorde
Oh that too.
00:21:04:14 - 00:21:26:00
Luna
I enjoyed it as a receiver, I'm imagining. But I am not gay. Most likely bi or pin. I love being a sub. Oh, cool. I hope we can share. Yes, if you want to apply to be a guest and share a full story on sex stories, anyone can go to Sex Stories podcast.com that redirects you to wiley.com/sex stories, and there is an apply to be a guest button.
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Luna
It's the first thing that shows up. That is the only way that I know for sure that you want to actually be a guest on sex stories. And you're not just like writing to me, because it is hard to tell from a lot of you. But also, I think that's because some of you don't know or you want to maybe be like convinced, which I will never do.
00:21:41:00 - 00:21:56:16
Luna
I find convincing personally, in all forms. Like I will be here when you're ready to share. And if you don't want to share publicly, you can always share with me privately. And if you want to share with me privately and have me talk back to you, there are one on one sessions available for that, so thank you. What a hot story!
00:21:56:16 - 00:22:21:10
Luna
I can't wait to hear more! Lastly, we have a question from B. I would like to ask you questions about long term power exchange relationships. I started a relationship and I would like some advice if possible. Specifically, I'd like some insight on how to be a good Domme. Your podcast showed me that there are women out there who want passionate and kinky relationships, and it gave me the strength to leave my sexless, touchless, emotionally abusive marriage.
00:22:21:10 - 00:22:42:19
Luna
Wow. Congratulations. And now I am with a passionate woman who wants to explore her kinky side. Thank you so much. Well, first, I want to start off by saying there's a lot of subjectivity in this realm for advice. And I think that when you were figuring out for yourself, assuming that safety and risk awareness are your first priorities, I really encourage a lot of research.
00:22:42:21 - 00:23:02:00
Luna
So if you're looking for resources to get started, I always recommend the new topping book and the new Bottoming book by Janet Hardy and Darcy Easton. Those are favorites. I think those provide good basic frameworks that include emotional stuff and are sort of like. And for the technical skills, here are resources, you know, and I think the best resources depend on your learning style.
00:23:02:00 - 00:23:24:17
Luna
I am a big fan of all of the above. My personal favorite, the one I get the most excited about that you guys see the most, is talking to people one on one directly. That's also just an imperfect medium, because oftentimes there is a base of knowledge they are drawing from. And so there are many assumptions that oftentimes I'll be like, but let me ask you six questions so I can like get to the level where you're at.
00:23:24:19 - 00:23:43:07
Luna
So it's going to depend on your knowledge, your background. If you're starting really fresh, you're going to get a lot out of the new topic book and the new bottoming book. And even if you are a top or a bottom, I recommend reading both. I read both, and that was before I identified as a switch. So I think that if you are not into books, then you need to get into community.
00:23:43:09 - 00:24:00:10
Luna
Or if you want to hire a professional to work one on one with. That is what I do. I help people craft scenes. I help people target what their next learnings are. I also just help couples facilitate each other by asking them questions together, and sort of like bouncing the answers back and forth. That said, you have to be at the right place in your relationship for that to happen.
00:24:00:10 - 00:24:35:04
Luna
I really think that as you're gaining resources and knowledge and listening to experts in these fields, you should be having conversations with your partner about what sounds good, what sounds yummy, what do you actually want to get into? You know, when it comes to display, the variety is infinite. You and your partner are going to co-create something totally unique to you, and it's going to be flavors of not just your personality and your personal power exchange style, but at least what I've noticed in my own self is, yes, I tend to be submissive in my personal life, more dominant in all professional environments, and yet with each person, my energy shifts a little bit.
00:24:35:06 - 00:24:56:23
Luna
With some people, I'm a little more nurturing. With some people I'm a little bit harsher. With some people I'm a little bit broader. With some people I'm a little bit more formal. With some people I'm a little bit more childlike and playful. So you and your partner together will have to figure out, I can't tell you what's going to be good for you unless I'm working with you in a one on one capacity, and usually with couples, having a few sessions is a better kind of option.
00:24:57:01 - 00:25:18:17
Luna
The other thing that I do sometimes is I have done a couple of scenes where I'm holding the camera, capturing on video, and I just direct people as I see stuff unfolding and happening, and they can take the direction or not, or do whatever they want with it. So far, I've only experienced that in situations where I'm working with like literal, actual professionals who are used to working in scenes together or couples who are really solid in communicating with each other.
00:25:18:17 - 00:25:28:11
Luna
So I don't necessarily recommend that for newer connections, but I do recommend that you have this conversation with your partner and if you need more help, if you need my help, you know where to find me.
00:25:28:13 - 00:26:09:09
Shares
Hi, my name is, from North Carolina. To be honest, I have never experienced any sexual desires with anybody. I mean, besides going to an adult theater one time and going to a swingers club twice. I am a single male, 29 year old. Just turned 29 last month. I am a black African American, but I just love to experience sexual desires.
00:26:09:11 - 00:26:33:20
Shares
I'll be honest with you, I am a mILF guy. I love other women. That's all. They're mine. But yeah, that's all about me. Thank you. Hi. I recently heard your latest podcast regarding your bucket list. And then another one. A long time ago, you used the term hydrophilic. It's also aqua science. And if on your bucket list, you should put underwater sex or scuba sex.
00:26:33:22 - 00:26:56:01
Shares
There's plenty of videos that you can see what it's all about, but there's nothing more sensuous than a woman in scuba gear and having an underwater orgasm. Whether you're getting one or getting one, the way that the mask frames the face, the way to lift hold, the regulator, and the uncertainty of being in a strange place, whether it be eight foot deep in the pool or 20ft deep in a warm, well-lit ocean.
00:26:56:06 - 00:27:17:20
Shares
You should really give it a try. And I hope to hear you talk about it or have a guest about it soon. It's very exciting. And even if you one time buy your pleasuring yourself, simply hold your breath as you reach orgasm. You'll find that it's more exciting to reach climax than it is to take a breath and try to hold your breath throughout the whole orgasm.
00:27:17:22 - 00:27:39:16
Shares
Scuba is very sensual. Take a look at some of the videos. I think you'll be impressed. We start off by saying I'm 53 years old and I'm hornier now than I was when I was 33. I'm a partially buoyant guy, Cleo, but I love oral sex. I love giving oral sex. I mean, I like getting it too, but not as much as I like doing it.
00:27:39:16 - 00:28:00:08
Shares
And there's nothing to me better than ever. John and I love everything about it. Licking it, smelling it. The taste of it. And so I spend time giving oral sex to my brother and General Abbott with it. But I don't get it anymore because my wife is pretty much lost her sex drive as mine has gone up, hers is going down.
00:28:00:10 - 00:28:05:18
Shares
So I've fantasized about licking a vagina and tasting orgasm.
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