Legal Brothel Negotiation Tips: How to Brothel

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Luna shares practical, heart-centered negotiation tips for legal brothels in Nevada. With a focus on calming the nervous system, valuing human connection, and co-creating satisfying intimate experiences, she walks listeners through her relational negotiation style—from feelings check to final agreement. Whether you're a first-time visitor or curious about the process, this guide offers clarity, compassion, and a few juicy behind-the-scenes stories.

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00:00:00:08 - 00:00:27:15

Luna

Welcome to How to Brothel a girl. Woohoo! Yourself Mini-Series episode six Legal Brothel Negotiation Tips. Negotiation does not have to be scary. This is not. Never split the difference by Chris Voss. There are no hostages. You do not even have to go to a brothel. However, if you do go to a legal brothel in Nevada, negotiation is a normal part of the process.

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Luna

So my goal in sharing all of this with you is to calm your nervous system. Because our favorite clients are the ones who show up eager and ready to discuss their desires and show that they really value us. It's also better for your nervous system throughout the entire experience, and my hope is that sharing these brothel negotiation tips leaves you prepared to ask for the dream party that you deserve.

00:00:50:22 - 00:01:26:13

Luna

Here are some considerations. Please open up your heart. Open up your mind and hear this. You will only value what you actually value. Hopefully you are coming to visit a ranch to have a meaningful experience. So value that. Start there. You will need to be able to access your money, so plan accordingly. Like I have had people that showed up without a credit card, without a debit card and without cash and I was like, I don't know how to help you.

00:01:26:16 - 00:01:47:01

Luna

Like, I don't know what you were planning to do for her. Can I Venmo you? I was like, well, no, no, that's and that's not Army rule. That's not a brothel rule. That's a Venmo rule that the whore phobic society and that is out of our control. Also consider there's a reciprocal relationship between giving and receiving in order to receive something of value.

00:01:47:07 - 00:02:15:04

Luna

You will give something of value. And again, I talk about this a lot, but there are studies that show when people get something for a bargain, they do not value it. Most human beings enjoy being valued. And if you live in lack mindset, you will always experience scarcity, including but not limited to money. Fear, which makes it hard to enjoy any experience, much less an experience that it's very intimate at a ranch.

00:02:15:06 - 00:02:33:23

Luna

And please consider that you deserve to be deeply nourished, especially if you have been working hard. You know, it's really funny to get emails from people that are like, oh, I don't do anything for fun. I just work, work, work. And then they show up and they want to be really miserly. And I'm like, I hear you. And something here is out of balance.

00:02:34:01 - 00:03:09:00

Luna

You know, capitalist monsters are everywhere. So ask yourself, what do you need right now? How have you treated yourself recently? What is the nicest thing that you've ever treated yourself to? How might feeling deeply relaxed, held, and accepted have a positive effect on your life? How much would you spend on a first date and a second date? And the third and fourth and fifth and sixth, and however many more dates you might need before you get to physical intimacy.

00:03:09:02 - 00:03:34:00

Luna

And multiply that by how much you value your time, and the ability to immediately drop into an intimate connection with someone. And then maybe, I don't know, divide it or do some some of your own metaphorical math to add in the factor of searching for someone you like. Lining up a schedule and then navigating the emotions and feelings of another human being.

00:03:34:01 - 00:03:54:08

Luna

Go ahead. Think about that for a minute and then try to put a number on that for yourself. So this is a little overview of my personal negotiation style, which I consider to be relational. These are the steps that I use and like to recommend when negotiating at any ranch with any lady. And do keep in mind, at least at Sherry's, it's supposed to be a ten minute conversation or less.

00:03:54:08 - 00:04:16:04

Luna

You know, once we get to the room, if I'm picking up an appointment and we are meeting for the first time, instead of chatting in the bar for ten minutes, I may spend those ten minutes in my room so that can stretch up to 20 minutes. But really, we are supposed to kind of keep it compact because in general, if you can't reach an agreement within ten minutes, there's probably enough resistance in your body that you just aren't ready where you aren't that in the fat lady.

00:04:16:06 - 00:04:34:06

Luna

So if you would like to have extended talking time, you can totally start off by booking a hangout party or working that into the party of your dreams. I like to do all the talking without clothes personally, so if we can get there faster. Great. So number one feelings check. I like to start by being like, okay, now you're in my room.

00:04:34:06 - 00:04:56:19

Luna

How do you feel? Is there anything that I need to know? And then I like to tell people a little bit of how I like to work if they have questions. And this is the moment where if someone is like, I'm fine. And for those of you not watching the video, my arms are crinkly crossed, my shoulders are up to my ears, and I'm making a dodgy face with a lot of chin rolls.

00:04:56:21 - 00:05:17:00

Luna

One of my favorite stories is someone who walked in, you know, and we always have to let the office know that someone is in there with us because they keep tabs on us. And I go over. I pick up the phone, I'm like, hello? Just letting you know I have company. I set it back down. I turn around and my guest on the couch is like full, like arms crossed, legs crossed.

00:05:17:00 - 00:05:39:05

Luna

He's sitting in the far corner of the couch. So I observed his folded arms and I just said, I notice your arms are folded. Tell me about that. And he uncross them. And oh, and you know, when I observe, someone like that typically will completely change behavior. And that's okay. Kind of like in meditation when it's like, observe your breath, even though Andy and headspace is always like, don't change it.

00:05:39:05 - 00:05:57:00

Luna

I'm always like, oh, every time. You know, so being observed can cause a reaction. That's why oftentimes we don't need to try to change or be different. We just notice. Just notice. So I noticed his cross arms and I said, I noticed your arms are crossed. Tell me about that. He uncross them and he says, you have something to show me, like a menu or something.

00:05:57:00 - 00:06:16:01

Luna

And I'm like, yeah, I do have a menu and we're here to connect as people. You know, I am not really the best option if you're looking for stranger sex. You know, I pretty much prefer kind of like warmth and connection, even if it's something simple. Is are you looking for more of a like stranger play experience? He's like, no, no, I want that.

00:06:16:01 - 00:06:32:03

Luna

And I was like, which one? He's like, no, I want warmth. And I was like, okay. I was like, do you want to just breathe with me for a second? So oftentimes now I will start by just reminding people to breathe. Let your belly get loose. Breathe in through the nose, out through the nose. If you're nervous in any context, that's really good.

00:06:32:03 - 00:06:48:07

Luna

If you have space, you can do four seven, eight. Breathing in for four counts, hold for seven counts, out for eight counts. If you do that 4 or 5 times, you can pretty much shift your zone. So I'll do like 1 or 2 in and out in those breaths with people if they're very, very nervous. So he softens.

00:06:48:07 - 00:06:59:23

Luna

We both are on the same page about wanting warmth and, you know, I'm like, I mean, you didn't come here to get married, did you? That was where that was the origin story of that joke that I know sometimes make. And he's like, no, no, no, no, no. And I was like, oh, okay, good. Me neither. Okay.

00:06:59:23 - 00:07:18:19

Luna

Then we're on the same page. Let's move forward, you know? And so I was able to talk to him about feelings and it was so cute because with him, he softened so much. We were able to have a human experience. And I also let people know, like, I really am not outcome oriented. Obviously, if someone picks me, I'm going to do my very best.

00:07:18:19 - 00:07:37:06

Luna

If we vibe to find a connection and an overlap, like it's so fun to get picked. It's so fun to fulfill another person's fantasy and desire. And I can only do that if I feel valued and appreciated, like there has to be mutual overlap. And so with him, he came in and he did not have a big budget.

00:07:37:06 - 00:07:56:18

Luna

In fact, he had the minimum budget that we are allowed to accept at the ranch. And once he did get to looking at my menu, he was able to kind of point and click on a thing. And then he ended up doubling his budget. So anyway, starting out with a feelings check, how were you feeling? 2 to 3 minutes, you know, and I like to just drop in, see how someone's doing.

00:07:56:18 - 00:08:19:23

Luna

And some people are totally fine. I do remember the very first time that I asked someone how they were feeling at the beginning of a negotiation, because I adopted this approach from my dear friend Camille Daviss approach, where she she likes to check in about feelings too. And hilariously, the first time that I ever used the Camille approach and asked about feelings, the person that I asked was like, I'm fine, why should I be scared?

00:08:20:03 - 00:08:41:01

Luna

I was like, no, no, no, no, no, I just I'm just checking in. Okay? So, you know, everyone is different. You may or may not have feelings. Not everyone likes talking about feelings. I do. I love understanding human feelings because I've had to work really hard to understand them. So once we get through the initial kind of like human Check-In, I like to go to step two, discovering our overlap.

00:08:41:03 - 00:09:05:14

Luna

So I like to ask, how do you want to play today? What sort of activities feel fun right now? You know, oftentimes I'll have people write long emails and they have all these specific desires, and that's really cool. I love having a plan. I love having a template to work off of. And even if we have discussed in detail what is on the table when we get to the actual negotiation, I like to always leave room for the present moment, right?

00:09:05:16 - 00:09:26:13

Luna

We may feel different moment to moment, day to day. That said, we have to get really clear to the best of our ability in the negotiation so that we can have an agreed upon party and keep everything, you know, safe, cozy, comfortable. Because that is the only way we can guarantee the outcome is if we get really specific on activities and then time wise, I like to ask people, okay, do you want to lose track of time?

00:09:26:13 - 00:09:44:18

Luna

Do you want to keep track of time? Most people have kind of an idea of time. Some people want to have a really extended session. Some people want to have overnight, some people want to. Multi-day is a lot of people are just looking for something on the quicker end. You know, everyone is different. This is also the time to discuss any must have any fantasies, any limits, you know.

00:09:44:18 - 00:10:03:01

Luna

So sometimes people like actually do not touch my genitals. I need to make sure that you're not going to come in contact with my penis at all. And I'm like, okay, if if I have to keep my hands off of you, I can do that. You know, I I'm into adding to it. So we get really, really clear about where our overlap is.

00:10:03:01 - 00:10:21:22

Luna

We figure out a budget that works. You know, I try to always make sure that if someone comes in with a particular desire and priority that we, you know, achieve that goal and then we can get flexible around time if we need to. Like whatever we have to do to make sure that someone's initial priority is preserved. That's kind of how I like to work.

00:10:22:03 - 00:10:50:19

Luna

And sometimes people come in and they decide actually, that thing that I thought I wanted is less important to me than more time. I have also been in a situation where I'm like, okay, we're on a tighter budget, so we can either do these two activities for this amount of time or one activity for a little longer amount of time, and we don't have to decide right now, like in the party, as long as we start the second activity by this point in our session, then we can figure it out, you know?

00:10:50:19 - 00:11:08:14

Luna

And if we decide in the moment that we want to just keep playing with only the single activity, you know, usually hands are kind of the single activity, sometimes it's hands and mouth. You know, depends. So that's how we kind of figure it out. We discover our overlap, but then we finalize it. I always like to recap the priorities out loud to make sure we're both on the same page.

00:11:08:19 - 00:11:26:08

Luna

We agree on the final budget. We get excited, we high five, and then we get to go to step four, which is the dick and or pussy check. We do a health check, so I usually bring people into the bathroom where there's better lighting. You pull the pants down, I put the gloves on. I like to think of it as a mini medical roleplay.

00:11:26:12 - 00:11:45:13

Luna

And so this is an inspection where I use an alcohol soaked wipe to wipe around. It's a little sensory play, and this is just to look to see if there are any cuts, sores, opening nicks, scratches, anything that we need to know to play safely. And if we need to put a Band-Aid on something, that's okay. And hopefully you have read the preparation guide.

00:11:45:13 - 00:12:03:03

Luna

And if you have any genital always or anything that looks suspicious, you have it checked out by a physician ahead of them. Then we get to go to the office to make it official. They will ask if you're paying with cash or credit or both, and then we get to play time. So that is the general outline of how I like to run a negotiation.

00:12:03:05 - 00:12:26:16

Luna

Feelings check, desire discovery, decide on the overlap and then the inspection payment. And then we get to fun. If you'd like some tips for getting the most out of your time, I do recommend be easy and be really appreciative. There is never a world in which someone is like, rude or abrasive that inspires me to be more generous.

00:12:26:16 - 00:12:52:12

Luna

Like never will I ever want to go above and beyond. For someone who's being miserly and crinkly and rude toward me, it's just not how humans work, like myself included. So be generous to yourself. Be generous to your courtesan. Get really clear on what you want ahead of time, right? Don't wait until you're on the couch in the ladies room being like, no, I don't want to spend money at all.

00:12:52:12 - 00:13:20:06

Luna

You know, like decide ahead of time what your budget is, decide how far you're willing to go, double or triple it. Save up if you have to. You know, unless you've really done the deep research, because the people who deeply research come in prepared and they have the most wonderful time. Because here's the other thing. Never have I ever had a luxury client be anything but wonderfully ecstatic with the entire experience.

00:13:20:08 - 00:13:45:06

Luna

It typically is the people who come in with the tiniest quickie budgets, who are the most entitled and are incensed that they don't get the sun, the moon, the stars, and the entire universe for, you know, less than one might spend on a regular date. So I would say prepare your nervous system, stay calm, practice your breathing, save up, stick to your budget, do research ahead of time so that you know what to expect.

00:13:45:06 - 00:14:06:03

Luna

You know, I have a whole outline on pricing at legal brothels, which we can only share so much about. And one of the things, especially if you are on a strict or budget, allow your turn on to be present. Which is not to say touch ladies out of turn or do anything inappropriate, but just allow it to simmer inside of you as you move through the initial chat with the lady of your choice.

00:14:06:03 - 00:14:26:22

Luna

As you move through the tour, as you do the negotiation, as you're booking, as you're showering, all of that is the lead up to our actual time together. And the worst part about someone coming in and being like, I hate negotiations, I don't want to negotiate. I won't do it. I'll say yes or I'll say no, and I won't do anything else in between.

00:14:26:22 - 00:15:07:20

Luna

I'm sort of like, even if you're an instant yes to my menu point and click price, that energy is so difficult for us both to turn around into arousal. So allow yourself to be turned on by the idea of giving yourself a really nourishing gift, regardless of what amount you choose to spend. Money is energy. So for any budget level, beyond whatever cash, credit, debit you're coming in with, come in with the energy of someone who is ready to invest in their pleasure at any level.

00:15:07:22 - 00:15:26:21

Luna

If a person comes in with that openness and willingness and a humility and a willingness to connect and a desire to connect, everything is possible. And the fun is possible, and the time that we do spend together will be all the more rich because of it. And I really do believe that. Then that creates a ripple effect for you to have more richness.

00:15:26:21 - 00:15:46:00

Luna

If finances are important to you, you know, let it be a good luck charm for you. Let yourself save up. Let us be a good influence on you. So if you stay present, if you stay open, if you stay open to being a good lover, listen to your body communicate. See what your partner responds to. Follow that pleasure, yours will exponentially multiply.

00:15:46:02 - 00:16:05:03

Luna

Money is energy. Erotic energy is the most valuable energy. Have you ever seen a friend who just got laid? And they're like whistling and they're dancing? I always think of, in 500 days of Summer when they sing the hollow notes like, you make my dreams come true. Like that vibe is what you are investing in for yourself.

00:16:05:04 - 00:16:22:19

Luna

And if you block it by worrying about how much you're spending, it's not fun for either party. So let go of ideas about the way things are supposed to be, especially if you're brand new and you don't know, like you don't know how things are supposed to be and stick to agreed upon boundaries, right? That's what the negotiation is for.

00:16:22:22 - 00:16:46:09

Luna

We make our agreement, we stick to it. We have maximum amount of fun, and then that energy comes back to you many fold. And that's how we spread ripples of love. If you are coming to see me specifically, here are some tips for how I work. If you are great at touching, massaging, hugging me in gentle, slow, satisfying ways, telling me interesting sex stories during our party.

00:16:46:09 - 00:17:05:12

Luna

Now this is not at the final hour. This is not like the timer goes off and then you start doing these things that that's too obvious. But if during the course of our connection you are generous with your spirit, if you stay connected, if you are genuinely appreciating me, I will use the maximum amount of our buffer time.

00:17:05:13 - 00:17:29:18

Luna

Assuming we didn't push the limits in a long negotiation, right? Sometimes I've gotten to the ten or even 15 minute mark, which is kind of the outside buffer area of a negotiation, and a person is still pushing and still pushing and still pushing because they're nervous, they're nervous, they're nervous, they're nervous. At which point I'm like, okay, now this feels disrespectful, and now I don't have the extra minutes to spend cuddling with you after we finish.

00:17:29:20 - 00:17:57:16

Luna

So, if that generosity happens from beginning to end, I will absolutely want to cuddle and chat with you in the fun parts. You know? And if I sense that someone is really just trying to get more take. Her energy is so obvious. And when I feel that, and I think this is true for many of my lady friends, if someone's like just trying to push a boundary to get more time or activity, you know, I become allergic to take her energy.

00:17:57:18 - 00:18:20:11

Luna

I am allergic to succubi and I will put my guards up. I will not go above and beyond. And that's what I'm like. Well, that's our time. Would you like to go rebook? You know, and there's a very specific tone, whereas, you know, which is different from I'm like, okay, we've used up our buffer time. We really should be getting to clothes now, you know, and if I'm having a nice time with someone, in that case, I'd be like, I don't want our time to end.

00:18:20:11 - 00:18:40:02

Luna

Do you want to rebook? Like, do you want to go longer? It's always an option. I don't usually remember to invite that from people because I'm like, well, we made our agreement and if they'd wanted more time, we would have negotiated it, you know, and I that's something that some of my lady friends are better at remembering to do, because I pretty much assume that if someone wants more time with me, they will get it.

00:18:40:04 - 00:19:06:09

Luna

And the times where I have had clients rebook, it was usually their idea. And we had a great time, you know? And so if I realize that there is a succubus in the room with me, that's when I pretty much do go into move on mode. And I say, oh yes, would you like to rebook? You know, and there is just such an obvious difference in tone and in the energy of someone who really is just like, I love you.

00:19:06:09 - 00:19:16:11

Luna

I don't want to leave, versus someone who's like, I want more, I need more, I deserve more, you know? And, and I one time I had someone who was.

00:19:16:13 - 00:19:38:13

Luna

It almost felt like a toddler who was kind of like seeing if they were going to get in trouble, the slowness with which he completely unlaced and replaced his shoes. And I at that point just started cleaning my room and kind of going about my business. And then I think I even showered because it was so excessively obvious.

00:19:38:13 - 00:20:01:21

Luna

And as one of my lady friends says, if you want more time, book more time, you know, show that you are appreciative. And if a lady is generous with her time, or if you have caused her to lose track of time, that is one thing. But if there is taking energy, it's a no go. Niceness appreciation. Doing your best to meet me, I go the long way with me.

00:20:01:23 - 00:20:23:15

Luna

If I sense entitlement in the negotiation in a session together. Actually, I don't think I've ever had an entitled lover. By the time I get to the point where I'm ready to be intimate with someone, we're usually on a pretty good page. Actually. Not true. Oh, there was one. He was a sweetie pie. But here's the thing.

00:20:23:17 - 00:20:43:10

Luna

His friend had been excellent and his friend had recommended me to him. And so our negotiation was pretty smooth and he was like, I want what my friend got. And I was like, okay. And it was only at the end of our session when we had completed our mission twice efficiently. And he was like more and more and more.

00:20:43:12 - 00:21:02:03

Luna

And I was just like, what are you talking about? And he was like, my friend said that he came three times and I was like, your friend is a liar. And also now I don't feel appreciated, like I do have a little switch, that when someone is rude, sometimes it flips and I just, I used his name and I said your name.

00:21:02:06 - 00:21:21:05

Luna

Now I don't feel appreciated and now I'm feeling sad. And all of that was true. Like it was when I feel feelings, they just come through. And that's also why I. I may be upset if someone's like, I don't want you to lie to me because I'm like, I'm not lying to you. What's your problem? Can you tell?

00:21:21:05 - 00:21:40:17

Luna

Like, if I were lying to you, I wouldn't be getting upset right now. So that is always very silly to me. And once he understood where I was coming from, once I understood that we both were on two different pages. And I think his friend had not told him that it was a time related party. I think his friend had told him it was an activity related party, even though I had recapped the things for him.

00:21:40:19 - 00:22:00:17

Luna

Sometimes when a nervous system is overloaded, I get it. People can't use their ears to process audio information. Audio processing is hard for me when I'm overloaded or when I am highly aroused. Sometimes I even have to turn off music in a party after I orgasm because my body will just get so hypersensitive. It's also why I really like editing.

00:22:00:17 - 00:22:18:16

Luna

Sometimes I don't want to come. I mean, if that's the focus of what someone wants in a party, I'm like, okay. And it's very powerful. So, you know, I have to be careful about my ears and I and I get it, you know? So it was all, a simple misunderstanding. And I gave him the opportunity to do a kind repair.

00:22:18:16 - 00:22:44:06

Luna

And then we went on our way, and it was fine. But entitlement energy really upsets me. So if someone comes in appreciative, it makes a big difference for me. One very strange other anecdote that has to do with energy is I once had a guy who was on his way to getting what I thought, per his description, was the party of his dreams.

00:22:44:06 - 00:23:08:17

Luna

You know, he had a particular fetish. I said yes, he said his budget. He, you know, we found our overlap. He was saying, yes, it was a yes, yes, yes, energetically, like there was sweetness. You know, we kind of found everything. And then it was like, oh, something completely different took over his demeanor and he went icy cold and he went, I've changed my mind.

00:23:08:18 - 00:23:33:10

Luna

And I was like, about like the last thing we had just said that was related to activity. I was like, or completely. He's like, no, completely. I need to go. And I was like, okay. And he did not want to tip me for my time. He exited. I felt so whiplash because we had been vibing so hard, and it really seemed like we were about to have a lot of fun.

00:23:33:12 - 00:24:04:08

Luna

And so I was all like, fucked up about it. I went to go like, cry to Cora. I was like in her room when suddenly he came back a half an hour later and said that for him, the sticking point had been that he actually wanted me to bring a friend. Could I summon one? You know, and then while we were waiting for my friend to arrive, he did reveal that he suddenly had gone deep, deep, deep into the land of self-judgment because he considered himself not the type of guy who has to pay for it, you know?

00:24:04:08 - 00:24:25:15

Luna

And I'm like, that may be true. And what we had negotiated wasn't even related to sex specific, although it was a fetish. And I was like, but you're here now. You want this thing. You said you haven't had this in a long time. He'd told me his whole, you know, life story about it and, it was so highly distressing.

00:24:25:17 - 00:24:46:19

Luna

I almost chose not to work with him because it was so jarring. But luckily, once my friend got there, she was really excited because I knew that she had a particular fun overlap with this kink, so ended up being really, really, really awesome. Two girl parties. So all that is to say to I always try to hold space for magic to unfold, even when it's wildly surprising.

00:24:46:19 - 00:25:13:02

Luna

I leave room for it to be delightful. That is to say, I advise you, to avoid wasting time. Avoid wasting your energy. Avoid mutual distress by understanding that negotiation is part of the process, and it is simply the beginning of your creative collaboration with the courtesan of your choice. And that is the time to get the most specific and clear on what you need and want and value most on that given day.

00:25:13:04 - 00:25:33:21

Luna

So show up with a spirit of collaboration. Show up with some kindness, follow your hearts and follow your hearts and you should be totally good to go. Now you should have a better idea about the negotiation process. If you have questions that I have not answered in this episode, feel free to write to me via Luna ruby.com. And if you want to find the written version of these episodes, visit Luna BigCommerce.

00:25:33:22 - 00:25:34:09

Luna

Thank you.