How I Prioritize Communication (In & Beyond the Ranch): How to Brothel
- Luna Robbie
- Sep 10
- 28 min read
Luna shares how she prioritizes communication across all areas of her life—as a legal courtesan at Sheri’s Ranch, a podcast host, a photographer, and a human with limited time and lots of love to give. With humor and clarity, she breaks down how she likes to connect in-person, virtually, and in writing, offering thoughtful guidance on what kinds of messages get her attention (and which ones don’t). A loving, detailed guide for anyone curious about how to connect—online, at the Ranch, or in the world.
00:00:00:05 - 00:00:19:13
Luna
Welcome to How to Brothel a go woo yourself mini series. This episode is how I prioritize communication in and beyond the ranch. If you would like to the written version without my personal commentary, you can find all of my posts on my website Luna ruby.com/faq. That is also where you can ask me any questions that I haven't covered yet.
00:00:19:15 - 00:00:40:23
Luna
Since all of these guides are inspired and prioritized by the most common questions I get from friends, lovers, and other curious humans. Let's dive in. Want to make a great first impression that leads to a connection? Context can really make a difference. Below is my priority list of how I like to get to know people. Depending on the who, the what, the when, the where and the why.
00:00:41:01 - 00:01:10:19
Luna
Plus what not to do if the goal is to connect. So first in-person meeting people in the actual 3D world have always been my number one favorite. It is in fact what humans were designed for. Favoring in-person connection is why I am highly unlikely to respond to messages in any internet place immediately. However, I stand by and do recommend this choice.
00:01:10:19 - 00:01:35:16
Luna
My baseline anxiety has definitely disappeared since I gave myself permission to just be where I am now. That's not to say that I never respond to messages right away. It's just like you really have to catch me at the right moment for that to happen. It's a it's indefinite sometimes in the most on purpose way. I have chosen work in which it is appropriate and safe for me to intimately exchange touch with other human beings or outside the ranch.
00:01:35:16 - 00:01:58:15
Luna
I choose work that guides others through intimate experiences with themselves or their partners, on or off camera. Safe intimacy that includes our whole bodies is a vital nutrient that we all benefit from, and my ultimate goal is to support as many of us as possible in experiencing and creating a healthy connection for ourselves and each other. Over and over and over again.
00:01:58:17 - 00:02:21:02
Luna
So at the ranch we have bar charts, tours and parties. I would say those are the main three categories, although also I should include catching me if I'm by the pool. If you are a hotel guest. Also very fun. So in the yes yes please category, I have an appointment or at least a request is definitely my favorite way to get to know someone who's interested in partying.
00:02:21:04 - 00:02:42:04
Luna
However, one of my favorite things about the ranch is also meeting unexpected people at the bar, learning about their world, and sharing mine. It is totally kind and normal etiquette to honestly let a lady know if you are just there for the conversation. If you need convincing asterisk by this, or if you are interested in more at Sherry's.
00:02:42:04 - 00:02:58:02
Luna
Ladies have ten minutes to chat in the bar and we can take you on a tour if you want to see some of the house or even my room. If you are curious how I decorate it or want to know about prices. So I really appreciate it when someone is just clear with me and it's fun. Like I still like to chat with people unless I have an appointment coming in that imminent moment.
00:02:58:02 - 00:03:24:21
Luna
But in that case, I'm probably not going to chat with someone at the bar anyway. But just honesty is always my favorite asterisk related to convincing. Personally, if you've been listening, you probably know I am anti convincing. It feels coercive. And while I have learned that this encouragement has an erotic draw that gives some people permission to then utilize brothel services, I personally have no desire to participate in any post.
00:03:24:21 - 00:03:54:22
Luna
No shame stories that have to do with how an irresistible temptress made someone do something. However, it consciously invited consensual non consent scene. Kissing might be something that I say yes to. We discuss those types of details during negotiation, which takes place in a ladies room, not the bar, not on a tour. And if you are interested in a kinky scenario, the way that one approaches it is very important.
00:03:54:23 - 00:04:15:13
Luna
This is true in the kink world is true in the professional world. There is a vibe and a consciousness required for me to entertain that type of connection with someone. Now, because I am a highly sensitive human when it comes to noise and light and smoke, I do not spend all of my downtime at the bar at Sheri's Ranch.
00:04:15:13 - 00:04:37:07
Luna
So if you don't see me there and you've stopped by to visit, just request me and I will come out and say hello if I am available. And while how to make connected small talk in person is beyond the scope of this particular episode. Take away. Most books I've read on this topic. Agree that you can always go right with genuine curiosity and a willingness to share and listen.
00:04:37:09 - 00:05:00:23
Luna
And once we're in the party, I like to connect. However, makes the most sense given our energetic vibe. Right? So I tend to attract partners who mirror my two favorite ways to connect talking and touching, and finding our unique texture and our balance every time we see each other is what makes each co-creation extra special. Whether that's the same partner multiple times, multiple partners, new times, you know, however it unfolds.
00:05:00:23 - 00:05:23:00
Luna
If I am with another human being in the current time and space, I personally think that's special. And sometimes people are like, oh, it's it doesn't mean anything to you. And I'm like. Does your every day, moment to moment existence not mean something to you? Like, I'm choosing to spend my precious life energy on this planet with another human being.
00:05:23:00 - 00:05:48:07
Luna
Like, how is that not special? Okay, so in the at the ranch, please, please no category we have rudeness. Touching without invitation is rude. Most people do not go around touching strangers anywhere on the arms or the waist or the neck or the chest, and especially at a place where the business is to negotiate touch in exchange for tribute i.e. money.
00:05:48:09 - 00:06:13:03
Luna
Initiating anything beyond a handshake or a fist bump is considered rude. I'm not talking about awkward people who go to hug and are like, oh, or I mean people who are take or energy who are trying to cop a feel and are being lecherous about it. Also, blowing cigaret or cigar smoke into a stranger's face is a specialty party, and outside of a specialty party where you've already negotiated and made, that agreement would be considered rude.
00:06:13:03 - 00:06:35:03
Luna
It's nonconsensual. It's not healthy. Like it's not something that unless you have explicitly received permission, don't do that. Also, insisting that you're just here for a burger while decorously ogling every single woman who walks by, or looking me up and down my entire body before saying, well, are you going to slap me for what I'm thinking right now?
00:06:35:05 - 00:06:54:16
Luna
These are real stories. The answer is no. Oh, you silly, silly sausage. People pay us quite a good sum of money to do things like that, and I only engage in kinky powerplay after a thorough negotiation once we are in our party. And that is not a polite way to ask me to invite you back to my room.
00:06:54:18 - 00:07:21:12
Luna
And that guy didn't give a tip either, like he was in front of. He had his whole big group of friends and they were like, oh. And then I was like, no, you silly sausage, you pay for that. And he was like, oh, so homophobia, which is discomfort or fear around sex work or phobia of any kind, can be left at the door when you come to visit a brothel, including introducing yourself with an obviously fake name.
00:07:21:14 - 00:07:45:22
Luna
Stage names used by sex workers are for the safety of that sex worker, you know? And if you want to have fun using an alias, go get clear on it with yourself, with your spouse, with your friend, whoever you're with, click clear on it ahead of time. And if you want to be a big deal about using a persona in your play, like in your interaction with me because it turns you on, you may bring that up during a negotiation.
00:07:45:22 - 00:07:55:23
Luna
Get consent from the lady of your choice, and then pay for a party that includes that. But I've run into a lots of instances where people are like my name is.
00:07:56:01 - 00:08:21:05
Luna
Peter. And there is often this air of Jessica, Rachel, you know, and it's like, okay, like we're not the ones who are going to be researching you. Okay? Like, how often have you had a stalker? You know, we're not manifesting that for anyone. But in terms of just why it's there, it's it's really polite to kind of consider the implications behind what you are inviting.
00:08:21:05 - 00:08:44:02
Luna
So when someone is using an obviously fake name with me, it makes it really clear that they want to let me know, even if it's in their unconscious little way. They want to let me know that they don't trust me and or they don't feel safe around me, you know? And so it's like an industry norm for sex workers to use other names because it's a safety precaution.
00:08:44:04 - 00:09:02:03
Luna
It's not the same for someone who's introducing themselves to a sex worker. And if you have privacy concerns, just be cool about it. Just like, practice your name. Like, just practice it or get over yourself. Like we're not going to look you up. So avoiding rudeness is always great. Now in person scenario number two on studio or on location.
00:09:02:03 - 00:09:22:23
Luna
This is for photo shoots and or film clip shoots. You know that that type of creative work that I do with people one on one private retreats, whenever in the yes, yes, please category portrait sessions are how I first learned and honed the skill of connecting with a stranger, calming another human nervous system all the way down, and inviting them to feel comfortable to share themselves openly.
00:09:22:23 - 00:09:43:17
Luna
For me to capture it was in this space that people began opening up to me. This eventually led me to record podcasts and personal shares. This evolved my camera work to include nude and erotic subjects, and also architecture and corporate events and music. And I'm really lucky because clients who I've connected with in lots of headshot sessions have always brought me into their world in a number of ways.
00:09:43:17 - 00:10:01:20
Luna
I still get clients who are like, can you please take pictures of my kids? And they know everything about everything that I do? And I think that's really sweet. So while I do think of sex as humanity's original creativity, authentic self-expression of a person is what I am drawn to in all of the interpersonal work that I do.
00:10:01:22 - 00:10:28:12
Luna
So all of that is to say, when photo client shows up prepared with a clear goal and a willingness to be open and playful, not only do we get to create amazing stuff, we have so much fun learning about one another in the process. So that's the yes, yes, please version of in-person photo shoots, video shoots, private retreats, whatever the please, please no version is, be late if you want, but please know that it comes out of your time.
00:10:28:16 - 00:10:49:17
Luna
So I also would invite you to let go of self-criticism and comparison. Let go of aiming for how you think you should look. Shoulds are never helpful. They're definitely never sexy, but even in non sexy context not helpful. Change of should to a could or a would and you will know why you can't, right? That's the fairy godmother of self-help, Louise Hay.
00:10:49:17 - 00:11:11:18
Luna
And I think of that all the time. Anytime someone says I should I'm like, well, you could, why aren't you? You know, then we get to learn more about ourselves and we get to be like, actually, my decision is great. So let go of aiming for how you think you should look and just be you. And if you want to bring a support friend, please do make sure that they are actually supportive or be prepared for me to kick them out.
00:11:11:20 - 00:11:29:14
Luna
That's just I've definitely had to be like, thank you so much stage mom. How about you go? Want to walk now? Nope. I'm not asking. I've also had, like, best friends who thought they were being helpful, but they were really, like, tanking the vibe. So I don't like having to do that because there is an awkward moment that that creates.
00:11:29:14 - 00:11:53:04
Luna
But, when people show up with playful openness, willingness prepared, that never is a problem. So the next in-person place that I love to inhabit, can be events. This can be cons, exposure, screenings, wherever you know I exist out in the world beyond the ranch. So in the yes, yes, please category, assuming it's appropriate for the context and the moment, please say hi.
00:11:53:06 - 00:12:16:00
Luna
Tell me how you know me. We can navigate specifics depending on where we are and what's actually happening. For example, the context of a kink conference or adult expo or podcast convention are going to be different from a film screening or a concert or a wedding of someone that we may both know. Those are all going to have different details of how and what we discuss and how loudly.
00:12:16:00 - 00:12:38:22
Luna
And, you know, we may have to pay attention who are around, right? Like if your children are with you, or if I am with someone who has children, you don't talk about adult things in front of kids unless we have context around it. Right? So I don't go around talking about my work full fledged without a really clear understanding of who I'm talking to and why.
00:12:39:00 - 00:12:56:04
Luna
If I'm out of a party, different. Totally different. So just be conscious of all of that, please. Never walk up to me like, oh my God, you're that whore. Like, don't do that. Like you're the sex podcaster. Even that is sort of like uncomfortable for some people who we may be around now if we're at a sex expo.
00:12:56:06 - 00:13:13:19
Luna
Totally appropriate. Like, I've had people be like, oh my gosh, you're the host of Sex Story. Oh my gosh, you're the host of How We Like. That's all fine. That's all fine. So specifically in the please, please know category, interrupting whether it's a conversation I'm already in or a panel that we are watching together. Interrupting is not my vibe.
00:13:13:19 - 00:13:39:10
Luna
If you try to talk to me when I'm trying to listen to a presentation, I will become grumpy. And while I am always open to truly irresistible invitations, hitting on me with your hello and a set of assumptions is so common, I find it incredibly resistible. Also, usually the invitations are extremely boring and I am only open to highly irresistible invitations.
00:13:39:12 - 00:13:56:01
Luna
Highly specialized, you know? But when someone's just like, I would love to hang out with you, I'm like, great book, a private retreat book, a photo shoot. What do you want? Like, come visit me where ever you want to visit me. Like you pick the context. So those are the most common in-person places I see people so in-person.
00:13:56:03 - 00:14:22:20
Luna
The basic takeaway is be contextual, be cool. People like my next favorite, number two, a virtual. If I can't see, smell, hear, and maybe taste or touch, depending on circumstance, the person that I'm interacting with. My next preference is to include as many of those elements as I possibly can. I do find that video is better for coaching, especially if it's intimacy related or any relationship rich work.
00:14:22:22 - 00:14:48:18
Luna
It definitely creates a natural two way hyperfocus, which allows me to read more of your body's information through physical cues. In other circumstances where creative problem solving is the key, I find that audio only may better support whatever your right brained processes are. So if someone is working on character development or plot like, I think it's better if we do phone calls because they usually like to pace around, or maybe they're sitting by a window or whatever.
00:14:48:20 - 00:15:14:14
Luna
As we work out the sexual backstory of a character is a lot of what I do, or kind of like the romantic arcs throughout a script, whatever we're working on. So. So virtually on pod. Yes. Yes, please. How to woo is a podcast where people of all backgrounds are invited to share their relational wisdom. Guests join me to share their experiences of love, making love, and the sexy things they love so that we can all learn from each other and co-create a sexier, more loving world.
00:15:14:14 - 00:15:35:15
Luna
You're listening. So you probably know this, and it's one of my favorite ways to get to know a new to me, human like classic. Whether they're using alias or not. Like classic sex stories episodes where someone is open enough to answer all of my questions are my favorite. What I love to do the in-person version. Yes. Is that a possibility soon?
00:15:35:15 - 00:16:10:09
Luna
Yes. So guests can be as anonymous as they please, and anyone who's down to follow my question outline is definitely encouraged to apply. I love that like I love getting to know people intimately. Yes, there's a thousand million other question formats like marriage ones and dating ones and divorce ones and friendship one like I have all sorts of like other sub questions and you know, in the distant future where I'm like, I'm like, I don't know, when I sit in front of screens that much, maybe we can, like host gatherings and just go through a theme of the day, topic of the day, I don't know, but anyone who wants to answer the sex stories
00:16:10:09 - 00:16:31:19
Luna
questions is invited to apply to our work in the please, please know category. My podcast is decidedly also not the place to hit on me or to tease a possible visit to the ranch. It's also not the place for you to ask me for advice on who you should see. If you do with the ranch, that's not my job.
00:16:31:19 - 00:16:48:06
Luna
If you want to hire me for creative counsel, then we can talk about that, you know? But like, that's not what this is for. How to woo is not therapy. And if you have trauma, I do ask that guests work through it in a private container with a licensed professional before coming on to share publicly. That's for everyone's health and safety.
00:16:48:06 - 00:17:09:00
Luna
It's for the good of the show. It's also like, I am not a therapist. I may be a healer, but I am not a licensed therapist. And how to woohoo is also not pressure to share anything beyond your comfort zone, right? Like it's not a gantlet to pass. It's not a test of your self-worth. It is simply an invitation to share.
00:17:09:06 - 00:17:33:20
Luna
For those who feel excited to share their sex stories and relational learnings like I'm never, ever, ever trying to convince anyone to do anything I am a soft sell in all senses of the word, monetary or otherwise, right? Like I really, really encourage people to make choices from the desires in their hearts and their loins. Follow your heart.
00:17:33:20 - 00:17:57:02
Luna
Follow your heart. You'll be good to go. That's my phrase. So that's that's a little bit on the podcast. Now, if someone's excited to get to know me and is excited to chat and is excited to, like, actually follow the structure of the format of the episode, great. Yes, yes, please live stream wise and the yes yes please category from time to time I do host various group lives either on Patreon, sometimes OnlyFans.
00:17:57:04 - 00:18:17:13
Luna
Whether it's a writing workshop, group story, sharing behind the scenes peek on set when I'm shooting something, or sometimes I'm trying out a new toy. There may be more of these in the future. Here, where we're organizing, I love when anyone there follows the prompt of whatever event I'm doing. Like staying on topic to me is so sexy.
00:18:17:13 - 00:18:43:04
Luna
It's so fun. It's so great when we show up and we're on the same page. I also am very thoughtful when I create the prompts that I'm inviting. And so when my invitations are responded to with similar thoughtfulness, I love that. That makes me so happy, you know? And I really love when people contribute thoughtfully. I love when someone is open so that we can learn from each other, while also staying mindful that the purpose for us is to come together for shared group energy.
00:18:43:05 - 00:19:05:02
Luna
Right? So I want to give my attention to everyone. And when we're in a group setting, we want to make sure that we're having not just a one on one conversation, but a conversation that keeps in mind a group discussion. And we're facilitating, you know, thoughts from people around us. Tips, especially on OnlyFans, are always welcome and encouraged.
00:19:05:02 - 00:19:31:12
Luna
If you like something that I do and they are definitely expected, especially on OnlyFans, if you are sharing erotically inclined comments. So there's a very big difference between sharing a personal story, because we're being open and curious. That tone is important here and like telling me in front of a group live stream your sexy thoughts about me now on OnlyFans.
00:19:31:14 - 00:20:08:06
Luna
You are invited to tell me all of the sexy thoughts like that's the place for OnlyFans is the place where sometimes we do it in group Sex Panther. You can also do it like private one on one. So yes, tips of all sizes. I love tips of all sizes live stream wise in the please, please know category. Live streams are not the time to showcase or discuss anything private or personal that you may have experienced with me directly, especially if we're on OnlyFans, a platform that is designed to be fully virtual and that is built to punish any references to in-person meetings of any kind.
00:20:08:11 - 00:20:36:18
Luna
So this doesn't matter if it's photography or something at the ranch. It like OnlyFans, is like, this is a place for virtual things, and too many people just don't think about that. And if you wish to speak about our personal interactions, you are definitely more than welcome to schedule a private call and do that off platform. Do that directly through any of my many websites, like if you want to chat one on one directly about anything, like any topic unfiltered, contact me directly and I'll let you know how to do that.
00:20:36:18 - 00:20:54:13
Luna
Please don't write to me about it on OnlyFans or Sex Panther, because that could get me knocked off the platform and that would be sad. The other way that I like to connect virtually is on my premium socials. So in the yes yes please category, yes, yes, please introduce yourself as erotically as you please on Sex Panther or my VIP OnlyFans.
00:20:54:15 - 00:21:11:09
Luna
You can share photos even of your naughty parts. You can also share video. You can also share audio. We can even hop on a live call or video. As long as you want to talk about things that are in the virtual fantasy or play space, you know, or talk about your life, or talk about fantasy scenarios between us.
00:21:11:11 - 00:21:34:06
Luna
I love to know actual things about you, who you are. If we've met and interacted before in any way. What parts of my work you're familiar with and what inspires you to connect? You don't have to share all of those things, but I love knowing it. I also love to know what's turning you on. Currently. I love to know what you're experiencing in your own relational life, in your own physical body, and any fantasies that might be bubbling up.
00:21:34:08 - 00:21:58:03
Luna
And if you want to play with me, I definitely prefer clear invitations. Whether it's for role play, whether it's for like, I want to sext right now, a virtual mini negotiation is my vibe. I love setting a clear frame and then having a party inside of it. I'm pretty good at redirecting if needed. However, I get really turned on by the conscious thought put into an invitation like irresistible invitations are.
00:21:58:03 - 00:22:21:18
Luna
So yes, yes, please. Hot. And if you don't know where to start, you can definitely check out my tip menu that is pinned to the top of my page on my private OnlyFans. I think it also now goes out in my welcome message when you sign up. So please just remember yes, yes, please always tip if the communication contains erotic things like always, definitely generously tip if it's an erotic exchange of energy, you know?
00:22:21:23 - 00:22:38:14
Luna
And even if you only want to show me that you appreciate my time and want to support this podcast, and want to support my mission to make the world a sexier, more loving place. One ripple of love at a time. Tips of all sizes are always celebrated in the please, please know category when it comes to premium socials.
00:22:38:14 - 00:22:59:19
Luna
We've been over this. Do not mention meeting in person on these platforms. So even if you are mentioning a legal brothel, it is against platform rules and it can get a creator's account fully taken down. So please don't do that to anyone. Please also remember that it's good manners to tip when sharing anything that turns you on, anything that gets you off or gives you any kind of erotic tingle i.e. no dick pics without proper tribute.
00:22:59:21 - 00:23:26:08
Luna
And I do love looking at all kinds of dicks. I love looking at pussies. I love looking at you. Touch yourself. I love looking at you with your partner like I really like a lot of things. However, as with any erotic connection, it's important that I feel valued and appreciated. And when I am in a space where connection is going from complete stranger to inner circle, if that's happening immediately, I do expect there to be money because otherwise there would be a dating process.
00:23:26:08 - 00:23:49:02
Luna
There would be investment of time and energy and money on dates, like there would be a different form of exchange. So if we're skipping all of those steps in order to help me feel valued, in order to let me know that you appreciate that I'm taking time away from my podcast, away from my mission to build something better in this world for all of us sexual beings are really like concrete appreciation in the form of tips of all sizes.
00:23:49:04 - 00:24:13:14
Luna
The third way I like to connect this does have overlap with virtual, but the implication of the previous virtual session is that we are interact ING in a sort of live moment. So number three, I love to interact in written communication. Have you figured it out yet? I love words, I love reading them, writing them, sharing them, attempting to say unformed thoughts with my mouth, and stumbling through an excitement.
00:24:13:14 - 00:24:29:12
Luna
If you've been listening to the podcast for a number of years, you've heard how I really have only barely improved. In some ways, my mouth gets so excited and I have so many thoughts that try to squish out all at one time. Kimberly does an excellent job of editing out a lot of my stumbles, but I think we've also been leading some of them in lately.
00:24:29:12 - 00:24:53:21
Luna
But all that is to say, writing is both fun and tricky because it allows for large amounts of mutual projection and it does not afford either party the energetic feeling of the other in the same way that an animal body does. I do prefer it for simple logistics, for get to know each other information exchanges, and for any specific questions, especially for someone who is a brand new to me connection.
00:24:53:21 - 00:25:15:23
Luna
And once I have met and vibe with you, I totally invite you to lead the connection. I love receiving life updates. I love especially in cases where our time together sparked something cool or magical. Like in the same way that I love hearing what people have done. Because of the podcast. I love, love hearing what's resulted in someone's life because of our time together, whether that's a photography session or something else.
00:25:16:01 - 00:25:38:01
Luna
And I do typically reserve long, in-depth penpal relationships for individuals who demonstrate a consistent desire to invest in our connection in a meaningful way, or if it's more of a one off connection that kind of like falls into the category of like tip as you write on OnlyFans. So email wise, yes, yes, please. I love hearing life updates.
00:25:38:01 - 00:25:57:08
Luna
If we've spent time together. I love knowing who you are and what you're daydreaming about. If we have an upcoming appointment. I love getting to know you. If you think you will come visit me either at the ranch or if you are like, seriously planning to book a private retreat or photo session. I love letting you know if we are a fit for a certain activity, scenario, or dynamic.
00:25:57:10 - 00:26:21:21
Luna
And I can say yes or no. But in ranch emails, like really the only place I can get specific about activity for a session at the ranch is in person, like just for for legal purposes. And it's the rule. So I can say yes or no, though I also love answering questions that you might have about a visit to the ranch, especially if the question is not already covered in my current epic Luna Ecom slash epic.
00:26:21:22 - 00:26:43:09
Luna
That's where I have more information written down. Versions of all of these had a brothel episodes. I also love thoughtful reflections on any episode of my podcast How to Woo. I love questions about relationships in general that I can answer on Pod. In the mailbag update episodes that I did with Kimberly, and I love getting a glimpse of you and feeling how you would like to connect.
00:26:43:09 - 00:27:00:22
Luna
You know, I love snapshots. I love cute pictures of people like, it's so cute when people send me pictures. Again. Dick pics are for only fans, but I love getting like a smiley selfie. I love knowing that someone is like, happy to share themselves with me, because usually it means that they're more likely to follow through in me.
00:27:00:23 - 00:27:30:21
Luna
It's the sculptures that use really weird emails and write me with a different name that they're signing off with every time that you usually end up liking in the please, please know category for email for brothel related emails. While I will respond to your details, I myself cannot elaborate on any potential activity. An email that, as I said, is reserved for in-person negotiation and the only place that we are officially allowed to discuss activity and price specifics are in my room when I'm working at the ranch on the day of our party.
00:27:30:23 - 00:27:58:15
Luna
If you are writing to me to arouse yourself, as I said, please do so via premium socials, OnlyFans and Sex Panther are the places to do that. And there do not mention the ranch. You simply mention whatever you want to mention in a fantasy scenario and include nice, generous tips because it's erotic and if you are looking for a long term pen pal with no intention of coming to visit the ranch, please either use premium socials to connect and be appropriately generous with your tribute, or find me on cash Up.
00:27:58:15 - 00:28:19:22
Luna
I have a Linktree that has links to everything. If you want to just directly email me through any of my websites for the premium socials, yes. Yes please. Sure. Fantasy is, as we said, writing audio, photo and video and as many naughty details as our hearts and parts. Desire per platform guidelines please, please, no more platform guidelines. Forbid discussion of in-person meetings even in legal scenarios.
00:28:19:22 - 00:28:39:23
Luna
I cannot repeat those are not for explicit mention of any ranch. Visits should be reserved for a logistics email. And this is not just my preference. Please do this for any lady who has premium socials and works at a ranch, right? It's just thoughtful. In terms of public socials. Yes, yes, please engage with my words. Following the prompt goes a long way.
00:28:40:00 - 00:29:03:16
Luna
Makes me very happy. Engage with my words and comments. I appreciate supportive appreciation, respectful enthusiasm, sharing a personal detail, playful flirt. All of that is encouraged and enjoyed. You can write me a nice little DM there. I would rather have an email. To be honest, I love public comments. I love that you help boost engagement. I love even if you just want to hurt stuff or put an emoji response.
00:29:03:18 - 00:29:34:09
Luna
And then the please please note category when it comes to public socials. Lewd, crude or rude communications of any kind. Phrases intended to mark your territory or referencing our private time together, complaining low vibes in general. Anything below the basic standard of supportive, loving kindness is kind of what I'd like you to stay away from. And if one wants long erotic private messages, then please use premium socials and be generous with your tips.
00:29:34:13 - 00:30:03:00
Luna
Although we love tips of all sizes. So to recap, I love in-person connection the most. I love active virtual connection. The second most I love written connections third most, and I definitely prioritize things where I am making money so that I can contribute to my creation space dreams. Because I really am excited to create spaces on a large scale where we can congregate safely and learn together.
00:30:03:02 - 00:30:23:04
Luna
How I prioritize if you reach out to me through the ranch email and don't hear back from me within a couple days, usually I'm responding to people within the same day. Sometimes it's busy, so it takes a day or two. But if you reach out and don't hear back, it's probably because I'm not on premises and they remove my access to email when I am not there.
00:30:23:06 - 00:30:50:12
Luna
If you've emailed me through my website and you haven't heard back from me in a couple days, it's because I'm probably already otherwise engaged and I will get back to you as soon as is helpfully possible. Like when I'm on a private retreat, when I'm traveling and going from photoshoot to photoshoot to photoshoot, when I'm in session, or when I'm recording this podcast and focus deeply with my attention elsewhere, I can't always get to email and as quickly as I would like.
00:30:50:12 - 00:31:10:01
Luna
So if I've already booked up my time, it might take a couple days or a couple weeks depending on what I'm doing. Like, sometimes I will like be here for a few days and travel there for a few days and be here on a intensive and there on end, you know? So it just depends on what's unfolding. However, I'm getting better at also remembering to respond to email while at airports.
00:31:10:03 - 00:31:29:08
Luna
Most of my non brothel time is spent with family recording podcasts, doing photo shoots, creative sessions or private retreats, writing or doing post-production on any of these things. Plus all of the chores that I've neglected in my house when I'm busy working with people. So, like a true artist, I definitely make a really good effort at admin and email.
00:31:29:08 - 00:31:56:16
Luna
But it is often the last thing that I get to, depending on the size of the creative whirlwind that I am currently engaged in. And first and foremost, I meet my basic needs for sleep and exercise and proper nutrition and my introvert reflection time before I can turn my energy to work, focus, connection and playtime. So if there is a gap in communication, it's simply because I don't have bandwidth to take on new connections right now, you know?
00:31:56:16 - 00:32:12:22
Luna
And if it's urgent, email me again and put urgent in the subject line. And Kimberly usually helps me pay attention to stuff like that. And I share all of this because I think there's this kind of vibe in the world that especially for a lot of female creators who I know where it's like, you gotta do it all.
00:32:12:23 - 00:32:36:16
Luna
It's like I'm team healthy. Like, I, I really aspire to do work in this world on a number of levels that helps improve people's lives and I don't feel I can authentically do that if I don't prioritize taking care of myself first. So this is a peek into my curtain of how I prioritize my interpersonal world, depending on where I am in the world.
00:32:36:18 - 00:32:58:15
Luna
So when I'm at the ranch, when I'm at Sheri's, I focus on ranch things. First, I focus on in-person appointments and then requests and then bar calls in that order. Second, I focus on written communications that's ranch related email or DM inquiries and then ranch related socials. If I have bandwidth. And then third, I will focus on virtual, which kind of rarely happens.
00:32:58:15 - 00:33:13:08
Luna
I'm at the ranch and unless we have an established connection and you know, in cases where someone sends me small communications or like I have one, one sweetie who always is sending me good pictures and he knows it like a couple weeks might go by, and then I come back and I like, like all the pictures he sent.
00:33:13:08 - 00:33:33:12
Luna
And as long as I am in a space where I can, like, come and go without recrimination, great. Or in cases where people want to have a direct conversation with me. I rarely do this at the ranch because it's too hard to organize. However, there are a couple people that know that I might have to like, abruptly leave suddenly and they are turned on by that, you know?
00:33:33:12 - 00:33:53:21
Luna
And of course, food is the priority. Moving my body is always a necessity. And, sometimes in the summertime, swimming and hot tubbing, I try to work it in there at least once a day, because that is my very happy place, like it's the heart of the oasis at the ranch. When I'm at home, I focus mostly on podcast and photo things.
00:33:53:23 - 00:34:11:11
Luna
So in person I will do photo or content shoots, podcast recordings, and post-production. Like that's. That's usually where most of my time goes when I'm home. And again, the tours when I need to do chores and then I will also do virtual or written things. So that's podcasts, emails, recordings. And then I do photo emails and then premium.
00:34:11:16 - 00:34:35:16
Luna
So that's kind of the hierarchy. I do pay attention to podcast emails first and foremost. Well, when I'm home and Kimberly helps me pay attention if they're relevant, I also get an overwhelming number of clearly, I created pitches for people who have nothing to do with my mission or even sex. Like being like, hey, do you think this person can be a good fit for your show?
00:34:35:16 - 00:34:57:09
Luna
So like sifting through that is definitely taking more energy, which is a bummer. But that's the order of operations. There. And then when I'm traveling or on set or in production, especially like beyond podcast production, I focus on whatever led me to that travel. So if I'm doing in-person work and I'm focused on my creative client, I'm focused on the event.
00:34:57:09 - 00:35:27:20
Luna
I'm focused on local, delicious food. If I'm not doing one of those two things and then I will prioritize virtual and written things after that, I often do ignore, like virtual phone call, unless it's really, really urgent, or unless the person is like so eager and is proved to be very generous. Like I typically will wait until I'm at home and kind of like settle into that stuff, because it's really hard for me to be present and also on the phone or computer all the time.
00:35:27:22 - 00:35:46:06
Luna
So I do my best to respond to all time sensitive communications and then everything else I catch up with when I have space. So all of that is to say, I may not text you back at regular intervals every day or week or month. I will definitely respond at least a couple times every quarter. It's me. It's been more often than not lately, I think.
00:35:46:08 - 00:36:12:03
Luna
However, when I finally turn my attention to you, my attention is fully focused on you. It's kind of how I work. So to recap, in-person connections are the best. Introduce yourself via email. If you're definitely planning to visit or work with me, listen to and or be a guest on my podcast. If you want to connect on a deeper level before we meet, offer appreciation in the form of concrete value.
00:36:12:05 - 00:36:33:06
Luna
Tips of all sizes and wish list grants are always appreciated. And if you're looking for instant erotic exchange with an internet stranger, or are seeking attention that requires a high volume of time or focus i.e. messages longer than a couple of paragraphs, please be generous if I don't get back to you immediately, please chill and just trust the divine timing.
00:36:33:06 - 00:36:51:12
Luna
I will eventually. If it's been more than a month, you can follow up, but like I will get back to you. Sometimes things do get lost in spam, so especially if you have an email that is contains the word sex contains the word Luna, like I've had. I've had a couple people make specific emails just to get in touch with me, and they get trapped in the spam filter.
00:36:51:12 - 00:37:15:18
Luna
So don't do that. But like I will get back to you. I always respond eventually and no matter where you are, no matter who you're talking to, no matter what you're doing, treat yourself and others with loving kindness. So that is how I prioritize communication in and beyond the wrench. Remember to read the written versions of this episode.
00:37:15:18 - 00:37:30:17
Luna
You can find all my how to brothel guides at my website. Luna robby.com/faq. I love hearing from you, so please do reach out with any reflections or questions and resulting experiences. Follow your hearts and follow your path. And remember to share sex stories.
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