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33 queer transgender man, he/him pronouns, single, gay, ethically non-monogamous, barber, from Massachusetts, based in California, into: daddies, bottoming, switching, giving oral, licking, biting, spanking, exploring, and hiking.

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Luna Robbie 0:00

Our guest today is a 33 year old queer transgender man who is single, newly separated, gay, ethically non monogamous, and is into daddy's bottoming, but can totally switch it up, giving oral licking, biting, spanking, exploring in general and hiking a barber originally from Massachusetts with us today from California. Welcome. Hey, hello. Let's get to know you first in general. Could you please tell us what makes you go woo like tell us what you love, how you have fun, and what in life brings you big joy.

Nolan 0:31

Well, I really appreciate exploring and adventures and never listening to signs when they tell me not to go into places, because I believe that we should, I don't know. I'm always like, if they have a sign there, it's worth going in. So I love hiking, but I love going on unmarked trails and finding cool places. And also, like, like, hide pooling and like, just, like, finding things. I just, I'm a very curious being so I talk about dogs. Love Dogs. Do you have a dog? I do isn't Wallaby.

Luna Robbie 1:14

Wallaby. It's a great dog game. Yeah, he's a great boy,

Nolan 1:19

and we go hiking together. That's pretty cool. I love that. Okay,

Luna Robbie 1:22

here in Los Angeles, where I am, oftentimes when people say hiking, they do mean get into makeup and yoga pants and walk on flat spots. What do you mean for hiking? Okay, okay. And that's not to criticize that. I think moving the physical body in any way is great, but like, what type of hiking? Like? What's because I also know people that are like, Oh yeah, I'm going for hike today, and it's like a 12 hour, like, you know, with the sunlight up and down, sort of situation. So kind of

Nolan 1:47

like that, yeah, when I spend going hiking, people don't usually see me for like, a full work day, okay,

Luna Robbie 1:52

oh, I love that

Nolan 1:56

for like, a short one, but I usually go to Angeles National Forest, so

Luna Robbie 1:59

I love it there. Okay, fuck yeah. Okay, so tell us now, again, doesn't have to be sexual. Can be if this is your jam, but we'll get into all those details. But tell us now, how do you woo you like, what are your self, love, self, Joy practices?

Nolan 2:16

Um, well, definitely I'm a words of affirmation person. So I really try to say kind things to myself. It's not always easy. But, you know, I don't know, just taking care of myself as far as, like, stretching, yoga, that kind of stuff, makeup, cooking is really great. Art, what kind of art do you do? I made, actually made an art project for the first time in like, three years. So I couldn't prepare myself for that. I'm trying to, I guess I'm calling it distorted, abstract. That's the only way I could describe it. Hopefully I'll finish everything soon, because finishing things is hard sometimes, like, you'll be like, I have to do this whole thing. This is a whole thing I have to do. So like, first I was like, oh, it's gonna be so easy. I get to sit down. It's like, then you're like, all, like, this shrimp position, and you're like, Oh, yeah. Like that, yeah, it's a lot. So yeah,

Luna Robbie 3:16

and Hooray for long term creative projects that's that's fun. And also, like, you'll finish in divine timing, I'm sure. Okay, so words of affirmation. Then does that apply to other people? Like, tell us a little bit about how you like to be wooed or receive love and attention from others? Definitely.

Nolan 3:35

Words of affirmation, for sure. Yeah. And then also, like, touch is great. Whatever that touch may be, communication is a big one for me, too. So I guess that could kind of go with words of information, yeah. What

Luna Robbie 3:48

kind of communication works for you? So like, for example, I'm a person that needs really clear, direct, either literal as possible statements or tell me more, when we're in metaphor land, you know, you

Nolan 4:03

have to be direct. Or I'm just like, I'm like, Oh, you hate me. Cool. Like, like, I have to, yeah, direct as possible is what I do as well. I love that. So that's how I am with people. I'm very direct. But sometimes people don't like it true, because I'll just be very like, intense about it, but I don't know. I feel like it's better than, like, lying, or like, you know,

Luna Robbie 4:26

absolutely. I recently learned that there is a term called passive communication, which is, in my mind, what I call squiggly talkers. And it's people who are like, you know, Oh, do you want the last cookie? And what they really mean is, like, I want the last cookie. Is that okay, you know? But they're but instead, they're like, kind of doing a social dance that I don't always get. And sometimes I do want the last cookie or whatever. I don't eat cookies, but, like, this is in the book more than two which is not a new book, but it's kind of a go to for a lot of poly people who are starting out. And I just didn't realize that there. Was a term for that, because I always have been a very direct person, and also I think it is more effective than euphemism and sneakery. Personally, I got real confused by the the double signals or the opposite talk, anything else on, like receiving love or being wooed, or like types of dates that you like to be, like, taken on. Like, how do you do you? Are you a romantic person? I'm trying to figure out romance. For the rest of romantic you are. I'm like, Tell me about that

Nolan 5:29

disgustingly. Like, just, like, so much that it's like, it like, makes me nauseous.

Unknown Speaker 5:36

I want to hear about that. Tell me all about that.

Nolan 5:40

I just, I like to, like, I don't know, cook for people, take care of people. Like, do really kind gestures, little surprises. But like for me, like, pretty much, like, I just want, like, a dude just, like, roll up and be like, do you want to, like, go, like, hike this mountain, like, randomly, or like, do you want to go, like, do the super random thing that nobody would ever ask anybody to do. Like, I don't know, like a guy recently, like, he just, like, came and he's like, do you want to go? Like, go this, like, look out and, like, it's super private, and we're not supposed to go. But do you want to go find it? And I was like, Yeah, I do want to go do Is there

Luna Robbie 6:17

a sign that says, Do not enter and we're gonna go past it? Absolutely. That's like, all of your

Nolan 6:21

things you want to go actually, yeah. So just something random, like, I just love, I know, like spontaneous gestures like that. Well,

Luna Robbie 6:29

also, it sounds like a really irresistible invitation to adventure. Like, that's, that's cool.

Nolan 6:36

Oh, man, that's sexy. It's exciting. It's, yeah, yeah. Yeah.

Luna Robbie 6:40

Do you find that you offer the type of romance that you wish to receive, or are they different?

Nolan 6:46

I feel like I have, but usually not quite, no, not, not that sense of adventure like that. I feel like I I've received it at times, but I don't think I've received as much as I would like got it okay, but it might be on the horizon. We'll see. Yeah, well,

Luna Robbie 7:08

I mean, I've been asking people a lot about romance for over a year now, since Valentine's Day of last year, and I am realizing how specific it is to people and how much it actually does move, even though they're, like, culturally approved, whatever, quote, unquote romantic things. And I'm learning that, like, I get more of what I want when I teach people what I want, you know. And for me, romance looks like letting me talk about work

Nolan 7:32

or whatever, you know. So yeah, I could definitely agree with that. Do you

Luna Robbie 7:36

feel like you adjust the romance you give as you get to know a partner.

Nolan 7:41

Yeah, I do think sometimes I settle in and get comfortable, and that is kind of why I think some aspects of my last relationship didn't work as well, is because I kind of just I settled in and I don't want to do that. Has so much life to live. Still. I don't want to be doing that. Yes,

Luna Robbie 8:04

I feel that so hard. I feel that so hard. Okay, when do you feel the most connected to another human being

Nolan 8:12

when we're both getting our adrenaline going and doing something really exciting, like, I don't know, like hiking or going and doing like a really fun activity, or, like, amusement park, or, like, I don't know, something like that, like, just something very like, wow, that was so fun. Like, and we're both, like, having fun,

Luna Robbie 8:30

yeah, that's totally a thing. What do you feel like needs to be in place for you to take connection with another human being and make it sexy, like, to take it to an intimate physical level. Well,

Nolan 8:41

for starters, they have to be like, not boring. That's a really big one for me. Like, if they're boring, I'm like, could not be any, could not be any less turned on if I tried. Okay? And then just like, it being interested in me and wanting to hear what I have to say, and then being able to keep up with, like, the random questions I ask and how fast I ask them, relatable, like, I want someone that can really, like, keep up. What do you like to ask questions about? I got, like, literally anything I'll be like, what's your favorite conspiracy theory? Or, like, What's your favorite food that you've had during a time when you were really happy? Or, like, just like, like, I asked somebody this question, actually, like, pretty recently I said, I don't want to be cliche and ask you what your favorite band is, but I want to ask you, like, what band like, got you through, like, the hardest time of your life kind of stuff. Like, I'll just ask, I ask everything. I'll be like, just whatever. Just really getting to know people. Okay.

Luna Robbie 9:39

And so it sounds like, however, they answer, like, you have to have mutual Spark, mutual curiosity, and then, like, keeping pace with each other. And so then from there, and it sounds like that, maybe I'm gonna project here. Does it create a sense of safety? Like, what do you need in terms of that to like, to go to the next level? Like, and. Like, I'm assuming there's physical attraction here too for you,

Nolan 10:03

it just makes me feel like that person's alive, if that makes sense. Like, I feel like a lot of people are so, like, just wrapped up in their day to day. And that's like, fine if, like, everybody has those moments where, like, you're just not 100% but it gives me that sense that that person still, like, has ambition and wants to wants different things,

Luna Robbie 10:23

and it also sounds like you have a zest for life and are looking to be met with that. Does that feel accurate, or am I totally in projection?

Nolan 10:33

Yeah, it gives me, makes me feel like a sense of safety as well. Okay,

Luna Robbie 10:39

so on the note of safety when it comes to sexy things and getting intimate and naked and putting bits together with others, what do you need, health and safety wise, in order to go forward with a partner? For

Nolan 10:53

starters, the fact that, you know, I predominantly do hook up with a lot of cis men throughout my life, okay, I do need there to be, well, an understanding of the fact that I do have mixed, matched body parts compared to the way I present. So I need there to be a clear understanding of that that is a thing. So there's no surprises, yeah, which I'm usually very clear about that. Like, I mean, that's in my dating profiles, like, so they know, usually, but I have to really be like, hey, just so, you know, I have these body parts, so don't be like, What the fuck Okay. Also, like, obviously discussing, like, positions, STI, status, like, that whole thing, and then just creating like, safe words I was mentioning. I don't like to receive oral. I'm like, trying to get more comfortable with it because I used to really like it, like, before I transitioned. So I'm trying to like it again, but I feel like I get really overwhelmed. So I have to have like, a word to be like, Oh, but that doesn't like, stop because I don't want to freak the person out, because I don't want them to think they're like, doing something wrong. Just kind of like, like, Oh, this is weird. I guess those are important things to me.

Luna Robbie 12:05

I love that. Do you have a favorite slow down word? I did a hook up

Nolan 12:09

with somebody not too long ago who was, like, really cool about being, like, doing colors, which I thought was nice, yeah, you know, which is cliche, but like, red is stop, yellow is slow down. But I kind of liked that because it was, like, very direct, because I feel like sometimes, like, I don't know if I pick like, avocado or something, it's like, that can be distracting. So I guess I just like doing colors based on like, things like blue can mean like, we're good in this moment, like where we're at, and I'm like, I like that, yeah.

Luna Robbie 12:39

Oh, that's that is so relatable, I found that different words work for me with different partners. And there's also a piece of me that's like, keep it simple, keep it the same. Don't change. You know, that's too hard to remember, but I have more flexibility than I give my credit myself credit for sometimes. And I notice that when I'm in if I'm in a power dynamic and the other person has the power for me, if I'm in a little bit of a submissive mode and I'm experiencing intensity, Mercy is one of my favorites, because it, you know, kind of stays in that container that that's just like. And also, I was trained on mercy, so it's a special spot for me. I love that. How is it for you, having to be like, hey, FYI, these are my bits. Like, is that ever like emotional labor, or is it just fine and something you're okay with? Or, like, how is that for you? Even if it is in your profile? It's interesting

Nolan 13:27

because I did, like, two of the people I've been hooking up with are cis men, and then the other is non binary, but amab. So I do feel like with them, it's been really simple, because they do view me as I am, and I don't feel like they don't view me like as I am, so that's been nice. And I don't feel like I'm being like, sexual, like, over sexualized, or like, I don't think it's like a chaser situation. I think it's just very like this happened to work out, yeah, but in the past, I definitely was really nervous about it because I thought I only could be with trans men that were just because of, you know. So it's been nice to explore like all forms of masculinity and not feel like I'm limited to one one area, especially when there's not too many trans men to go around, you know. So it's like only so many people that you can pick, especially in LA, I feel like they all know each other in some capacity. So it's been nice to explore all of options.

Luna Robbie 14:33

And you do like exploring. So there's many different forms I

Nolan 14:37

do. Yes, I do. That's so cool. Yeah, trying to do more of less sexual capacity as well. Still, that's all pretty new to me as well. Okay,

Luna Robbie 14:47

do you talk about being ethically non monogamous right off the bat? I imagine that's like, hand in hand, or like,

Nolan 14:54

yeah, yeah. I just say it right away. I don't want to have to not do this because you're uncomfortable with it. Like, I. Only really want to hook up with people that are either polyamorous or, like, ethically non monogamous as well. And luckily, that's been the case, yeah, because I don't know, I don't like, want to expectation that, like, have to, like, do a bunch of stuff, or, like, be there for you on an emotional level that I'm not ready for. Yeah, you know, and if I have more of a capacity, I'll tell you that. But if I don't, that should be the expectation that I don't, because I probably don't, yeah, well, I love

Luna Robbie 15:31

consensual, non monogamy, because it creates space. And I think from from in my experience, I love that it helps me make a relationship the actual right size for the connection, rather than trying to put, like, a small thing into a giant place. Or, you know, like, I'm like, yeah, yeah.

Nolan 15:51

Because I do have like, like one of the people, I definitely do feel like more of a connection with an attraction to, and I do give that person, like, more of my time, yeah. But the other ones, I don't feel as much, and that's okay, like we match each other's energy, and I think it's really good.

Luna Robbie 16:09

Okay, let's get sexier. If you had to rate yourself today on a sexual shame, weird. Thank you for wooing.

Unknown Speaker 16:19

I get so excited.

Unknown Speaker 16:20

Oh yeah. I mean, that's, that's woo everywhere here

Luna Robbie 16:23

we got a woo. Um, okay, so if you had to rate yourself on a sexual shame o meter, with 10 being so full of shame and zero being like, I don't have any, where do you fall today, right now and when, if ever does your shame O Meter fluctuate? I

Nolan 16:38

would say it's, like, pretty low now, like, some days are zero. It kind of ranges between like zero to like three, whoo. Sometimes it can go up to five. Okay, sorry, zero is a five. It's usually no higher than three. But the reason it's a five at times is because I still do, you know, struggle with gender dysphoria, and I'm waiting for a specific procedure to ease some of that. But unfortunately, you can't just, you know, walk into an elementary school and get, you know, all of those procedures. Other thing you can do on the media, no, it actually is hard. So, yeah, I have to wait for that. So once I get that, I think I'll feel like more in the zero ish range. But right now it's kind of fluctuating a little

Luna Robbie 17:29

bit, okay, okay, I hear that. What is sexy to you?

Nolan 17:35

Absolutely, just like, thrown around and like toppled and just like, Absolutely, just like, almost like, eating alive, but like, with still having skin on, you know, I love like, just like, being like, like, mauled. I just like, just, God, I love men so much.

Luna Robbie 17:55

I love hearing that so much. Um, what do you love about men,

Nolan 18:00

the way they smell, I love, like, relatively hairy men. Like, not like, totally like, like, almost like werewolf status or like Bear status, but like, a little step below that, I don't know how they're defined. And just like their jaw lines and like their eyebrow bones, and just like how scruffy they are, just like everything. I just love boys so much. Love that so gay. I like, can't even like, it's like, wow. Like, like, everyone's like, are you ever into women or femininity? And I'm like, I'll tell you, I'm not at all. And I know I'm not, because I'll see like a beautiful either feminine presenting person or like a beautiful woman, and like, I'll be like, I know that's a beautiful woman. I just feel nothing, yeah, but then, like, I see like even a below average guy, and I'm like, okay, not really my thing, but I could, I could hit it. Like, but like, yeah, I love that so much.

Speaker 1 19:02

Yeah, when do you feel the sexiest when

Nolan 19:05

I'm kind of, like crossing between, like, my masculine and a little bit of my feminine presentation

Luna Robbie 19:11

at the same time? What do you mean when you say crossing?

Nolan 19:15

I don't know when I'm dressed up to go out, I guess, like wearing makeup, but also presenting masculine at the same time.

Luna Robbie 19:23

What counts as sex for you? What's your personal definition?

Nolan 19:27

Just like any form of penetration of some sort, whether it's genital to mouth, you know, fingers to genitals, like any form of penetration of any sort, I guess I categorize as sex. I love that my view on sex has changed with hooking up with trans guys being a trans guy, so I just consider it, yeah, anything where something's going in, something I

Luna Robbie 19:52

love that. I love that. I think I like it because it makes room for, like, thigh sex. It makes room for like, titty fucking. I mean. It

Nolan 20:00

could be armpits. Definitely, yeah, definitely. Those things are all, you know, hand I mean, you know, like hand jobs, all that, I think, consider all of that to be sex. Yeah.

Luna Robbie 20:11

Okay, so now I would love to hear how you learned about love, sex, connection and pleasure growing up. So take us through your personal timeline of meaningful, intimate experiences, maybe starting with, when do you first remember hearing about sex?

Nolan 20:26

Yeah, I think I started hearing about it, like, pretty early on. I think, like, elementary schools, like, started teaching at my fourth or fifth grade. But obviously it was nothing. I was just like, a bunch of like things. And we're like, what is happening here? But luckily, like, I had a really amazing mom that was, like, really great about answering those questions for me. Okay, so I had an older brother and, like, a dad, and I definitely watched a lot of mature things for my age. I would say, like movies and like shows and stuff like that. So I would learn about, like, a body part, and then I'd be like, Mom, what is this? And she'd be like, and then, like, she would answer my question, and then I'd hear her, like, yell at my dad, and be like, Why do they know about that? Like, what is happening here? So she was really cool about, like, telling me things like that. So I feel like I knew things pretty early on, like I wasn't too isolated in that way.

Luna Robbie 21:28

When did you start, like, either exploring yourself and or did friends talk about it like, what kind of came next in your personal evolution? Yeah,

Nolan 21:37

I'll be honest. Like my my evolution was pretty, like, late because I I just, like, was so uncomfortable all the time that I was just like, oh, like, here we go. Like, I had such a hard time because I hated my my chest, like, pre op so much, and I didn't know why I hated it so much, because there's no, like, manual that's like, oh, like, your transgender so, like, I just was like, Oh, I just really hate my boobs, and I don't want anyone to touch them, look at them, like, be around them. Yeah, it was kind of just, like, randomly, just hooking up with people, and then being like, Okay, bye. And then, like, still wearing a shirt, and being like, all right. So it's changed a lot in the last like, five years even,

Luna Robbie 22:22

wow. Okay, okay, yeah, um, I mean, do you feel comfy giving us your like, personal time? Lent like, when did you start hooking up with people? When did you touch your own body? Like, kind of, what was that like?

Nolan 22:33

I would masturbate when I was pretty young. Actually, I kind of, like, really learned my body pretty young, and then I feel like I went through puberty, puberty, and then that's when, you know, things started doing their thing. And I was like, and I like, didn't want to do those things anymore. So I don't know, I never really got a lot of attention from guys, except, like, creepy older guys. But I didn't get attention from people, like in my actual grade, until I was in like, ninth grade and I had a boyfriend. He was actually, like, such a sweetheart. I still think about him sometimes, and we actually have, like, really good sex, like, I actually had orgasms with this person, which is crazy, because that's usually not a thing that guys can actually help somebody achieve so but I was with him through all of high school, and then I woke up one day and I was like, No, broke up with him because I was like, I'm not having sex with one person the rest of my life. That's crazy. And he was like, I feel really bad, like, like, I really hurt him, but he's probably fine now, yeah. And then, um, yeah. And then I just kind of like, you know, hooked up with guys and did that whole thing. And then, you know, went through multiple relationships. Then I ended up in not the last relationship I was in, but the one before that. And I feel like that was my most explorative relationship I had because that was a relationship that I realized that monogamy wasn't working for me. It was a relationship that I realized that I was definitely trans, and yeah, and that person also realized they were trans. That was really interesting, but yeah, that was my most explorative relationship. It was the relationship I did the most drugs in which is really cool, like, like, experimenting with, like, psychedelics and stuff like that. Would

Luna Robbie 24:31

you please tell us a little bit about what it is like to discover your own transness with, like, in tandem with a partner? Like, how was that like? How did it play into your sexual exploration? Like, what tell us what we need to

Nolan 24:43

know. I had struggled, you know, with like I was mentioning earlier. I'd struggled with self image stuff, because I feel like, in our society, it's so normal to like, not like yourself so like everyone's like, everyone feels that way. And I was like, Yeah, but like, No, I feel different than other people's. Still, and it pretty much it started, like, with realizing the way I envisioned myself was actually a guy the whole time, and not just like a smaller person, if that makes sense, like more of like a flat chested person, like I kind of just thought I vision myself as, like a thin person, not like as a guy, if that's making sense, yeah. So that started coming about, like, pretty much, you know, like I was mentioning, I was exploring with a lot of, you know, different substances and things like that, and I don't know it made me just be able to put words into what I was feeling. And I started meeting more people that were trans, like I had, like, you know, neighbors and stuff like that that were and I was like, hmm. And then, yeah, I just, I just kind of fed it one day to the person I was with at the time, and he at the time was like, Okay, well, explore that. That's cool. And then that's when I just became like, especially when I started on testosterone, I just became so hyper sexual in like, a way that felt so good, because I I always felt like I was, I just was so uncomfortable.

Luna Robbie 26:12

Interesting. Wait, what was the uncomfortable part? Like, the body parts or like, What do you mean exactly, being

Nolan 26:19

in a body that didn't feel like mine heard of it, and then being perceived as a woman also felt uncomfortable. Like I was like, I want to be like a boyfriend. I don't want to I used to think about like, being someone's boyfriend. And I was like, That's really weird. Like, why would I think about that? But yeah, I it was being, like, viewed as a woman, and then also having, like, additional body parts that didn't feel right, like having breasts, things like that, yeah. So then when my body started working correctly, I guess it's the word I'll use, I felt like, it just felt so much more like, yes, like, this is great.

Luna Robbie 26:58

Okay, so tell us some of the sexy things you did as you were starting to finally feel like you're it sounds like you're starting to feel like your own sexual self, like your own self in general, but also in your sex life. I

Nolan 27:11

guess, like, I mean, even as basic as like, I've learned that I can ejaculate in like, different positions than just being on top, like, that was a really big one for me, because I thought I only could, you know, ejaculate in one position, really that, like, I just, I just didn't think it was possible for me, because I didn't know, like, even how to make the body parts I had work, I guess, being on T I should mention, just because, You know, my certain parts of my areas grew and, yeah, you essentially get like a micro penis. So learning how to utilize that was life changing for me.

Luna Robbie 27:53

Oh, that's so cool. Do you feel comfy giving details well?

Nolan 27:56

So for starters, like, I think it was like a really, it was a really weird moment. I was like, on vacation with my partner at the time, and I just, like, was like, I wonder, like, what it looks like now, because I hadn't looked at it since I'd been on tea. And I literally, like, lifted my leg up, and I was just staring. And I was like, I have, like, like, a small penis now, like, this is fucking crazy. Like, I didn't realize what it like looked like. I guess that makes sense. I just put a little check in, you know? I was like, what's been going on down there all this time? And I was like, wow. Like, that is crazy. And like, yeah. And then just like, I don't know, sex has just been so amazing having that that's so cool. It just makes like, ejaculating, like, so much more intense, like, like, more than I can imagine, like I can describe to you. And then also, like, not having boobs is great. So like, when people touch my chest, I'm not, like, Don't fucking touch me, you know, okay, yeah, yeah. But like, I don't know, like, even like, the positions I like, are different. Like, I'm not just like, like, I like, I fuck with missionary and all that stuff, obviously. But like, I love doggy style now, and it makes me feel like it's, like, the true, like, gay experience for me, like bottoming in that position, okay? And it just feels so amazing. I love that position now. And before, I would have been like, it does nothing for me. Now I'm like, it does everything for me. That's so cool. Yeah, people to have multiple orgasms still as well, because I do have that mini appendage, but I also can achieve multiple orgasms still. So it's kind of like I can, like, it's like baking your cake and eating it too, making your cake, whatever it is, you know, I like

Luna Robbie 29:39

baking your cake and eating it too. That's the best you get to make the whole thing, the whole process. It's not just having it. You get to do the thing. How long had you been on tea when you decided to look, I've been six months. Six months. Okay,

Nolan 29:52

look for almost six months. Yeah, yeah. Because I knew it was bigger. I could feel it. But I was like, it was bigger. Like, how. Like, that's crazy, yeah, yeah. And it, like, stays hard for like, so long now too. Like, literally, like, like, through my pretty much, through entire, like, sexual experiences I'm having with people. It's still, like, ready to go, like, it's chilling, like, it's like, yeah, let's, let's get into it more. When

Luna Robbie 30:22

I wear a strap on, I feel a completely embodied change that feels inspired by a cock that's not even actually do you feel that in your body, like having this dick now?

Nolan 30:34

Yeah, I do. I do feel like that. It just feels like So gender euphoric for me, and it feels like I'm truly like, because, like, also, like, the dudes I hook up with too, like, will, like, acknowledge it, and they'll be like, Wow, it's so, like, hard. It's so this, it's so that. And it's like, it just feels so good. That's so

Luna Robbie 30:51

cool. Has it changed the way that you masturbate? Are you into masturbation? Yeah, it

Nolan 30:56

completely changed the way I masturbate. I can do it like I said, like, multiple times, and it is more intense, and the position I do it in too. Like, I'm more like in a dominating position when I'm doing it, if that makes sense. Okay,

Luna Robbie 31:10

what's that look like?

Nolan 31:12

Like laying on my back, versus, like being upright,

Luna Robbie 31:16

interesting. Wait, you masturbate upright? Like, up. I guess,

Nolan 31:19

rather than being like this, I'm like this, that makes sense, yeah,

Luna Robbie 31:23

yeah, lean forward well and, and that goes with my like, imagining about wearing a strap. Because I, when I have a strap on, I'm like, hips forward. I'm like, what, you know, like,

Nolan 31:34

yeah, it feels like my like demeanor changed, yes, yeah. Like, it doesn't feel as shameful, not that it felt shameful, but just like, yeah,

Luna Robbie 31:43

so when you masturbate now, are you more like hands? Do you use toys? Like, do you enjoy penetration? Still like, it sounds like you are doing some penetration, receiving some penetration, but that like,

Nolan 31:56

I still penetrate. I still am penetrated. I'm still penetrated with, you know, with everything I was penetrated with before. And, yeah, I like, No, I do like toys. I That's another thing too. Like, I didn't use a toy. Like, this is so, like, kind of embarrassing, probably, but I didn't use a toy until I was like, 25 or 26

Luna Robbie 32:22

oh, I mean,

Unknown Speaker 32:25

maybe even later this

Luna Robbie 32:26

year. Yeah. I mean, I wouldn't have if someone hadn't, like, I won a vibrator in college, but I just didn't like, know about them. And it wasn't until I had a kinky partner, when I was 27 that I was like, Oh, these are there's so many more toys than

Nolan 32:41

I realized, pretty much. Like I started using toys like, I mean, with my ex, when she started transitioning, is like, I think when I used my first toys, that was maybe like, 28 or 29 okay. And then I got way more into toys with my last partner. But yeah, no, toys are, yeah, there's something else. What kinds of things do you like to play with? Well, definitely, like, obviously, dolders, trap ons, yeah, vibrators. Also, like the one of the people I'm hooking up with wants to try those. Like, they're like metal, and they have, like, the balls on the end of them, and like, they can penetrate both of you, you're introducing

Luna Robbie 33:18

me to a new thing, and now I want to go have it that's hot. Wait, is it an anal point? Are they like, Benoit balls? Or is it like, or could, I guess, I could go in any hole you want.

Nolan 33:27

I think it's just for anything you can, okay, anywhere. Oh, I love Yeah, yeah. So whatever that is, seems like that's going to be fun.

Luna Robbie 33:38

That's so cool. When did you discover your kinky parts, or do you identify as kinky? First question, as

Nolan 33:45

far as, like, I guess, like, a hot sauce level, I'm, like, a moderate to, like, hot level of like, like, a little spicy, but like, I'm not like kinky as other people I know, I guess I feel like I'm, oh, it's not a contest.

Luna Robbie 33:58

It's not a contest. But okay, then let me ask this, um, what is your experience with daddy's like so far? Like, when did you discover that you like calling someone Daddy? What do you like about it? Tell us about that.

Nolan 34:12

I discovered it because actually, like my, my last relationship, he would kind of just like, call me that sometimes. And I was like, I kind of like this, but then I was like, I kind of like it, but I also don't feel like that's me. So like, then I like, did it to him, and I was like, I like this, especially like, when I'm being, like, completely dominated. Like, whether I'm like, being like, Fuck from behind, or like, you know, I mean, then, like, I've been doing it with all these people I've been hooking up with, and I'm like, I just love it. What do you love about it? Just like, being so vulnerable, just so like, dominated and like, but in like, such a you. Respectful way as well, because they're also, like, nice about it too. So I'm always like,

Luna Robbie 35:03

yeah, I feel like the daddies that I know are very nurturing, and that's kind of like through line for that word, yeah,

Nolan 35:10

because that's what it is. They're like, nurturing as well. It's really, really something. I just enjoy it a lot.

Luna Robbie 35:17

When did you realize that you love giving oral. I

Nolan 35:21

think the first, like, the first time I started hooking up with that, like, first guy that I was talking about, like, okay, 16, yeah, I love it. I always thought I would only, like, like, you know, penises strictly, but also get down with with the T boy dicks too. Like, we're fully in, like, also enjoy that. Yeah, I've also enjoyed that as well. I haven't, I don't have as much experience with that, but I definitely also really enjoyed that too. So

Luna Robbie 35:53

yeah, yeah. What are your favorite things about giving oral? Do you have any moves, or is there? Yeah, tell us. Tell us everything you can think about in terms of your enjoyment of oral pleasure.

Nolan 36:05

Unfortunately, aside from being born in a body that I've had to evolve with, I also have a really bad gag reflex and a really small mouth, so it makes it really challenging for me. So when I'm like, depending on the size of the person, it's a whole thing for me. Like my mouth is like, I'm just literally like, almost like my mouth is like, the biggest it can be, and my eyes are like, Oh my God, because I'm because I can't even do it. But I guess challenging myself, and I guess my gag reflex I find to be kind of hot as well. Because when

Luna Robbie 36:46

you said bad gag reflex, I was like, Wait, does that mean it doesn't gag a lot, or gags all the time? Okay,

Nolan 36:51

no gags all the time. Like, really hot, actually. So

Luna Robbie 36:55

I was gonna say, when I choke on a cock, my partner usually really is like, whoa.

Nolan 37:01

Most people, yeah, so I guess just lots of tongue, lots of lip movements, you know, some some motions, yeah, sometimes some hand and mouth action at the same time. I love balls.

Speaker 1 37:18

Just blast that. Can you read my mind? Wow, yeah, okay, what do you love about Bob?

Nolan 37:23

I don't know. I just love them. They're, like, kind of weirdly gross. But I also just love them. I really like to suck them and grab them and, yeah, they're kind of like, weird, but like I do like, I

Luna Robbie 37:36

think they're amazing. I love how they are so much variety. I love how I really have to ask to figure out which kind of sensitive, if at all. I love the ones that aren't sensitive, because I can just do whatever to them, and that's very fun. Have you had any partners that are into teeth when it comes to oral?

Nolan 37:57

No, I not that I know of them upset. I know they're into like me, like biting their skin, but as far as like biting their like areas, definitely not. But I can tell you, someone was going down on me one time and bit my clip Dick, and I did not fucking like that at all. That was horrible.

Luna Robbie 38:19

Without warning. They just bit it, like, yeah. Like, he was like,

Nolan 38:22

Oh, I thought you'd be into that. And I was like, I'm into, like, taking the faith right now, yeah, that's into Yeah. Did not like that. That was weird,

Luna Robbie 38:32

damn. Oh, I'm so sorry you had to experience that. Also, that seems like it would be highly sensitive, right? Like, do you have more sensitivity? You're

Nolan 38:40

aroused? Yeah, it was like, before I was on tea, so it wasn't as sensitive, but it was definitely like, okay, still,

Luna Robbie 38:49

my clit is like, so fucking sensitive. So if someone is like, directly doing anything, I'm like, you know, like,

Nolan 38:57

yeah, like, if you're doing anything, but what you're supposed to be doing. It's not good. Okay,

Luna Robbie 39:02

dang. Okay. Are you an asshole liquor or do you like to play in the area in between balls and assholes? Like, what's your Where does your tongue like to go?

Nolan 39:11

I do, but usually the people I've been with, like, don't like ass stuff. Okay? So I haven't gotten to explore too much of that. I mean, I've done a little bit of dabbling on myself as far as, like, having, like, other people penetrate me anally, and I enjoy it for the most part. But yeah, no, guys don't really like to go there, it seems like, so yeah, at least the ones I've been with are like, no anal stuff. Like, I don't like it to be touched. I don't like to touch it. And I'm like, Okay, so, yeah, I guess, but I would love to explore that more.

Luna Robbie 39:46

I'm always like, I'll never, ever, obviously, I'll never like pressure someone. But I have noticed that when partners find out that I like it, they get a little more open minded.

Nolan 39:57

Yeah, I'm open to it. And then. Like, Oh, I'm not really. That's not really my thing. Okay, define

Luna Robbie 40:03

timing. You said that you are often in the bottom position, but you can switch. Tell us about that. Like, tell us first about what you love, about bottoming and just, you know, being dominated. It sounds like

Nolan 40:19

it just feels really good. I just find this really hot. Before I looked the way I look, I used to envision myself, like being a guy being dominated, and that just felt so hot to me, though, like actually living it is like, Wow,

Luna Robbie 40:37

that's so cool that you're living out your fantasy, like, just in life now,

Nolan 40:41

yeah, like, my fantasy of myself, yeah, I really do find myself leaning that way. But sometimes I just, like, really, like to hop on top and like, just kind of take over, yeah, and like, move things along. Because sometimes things aren't moving as fast as I would like, so sometimes you have to jump in and just take over. Okay,

Luna Robbie 41:03

can you come when you're on top? Like, can you come from penetration? Do you need? Like, what kind of stimulation is is fun for you right now?

Nolan 41:11

Well, typically, I will always come when I'm on top, for sure. Oh, that used to be the only position that could make me, but now I've because of, you know, my little addition. I can in every position, though, but I have to, like, actually touch it okay while I'm being penetrated at the same time. So I have to use both. I have to be penetrated and stimulate myself at the same time. Or I have a hard time. Yeah,

Luna Robbie 41:39

yeah. I feel like sometimes in the instances where I need to touch myself while I'm being penetrated, it's hard to coordinate, like I can't figure out where I am in space. Do you ever feel like it's too much to pay attention to? Or is it easy for you like or do you feel like that's something that you just can do because it's like leading you to come

Nolan 41:56

I practice a lot while bottoming and doggy style. I feel like that's how I got used to doing both at the same time. And I feel like, because I did that for so long now, everything else feels easy. It depends on the size of my partner. If they have, like, a little bit more, like weight in the front of them, I feel like sometimes it can be hard, but usually, no, usually I can multitask. Now I'm pretty gotten to be pretty good at it. Okay,

Luna Robbie 42:24

okay. I feel like sometimes, if I'm with a partner who has, like, a little bit of a belly that hits my spots in a way that I find really helpful, and then I don't have to do as much

Nolan 42:33

hands. I like all sizes, but definitely, like a bigger guy, like a little bit of trunk in the front, definitely, yeah, yeah. Yeah. Especially when you're being penetrated from behind. It's like, Yeah, whoa. That's like, gets everything in there, yeah,

Luna Robbie 42:47

yeah. And there's like, good momentum. I definitely have been with partners who were, like, self conscious about their body, this and that. And again, I like all shapes and sizes, if you feel healthy, if you feel good, or, you know, whatever. Like, let me appreciate you. If you are a well, washed person, great, if not, like, I can get in those folds with you, and I'm so into, like, a little bit of belly, um, some of my girlfriends tease me because I, I call it Hop on Pop, like, little bounty. It's like, very fun

Nolan 43:16

that to me is like that, like a daddy to me, like, like a dude, like a dad bod, like, yeah, yeah, yeah.

Luna Robbie 43:23

I love that. Do you have anything specific to say about licking and biting?

Nolan 43:27

I like, like, biting lips, necks, chests. I like, suck on fingers, lick fingers. Um, chest. Definitely. Like, I love licking chest. You know, I didn't realize my infatuation with men was also wanting to be one. So I feel like I also love to, like, worship men's bodies, because I do admire them so much, because I wanted one for so long. So, yeah, just licking everywhere, pretty much, and where to my tongue go. Like, just not really into like, feet, stuff, but like, definitely, like, hands, face, chest, stomach, all the way down to like, where we can go.

Luna Robbie 44:06

Yeah, Damn your partner for so lucky also, and

Nolan 44:10

also, would love to lick an asshole, if a guy would be into that. Yeah, yeah,

Luna Robbie 44:15

yeah. Totally hear that. I think one of the things that's so cool about asshole licking to me is just like, the permission. Of like, it's so intimate, the whole body, permission. And I used to be like, you with feet. I'd be like, I don't know. I don't really want to touch the feet, their feet. And now I'm sort of like, I will at least, you know, I like to kind of wake up the whole body. But also, yeah, I don't know, depending on the partner, I'm like, Hmm, I do want to lick everything. I don't know. Sometimes feet toes are tasty. I'm

Nolan 44:40

down to whatever they're into, like I want to pleasure. So if they want me to do that, I'll do it, but I'm not just going to do it if they're not into it. Because,

Speaker 1 44:51

for sure, for sure, for sure, I'm very risky. Oh, you don't like to see it in my mouth. Yeah. It.

Luna Robbie 45:01

What about spanking? You like to receive Spanx or give springs, or both, both. Okay? I

Nolan 45:08

like it to make the person essentially go faster. I like, Yeah, I like to be spanked in the butt. I also, like, I just like being smacked around. Like, I've even told people you can, like, smack me in the face. Like, yeah, I love it, yeah.

Luna Robbie 45:23

And safety first. PSA, cupped hand. Stay away from ear drums. Be careful for whiplash in the neck. Go do a tutorial. But like, little cup, you know, you can get a nice, good golf. You have to, like,

Nolan 45:37

full on, like, totally like, like, slap me, like, I did something wrong. But like, you know, like, a little bit like,

Luna Robbie 45:42

No, I'm, I'm into it. I just learned the hard, bad, scary way, you know, because I, because I had one time a partner, we were new to playing. I was very new to I'm, you know, always practicing when it comes to communicating in kinky scenarios. But we were like, do we want to play? Yeah. And I was like, Oh, yeah. I like to get slapped in the face. Like it was someone I'd known for a while. I felt safe. I knew they had, like, theater experience, and I was having so much fun, I didn't realize until the next day, when I woke up with whiplash, and, like, checked in. I was like, were you hitting me really hard? Because, like, it didn't feel like it to me. And he was like, yeah. I was like, slapping the shit out of you. And I was like, Okay, so that's, like, you know, important to say, because some of us get carried away in pleasure, I don't know, especially if we've been, like, sucking a cock for a while. So, okay, so you, you, like, you, like, a little bit of like, sounds like body intensity. That reminds me of what you're saying about exploring, like, being alive in the body. Yes,

Nolan 46:39

yeah. Like, yeah. Like, nail like, scratching, just like, you know, just like, fully, like, melting into each other, yeah? And just like, you know, just being everywhere, like being over there, being over there, like, yeah. I just, like, I started dating a guy that's like, six three, and I just, I really, all of the people I've been hooking up with, I think, or they get a six in front of their height, which I'm like, Okay, throw me everywhere. Like, I love short kings too. But, like, just throw me away, pick me up and, like, puzzle me around, yeah, everywhere.

Luna Robbie 47:11

Totally, totally, I love that. I also have been picked up by some short kings. But it is fun. It is fun to see a little it's fun to feel

Nolan 47:21

big king, and he can pick me up like you wouldn't believe so I remember he picked me up one time, and I was like, I, like, lost my breath for a second. Whoa. I didn't expect that. Like, a five foot three, like, you know, like,

Luna Robbie 47:35

whoa, wait. Can I know how tall you are you? How tall are you? Taller than five three. I'm

Nolan 47:41

five eight and a half. Okay, I really want to get the half and half.

Speaker 1 47:50

I think I'm technically five eight. Hardcore. Yeah. You grew it. You grew your own self.

Unknown Speaker 47:57

Yeah? So, yeah, I

Luna Robbie 47:59

love it. Okay. So, okay. So sensations all over the body. What about like, non erogenous or, like, not classically sexy zones that get you going, like, what other parts of your body are you like, Oh, yes, touch me, play with me. I mean,

Nolan 48:13

I'm sure a lot of people will maybe like this, but like, I just feel like, like my legs being rubbed is definitely very like, even though it's like, in a gentle way, can be very like, Oh, also

Luna Robbie 48:23

like, just that is not an answer I hear very often. And I do think legs can get very overlooked in sex, which I know, because lately, with new partners, I've been like rubbing their legs, and specifically I've been going like, inner thigh, like knee up to groin regard, regardless of whether they have a cock or a pussy, because getting blood flow into the area is good. And then I squiggle their calves like this, and I squish between their toes. And I know from doing that to enough people now that they're and they're like, Oh my God, nobody touches me this way that I do think legs are overlooked, even though I agree with you that probably lots of us like our legs getting touched.

Nolan 48:59

Yeah, I feel like, after I have sex with somebody, I always like, lay on the other side and we'll just rub each other's legs. And I just love that so much. But as far as like, I don't know, I mean, occasionally, like, my ear will get sucked and I'm like, I don't know what's going on here, but like, that was something,

Luna Robbie 49:21

but you're into it, or you're like, squiggly about

Nolan 49:23

it, no, like, I'm into it, yeah. Like, I'm like, Oh, okay. Like, we're sucking on ears. Interesting.

Luna Robbie 49:27

My ears are very specific, because if someone tries to, like, wet my ear too much, too fast, I'm like, wow. Like, I'll have a cringe response. And, yeah, just lips. Just lips. No, if I'm deeply turned on, then they can fully just like, make out with my ear. And I'm like, I'm coming not, not actually, I can't come from my ear. I wish I could. I'm not one of those people. I'm very much a like, pussy, focus, come, but um, so lips. Okay, so more like, the the like nibbles, or like, um. Yeah, face, okay, yeah, yeah, I'm here for that. Can I ask if you still have nipples?

Nolan 50:05

I do, yes, they do not have sensation. I am a very like, I don't care about that. I never liked having nipple sensation that never did anything for me. I love, like, sucking other people's nipples. But, like, yeah, because all the people I'm dating, like, really, like, their nipples being played with. But I am very like, No, I don't know, but I don't have any sensation my nipples. Okay, yeah, I had to check

Luna Robbie 50:32

you're like, let me just okay. I love when guys, I mean, I love also when girls have nipple sensations, but I don't and so maybe I'm actually jealous. Ooh, am I jealous? Am I experiencing jealousy? I'm not sure. Maybe envy, I'm not sure, but I definitely know that when a guy that I'm with has sensitive nipples, I have an extra hint of like, Whoa.

Nolan 50:56

Yeah. I really enjoy having them around me. I just don't care to feel sensation there. It was never a big thing for me. I know I hated it before, like it was a no touch zone for me. Okay, when I did have, like, my old nipples, I was like, Don't touch them. Don't go near them. And guys would be like, oh, and suck them. And I'd be like, What did I say? Like, I had, like, big, you know, so guys always wanted to, and I was like, oh man. So sometimes I'll just be like, fine and like, disassociate. But I definitely never enjoyed it. So

Luna Robbie 51:30

that sounds like it sucks. And also I, I mean, I don't have that big of boobs, but I'm still, like, aware of them, you know, and they're always there. And I can imagine how awful that is to, like, not be into them and have them just be stuck to you all the time. So congratulations on shifting that.

Nolan 51:47

Yeah, yeah. So glad they're gone, yeah, and they've been gone for four years now, so Wow. Okay, well, it's five actually. That's awesome.

Luna Robbie 51:56

How are you feeling about that? Great every day,

Nolan 52:00

right choice. I still have those nightmares where they like, grew back, and I'm like, You do, yeah, I had one not that long ago, and I was like, I woke up, like, in like, sweat, like, I was like, tripping, like, I was like, God damn it, dude. Like, wow, damn

Luna Robbie 52:17

Yeah. What else, if anything feels cool to reflect on after five years. I

Nolan 52:25

mean, for starters, I I think it's really important for people. Well, a couple of different things. If you're struggling with body image stuff, it can be, it could be simply that you just don't feel good in your body at this moment, but it could be deeper. And I say, like, don't be afraid to explore that, because it could be deeper than just you don't like your body could be your body doesn't feel like yours. It could be multitude of things. I also say it's really easy to mistake your sexuality and your gender identity at the same time. For me, it was like how much I liked men was deeper than just being gay or deeper than just admiring them. I feel like it's really easy to mix up, like your admiration for men and your gender identity, very easy to confuse the two. And both can totally be a thing. You can totally be like, want to be a guy and like guys, it's totally a thing. It's totally a thing. That's pretty much it. I mean, that was, like, pretty much my biggest struggle was figuring out that the two can be like, relevant at the same time.

Luna Robbie 53:37

It sounds like a lot of your most amazing sex has happened in the last five years. Is that accurate or like, yeah, are there any like, highlights worth sharing, or just like, memorable times that we can know about?

Nolan 53:51

I've been able to achieve an orgasm in every single sexual position I've been in which has been amazing, cool. That's cool

Luna Robbie 53:59

as fuck. What kinds of positions can you, you know, it's like, okay, we're doing doggy and different types of doggy, I imagine, like, up on the bed, maybe flat. Doggy, like, Are you off the bed? Yeah,

Nolan 54:10

all, all the doggies against the wall, doggy, in a shower. Doggy, um, also, like, all the different, like, cowgirl positions, obviously, even, like, just every time in missionary, which is incredible, sometimes it's kind of hard, okay, in that position. I mean, like this, like a sideways position, yeah, just all of them, I guess I don't know. So, yeah, pretty much almost every position I can think of.

Luna Robbie 54:41

Yeah, you can come in every direction, like, literally everywhere

Nolan 54:45

and like, it's almost every time it's like, I almost never, like, don't, which is great, yeah, because I've learned my body as well as other people's bodies, yeah? So I feel like that's really important to that's. Self exploration of yourself and through your gender journey, whatever that is.

Luna Robbie 55:05

What about group play? Is that something that you're into or curious about? I'm

Nolan 55:09

curious about it. I've had a threesome once, but it was, like, weird because it was like, with my ex, and things weren't going well. Yeah, I would like to explore that. Actually, I'm kind of trying to, like, low key, like, get myself into, like a throttle situation,

Luna Robbie 55:26

ooh, oh yeah, tell us about your ideal throuple. Just kind of slither my

Nolan 55:31

way in there and just be like, Oh, I'm here. I was. I mean, two, two dudes of any capacity would be great, whether it be, you know, two trans guys, a trans guy and a cis guy, two cis guys, whatever. But yeah, no, I would love to just be, like, just a cute little play date, you know, like she's like, I'm just hanging out. I

Luna Robbie 55:52

love that for some reason, when you said, like, Slytherin in there, I just had this visual of, like, this cute, like, couple of dudes, like sipping coffee, and then you, like, come up between them, and then like, another coffee comes in just for you, I don't know, like, oh, like,

Nolan 56:05

totally or like, I pictured like, just them, like being in bed, like cuddling, and then I just get between them. That's so cute. Yeah, I would love to be like, a little plus one for a for a throuple. That's kind of what I've been trying to find. But I feel like all the troubles I've been seeing are like, a feminine and a masculine, and I'm like, No, I would just want to be like, friends with that one, and then, like, I don't have sex with that one. So that's confusing. When did you

Luna Robbie 56:31

get into non monogamy, and how have you enjoyed it? So it's pretty

Nolan 56:35

new to me, but I'm really enjoying it. Like, okay, I found three fantastic people, like, in a row, like, I could not have found a better bunch of people to be doing this with, amazing who, like, really respect boundaries and, like, have like, really great communication and all fuck so well. It's just, it's just great. Whoa, yeah. They're all, like, very STI conscience. Like, all get tested regularly. Like, like, two again, are cis men too. I'm like, Um, hello. Like, we're responsible. Like, excuse me, we know how to make somebody come. Wow. Good job. Time to be alive, yeah? Oh, we can

Speaker 1 57:19

cook. Yeah. You want to nurture me?

Nolan 57:24

Yeah? And then the eight mad person I've been hooking up with too? Yeah, it's been, it's been good, it's been a good situation.

Luna Robbie 57:31

Oh, I am so glad to hear that. Okay, well, what's on your horizon in terms of hopes for the future, like sex wise, what else do you want to explore? What do you want to experience? What do you want to call in and cultivate? So

Nolan 57:46

a throuple situation, definitely, maybe potentially, like a threesome kind of situation at some point that would be really fun. And then, just like continuing to be not monogamous, just exploring other people and learning about people and learning what feels good. I'm hoping to meet new people that are like, into different kinds of kings, and then maybe figure out what feels good for me. But yeah, just like, just kind of fucking my way through life. You know what we're going for

Speaker 1 58:21

through it all I love that so much. Is there

Luna Robbie 58:26

anything else that we need to know about your sex life right now, or your thoughts and feelings on sex in general?

Unknown Speaker 58:31

Yeah, just gonna keep fucking.

Luna Robbie 58:36

Just keep fucking. Just keep fucking. Just keep fucking fucking fucking. What do we do? We fuck, fuck

Nolan 58:42

yeah, safely, ethically, communication, all that stuff. But that's pretty much it. Yes,

Luna Robbie 58:48

if you suddenly had an unlimited budget to create your perfect place based pleasure palace, fucking house zone, whatever you want to call it like whatever structure, whatever structure, whatever, you now get to create a fuck spot for you. What is it like? What elements does it include? What? What makes it yummy for you?

Nolan 59:10

So for starters, we're gonna get the lighting really good, because I feel like the lighting is so important. I feel like no one talks about the lighting. Oh my gosh, I do. Yeah. So there's gonna be, like, different color lights, which, actually, I already have that, but pretty much you can, like, press a button and turn the light based on the mood. You know, we're gonna get some good lighting, a little like, a little cozy little space. There's gonna be some air conditioner because, you know, we be, we be getting sweaty up in here. Oh yeah, there would just be a variety of just different sizes of dildos, different types that go in different parts of the body. There'll be some vibrators on deck. Yeah, there'd be like, some cozy, some cozy, weighted blankets for depending on the mood, maybe some rain sounds, because I like fucking in the rain. It's just like. Incredible. Like, I don't know what it is, it's like, more than just a sunny day, like a rainy day is, like, that's the thing I like, can just like, what California, at times is like, because I'm from the East Coast, obviously, where it rains all the time. Like, fucking in the rain, it's just like, nothing else

Luna Robbie 1:00:14

that's gonna say, I've never done it. Wait, so you fucked in the rain. Oh, yeah. Like,

Nolan 1:00:18

well, like, while it's raining, or, like, in the rain, yes, it's amazing. It's so amazing. Or even, like, fucking in a car when it's raining is amazing.

Luna Robbie 1:00:27

Oh, I haven't done that only cars, but not when raining. Oh, that's

Nolan 1:00:30

another thing. I want to have more sex outside, actually, going back to what we're talking about earlier, yeah, I want to have more like, sex, like, hiking, like, yeah, I've had sex outside, like, a few times and, like, I just it's so amazing, like, like, I remember one time with my ex, like we were, like, we got really, really, really, really stoned, and we, like, wanted to have sex, and we were worried that there were, like, cameras in the Airbnb we were staying at, because we got really paranoid, because we watched this movie about it. So we literally went outside and, like, built, built, like a tent, and then, and it was pouring rain, and we just had sex, and then the rain was leaking through. We didn't set it up. Well, it

Speaker 1 1:01:11

was, like, amazing. I love that you were at an Airbnb and had a tent and then set it up.

Nolan 1:01:17

They had it at the Airbnb. It was our it was one of our clients, because we, like, we both had cut hair, so we were like, what if he, like, has cameras set up or something? And we got really paramount. It was really weird. I don't know why that was a thing, but yeah, and it was amazing. So more sex outside. It needs to happen.

Unknown Speaker 1:01:36

I fucking love that.

Luna Robbie 1:01:37

Um, any other outside places like so we heard on hikes, but like any other locations that that we should speak to specifically, like, I really want to do it on a cliff, like, safely. I don't want to get pushed off over the cliff. But I have, like, an obsession with, like, cliffs. Or I did give

Nolan 1:01:53

my ex a blow job on the side of a cliff that was raining

Unknown Speaker 1:01:59

so hard.

Nolan 1:02:02

Oh, yeah. We're like, hiking, like, and then, like, we saw this little cliff, and then I was just like, hey, like, nothing gets me going more little cliff because I'm also, like, petrified of heights. So I don't know what it is between the excitement of being afraid and also that, yeah, that's a thrill, yeah. And that was really funny because we came up and then there was like, a dude walking by, and I was like, probably heard all of that, but

Luna Robbie 1:02:25

anyway, Lucky guy, that's so funny. Oh my gosh. Okay, anything else to add to that bucket list? Yeah,

Nolan 1:02:33

just having like, sex and more bodies of water as well. One of the guys I'm talking to, like, has like, a lake house in, like, New York, and he's been saying all the places he wants to have sex there. So that's really exciting. I can't wait

Luna Robbie 1:02:46

to do that. So exciting. I'm very excited for you to do that. And if you want to give us an update after that happens, I will be literally here for it,

Nolan 1:02:55

like we have sex here, here, here. Yeah, so yeah, just more, like, I've always had this fantasy about, like, the Mile High Club. Oh yeah, one of the guys, I forgot what's so loud when he's like, so I'm kind of like, you have to be quiet or do something like that, and you do it for sure. Just give a little, you know. HJ, well, you know, you're on a flight. Oh

Luna Robbie 1:03:18

yeah. I've heard some stories about things that have happened underneath airplane. Blank keys I you know, and every time I'm on a plane, I'm like, scoping out the bathroom. And I'm like, it is so small in here, but with the right person, so make it work. It's so small. Make it work, if you really wanted to, yeah, I'm like, that's when I need a short king or queen to be with me. Get over here. That's true. That's true. That's when it's a plus. I love that. No pressure. But how do you think that we, the collective, can co create a sexier, more loving world together?

Nolan 1:03:52

Well, I think, for starters, like not viewing genocides as someone's gender, I think is a really good one. I think it's very isolating for people, especially when people like don't want to go through bottom surgery, because it's fucking scary and it's expensive viewing people as they are, I think would be a really beautiful way to make it a more and just, I don't know, just more like learning how to make consent more sexy and emphasizing the importance of STI testing and communicating with each other more. I think that's so important because, like, sex is amazing. Obviously, having sex with like, a random stranger was hot and everything. But like, why can't we have like, a little five minute check in? Totally, yeah, I still had a little check in. Like, we're like, hey, so like, what's going on? Like, what's your situation been like? Like, where's your dick been at? Like,

Luna Robbie 1:04:49

I love that. Yeah, excuse me, where's your dick been at? I'm curious. I'm interested in it, but where's it been

Unknown Speaker 1:04:54

at? But, yeah, I think those things are good.

Luna Robbie 1:04:58

I love that. Yeah, the through line that I. Here too is creating safety with and for partners and each other. You know whether or not we're fucking them, but just like, yeah, like, yes. Okay, so tell us now. Lastly, how do you like to spread ripples of love? I like

Nolan 1:05:13

to check in with people and let them know I'm thinking about them just lifting people up, trying to say, like, oh, like, I see a stranger, and they're like, wearing a coat. I like, I'm like, Oh, my God, your coat. You look so good. Like, just like spreading love that way, taking care of people, like cooking for them, or, like, I love, like cooking for people, and like giving them leftovers and like, stuff like that, just being there for people when I can be in any capacity, even for like, a little hug, also, like, I've become very huggy, which is weird, because I used to hate hugs. Okay, part of my I think neurodivergency is, like, not really liking being touched, but like, I've been so huggy, like, I love giving a hug. Like, now, yeah, do you think

Luna Robbie 1:05:56

it has to do with the fact that your boobs are correct now for you, oh, probably

Nolan 1:06:01

because I actually can give you a hug, yeah? Because my chest actually can, yeah. Probably that's part of it probably makes sense to me. Also, I think just being more comfortable in myself, I totally hear that, yeah. Well,

Luna Robbie 1:06:12

thank you for coming on pod today and helping me spread ripples of love in my own neurodivergent can't help but ask many different people, the same question sort of way. Thank you for being here and sharing your stories with us. Yeah.