Couples Threesomes: How to Brothel

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Luna explores the fantasy, pleasure, and logistics of couples threesomes at Sheri’s Ranch—sharing her personal definitions, play-by-play configurations, and stories from real-life parties. She offers guidance for curious partners, including how to navigate jealousy, negotiation, and boundaries, and reflects on what makes a shared experience hot, safe, and unforgettable. A sexy, thoughtful, and comprehensive guide for anyone dreaming of a third.

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Luna

Welcome to How to Brothel a go woohoo yourself mini series. This episode is about couples threesome parties at the magical oasis that is Sheri's Ranch. If you would like to read the written version without my personal commentary, you can find all my posts on my website Luna barbie.com/faq. That is also where you can ask me any questions that I haven't covered yet.

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Luna

Since all of these guides are inspired and prioritized by the most common questions I get from friends, lovers, and other curious humans. For example, couples who are curious about threesomes. So let's dive in. In all of my years interviewing people on Pod, one of the top fantasies that I hear from partnered guests is a desire to have a threesome with their partner and another lover, if they have not yet done this.

00:00:48:20 - 00:01:11:20

Luna

There's usually also hesitation or fear that the reality will be some level of a disaster. Or I get details about the difficult parts of opening up finding someone. Both partners are attracted to, navigating the interpersonal dynamics that involve another entire person, or skipping that step and treating a third party like a prop or a human vending machine, which usually hurts feelings.

00:01:11:20 - 00:01:31:09

Luna

Please do not do this. Navigating apps that are supposedly designed for non-normative relationship structures, and yet never quite clearly set the standards for social norms, assuming that they are even in a metropolitan area, large enough that they have options, and also assuming that they are the type of couple who feels comfortable showing up on an app like this, which many are not.

00:01:31:11 - 00:01:52:19

Luna

There's also the issue of making a date that works with three adult calendars, and then there's keeping that date low pressure, even when the stakes of using up precious free time might feel really high. Lastly, there's finding a three way vibe that is in balance and lasts for however long the parties mutually agree upon. It's it's a dance.

00:01:52:21 - 00:02:19:08

Luna

The couples I've spoken with who are great at finding a third to play with, tend to fall into one or all of the following categories. They have a decent amount of social bandwidth and enjoy investing time and energy in co-creating a new connection. They have a more casual approach to new connections, and they thrive in spaces like swingers clubs and sex parties and or their friend groups are very sex positive and slutty.

00:02:19:10 - 00:02:45:17

Luna

So for many couples, turning to a professional lady at a legal brothel offers helpful structure at every moment. From meeting and chatting and discussing needs and boundaries to the actual sex parts, plus post-conviction clarity on what the connection is. This helps many partners feel totally safe exploring together, while also keeping the entire experience focused on the most fun, sexy parts that strengthen their connection.

00:02:45:19 - 00:03:06:18

Luna

And for those of us who are super into group sex, the memories of a threesome can definitely live on into the future. Fueling desire with memories of a shared experience and affirming the couple's bond. So I love well, okay, my definition. We'll get into what I love about it. My definition of a couples threesome party. A couple brings in a third and they play.

00:03:06:18 - 00:03:27:04

Luna

However, they all agree this can be all three parties playing all the way. It can be one partner watching while the other plays with the guest star. And I have also played the role of an extra pair of hands or a mouth, supporting the erotic unfolding of the couple, sometimes focusing on playing with just one partner, or maybe then the other, or even taking turns while they play with each other.

00:03:27:06 - 00:03:47:23

Luna

I will get into the details of further variations very soon, so a couples threesome can really be any configuration one can imagine, but by my definition, it includes two people who are a couple who seek out a third person to play with. Know why I love it? Here's why I think couples threesomes are very hot, especially in a brothel.

00:03:48:01 - 00:04:10:17

Luna

You literally get a witness to the most intimate parts of your physical relationship, who is also a professional guide, and you don't need to feel remotely bad for making it very clear that your primary is your primary, and it's all still totally respectful and human. And I'm not saying that there are not polyamorous people who are hierarchical and are good at communication.

00:04:10:17 - 00:04:33:21

Luna

I'm just saying I have not met very many of them in all of my years on the field. So if you and your partner are looking to explore with a bisexual or pansexual, or a kind of sexual lover who is poly wise and understands the landscape of non-monogamy, even when it's anarchy, and if you both happen to like tall, natural, dirty blonds and conscious communication, I would love to meet you.

00:04:33:23 - 00:04:56:12

Luna

I do love queer folks. I am an experienced group play tour guide for newbies, I always I love this is what this is what I was going to explode with saying earlier. I love getting to celebrate the relationships of couples who are already familiar with their freaky parts. Like I love getting to show up as a witness. I love getting to to show up and support and help them take things to the next level.

00:04:56:13 - 00:05:20:19

Luna

No one will ever be left out on accident, so details and variations. This is where it gets very, very, very, very juicy. Currently at legal brothels, courtesans are ladies. And of course, when I get to design the super brothel of my dreams. And you can all help by supporting all of my endeavors, it will be queer. And it will be inviting to all configurations.

00:05:20:21 - 00:05:39:21

Luna

And the majority of couples who come in are heteronormative. But we also do get our lesbian and bi guy couples too, at Sherry's, because we have a requirement that there always has to be at least one lady present for each gentleman present. In cases where two by dudes come in and want to play with a lady and either turns into a foursome with another lady added in.

00:05:40:02 - 00:05:57:16

Luna

Or at the very least includes another lady who becomes a voyeur chaperon to achieve a 1 to 1 ratio, which I have not yet done, but I would be totally into it. And I do believe we're going to have to get her on and ask her. I think Gigi has been with a couple at the ranch, but I don't know who her chaperon well at all.

00:05:57:16 - 00:06:18:00

Luna

We're going to have to get the story, but yeah, it does happen. And it does sound very hot to me. If you're wondering if, however, two lady partners come in, we can have a lesbian three way, which absolutely is on my bucket list. The closest that I've gotten so far was one lady watching and one lady playing with me.

00:06:18:02 - 00:06:36:21

Luna

The couple also does not need to be necessarily a romantic or married partnership. We don't have clauses or criteria like that at the ranch. We've had hookup buddies and friends who've, like, come in to party together, and I did have one instance where one friend was curious and wanted to watch, even though she was not romantically or physically involved with her friend, who had brought her.

00:06:36:22 - 00:06:56:12

Luna

And it's probably a little obvious at this point, I get really turned on by that type of open minded curiosity and sharing. Like, even if they're not connected, I'm like, yeah, watch us on. And so the specifics of threesomes can look almost any like the infinity variations. I mean, that's true with two people is true for people to 2 million people, a million people orgy would probably be overwhelming.

00:06:56:12 - 00:07:15:12

Luna

But with any number of any reasonable number of people, it's their infinite configurations. Right? So in a negotiation, the key questions that I start with to see of a couple might be the right fit for me to work with are how experienced are you in group play? What have you imagined together? What are your top priorities? What are your boundaries?

00:07:15:12 - 00:07:53:21

Luna

Do you have any concerns in general? If a couple has an idea of how they want to play, if it feels like they're on the same page, if it feels like they're open to ongoing real time communication, we can totally discover our overlap and have all kinds of extreme fun. If I encounter a pair where one or both parties seem really uncomfortable, if it feels especially like one is pushing the other or if the negotiation becomes like exclusively focused on fears of jealousy and kind of starts to have a therapy vibe, or if they have no boundaries, those are usually flags for me, and I usually advise them to spend more time getting clear on

00:07:53:21 - 00:08:17:04

Luna

what their yeses and no's are. And I'm like, go think about it. Call me back if you want, but also maybe I'll think about it long term in any context. If a person or partnership tells me that they have no boundaries whatsoever, I take this to mean that they are usually simply unaware of what their boundaries actually are, so they're usually relying on assumptions that may or may not be shared.

00:08:17:06 - 00:08:37:00

Luna

And I've stuck doing this sort of joke because it was not going over well and didn't scare people. But for a while I would go, oh no boundaries. God, I've been looking for someone to practice my anal fisting on, you know, and then they're like, oh, so, I usually when I hear, oh, I haven't I don't have any boundaries.

00:08:37:01 - 00:09:02:03

Luna

I usually take that as an indicator that I need to ask a lot of questions to get proper safety and clarity, to make sure that we're on the same page. Most of the boundaries that I've encountered so far in couple situations have limited the action of the penis owning partner, depending on how they want the focus. I've had scenarios where the penis one and I totally focus on spoiling the pussy owner, or he'll give me a tutorial on how she likes to be touched.

00:09:02:03 - 00:09:22:14

Luna

I've also had parties with couples that wanted to improve their skill, their technique, their comfort with each other, with their communication. I love that. So there have been instances where I give him the tutorial showing how to tease and check in with verbal communication as well as physical touch. As I learned her body, I've also had parties that became a four handed massage.

00:09:22:14 - 00:09:39:22

Luna

First on him, then on her parties where he watched and touched himself. Or she and I played. And then there have been parties where he was in charge of her upper half with make up to nipple worship, while it used and touched and licked her from below. And even there was one where the couple wanted to make up with each other on my pussy while going down on me.

00:09:39:22 - 00:10:05:19

Luna

That was really hot. So the two most common fears that I tend to hear have to do with jealousy or feeling left out. To address jealousy, I usually establish a safe word or phrase with them, where a pause can be requested if feelings come up and this tends to create an open line of communication that includes a sense of safety, which allows both parties to then just drop into fun play mode, like knowing that they have that pressure release valve if they need.

00:10:05:19 - 00:10:24:05

Luna

It seems to really help, and so far none of my play partners have needed to call a pause for jealousy reasons. But if we did, I do have practices that I normally use in relationship coaching that can totally be used to facilitate expression of feelings and co-create next steps in real time. I haven't had to do it yet, but I'm totally prepared if it ever happens.

00:10:24:07 - 00:10:48:05

Luna

And while I've interviewed people who have reported feeling left out in a threesome, I have not yet experienced this myself, nor do I think any of my lovers have. I usually check in to see. I mean, again, unless we designed the session that way, but I usually check in to see if there are any specific configurations that they find really hot, and if they have no idea that I show them some of my favorites.

00:10:48:07 - 00:11:08:00

Luna

In cases where one partner seems really nervous or shy or out of sync, and this is often the guy, I usually suggest ideas with the other partner in the form of a like teasing question, and again, it depends on the vibe. It depends on like our chemistry. But sometimes I'm like, should we have him blah blah blah? Or would it be fun if she admitted it?

00:11:08:02 - 00:11:29:12

Luna

You know what? If we are blue, you know, like this can be whatever, whatever comes into my mind at that moment, given given the circumstances, given what's happened, given what we've discussed in our negotiation. And one of my favorite things to do is to ask partners who have high levels of comfort in and confidence with each other to show me how they love to please and tease each other.

00:11:29:14 - 00:11:50:08

Luna

Or I play copycat. And in those instances where my two play partners are really into each other, I take great pleasure in exploring different ways to touch them. That might add pleasure to whatever it is that they are like, enthralled in doing. Sometimes it's adding pressure with my fingers on a pussy and or around a cock, like it's fun to give them both extra pressure if there's penetration.

00:11:50:14 - 00:12:09:05

Luna

Sometimes I'm just tickling in her thighs or balls and labia at the same time. Like sometimes I'm like tugging on labia. I'm playing with balls, sometimes I'm focused on nipples. And if it's really, really slow and sensual, I might give both lovers neck massages at the same time. Sometimes I'll just, like, massage them in a mirrored way, you know, for a for a slow warm up.

00:12:09:05 - 00:12:41:04

Luna

It just depends. It completely depends on whatever's happening in that particular moment. And I tend to just follow the thread of hotness that I see unfolding before me. The unexpected thing that is more common than people might think is that penises can get hyper excited, over stimulated, or even very shy, especially in front of their true love. And or, you know, if it's the first time they've had a new partner in a while, especially if it's the first time they've ever had a threesome, there is this kind of like fear of performance that a lot of guys have reported to me.

00:12:41:04 - 00:12:57:03

Luna

You know, like these couples come in and they will explicitly say like, oh, I don't know if I can perform for two women. And sometimes that can, like get into their head or they're just like, oh my God, it's so new. You know, it can be overwhelming in the moment, even if the fantasy is extremely hot.

00:12:57:05 - 00:13:20:19

Luna

And for so many couples, especially ones who are super practiced in monogamy, even if the fantasy is really hot, the actual moment might be overwhelming, you know, and sometimes that fades away and sometimes it ramps up as you go through. Like everyone is different. It really depends on how much someone gets stuck in their head. I have had male partners express as they're approaching have sex with me, that it can feel like a betrayal, especially for their longtime partners.

00:13:20:21 - 00:13:42:22

Luna

And this feeling, this fear in them is often dissolved by enthusiasm on the part of their wife or partner or girlfriend or whoever it is, you know, their long term partner. Like in those instances, usually if she gets really, really excited, like he'll get turned back on. Others have definitely said that it feels like pressure, you know, to perform for her, to perform for me, to perform in a threesome, to just be watched by multiple people.

00:13:42:22 - 00:14:09:06

Luna

Like for some people, having another set of eyeballs is an unexpectedly naked feeling experience, and some people just get in their heads about condoms or performance. Again, the way out of all of these soft tangles are usually to return to the present moment, to follow the energy of the current turn on, and to allow ourselves and our bodies to be exactly where we are in the present moment, and then just go from there one step at a time.

00:14:09:08 - 00:14:30:08

Luna

And I would say the bulk of couples who come in are looking for an experience that covers all of the bases and includes elements of flirtation, exploration of the body. We want to spend some time in turn on before we get straight to all of the touching or, you know, like it's it's the simmer and then the touching and the slow touching, and then we get manual and then we get oral and then we get to penetration.

00:14:30:10 - 00:14:51:19

Luna

So now I'll take you through some of my favorite configurations. These can all work in variations with bodies that either have live clocks or strap ons. Like it really can be inclusive of any gender and body. And if I found heteronormative, it is because at the ranch I am often working with straight couples, i.e. another vulva owner and a penis owner.

00:14:51:21 - 00:15:17:11

Luna

So first fucking and face sitting. I think it is so fun to write a face or a cock while staring at another pair of boobies and depending on the vigor of the situation, the length of the torso, this can be an excellent way to then triangle into like taking turns at nipple sucking. I have also received a back massage while in Reverse Cowgirl.

00:15:17:11 - 00:15:38:20

Luna

I highly recommend this. And I have had a pussy sit on my face while I got fucked by her partner, which then allows the couple to make out while also playing with me down below. Like the song. So many hot possibilities. So, I'm just calling these names that I made up. I don't know, maybe these are real names, but I think of that one as fucking in fake setting.

00:15:38:20 - 00:16:09:01

Luna

So one's on the cock, one is on the face, the person on the bottom is nipple, the next one in front, one behind. So this is similar to the above but flipped. And I do think of this as a universal spit roast position. But the spits don't have to necessarily be cocks. This allows everyone to take a turn in each position, depending on how you want to do it, and the partner in the middle again, face down is typically on hands and knees or lying flat ish with one partner doing them from behind.

00:16:09:03 - 00:16:32:10

Luna

And that can be with hands, with mouth, with toys, with the cock. Depends on what you're into. You know, there can be a strap there for anyone involved. While the other partner can be offering genitals via lap or standing. So this is better if the laying down partner's head is like at the edge of the bed or over, you know, or I've also done it in a lap situation and have the head just like in the lap.

00:16:32:10 - 00:16:53:03

Luna

It's an interesting angle, but again, it's going to depend on your body's mobility. Like how flexible necks and things are. And so this is where communication and like real time configurations come into play. And it it might be inspired by this position, but we might make a specific adjustment depending on how we actually fit together. And that's true in literally every session.

00:16:53:05 - 00:17:22:19

Luna

So that's really hot. Spit roasting, hot spit roasting with dildos as hot spit roasting with live cocks. I still haven't done yet, but it's on my bucket list. Next missionary in my lap. So especially if a couple wants to maintain and prioritize their own connection. I love to support from the sidelines, or I love to have her head in my lap while I caress her hair, her ears, her face, her breasts, while he's doing her missionary style.

00:17:22:21 - 00:17:42:05

Luna

She does not have to be in my lap. I just think that's a very sweet way to anchor, and wherever I am nearby, I add my hands, I add caresses, I add kisses, I add stimulation. It's also really fun sometimes to play with the balls from behind or to massage their feet in their legs. As I work my way up their bodies.

00:17:42:07 - 00:17:59:06

Luna

And again, a move that I love and highly recommend is to add pressure on the outer lips of her vulva and the sides of his cock as he thrusts in. So, Okay, first and then this hand is a valve if you're watching on YouTube. And so I'm like going like this while his cock is going in.

00:17:59:08 - 00:18:15:09

Luna

Okay, this is harder than I thought. So I'm going like this. So I'm getting stimulation on the base of his cock and the like shaft as he's thrusting in and out. But I'm also providing pressure to her pussy and this works in multiple places. I had a friend do it to me once, and I was like, oh yeah.

00:18:15:10 - 00:18:36:02

Luna

So, highly recommend and I can show you how to do it if the circumstances are correct. Next we have side by Side. I will either have the couple lay side by side so I can play with them both with my hands. But it's also really, really fun to hold hands with my lady lover. While the partner fingers is similar with each hand.

00:18:36:02 - 00:19:09:20

Luna

Like, I think this is very cute. I feel like I'm a stick puppet, but in a good, really hot way. And back and forth penetration with a cock can also be really fun. Again, this can be a strap. It's can be, you know, since adding and removing condoms can be cumbersome here, this is when I like to use an internal condom so that the cock can be free to move back and forth, you know, and then also if, if the partners are a penis and a pussy owner and they are fluid bonded, then like it's easy to go from his partner to me and it's, the most seamless experience without having to

00:19:09:20 - 00:19:29:04

Luna

stop and put on a penis condom. So just be sure to always, always, always. If one is using an internal condom, let the penis owning partners know that if they're going to come inside an internal condom, they've got to go deep. They've got to go all the way inside, and they have to keep the come away from the edges.

00:19:29:04 - 00:19:49:10

Luna

It's always good to make sure that the edges of the condom are all outside the vagina, and just ejaculate all the way as deep as far in as you possibly can, and then just communicate with your partner and collaborate before pulling out next. I love this one and I learned it from Jupiter Jetson who you can hear my interview with her.

00:19:49:12 - 00:20:10:13

Luna

I don't remember when how long ago, but the pussy stack. I love to be squished, so if a pussy partner is up for it, I love to be laid upon so that our partner with the dick can alternate between us vertically. Again, with an internal condom. This is possible. And then I have easy access to next and ears and nipples.

00:20:10:13 - 00:20:36:23

Luna

And I can put my hands on thighs and butts and boobies. And also, I am really great at being a squish. Or if my counterpart wants to take a turn on the bottom, it's really, really, really fun. It's like, yeah, it's like stacked spooned pussy. So it's it's just so fun and hot. Like, it's not something to do for forever, but like getting squished and thrust upon and then feeling the squish while the partner is thrusting in.

00:20:36:23 - 00:21:00:01

Luna

The person that's on top of me is a huge around me. Next circle or chain of mouths. For some people, group sex is overstimulating, but for those of us who like it, this extra stimulation is a huge part of the fun. So I love giving and receiving at the same time. And while taking turns and letting each person be the center of attention is also totally fun.

00:21:00:01 - 00:21:17:06

Luna

Different kind of fun. A circle of oral is a very fun way for all of us to get on the same wavelength, and doing chain style is also a fun way to rotate so that each person gets a turn as the giver, the giver receiver, and the full receiver. So there are like several different ways you can do it.

00:21:17:06 - 00:21:49:00

Luna

I also like, you know, having a separate chain, everyone takes a turn in one position. You know, you rotate and then at the end you bring the circle together. So everyone's a circle. Look. Then there's what I am calling scissoring. Plus, you know, so classic scissoring is typically finding the yummiest vulva to vulva rhythm. I think it was Zena Amore who I was talking to about how when you're clit line up, it's the best, you know, like when you have compatible clit line ups, you know, so start by finding the yummiest vulva, the vulva rhythm.

00:21:49:01 - 00:22:15:02

Luna

I also have definitely had some angles with a cock inside me that I personally would consider scissoring. I don't know if other people I don't know if scissoring is explicitly, exclusively lesbian. I don't know, you can tell me. I'll look it up. But I also want to hear the from the public and having extra hands and or mouths and or kisses, especially while I'm entwined with another fan, is super duper hot.

00:22:15:02 - 00:22:43:16

Luna

So I've heard of a variation. I have not yet gotten to try this, but color me curious where both pussy people are scissoring and somehow the cock owner slides into one of the vulvas as they're doing it. So it sounds like because I love getting squished, because I love pressure and sensation, I'm like, let's, let's do it. Let's find people who we got to fit together like this a try it just, you know, for, for research purposes.

00:22:43:18 - 00:23:08:12

Luna

So those are, configurations I love and a configuration that I want to go all the way with that I've only read about. And this is by no means a comprehensive list. There are definitely so many swirls of bodies that I have experience that are magically indescribable. They don't necessarily fall into any of these categories, and that to me is also a huge part of the fun, is like seeing what specific co-creation will we come up with.

00:23:08:12 - 00:23:25:23

Luna

And I love kind of like not knowing exactly who is where, when. Of course, I'm always tracking, you know, at the ranch especially, I'm always tracking health and safety. And like if your fluid went on this nipple, then I claim this nipple. And, you know, I kind of make that into a fun game with people. But it's so fun.

00:23:25:23 - 00:23:49:23

Luna

It's so delicious. And I really, really love getting to help couples have like a really confident, awesome experience. Because especially when it's with two people who are really just, you know, maybe they're nervous, but they really enjoy each other. I love helping the nervousness melt away. I was so good at that. And you know, the secret is getting turned on and having fun together and playing.

00:23:50:00 - 00:24:26:07

Luna

You know who the couples threesome before. I would say this is for couples who value a safe, complete, legal interpersonal experience. And one reminder for anyone visiting a legal brothel barriers, which means condoms and laurel's or dental dams are always required. Fluid exchange is not legal. So if your main goal is to make out with someone while you go down on someone else without protection, you would probably be better off investing the time and energy into dating to find someone who you both like, who also likes you, and establishing the type of trust and connection that leads to fluid bonding.

00:24:26:07 - 00:24:48:16

Luna

And ideally, I encourage all of you to get a round of testing for everyone involved first so you can have safer play. I experienced the most attitude about using protection from couples who come into the ranch self-identifying as swingers. Not all of them. Some of them are very sweet, but they're definitely is a very specific type of self-identified swinger that's got an attitude, you know?

00:24:48:16 - 00:25:16:19

Luna

And I've also had people who've had illegal experiences at strip clubs. You know, and I've also had people who come in who've had illegal experiences at strip clubs. I get a little high and mighty. Sometimes I'm like, please don't come to my legal brothel to tell me about naughty things. Like, I work here for a reason, you know, right here from other people who met a random girl at a party and they seem almost offended when we go to negotiate.

00:25:16:19 - 00:25:47:03

Luna

So for me, that's like going to a car dealership and being like, why? Why do I have to pay for it? I've driven a car before. What, like, you know, like some sometimes the logic that people come in with, you know, I get it. It's followed up with a whole lot of other things. But, if a couple wants to invest hours of time, money and energy into finding someone in their community or near their community that's not in their community or whatever level of comfort they're with, you know, where both them and their partner are attracted to this person.

00:25:47:08 - 00:26:08:16

Luna

And this person is down to either just be a plaything and or also wants to date both people and everyone is attracted to each other like comparable amounts and you're all aligned. That's great. Like go do that. You know, most couples who visit brothels are looking to explore. They are looking to be guided and they're looking for someone outside of their day to day life.

00:26:08:17 - 00:26:42:09

Luna

So feel safe. They're also usually looking for a sense of connection without adding in a new regular romantic partner. So those people tend to arrive ready to invest in an experience to bring themselves closer together. And they leave very, very happy. So if you are wanting to explore a threesome and want to be able to focus on you and your partner while experiencing something brand new, investing in a trip to a brothel is a really fun, hot, low stakes, fastest way to get right to the most fun parts.

00:26:42:11 - 00:27:10:11

Luna

So those are my thoughts on couples threesomes in and out of the ranch. I mean, this one's ranch specific, but all those configurations. You're welcome and remember to read written versions of this episode. You can find all of my hotter brothel guides on my website at Luna Robey-coleman FAQ. And remember, I love hearing from you. So please, please, please do reach out with any reflections or questions or resulting experiences, especially any good sex stories, and follow your hearts and follow your parts.

00:27:10:11 - 00:27:12:13

Luna

And remember to share sexy stories.