Are You A Kindsexual? How to Brothel

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Luna introduces the term “kindsexual”, a label she coined to describe being aroused by kindness and connection. She explores the joys and challenges of being turned on by care through personal stories, patterns, and upgrades in discernment—and why working as a legal courtesan offers the ideal setting for her kindsexuality to thrive. This episode is a love letter to co-creating sexy, safe, mutually appreciative relationships.

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00:00:00:05 - 00:00:22:09

Luna

Welcome to How to Brothel, a go woo yourself mini series. This episode is about kind of sexuality, which I have increasingly come to identify myself as since creating the label, as I half joke on part. However long ago that was. If you would like to read the written version without my personal commentary, you can always find all my posts on my website Luna Lunar E-commerce FAQ.

00:00:22:11 - 00:00:46:13

Luna

That is also where you can ask me any questions I haven't covered yet. Since all of these guides are inspired and prioritized by the most common questions I get from friends, lovers, and other curious humans. Let's dive in. One of my courtesans superpowers, I am a kind of sexual. Unless we're already friends or you've been listening to this podcast, you may not have heard this term, which I seem to have made up.

00:00:46:13 - 00:01:03:12

Luna

I have not found other traces. If you find them out there and people using kind sexual before me, I'm not trying to steal any credit and I would love to meet those people because fellow kind of sexual is, probably have something in common with. So I might be biased, but I think that you might agree that this is a useful term.

00:01:03:14 - 00:01:28:02

Luna

Not only does it describe my own sexuality, the concept of kind of sexuality invites us to ask ourselves helpful questions like what is kindness? What kind of kind do we want to be, and what kind of kindness are we actually attracted to? Hope that we have been factoring kindness into our attraction. Some. It's all over the map for some people, right?

00:01:28:04 - 00:01:54:23

Luna

So in this episode, I share the cool parts that not so great parts, the tricky part and the hardest parts. But first, my definition kind of sexuality centers the behaviors and interpersonal dynamics of a potential partner as a primary source of attraction. I first use it as a joke to describe the awareness of wetness in my panties that I experience when witnessing a kind hearted act.

00:01:55:01 - 00:02:19:14

Luna

When someone makes me swoon, I go like it's a whole body feeling, but I feel extra concentrated right between my thighs. So I started noticing that such kindness would inspire fantasies of thinking that individual in generous, mouth related ways to reward and appreciate such good behavior. You know when someone's nice to me, especially if they're kind to me in regards to my work.

00:02:19:16 - 00:02:49:00

Luna

Full body melt, high arousal. So while I could happily be categorized as bisexual, attracted to more than one gender, pansexual, attracted to a person regardless of gender and omni sexual, attracted to a person with awareness of their gender, or even poly sexual attracted to multiple genders. It feels the most accurate to create a more specific term under the umbrella of multi sexuality, to capture how behavior and connection make me swoon.

00:02:49:01 - 00:03:13:04

Luna

And for me, kind of sexuality dovetails perfectly with my flavor of non-monogamy and queerness. However, I think a monogamous straight person could also be kind of sexual, so it doesn't have to actually know what I'm thinking about it. And like, it doesn't have to be under the umbrella of multi sexuality. Or does it? I guess a monogamous person could feel this attraction because many bisexual people remain monogamous.

00:03:13:06 - 00:03:42:08

Luna

Anyway, kind of sexuality is a broad and specific umbrella, so here's why I think it's hot. One of my favorite things about having different lovers is getting to experience distinct energies and co-create a shared experience that is unique to us. And for me, kindness is the spark that lights that flame. When I witness an act of kindness from one human to another, I feel curiosity around what connecting further with that energy might be like.

00:03:42:08 - 00:04:06:21

Luna

And it doesn't have to necessarily be human to human, but it definitely is. Like if a human is doing something that is good, whether it's for an animal, a community like it's spreading ripples of love to other humans in other ways. Right? Okay. So I get curious about what that energy might feel like. So it took me many, many years to figure out why, my friends, that I was so flirty, I was like, what is the difference between flirty and friendly?

00:04:06:23 - 00:04:25:09

Luna

You know, it brings me genuine pleasure and great excitement to have a nice interaction with a kind of stranger, in the same way that I used to get so very truly excited to bring my patrons a glass of water so they could hydrate when I was a bartender, I'm like, can I help you? You seem nice. I would like to help you.

00:04:25:09 - 00:05:05:19

Luna

Woof. And there's this intensity, and I guess there's a sexual element that makes it flirty. But I didn't realize that as a service oriented human, I get especially excited to reward other service oriented humans. And if that kindness is pointed at me, especially if that kindness or support or appreciation is pointed at my work, my creative work in particular, I have been known to do things like invite strangers I meet on the street, up to my place, or hop in the car with a guy I just met on the flight to Brazil and his buddy, or to say yes to a sudden last minute trip to Argentina the next day.

00:05:05:21 - 00:05:30:12

Luna

To summarize, when I feel a great vibe, I become extremely aroused in an extremely powerful way. And because I am so highly curious and sex is already my favorite activity, I feel inclined to do my favorite activity, especially when I am aroused with my new kind friend to see what we might create, how it feels when our energies mix, and to enjoy connecting on a deeper level.

00:05:30:14 - 00:05:50:17

Luna

My kind of sexuality has led me to some truly magical places, but we know superpowers come with super responsibilities. The problem of my filtration system is pretty medium low sometimes, and it took me really.

00:05:50:19 - 00:06:14:22

Luna

Cool. The truth just hit. The problem is my filtration system is pretty medium low sometimes, and it took me years of fumbling through unsatisfying connections to realize I was allowing my desire to lead me into situations I would not consciously choose for myself, especially if the goal is to be kind to me. As it turns out, I am completely susceptible to fake niceness and flattery.

00:06:15:00 - 00:06:32:10

Luna

First, let me say I did not realize how often people lie, and I continue to be surprised by this more often than I would like to admit. And for similar reasons, I am almost always surprised by sarcasm, which, if you think about it, is a lie in the tone of your voice. I know it's often for joke purposes.

00:06:32:10 - 00:06:50:05

Luna

However, please send me examples of sarcasm that truly are harmless and not mean. I'm in a fight with a couple of friends about, like, I think, sarcasm. It's mean. Other people really like sarcasm and find it effective, but I find that most of the time it's covering a true feeling in an unclear way. Or the thing they're saying is actually true.

00:06:50:07 - 00:07:15:00

Luna

But then I'm like, what's the joke? What's the tone of voice that makes it a joke? So I love if you love it and I don't get it. Yeah. So, susceptible to lies here. And because I grew up in a household where we enjoyed and still do enjoy showing each other kindness and love, it never occurred to me that for some people, kindness is a thing to feign to get a need met.

00:07:15:02 - 00:07:36:20

Luna

It was never on my radar. It was not until the later part of my 20s when I went down. The sex relationship and communication research rabbit hole of this podcast is a part of that. I started to realize that the patterns I had been co-creating in relationships were ultimately unhelpful. If my goal was to connect, and it always has been right?

00:07:36:20 - 00:07:55:04

Luna

Anyone who looks at what I do and thinks that there's like a shallowness or a fakeness or whatever, they have no idea what my story is. All of this research, all of sex stories, all of how to woo everything is me being like, wait, people are confusing. They seem disconnected a lot, even when they're married and say they love each other.

00:07:55:04 - 00:08:13:00

Luna

I don't get it. I want to feel connection on the same page as the other person. So I've always wanted to connect. That has always been. The goal is to connect in true, real ways with people, and I have found out that regular dating is not necessarily the best it can be. It can be not necessarily the best way to do this.

00:08:13:02 - 00:08:28:20

Luna

And while I've spoken to many people, especially many people, through this podcast, but also of Pod who have ended up seriously committed to a partner that they met when in fling mode, like, I love all of you who are like, yeah, well, you know, I met this person on Tinder and we hit it off and now we're married and was a great life.

00:08:28:20 - 00:08:53:22

Luna

I'm like, I bow down to you. Amazing. I found myself on a merry go round, feeling like a disrespected booty call over and over and over again. And yes, the degradation King was undiscovered, but so loud even in unconsciousness. In my early 20s, I would enjoy dates that focused on intense lovemaking, balanced out by intense amount of alone time in which I could focus on my creative work, which I love so much.

00:08:53:22 - 00:09:23:04

Luna

And I did not understand the trust building and non-sexual ways of connecting intimately that build a bond of partnership. Growing up, I learned that everyone has value, everyone has something to offer, and my literal brain took this lesson a little bit too far. I am now able to discern that even if everyone has value, and I do believe that they do, simply because someone is in my vicinity and I am excited that I met them.

00:09:23:04 - 00:09:41:10

Luna

That does not necessarily mean that they need to be invited into my most personal circles and or holes, like the writer that I dated for a couple of weeks, only a couple of weeks before, asking him to cat sit at my place. And I came home to a lot of guns in my house, which I'm. I grew up with guns.

00:09:41:12 - 00:10:03:08

Luna

It's okay. However, we did not talk about having my apartment full of guns. You know, there was also a lot of cat poop to clean up. Or there was also the physical therapist that I, once upon a time, flirted with outside of the building where I used to ironically, have therapy, and he offered me discounted sessions when I was healing from a sprained ankle and things got real inappropriate real fast.

00:10:03:10 - 00:10:20:16

Luna

And there was also the photographer, who is one of my catalysts for making me be like, oh my God, I need to go find a safe place to have casual sex. I think I will work in a brothel now, because I thought he was my friend and he took his condom off without telling me. In the middle of fucking.

00:10:20:18 - 00:10:38:18

Luna

And that was disgusting. And he. Even though I gave him a very clear kind because I was like, look, maybe he a benefit of the doubt. Maybe he really didn't know. Maybe he doesn't know how wrong this is. So I gave him like an educational speech and told him to never do that to another woman again and again.

00:10:38:18 - 00:11:05:05

Luna

In California, it's called Stealthing. It is not legal. I thought that by taking the time to educate him and let him know, he might apologize and or at least would not be confused when I no longer wanted to see him. And that was not the case. Years later, reflecting on all of these and many, many more interpersonal learnings, that's what helped me upgrade my definition of kindness.

00:11:05:07 - 00:11:28:02

Luna

I update my definition of what it means to be kind. I do notice the quality of my connections rising, and I live in a world of turn on because everyone is so kind. So lately, if someone's stoked my kind sexual nature enough to be invited into my innermost circles, usually it's because they are clear. As Brené Brown says, clear is kind.

00:11:28:04 - 00:11:48:21

Luna

It's usually because their actions match their words. I think all of my greatest relational traumas, lowercase t traumas, came from when I was like, your actions don't match your words. And instead of setting boundaries, I was like, make them match. What are you doing? And making that other person wrong instead of being like, I will not do this anymore, which is kind of where I'm at today.

00:11:48:23 - 00:12:15:16

Luna

Additionally, if someone's going to be my innermost circles or holes, they want to get it right instead of be right. That is also a Brené Brown ism, and I find it so, so important. I want to have a dialog with someone and have understanding and connection. They are direct, open, reasonably self-aware, and adept at repairs if necessary. They're thoughtful, they're genuinely caring, and they make an effort to communicate.

00:12:15:18 - 00:12:34:18

Luna

That's the other number one thing. I will get so frustrated if I cannot have open communication, or if the communication is breaking down and we can't see eye to eye, that's when I really, really, really, am still likely to lose my shit. Working on it were always works in progress, and in those moments, I can be grateful for all of the growth partners that I have.

00:12:34:20 - 00:13:15:00

Luna

There's also a willingness to be mutually vulnerable and to do our best to take care of each other. There are also people who are safe to be with, who are very fun to play with, and I can be my regular unguarded self with them. So for me, this is a panty dampening nipple plumping list. And where I've previously defined kind of anyone who is nice to me, anyone who makes me feel good right now, my current understanding could be summarized by asking this simple question does that person's behavior show that they value the humanity around them?

00:13:15:02 - 00:13:44:07

Luna

I observe how someone might treat a hostess or a bartender, how they talk to their friends, how they treat themselves, you know, how do they choose to move through the world? How consistent are they? How do they collaborate? And do we even have enough values in common to agree? What kind is not given? So this new level of clarity has helped me recognize and appreciate a deliciously fulfilling new home for my kind of sexuality.

00:13:44:09 - 00:14:24:15

Luna

As a legal courtesan, there is a level of mutual clarity around the value of the exchange that I have not found anywhere else. Clear is kind, and for me, clarity is hot. Once upon a time in my early years of adulthood, I discovered a block schedule time management tool that I was very excited to try out, and this led to my discovery that I was apparently actively, casually dating ish or whatever you want to call it, hanging out with, seeing fucking, etc. 14 different people and I did not realize this until I like, wrote it out and put in my schedule and encountered the people and I was like, oh!

00:14:24:15 - 00:14:44:17

Luna

And I remember feeling like very surprised though, like original farm girl. Parts of me were kind of horrified. And then like, these, like wild and free, like young adult exploring, really trying to understand the sex. I was so proud. I was like, whoa, you know, and I also like, was like, is this okay? It's not okay. What does this mean?

00:14:44:21 - 00:15:07:19

Luna

I was like, I have enough time to do stuff, but like, do I need to talk to them about it? Now, the concepts of polyamory and non-monogamy would not make their way into my consciousness for a handful of years. I just I didn't know what I didn't know, but I definitely remember part of me wondering if I should be better at filtering and another part of me swooning because there were each so nice and interesting in their own way.

00:15:07:21 - 00:15:26:01

Luna

And I did, at one point in college, make my roommate because she was always like, oh my God, I can't keep track of these people. And so I made I still have it. I worked at this copy, not coffee, not like the drink, but like a place to make copies, which is no longer exists on campus. So I would like, make copies for the screenwriting thing.

00:15:26:01 - 00:15:48:23

Luna

We had access to binding, like spiral bound books. And so I made a spiral bound notebook for my roommate, which I called the Boy book that had like alphabetical lists of all the different boys that were kind of like in my recent ish sphere. And like, I had like little symbols to kind of indicate what we had, how many bases we had gone so far, like, I've always loved sharing sex stories.

00:15:48:23 - 00:16:05:19

Luna

And in fact, the name Sex Stories came because I used to call them boy stories that she was like, I can't keep track of your boy stories. So I put all the boy stories into the boy book, and I was, like, excited and baffled and, you know, I really got to highlight how each one was so nice and so interesting.

00:16:05:19 - 00:16:32:19

Luna

And if you're like, wait, aren't you queer? I didn't know, I didn't know until I was 24 or 25, but those 14 people started to feel like a lot of effort for connections that then seemed to stagnate instead of growing into something more and deeper. And I was never pursuing relationship escalators, I simply felt like there should be a greater feeling of connection, a greater feeling of comfort, a greater depth.

00:16:32:21 - 00:16:57:01

Luna

I really felt like there should be someone who I could, like, explore everything sexually with, even if we weren't boyfriend and girlfriend and I didn't know how to articulate that. I didn't know, you know, I was unconsciously wiggling around, looking for everything by my mid-twenties, I was focused on finding partners who really valued sex. And before I discovered kink, I was pointing toward sugar dating websites.

00:16:57:03 - 00:17:19:14

Luna

And I did not realize that I was stepping into a hotbed of social games and maneuverings that are my kind of kind, sexual, absolute worst nightmare. So let's just say that many attempts to find nurturing mentors who also valued Carnal attraction were with gentlemen that I initially found so kind until I realized their actions did not match their words.

00:17:19:14 - 00:17:40:21

Luna

And I was like, whoa, people lie like this straight up to lies. Like, that guy lied, but he said he was going to do this. He said I was going to get this allowance. We're going to do this. And he just I think I just got taken advantage of like I was. I continue to surprise myself in the ways that I am naive, even though I learn so much and grow so much.

00:17:40:21 - 00:18:08:09

Luna

And also I am committed to staying open and curious and developing my resiliency rather than like, you know, hunkering down and self protecting and making little like crab claw, like pinchy crab gloves to like, defend myself. And so I am learning, I'm growing, I'm implementing all of those things. I also had no idea. I remember feeling so excited by the sugar daddy apps, like the possibility of always this feeling of possibility.

00:18:08:11 - 00:18:32:09

Luna

And looking back, I'm like, oh, I had no idea I had a money kink. I simply was like, I could I could get sex with someone who really also likes sex. Like they really like it. Like I really like it. And if they if they want to give me an allowance, maybe they really like and like, I had no idea that some of the tingle was like, oh, it feels fucking great to be concretely valued.

00:18:32:09 - 00:18:55:14

Luna

You know, it's all related. So becoming a legal courtesan feels like the missing link. So when I was finally able to recognize and admit that I have a huge money kink and a working and it turns me on so, so much that my lovers are patrons and creative muses who I get to know through mutual physical worship, sometimes virtual worship too.

00:18:55:14 - 00:19:19:14

Luna

That's great too, you know, or sometimes photoshoots or whatever. But like all of my patrons support this creative work. They support my art. They support my ability to build toward the future that I want of the giant creative space that what I'm saving up for. Obviously, where there is a mobile dungeon docking station, and all of the other fantasies I've been, saying out loud on this podcast for years.

00:19:19:16 - 00:19:50:19

Luna

Like when I finally was able to, like, become aware of all of that and admit it and enjoy it, I realized that the ranch is the perfect place for my kind of sexuality to run wild, because what better space to let vibes lead? When it's time to get specific about desire, I can invite a person who sparks my fancy back to my room immediately, and then it's extremely easy to tell just how much someone values their time with me, and any amount is fine.

00:19:50:21 - 00:20:12:23

Luna

It's we get on the same page and I no longer have to worry about over giving, or that my natural level of enthusiasm is so high that I'm about to get taken advantage of because I, aside from my sister, like my sister and I, are the most excited, enthusiastic people that I know. And it is often people, often in wherever I am.

00:20:12:23 - 00:20:31:19

Luna

I'm at an airport coffee shop. Like any regular place, people are like, oh, you sure are excited. And I'm like, why aren't you excited? You know what I'm like? And now I know more about, like, how processed foods in our society and, trauma like, affect other people's dopamine systems. And so like, I'm on the I'm like, oh, are dopamine coursing through my veins?

00:20:31:20 - 00:20:57:13

Luna

I'm curious. I'm excited. I want to know about you, but you you don't touch everything on it. Taste everything. Can I lick it? Can I look at, you know, oh, you're so nice. I'll like, you know. So. The ranch is such a beautiful container for all of my enthusiasm. Because there it is normal to concretely and clearly value each other and to show up for each other in the ways that we say we will immediately and tangibly.

00:20:57:15 - 00:21:16:12

Luna

It's almost like practical, concrete ripples of love or clear conversations about how much we want to play together are built into the framework of legal brothels, so both parties can relax into the experience and fully enjoy connecting. I'm like, all right, we get logistics out of the way. And then it is literally a party. Like, that's why we call it a party.

00:21:16:14 - 00:21:31:18

Luna

Reminds me of my first acting teacher. You would say, you know, prepare, prepare, prepare. Once you're fully ready, you get to the moment and then you throw a fucking party. You just get to play. And that is he was talking about like when the cameras rolling during a scene, whatever, during a play. But like, that's why you do the play.

00:21:31:18 - 00:22:07:22

Luna

That's why it is a scene. That's why it is a party. Because we're there to co-create and explore and grow together in the most wildly delightful, often satisfyingly surprising ways. So at long last, I finally feel that my powerful sexual curiosity and desire are deeply appreciated rather than used. And discarded or taken for granted. You know, I remember pre OnlyFans early days on the podcast, I was like, wow, all of these Instagram people are like saying really naughty things to me and I don't even know them.

00:22:07:22 - 00:22:35:11

Luna

Like, what is this about? Like, I had no understanding that because I had because all the preparation I'd had for like, if you're a woman talking about sex on the internet, like prepare for death threats, I knock on wood. I have never received a death threat, nor do I want to. But nobody prepared me for all of the in-between things of people assuming that I was immediately sexually available to them for no good reason at all.

00:22:35:11 - 00:22:57:11

Luna

Other than that they slid into my DMs. No offers for dates, no offers for support, no even offers of appreciation for my work. I'm like, Thank God. Well, sometimes they'd be like, love your podcast, suck my dick, you know? And I'd be like, No, no. Maybe if you had given me a lot of specifics back in the day.

00:22:57:13 - 00:23:22:06

Luna

So my lovers now invest in their pleasure by investing in the experience that we share. Plus, the idea that I am being rented is super duper duper a turn on to my pervy, kinky mind. Like it's not a thing that I can say to clients, especially when I don't know what someone's background. I don't know how kinky they are, especially if they don't have context for me.

00:23:22:06 - 00:23:39:19

Luna

If they haven't been listening to this podcast for seven years, like, I'm not going to be like, ooh, so how do you want to rent me today? But sometimes if they seem like the right person, I'll be like, now you're mine. Sometimes. Sometimes if I remember. But then sometimes they'll be like, well, technically you just rented me, so now we get to go play.

00:23:39:21 - 00:24:02:20

Luna

It definitely turns some people off. I definitely have learned that the hard way. And for me, the idea that someone like you would never walk into a bakery and be like, give me all your cakes, not my problem. You know, you might pay for a slice. I think that is so hot. You're not just going to like a walk into a stranger's house and be like, I'm going to stay here for a couple days, but you would like rent a couple nights at a Airbnb or a hotel, right?

00:24:02:20 - 00:24:24:18

Luna

So for me, I'm like, ooh, you want to connect so badly that you want to invest in my creative work? Yep. That turns me right on. Yeah. Let's go. How much? Okay, let's figure out what we can do with that. And I you know, when people are generous hearted and kind, I do my best to be as generous as possible within reason.

00:24:24:20 - 00:24:52:00

Luna

So it's a whole new era. Instead of people like the self-proclaimed narcissist jazz pianist I met on OkCupid who would tell me I looked like a little boy and was totally sexually unappealing, but then he'd bring me an apology breakfast burrito that was so delicious. And that was so nice. I'm saying that then practicing a strange sort of sarcasm, and I know if I did it well, but, there was a part of me that was like, oh, but I do love these breakfast burritos.

00:24:52:00 - 00:25:18:21

Luna

And he's nice again. Like, there was a switch that would flip, you know, instead of things like that. I now have sweet sessions with all kinds of lovers, of all textures, people who are prepared to learn, heal and grow, explorers who are looking for fun, someone in a new chapter or still in the midst of transition. Anyone seeking relief or nurturance like mutual nurturing is so hot to me.

00:25:18:23 - 00:25:36:05

Luna

People who want to take from me without offering anything in return. They're just like give, give, give, give, give. I'm like, what are you, a baby birdie? Like, I have to tulip up for you and spit it into your mouth like, no. Are you an adult human? Do you respect me? Adult humans around you. Great. Like, how can we make each other's lives better?

00:25:36:05 - 00:26:00:01

Luna

Like, how can we collaborate for that? Right? You know, for some people, dating does look like. Okay, I'll take care of you. I know, I know many people who are in normative, monogamous relationships that have a more traditional structure where even before they are married, like, I've had some guy friends that are like, yeah, well, I got to make more money because I want to give her more.

00:26:00:05 - 00:26:25:04

Luna

And I was like, what the. I'm like, yeah, she wants these, like, expensive designer things. And like, that was back in the day where I was like ridiculous, lower. And now I'm like, oh, well, it is really nice to be concretely appreciated. You know, for some people that is everyday life. So I'm like, regardless of finances, regardless of luxury goods, how can we show up in each other's lives to make a world we're taking care of each other is a norm.

00:26:25:04 - 00:26:43:20

Luna

How can we show up and give the most? And especially if we are asking for something, are we offering anything of value in return? And for me, I love concrete value, especially for people who are not going to stay around in my life because most people do not actually want to be my partner every day. You know, maybe, maybe slices of a partner, maybe for a rental.

00:26:43:22 - 00:27:07:11

Luna

And I'm told over and over again that I'm quite a lot and that it's a lot of energy and the amount of alone time and the amount that I like to spend time with other people, because I'm curious, is a lot for most people. So for me, Sheri's ranch is my kind sexual self ideal setting for safe, authentic, co-created connection on a delightfully exciting time scale.

00:27:07:11 - 00:27:26:13

Luna

Which is to say, like, I can meet someone and then within ten minutes, maybe they're in my bedroom and we're talking about how we want to get sexy because we like each other, and that's a safe place to do it. That will lead to mutual goodness for both of us. So I obviously I'm here to spread ripples of love.

00:27:26:15 - 00:27:46:23

Luna

I'm here to say, go forth and kind of, kind of sexuality might simply be my ripples of love transmitting out. And it is my hope that by sharing my experience with it, my details, even of other people, are not drawn to the wide variety of humans that I am. Maybe the concept of kind of sexuality can simply be a forefront of the question.

00:27:47:00 - 00:28:10:06

Luna

Is taking care of each other the norm? In this connection? My desire is for us to co-create norms where we are intentional lovers who shape a more loving world together, where we know how to co-create and expect safety in our partnerships. Since over and over again, I hear from so many people that safety is the common ingredient in all of the sexiest experiences.

00:28:10:08 - 00:28:31:20

Luna

Most of all, I want everyone in their erotic, partnered experiences to feel nurtured and valued. That is my hope for all of you out there listening. So what kind of kind of sexual are you? I would love to hear if this causes you to think about kindness kind of sexuality, to notice, turn on, and arousal as it's related to niceness.

00:28:31:22 - 00:28:49:22

Luna

I do also know that sharing this with a couple of my friends has inspired them to do chores for their partners. You know, some people are very, very turned on by acts of service. Like there are different things. I would love to hear your variations, your experiences, your noodles on this. And as always, feel free to let me know if you have any other thoughts on the topic or questions about kind sexuality.

00:28:49:22 - 00:29:09:15

Luna

By writing me through the contact form on any of my websites. Or you can also always go share your kind sexy fantasies with me on OnlyFans. Yeah, go tell me. Go tell me how kind you would be to me and what you hope it might inspire. And as always, please remember to read the written version of this episode.

00:29:09:20 - 00:29:24:13

Luna

You can find all my horror brothel guides on my website. Luna Robby, decomp FAQ and I love hearing from you. So please reach out with any reflections, questions, and resulting experiences and follow your hearts and follow your hearts. And remember to share sex stories.