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Luna

And our guest today is a 40 year old, formerly straight, married, monogamous woman who is now happily divorced, queer and non-monogamous, a pastor turned stripper who went from food stamps to seven figures as the result of following her pleasure. She left her religious community seven years ago for independent online content creation in the adult industry and a life of satisfied self-expression.

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Luna

Currently the happiest, healthiest, and wealthiest she's ever been. She has a money kink, loves playing with couples and turning them on. Loves to live stream on her OnlyFans is into selling panties and has been recently exploring sugar dating. She is also a life coach, a mama with precious kiddos and a cat she accidentally fell in love with. With us today from Orange County, California.

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Luna

Welcome, Nicole Mitchell.

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Nikole

Hi. That was a wonderful introduction. Thank you so much for that.

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Luna

Well, I had wonderful things to introduce. Thank you for being here. Could you please start off by telling our sweet listeners if today you had to rate yourself on a sexual shaming meter, with ten being the most full of shame and zero being like, I don't have any. Can you tell us where you fall today? And like, what has your shamed coaster looked like throughout your lifetime?

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Nikole

Oh my gosh, I would say today zero for freaking sure. I would say most of my life it was like a hundred. It was off the charts. Deep shame. Such a deep sense of unworthiness. Very afraid of my body. Very afraid of my pleasure. I've been taught to fear my sex drive and my sexuality. Like I lived in a lot of fear and spent my life and all of my willpower repressing and just shoving it down for fear of what might happen to me if I let it out.

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Nikole

I was told it ruined me. So it wasn't really until my mid 30s that I slowly began to unpack the indoctrination and the dogma and the fear and the control and really kind of detoxify from all of that. And slowly I went from 100 on the shame meter and slowly worked towards where I am today, where I do feel very unashamed, uncensored, untamed, and very, very happy with who I am.

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Luna

Fuck yeah, that is probably an inspiration to more than just me listening out there. So tell us, just give us a little snippet of like what do you feel like you're the best at sexually? And how did you get to be so good?

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Nikole

I am very good at being very present in the sex and literally making it the best experience of your life. I've had. I've been told by so many people like, wow, my mind was blown. Like I know how to ravish you. I know how to go so deep. I know how to like, maximum, maximize and extend pleasure like with all of your senses.

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Nikole

To me, it's not just about the orgasm or orgasms. It's like, how can you have this erotic experience from the top of your head to the to bigger toes and be ravished in a way you've probably never been ravished in your life? That is my specialty. That is my passion.

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Luna

Amazing. How did you learn to do that? Like you had this repressed upbringing. So what unleashed your sounds? Like? An erotic, sexual creature who was perhaps intuitive as well. How do.

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Nikole

You feel? Yes. Very intuitive. It took a lot of years. I mean, most of my life I was closeted and repressed and afraid. And, really, what kind of became the catalyst for me was in 2016 when I realized I wasn't straight. And I remember thinking, if I don't even know my own sexuality, what else am I completely wrong about in my life?

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Nikole

And so kind of started this journey of unpacking and unlearning and unbecoming in everything I'd begun become. And all the sexual desire like him received to the surface. And I just, I was no longer going to hold it back. And I'm like, what would my life look like, look like if I prioritized pleasure? What would it look like if I honored my sexual desires?

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Nikole

What would it look like if I just fully gave in to all that I am and I'm a very passionate person. I, my friends, make fun of me because I moan when I eat food, I do when I go to when I pee, I know when I have sex. So like Nicole, like everything must feel amazing to you.

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Nikole

And in many ways it does. Yeah. So when I finally started working on My shame in the bedroom, I slowly, slowly opened up and I became louder and more vocal and more connected and more passionate. It was a very up and down, you know, curvy journey to get there. But now it's led to her. Like, I feel like a high priestess from back in the days where you'd come to the temple and, like, have sex with the priestess to like, connect to the divine.

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Nikole

I feel like that. I feel like I am channeling her energy and I am able to give you a very sacred, erotic, wild experience. Kind of whatever you're looking for, I'm able to meet you there and I freaking love it.

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Luna

Amazing, amazing. More concretely, like, what did that process look like for you? Was it like a solo pleasure exploration of your body, or did you already know how much pleasure you experienced? Or was it kind of a process through exploring with different partners like, yeah, tell us a little bit about how you actually learned about this current version of your sexual self.

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Nikole

Yes. You know, it's so crazy. The key to it for me was having an OnlyFans. It was having a dedicated place that was just for me. It was for my self-expression. It was for my pleasure. It was for my body. Like I never had a space. Not even my marriage is made for 12 years and it was all about my husband.

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Nikole

Like, I thought that that was my job as his wife, to only make it about him and not about me. And OnlyFans was just for me. It was just for Nicole Mitchell. And how do you stand naked, unashamed, after being told your whole life you should be ashamed for your body? And I found, like, the more I took off layers of clothing, the more alive I became, the more connected to my body I became, the more connected to the divine I became.

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Nikole

And then after I got divorced, you know, in my 12 year marriage, I was never given an orgasm. And after that, I was like, I will never, ever be put in that situation ever again. I demand orgasms, I demand pleasure, and if you cannot pleasure me, we cannot date. So that literally became my litmus test, where if we had sex and you do not get me off, this will not continue.

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Nikole

And as I explore it and kind of convey, came more into my body and became more boundary, that you don't get to take pleasure from me. You also have to give me pleasure. It really gave me my voice back. It gave me my power back, and it ended up helping manifest my current partner, who has given me so many orgasms and has prioritized pleasure that I've never experienced with any other person on this planet as of today.

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Nikole

And it's it was so healing. I remember the first time he gave me an orgasm, I started bawling, and the words that kept coming out of my mouth were, oh my God, I'm not broken. Oh my God, I'm not broken. Oh my God, I'm not broken. I thought I was I was the problem all those years in my marriage.

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Nikole

And he scooped me up and he held me and I sobbed into his chest. And that was such a healing moment on my journey. And it became the portal to so much more pleasure.

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Luna

Wow. Wait, so was that your first orgasm ever or your first orgasm was given to me?

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Nikole

Yeah, so I can get myself off easily. I have ever since I was five years old. I got caught doing it behind the couch and living room to myself, like. And that's where the shame for C10. I got in trouble for touching myself. And so I do it secretly and privately and that's all I did for my marriage, was I get myself off what my my then husband wouldn't.

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Nikole

And then. So when I finally had that experience and this was literally just three and a half years ago, this was not that long ago. I was finally given an orgasm from someone outside of myself. And it was really it was truly a life changing moment for me.

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Luna

So you're like, I'm keeping that one.

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Nikole

That's mine, and I demand more.

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Luna

So not a poke at your marriage, but was your former husband just not trying to give you an orgasm, or was he trying and failing, or what was that kind of like dynamic or communication? Like.

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Nikole

I blame purity culture. I think purity culture really screwed the both of us up. Where I have been so fed so much shame about body and about sex that I think I become so disconnected from my body, I didn't know how to let someone get me off. I didn't feel safe. I felt, insecure too. Like, oh, touch me like this, but don't touch me like that because it means I know my body better than him.

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Nikole

And that was bad. Like, I had all this hang ups. And then I think for him, like, I think our society fails men where if they can't pleasure a woman correctly, there's something wrong with them. So it's better to not even try and know that you can't than to try and know that you can't. Right. And so like, and I'm very vocal on sex, so I think he probably thought this is good enough.

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Nikole

At least she's feeling something. And then when on the occasion he would try, he would try for like 60s and I couldn't come like, you know, I couldn't come in 60s. And so then I thought I was the problem, not 60s isn't realistic for most people, and I didn't know how to vocalize that. And we'd have conversations I never faked ever, ever.

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Nikole

I'm not a faker. And I would tell him like, hey, can you imagine having sex with me for ten years? And I never got you off, but I got off every single time. And he'd be like, yeah, that would suck. And then the conversation would in, So I think we both. Yes, you both. Yeah. It was not good.

00:10:06:13 - 00:10:17:12

Nikole

And I think we both had insecurities. I think we had our we were both recovering from purity culture like we were. We were just set up purely for that part of our relationship.

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Luna

How do you feel that affected the connection in your marriage? Like, I feel like when I'm coming, I reach a transcendent level of like, to the point where now with certain partners, if I'm like, if you're not going to stay around, you're not allowed to make me come or, you know, if like, they're like all, all the edge myself.

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Luna

But like, how did that affect your feelings in that?

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Nikole

Marriage slowly eroded the marriage. I and I realized, you know, once I got out of that marriage, I, I'm a very sexual person. Sex is very important to me. I'm someone who easily can have sex every day. I'm someone who needs to have orgasms every day. So to be in a 12 year relationship that felt like it was sexually starved in many ways, and it slowly built resentment towards him and which just kind of added to a chasm that was getting bigger and bigger and bigger with other issues, and it eventually were no longer compatible.

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Luna

Do. Okay, I do want to hear, like, some more background of your personal story, but first, I would love to hear what are your favorite things about sex? Like you teased us with a lot in the beginning. I'd love to hear about your money kink. I'd love to hear about like, what you love about couples. Take it.

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Luna

Where do you want to go? Just tell us about the stuff you love and specifics of why.

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Nikole

I love seeing how much pleasure you can experience at a time. Like I think most people when it comes to sex, have only scratched the surface of what's possible. Yeah, and I want to come in and blow the roof off of anything you've ever experienced before. I want you to lay back in bed after it's all done and be like, what the fuck was that like?

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Nikole

That was fucking wild. I that was transcendent. That was like an out-of-body, but in my body, like, I want you to be completely mind blown insane. I want to be the same way. Yeah. And so like that, I think I'm really good at, like, blowing your mind with what is possible when it comes to sex. Yeah. And specifically when it comes to couples, I learned through my OnlyFans that I have a couple's kink because when couples subscribe to my page, I just get instantly wet, instantly tingly.

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Nikole

I'm like dying inside. I'm so turned on because I love knowing that I have the power to bring a couple closer together. That is a huge turn on. And so seeing that effect I have in them, I feel so powerful. I feel so grateful, I feel so happy. And then seeing their pleasure multiply with each other, with me.

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Nikole

It's just like it's just bliss upon bliss upon bliss. And I always think, I wish everyone in the world could experience this.

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Luna

Yeah. Are you doing like, private live shows with them, or how are you getting feedback? Because now it's occurring to me. I'm like, I don't even know if I have couples on my OnlyFans like. Or do they have names that say that they're couple or do you like engage in conversation? Like how do you get them to reveal that they are a couple and that you're having this incredible effect on them?

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Nikole

Yeah, some of them have their names in the handle. At some they tell me like, oh my gosh, my wife and I are watching you right now. Like when I'm doing a live a live stream and I'm like, oh my God. And so we start going back and they'll tell me this is what I'm doing to her. This is what I'm doing to him.

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Nikole

This is what we wish you doing to us right now. And like we dialog back and forth. I'll tell them we'll go back and forth in the DMs. I've had a couple book, like a one on one zoom call with me, and I've had another one send me their content for me to watch and like record my reaction.

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Nikole

I just it's so juicy. And what I love about all this, as you know, I've a cash kink. They all pay me for everything, right? My fans know how much I love money, they know how much it turns me on. So I very generous fans. And one of the things I've known for is, you know, I go live twice a week and they know if they tip me back to back, I typically start crying, crying tears of gratitude.

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Nikole

So now they try to get me to cry. So then everyone gets on a tipping train and like, we got to see your cry, guys, guys. So they used to make me cry. And it's the most pure thing. I mean, like getting naked for half of these live streams. It's just like we're talking, we're hanging out. And then they get a I get a tip.

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Nikole

I'm like, oh my God, thank you so much, Tim. And then this person and I got and then it it just creates a snowball effect. And I'm just like, I feel so seen by my people and they know how to turn me on. I know how to turn them on. And it's such a beautiful thing.

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Luna

I love that I actually one of the things about this podcast, it's funny because for a while I've been like, I don't know if I feel embarrassed, joyful, embarrassment. And then when I finally started talking about my money kink, then people started tipping me more and more because I was like, I do love to be concretely valued. And then I was like, getting embarrassed cause I'm like, am I allowed to like it this much?

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Luna

And so I totally know what you mean. And I have not yet been tipped to cry, but I only just started dabbling in live streams. So what do you like to do on live streams? Like? What brings you the most pleasure? I'm here in connection with the audience connection with your people who are worshiping you concretely with cash.

00:15:05:16 - 00:15:23:08

Luna

Because also it's so hot to be concretely valued and it's so disgusting that to have people like, feel like they can just take your energy for nothing. Like, who wants to do that? That's not human reciprocity. That's not normal behavior. So like yes, what? Tell us more stuff that makes you feel good and yummy and juicy and turned on.

00:15:23:11 - 00:15:43:10

Nikole

Yeah, because this isn't a charity mind. This is this is an exchange. And so they know that the more that they tip me in and do that, the more I get. So my livestreams, you know, I'm an exhibitionist, I love performing, I love life energy. So I used to go live once a month. It a big monthly performance, which I still do so at the end of every month.

00:15:43:10 - 00:16:01:13

Nikole

And it's so hot. So it was so erotic and I loved it so much. I'm like, I want this more often. So I started going live once a week. And in a way to give back. So I have a news with Nicole live stream of where I give you all the updates of my life that's happening, my sex updates, my personal life updates.

00:16:01:13 - 00:16:31:22

Nikole

Like, you kind of get the insider glimpse into my life. I have a sex ed livestream every month, so we talk about anywhere from, you know, the art of fantasies, teasing, foreplay, Deep Throat, hiring a professional worker like things that we all have questions and curiosities about and a safe place to talk about it. I have a VIP only live stream for my people who came over here, and it just became this amazing way to connect with my peop, my fans in real time.

00:16:32:00 - 00:16:55:20

Nikole

And a few months ago, I had a new subscriber join and he attended his first livestream and he messaged me afterwards. He's like, wow. I noticed just by attending one livestream that you have history with people like the amount of detail you knew about them, and he's like, I saw how much you care about your subscribers and now it makes me excited to give money to you, because now I know it's going to someone who actually values us and isn't here just to drain our wallets.

00:16:55:20 - 00:17:01:14

Nikole

And so like they feel very valued. I feel seen and we all get turned on and we all freaking win.

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Luna

What's so hot? That is so.

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Nikole

It's so hot.

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Luna

Wow. What was the thing like? What was the catalyst where you were like, yeah, OnlyFans. You know, you went from this really kind of straight edge sounding background to just like like what to do off in that direction.

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Nikole

I think once I like walked away from my religious upbringing, from the church I was preaching at. This was in 2000, 17 and like all my sexual desires, came rising to the surface and like, what do I do with this? And so I started posting more and more sexy photos on Instagram. And back then, like in 2018 and in 2018 to 20, you could post full nudes.

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Nikole

If you scroll back, you can see it on Instagram. You just had to censor your tiny bits, but otherwise I would post one full news. I felt so uninhibited and express. I remember when I did my first full nude photo shoot in the fall 2019. When it was done, I got my car and I thought I had never felt more holy, more pure or more me in my life.

00:18:03:22 - 00:18:24:09

Nikole

And that's really clicked. Like, oh, I need to do this, I need have a platform for this. And so when Instagram started censoring their platform, it kind of forced me over to, you know, OnlyFans was becoming big back then. So I actually give credit to Instagram censorship for making me a crap ton of money, because I would have hosted a lot of this stuff for free.

00:18:24:09 - 00:18:26:09

Luna

I did that for way too.

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Nikole

Long and they forced me to move over. And so I served just posting there to like, what does it feel like to even post this level of sexy photos? How does it feel to know people could subscribe to create it? Before I told anyone, I just want to like practice feeling posting a sexy photo that could possibly be seen or paid for some day.

00:18:44:18 - 00:18:54:08

Nikole

And I very quickly fell in love with having a space that was all about me for me, and required cash to have access to.

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Luna

Yum yum yum yum. Okay, so what about panty selling? How long have you been doing that? What kind of panty do you have? Favorite types of panties do you have? Like, it sounds like you probably have relationships with people who buy your panties. Like, what is that like?

00:19:08:09 - 00:19:25:08

Nikole

I, I laugh because I didn't even know that was a thing, you know? So naive. In my religious upbringing, I didn't know almost anything that I know. So even to this day, I'm still very naive. Even though I would do this for five years and my fans love it because like, I'm like very explicit and very adult oriented.

00:19:25:08 - 00:19:34:03

Nikole

But I'm also select this naive little girl who's like, what's TNA? And they're like, you don't know what tits and ass. And I'm like, that's what that stands for.

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Luna

So relatable.

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Nikole

So yeah, so ignoring like some basic ways. So I remember the first person asking if I sell panties and I start sweating like, why would someone want used panties? That just sounds disgusting. Like I did not understand and like I had it again. This became a healing moment for me. Like, because aren't my juices gross? Isn't that part of my body gross?

00:19:57:16 - 00:20:19:16

Nikole

Like and someone wants it. They want to pay money for it. Like I was so confused and so I had to work through my body shame and like trying to understand the psychology of someone who would want that. And now it's one of my favorite things ever to wear. A couple weeks ago I went to Vegas. I got so soaking wet because I was like, so turned on that week and I'm like, I can't wait to sell these.

00:20:19:16 - 00:20:29:04

Nikole

Like it completely. I completely change and I have fans who pay me 100 125 for a pair of panties, and it's I love doing it.

00:20:29:06 - 00:20:42:23

Luna

That's amazing. That's amazing. How do you handle are you doing all of that through only fans, or how do you kind of handle the platform rules of like, you can't sell physical objects and I'm supposed to sell like zooms outside of it. Do have other payment processors to use or is it like sort of one of those like bend.

00:20:42:23 - 00:20:58:06

Nikole

The rules a little bit? The hard thing about OnlyFans is are always changing their policies. So something that was totally okay before is now all of a sudden not allowed. And it is a hard thing because their rules have gotten stricter over the years. So they will delete content of mine from four years ago.

00:20:58:08 - 00:20:59:06

Luna

Yeah, I've had it because.

00:20:59:06 - 00:21:02:06

Nikole

I violated policies that did not exist back then or because I.

00:21:02:06 - 00:21:08:17

Luna

Yeah, because I said something with a link to my own website that's already on OnlyFans and I'm like, okay.

00:21:08:18 - 00:21:25:00

Nikole

Yeah. So it's kind of like I can't even stay up with it. So sometimes I think I'm violating terms without even trying because, yeah, they're just constantly updating them. But if I find something that a fan once, I try to find another way to get it to them. If OnlyFans doesn't want that to happen on their platform.

00:21:25:00 - 00:21:32:19

Luna

Got it, got it. Okay. Yeah. Okay. What about sugar dating? You've been dabbling in that lately. What's that been like for you?

00:21:32:21 - 00:21:54:20

Nikole

So, you know, I just I love money, so I mean, I've gotten really good at because, you know, I was on food stamps for nine years and got really sick of it really fast. Being broke is very expensive and wanted to get wealthy. And so I had to learn how to monetize not just what I do, but who I am when you monetize who you are, no matter what you end up doing, you make money.

00:21:54:20 - 00:22:11:18

Nikole

This is like a huge skill people have to learn if you want to make money all the time. So I was telling you before this live stream or this podcast, 40 but I went on my first ever cruise this weekend, and by the end of the cruise I had men stuffing money down my shirt. Right? I'm laughing, thinking I'm the only woman boat who's not working and who's getting paid cash.

00:22:11:18 - 00:22:40:17

Nikole

And it's my first time on a ship. So saying, like, I have experience doing this, but I have a lot of experience getting paid for being me. So when I think about sugar dating, I love being a companion in the true sense. The word like, I just love being an amazing date. I care about people. I identify as non-monogamous, identify as pansexual like I love quickly, easily and deeply just because you exist and I just cannot think of a better person you could go on a date with than someone who loves that beautifully and purely.

00:22:40:22 - 00:23:02:10

Nikole

Yeah. And I think, like, I'm sure there's going to be so many men who would value the companionship of an authentic, beautiful woman who has this life giving energy, like, how could you not want that? And I know that these gentlemen will pay. And so I started dabbling it in February and very quickly experienced success, like within a week, making thousands of dollars, dates booked out, men booked up.

00:23:02:10 - 00:23:22:06

Nikole

And I'm very explicit. I don't offer anything physical. This is literally just lunch. Just dinner. And I had so many men booking me and pay me four figures for a lunch date, a coffee date, a dinner date. And it's to me, it is so fun. I'm going to eat anyway. Now I get to eat at a super nice restaurant for free, and I'm getting paid cash.

00:23:22:06 - 00:23:33:06

Nikole

And I'm getting to have the most amazing conversation with someone I probably would have never met had I not been willing to step into the sugar dating world. And it has been so much fun.

00:23:33:08 - 00:23:54:02

Luna

So interesting. Can you share some details, like how exactly do you get people on a cruise ship to like, hand you cash and like, you know, it's so interesting because I receive all kinds of attention from all kinds of people, all kinds of walks of life. Like sometimes I have people reach out, they're like, hey, I would love to book you for a lunch.

00:23:54:02 - 00:24:08:21

Luna

And then I'm like, great, that's $500. And sometimes people reach out like, hey, I'm going to be in town. I would love to see you. I'd love, oh my God, we've been listening for years. I'd love to have coffee with you. I'm like, cool. Yeah, my coffee's $300. I'm like, well, I couldn't and they're like offended. And I'm like, I said the same thing.

00:24:08:21 - 00:24:21:00

Luna

And this is standard like fan meetups are standard for people who have audiences. So like, what do you pay attention to energy ahead of time? Like do you or do you just kind of put it all out there? Like, what are your tips and tricks or favorite things?

00:24:21:02 - 00:24:38:21

Nikole

I'm very intuitive. There is a finesse to it, like even on these like sugar sites. So there's so many of them you can be on. But like because I teach a program, I co-teach a program called Get Paid to Go on dates, or we actually help women really master the skill because a lot of women will be too direct too quickly.

00:24:38:21 - 00:24:57:05

Nikole

And that's it's the same way, like when I've the women I've worked with, they'll sign up on many sugary sites, for example, and search out the man and be like, hey, let's grab lunch. Here's my rate. And it's an almost immediate no for the man and the the way to help women understand that that's like a man going to DMs saying like, hey, let's have sex.

00:24:57:10 - 00:25:03:08

Nikole

Here's my apartment address. And it's like an immediate like, it's too direct. Who's like 30 some people.

00:25:03:10 - 00:25:03:21

Luna

Yeah.

00:25:03:23 - 00:25:21:18

Nikole

For some people, but for a lot of women and for these gentlemen, because these men don't like being used for their money. Right. Unless or to pin down. But most these men are not in Vietnam, and most women don't want you to jump in their pants at instant. Second, there has to be foreplay. There has to be flirty ness, there has to be a connection.

00:25:21:18 - 00:25:36:19

Nikole

And so even on this cruise ship, there was this bachelor party that was drawn to me and my partner, and we end up hanging out and having fun. And like, I'm flirting a little bit and like, I know what I'm doing. Very charming and I'm very disarming, and I like, I know how to make you feel very special, amazing.

00:25:36:21 - 00:25:54:11

Nikole

And then that on that weekend, they paid this restaurant in Mexico. I didn't know this till later to come pick me up the worker and like, flip me in the air and poured tequila on my body like they pay to have me do a show for them. I didn't know that this was a thing at this Russia. I was a little flustered, but I'm an exhibitionist.

00:25:54:11 - 00:26:18:12

Nikole

Like I got on my feet. I like participated, and when that was done, I was like, all of you owe money. All of you owe me money because I just gave you a show. You're welcome. And I was flirty, but there was a bit of a serious tone to it and they're like, oh, hot. Laughing, laughing. And then later that night we were at the club and they're all showing their phones, this video of me being twirled and flipped and my boobs jiggle by this worker, and I was like, you bitches better pay up.

00:26:18:12 - 00:26:34:20

Nikole

And so then one guy's like, what's your Venmo? Another guy's like, come here, I've got cash for you. And like, they start stuffing money because I had the courage, the audacity to, like, pay up, honey, that it ain't free. And like, there's an energy to me. Like, I'm really flirty, but I'm also, like, be magnetic or like they want to pay me.

00:26:34:20 - 00:26:48:09

Nikole

And then one of them in that group was like, I actually paid that restaurant for a titty shot, and I didn't get to do it. I like, please let me get shot. I'm like, oh, you're going to pay me for that? He's like, okay, pulls out his but all I need stuff's cash in my shirt and then I let her do titty shot off of me.

00:26:48:09 - 00:26:55:10

Nikole

And it's like, I'm very open as long as money's involved and I have no problem asking for it.

00:26:55:12 - 00:27:07:02

Luna

Yeah. How did you get to that place which is so opposite from the marriage that you were in, where you could not even communicate about an orgasm to the person that had committed their life to you?

00:27:07:04 - 00:27:25:03

Nikole

Yes. I think that bitterness, it was like, either I can get better, be bitter or get better. And so I, you know, I'm bitter at my husband for not pleasure me. But did I demand it? No. Right. And I was bitter at all the people who would take advantage of my services for free. But I would give my services for free.

00:27:25:03 - 00:27:44:06

Nikole

And I got bitter about it. And it's like, okay, how can I get better at this? And so I slowly learned, like I had to work on my money mindset and work on mastering my worth and understand how to monetize who I am, like all these skills, and work on my confidence to where. Now I almost can't imagine doing almost anything for free.

00:27:44:06 - 00:28:04:19

Nikole

Like I have been a very generous mood to do something for free because money turns me on so much and I. I feel like this is going to sound so arrogant, but this has really been key to helping me heal. My relationship with money is like, I feel like I should get paid to breathe. I should get paid to exist because I I'm just that magnetic, that magical.

00:28:04:19 - 00:28:42:19

Nikole

I really feel that it's been five minutes with me and I will change your life. Like whether you're a stranger or a friend or a lover and so for me, that is worthy of massive compensation. And so I work on really mastering that belief, really honing in my ability to offer an amazing experience or conversation or whatever it is I feel the mood for, and then have the courage to ask for compensation, whether it's playfully, whether it's before, whether it's afterwards, and then now it's become such a norm in my life that when people into my world, they just pick up on, I'm someone to give money to and it's the best thing ever.

00:28:42:21 - 00:29:06:18

Luna

Wow. Well, what I'm also hearing from you is the deep element of appreciation that runs through you, because that is a gift to the you know, I am a generous person. Here's where I'm I'm at. My money process is like I come from a sweet, hard working, loving farm family, and we're generous in the sense of like, we invite people over, we feed them.

00:29:06:18 - 00:29:43:06

Luna

I love, I love to give. I also love to receive. But because I came from such a generous background, I was like, yeah, so I give to you, you give to me. I read these books about humans and they talk about the natural law of reciprocity. So if I'm just generous, then that should karma, you know, should come, come back in generosity back at me, especially because I'm such a good appreciator and I have found that that is actually there's a lot of takers in this world and, or I've been attracting them with maybe, you know, offering so much of myself for free in ways that I'm now like looking at.

00:29:43:07 - 00:30:06:09

Luna

I'm like, well, that era is over. I am not doing that again. And so I've been thinking a lot lately all about marriage, you know? So I'm on the autism spectrum and regular dating doesn't work for me. I really need clear lines where people are, like, eager to offer me things because I'm like, what if I'm naturally generous?

00:30:06:09 - 00:30:33:09

Luna

Surely there could be other naturally generous people. But what I'm hearing from you is there is this sort of like subtle invitation of asking you really is an art form. Do you think that is a key element of all relationships, like sugar? Is one more implicit kind of implicit, explicit element of it? OnlyFans is a different vibe, but like, do you think that runs through all relationships, whether or not they are related to sex work?

00:30:33:11 - 00:30:57:12

Nikole

I do think there's a thread throughout, and I think people don't hardly even touch it, much less capitalize on it. Like even in my relationship now with my partner. Like this morning I woke up and he had sent me money on, you know, over Apple iMessage money because, you know, hot. And I got so calm on looking at my phone and it was cash with like a winky face, like I'm like, I, I.

00:30:57:18 - 00:30:58:07

Luna

Know.

00:30:58:09 - 00:31:24:12

Nikole

He knows me so well, right? And like, like so I think because I've been vulnerable and authentic and communicative like this is important to me. And like tons of appreciation, I always tell my clients, we want to ooze with gratitude. We want to appreciate in the way I the way I described is like a relationship, like a bank account, where the more you ooze with gratitude, appreciation, it's deposit, deposit, deposit, deposit.

00:31:24:17 - 00:31:42:13

Nikole

So when the bonds come a long way and it was a withdrawal takes place, you have a cushion, right? And so I mean, it's like literally and metaphorically. And so it's the more we appreciate, the more we ooze with gratitude, the more we communicate what matters to us, the more the relationship is going to be designed to help us thrive.

00:31:42:15 - 00:32:05:07

Nikole

And if you have a particular cash desire, even in a traditional relationship, which my partner and I kind of have, I still get a lot of cash from him because he's learned over our time together how important that is to me, how amazing it feels. And it's not because he identifies as a sugar daddy. Not at all. Like it's just he knows how to love me in a way that feels like love to me.

00:32:05:09 - 00:32:18:00

Luna

Wow, that is so interesting. Oh, I have so many thoughts.

00:32:18:02 - 00:32:24:16

Luna

When did you first become aware of your money? Kink? I'm calling it money. Can you say cash kink?

00:32:24:18 - 00:32:43:09

Nikole

Yes. Money can cash checks. Venmo. I'll take all all forms of cash and money. I'm very open to I love receiving, I love receiving gifts. I receive gifts every week from my fans. You know, it's like I just I love receiving. I think what really woke me up to it was, you know, I was on food stamps for nine years.

00:32:43:09 - 00:33:04:01

Nikole

I was so freaking broke. And I tried the traditional financial advisor, I tried Dave Ramsey, and nothing traditionally was working for me. And then I remember one time hearing the words abundance and lack, and I felt a zing in my body. I was like, oh, oh. And I remember going to my therapist, the therapist at the time, I said, I need to know more about abundance and lack.

00:33:04:01 - 00:33:22:04

Nikole

Like, I don't know what that is, but it feels like the language of my soul. Can you help me? And she said, I have no idea what you're talking about. Now. Is this like, no, like I, I knew there was something to that. And so I remember I was at the airport, I was traveling somewhere. I brought a book to read on the flight, and I already read it.

00:33:22:04 - 00:33:37:07

Nikole

By the time I got to the airport, I'm like, I have to buy a new book. I go into the airport bookstore and there's literally like this light shining on this yellow book on the shelf that they're highlighting. And this is the book that changed everything for me. And it's you are a badass by chance, tarot, right?

00:33:37:07 - 00:34:00:17

Nikole

She's another book. You are badass and Making Money, which is like literally my Bible. And it was through reading those books that like the floodgates of love for money, feeling safe with money, being allowed to love, money being allowed to want money like ripped open and filled my body. And I was like, oh my God, I am so turned on right now and I feel like anything is possible.

00:34:00:18 - 00:34:18:22

Nikole

Like just from those books and hiring a life coach, like I very quickly start making a lot of money, and it is a huge turn on for me to see that I, in and of myself, have the ability to generate as much cash, as much money as I can set my mind to as much as I desire. And that is also a huge turn on.

00:34:18:22 - 00:34:30:07

Nikole

So I think it was through those books and feeling that power coursed through me that I am. Abundance and abundance is mean. Wherever I go, money flows. I'm like yes please, thank you and more.

00:34:30:09 - 00:34:49:17

Luna

Amazing, I love it. That's what I say all the time. I say thank you more please. Everything. There's a little nugget of it. I love that too. So my mom saw those books on my shelf and got me for Christmas to, like, 300. You know, the page a day calendar and my favorite one that just has stuck in my head so far this year is it's not your fault if you're fucked up.

00:34:49:22 - 00:35:13:22

Luna

It is your fault if you stay fucked up like some of them are so silly in that one. I'm just like, and you know, I don't. I don't see it as a criticism. I see it as like an empowering taking responsibility for like where my attention goes is what grows. And so I am excited to be talking to you because I'm like, oh yeah, this is all the stuff that I am working on right now in my own journey and also still trying to for me figure out, you know, it.

00:35:13:22 - 00:35:36:17

Luna

It's it's so relieving for me personally to be in the space of gratitude and receiving, because that is where I feel the greatest permission to give all of my gifts or the right amount of gift. But, you know, like the openness to giving because I'm being concretely appreciated, you know, and for so long I was just like, yeah, I'll give.

00:35:36:17 - 00:35:42:10

Luna

And then maybe someday you'll give back. No you won't. Oh, I'm depleted. Exhausted. Okay. It's a new era.

00:35:42:11 - 00:35:50:06

Nikole

Yes. That's something I learned with money is like the more money I desire to make, the more boundaries that are required.

00:35:50:08 - 00:35:51:06

Luna

00:35:51:08 - 00:36:14:08

Nikole

And so even, like a small example is like a friendship example is because I'm a giver naturally, too. I love to give. I'm very generous being by heart. And like I found that for most of my life, most of my friendships are one sided. I'm reaching out, I'm initiating, I'm planning, and like I it wouldn't be reciprocated. And I finally reached a point in my life like, wait, wait, wait, but I deserve reciprocal relationship.

00:36:14:08 - 00:36:35:07

Nikole

So now is now my litmus test. If I meet someone and if I notice that I'm the only one reaching out communicating, I eventually stop because I do not want an imbalanced relationship, right? And so, like with money, it's like I used to give my time, energy, expertise, everything away for free. I didn't have boundaries. You're not going to have wealth.

00:36:35:09 - 00:36:55:23

Nikole

When I started implementing boundaries that like, yes, I'm happy to give. If you're giving to I'm willing to help you in this way if you're willing to compensate me for helping. Yes, it pushed people away, but it just pushed away the people that weren't a match for me, that weren't in the line for me. And it called. And people are like, oh my God, of course I would never ask you not to, or I would never ask you to do this for free.

00:36:56:01 - 00:37:16:08

Nikole

So I tell my clients, like when you decide to truly become wealthy and really own your love for money or wanting to become rich, it's going to repel a group of people and it's going to attract new people. And that's exactly what you want. We want to repel anyone who's not meant for you. Let's clear the way so we can call in everyone who is.

00:37:16:08 - 00:37:29:01

Nikole

So now the people in my life, the expectation, the assumption is there is going to be some exchange because we're not people who try to freeload off one another unless we decide to generously give to one another.

00:37:29:03 - 00:37:58:20

Luna

Yeah. As I'm talking to you, I'm also reflecting on my own personal sex life because I am. I have historically been a horny bitch who's like, once, you know, I'm the one that's being like, here is my apartment. Please come fuck me, you know? But but assuming that, like, again, if we are an energetic match that like, all of the things will fall into place, and I realized that has not been, not even just money wise, energetic value of relationship.

00:37:58:22 - 00:38:23:17

Luna

Why is right, you know? And so in the past, I've had boyfriends where it's like, I pay for everything and give the sex and do this thing, and I'm still not getting treated, you know, and, and it took me a while to realize my money. Kink goes both ways. Yeah. And that's something that I actually have not said out loud here before because again, I don't it's not that I just want to pay for everyone for everything, but it's like I love giving in that way.

00:38:23:17 - 00:38:44:22

Luna

And so I'm like, oh, so I'm allowed to love receiving in that way. But I've been really, I'd be curious to hear your thoughts on when to choose to allow someone into your personal physical sphere. It sounds like you're in this relationship that is really, really generous, but like, you didn't even know he was going to be able to give you an orgasm until you got there.

00:38:45:00 - 00:38:52:01

Luna

Like what? What do you sort of like look for in terms of letting someone into your physical, personal sphere?

00:38:52:03 - 00:39:12:07

Nikole

Oh, I love that. You know, it's so interesting as I'm sex on the first date kind of person. And I always obviously was taught that was very wrong and bad and all this stuff, my upbringing. But it was after I got divorced because my ex and I were so sexually incompatible that premarital sex became a requirement. It was no longer it, wasn't it?

00:39:12:09 - 00:39:31:18

Nikole

Oh man. Especially for people like us, if sex is so important to me, I would never, ever enter a relationship much as a marriage unless I know for sexually aligned. And so I what I would do. I called it my slut phase after I got divorced. I was like so horny and like so wanting to experience all the people, all the bodies, all the time.

00:39:31:20 - 00:39:46:02

Nikole

And I'm a very open and honest person. So I would tell these men, and I was trying to date one at a time, but that wasn't working at the time. Yeah. So I tell these men, like, here's my situation. I'm I've never been given an orgasm. I'm like, so excited to learn that about my body and connect connection.

00:39:46:02 - 00:40:05:11

Nikole

Just like setting the groundwork of an authentic encounter. And I'm assuming if you're going to have sex the first time, you're pulling out your A-game like you are on a show. Because if you don't do a good job first time, why would I come back a second time? And I was surprised how many of these men would not pull their A-game and would not try to get me off.

00:40:05:11 - 00:40:07:19

Luna

And that's their A game, right?

00:40:07:21 - 00:40:11:04

Nikole

Right. But I was a little horrified.

00:40:11:06 - 00:40:11:13

Luna

Yeah.

00:40:11:14 - 00:40:29:23

Nikole

And I also hated this. And I tell this my whole life, when I was first having sex and until few years ago, the entitlement men have around having their ticks upped, but not assuming the same entitlement to someone with a clitoris. I like you me to give you head, but you don't give me a head. Like that became like sin.

00:40:30:00 - 00:40:46:14

Nikole

It really bothered me. So I made a new policy for myself. Like when I have sex, I will not give a man had the first time because that is something you earn. That is not something you just get. And because all these men were just like, shove there dick in my face and like, you're going down on me first, buddy.

00:40:46:14 - 00:41:06:00

Nikole

If you think I'm going to do that. And so something that set my partner apart as I was very honest with him and we are friends like for about a month like he was, he actually bought the house next door to me. This is how we met. And so we really clicked. So had gone all these dates and I'd go to his house after the dates and like decompress for them because he was he had started dating after getting divorced.

00:41:06:00 - 00:41:31:17

Nikole

He was like living vicariously through my story. So he was hearing every thing. And by the time we end up having sex, we had sex for four hours. He ravished me and blew my mind. And never once stuck his dick in my face. I have never had sex with a man at that point who had never suck a dick in my face the first night, and the fact that he didn't do it after four hours together completely ravished me.

00:41:31:19 - 00:41:46:11

Nikole

He knew to not pressure me to come because of something I was working on. Yeah, I was like, oh, oh, there is something different about this man. And I'm intrigued.

00:41:46:13 - 00:41:47:06

00:41:47:08 - 00:41:51:12

Luna

Are you still team. Yes. Sex first time if you want it.

00:41:51:14 - 00:42:08:15

Nikole

Yes. Oh my God. It's like you know it's so funny. We talked about it afterwards and like he had never had sex like that before. Right. Again. Because when I come I'm going to blow his mind. Yeah. And I was like come on. Like how did you last that long? And gave me the best sex when I like, I did all these men who didn't.

00:42:08:15 - 00:42:22:22

Nikole

He's like, he's like, my reputation was online. He's like, there is no way you were leaving my bedroom and you're going to tell all your girlfriends I was horrible in that there is no way I would let my reputation be on the line like that. He's like, I'm going to show up and blow your mind, which is okay.

00:42:22:22 - 00:42:24:10

Nikole

Oh my value.

00:42:24:12 - 00:42:46:14

Luna

That's like another piece of that, like ego stuff I'm trying to figure out because it's not all bad. I'm air and bad, but like, there are these, like subtle social things that I feel so slow. I'm finally, like coming online too. But I'm like, oh damn. Okay, so that's wow. And so you've had that's the only person that just hasn't been like, here it is.

00:42:46:14 - 00:43:03:09

Luna

Like that also makes me realize because I'm like, I don't know if that's happened to me because I'm usually so impatient to touch them everywhere. You know, like I'm like, I'm trying to unwrap the whole package. But I also like kind of tell them where to go on me. Wow. You were giving me so much to think about.

00:43:03:11 - 00:43:17:07

Luna

I would love to hear just like a little how you learned about sex. You know, we heard the repressed upbringing but like how did you actually learn about sex. Did you get a talk. Did you get a sex ed. And then like when and how did you discover that you were queer?

00:43:17:09 - 00:43:38:03

Nikole

Yes. So I, I've always been intrigued by sex, even when I was repressed and shy and bashful and had a lot of body shaming sex shame. But like, I would sometimes like, buy books and just try to read a little bit and feel guilty, you know, like, like sex educational books and learning about different things. And like, even the history of sex and like, a couple dynamics.

00:43:38:03 - 00:43:56:11

Nikole

I was reading like poly books, phenomenal books. Like, I just had so many curiosities. And then I remember, like, after maybe towards the end of my marriage or after I got divorce around there, I subscribed to a sex workers OnlyFans where she did these sex ed tutorials and talked about Deep Throat and all these things that I was so curious about.

00:43:56:11 - 00:44:15:07

Nikole

But like no one talks about on Pornhub, you just watch it like who's like someone who can talk about the skills and all this and the safety. And so I Starfall and more and more sex workers and reading their stories and like and then like, I just like once you're in there, all the algorithms send you articles and before know I'm like drowning in articles and sex workers.

00:44:15:07 - 00:44:37:12

Nikole

And I'm just like, you're fascinated a hooked on watching Netflix documentaries on anything sex and dating and like, you know, I'm exploring myself. I started buying toys for the first time and like, now all my fans buy me all my toys. I have so many toys and like things for me to explore. And then when I started dating and fucking, all these men, I was learning to clarity and through contrast.

00:44:37:17 - 00:45:01:06

Nikole

Clarity like, ooh, like that. Definitely want to add that to my repertoire. Definitely want to keep that. You don't like that. Never want to be in a situation ever again. And so through clarity and contrast, I'm learning so much about what I like, what I don't like, what turns me on, what doesn't hurt me. And then with my partner now, like, we just have sex escapades and just, like, so fun, so playful, so explorative.

00:45:01:06 - 00:45:25:10

Nikole

So it's all these things that have led to who and who I am today. As for my queerness, I, I came out, I realized my queerness in 2016, about three years leading up to that. I wanted to be a good ally, so I was like reading books by queer people, and I, I was a Christian at the time, so I was reading books by queer theologians and just understanding the intersection between queerness and theology.

00:45:25:10 - 00:45:46:01

Nikole

And, met local, the local queer community where I lived and got really involved in supporting all these queer artists. And so I spending more and more time in queer spaces and would find myself so magnetically attracted to all these different humans. I'm like, I just love humans. I'm just like a person, people person, you know, I do.

00:45:46:06 - 00:46:06:02

Nikole

I'm just super extroverted, you know? And after like a year of a years of that and I remember watching Gray's Anatomy and there is a quote by the bisexual in there, like, I don't love gender, I love the soul or the, the spirit or the things I would hear. They would like resonate. And I remember I was at a queer event again supporting my local queer artists.

00:46:06:02 - 00:46:09:06

Nikole

And then it clicked. I was like, ooh.

00:46:09:08 - 00:46:11:14

Luna

Oh, oh shit.

00:46:11:15 - 00:46:33:20

Nikole

This is an I just love people. This is I don't think I'm straight. And I oh my, it was it was a life changing realization. And later, you know, the signs were all there. I get it now. Looking back, it was queer. I was queer as of age seven, like so many signs. But because my environment I was raised in, it was all repressed.

00:46:33:21 - 00:46:49:08

Nikole

No vocab, no education, no ability to articulate until that moment in my 30s. And then it made so much sense. And then now am I. It is one of the best things to have ever I've to have ever learned about myself.

00:46:49:10 - 00:46:54:16

Luna

Beautiful, beautiful. What about the non-monogamy part? What has that been like for you?

00:46:54:18 - 00:47:18:14

Nikole

Yeah. So my last two years, my marriage, you know, I really, I think, you know, sexually starved and naturally curious and later learned I'm non-monogamous. So I started buying books and reading books and polyamory, non-monogamy. Started meeting people online and in person and going to events where you can meet people like that. And it just really resonated with me and talk to my then husband about it.

00:47:18:15 - 00:47:35:11

Nikole

He was trying to be open, but he was scared naturally. And and I'm queer and I never been with a woman. And it's like it just really opened the door to like, really explore. Like, who is Nicole really? Apart from all the dogma and all the indoctrination and all this art and supposed to like, who is Nicole? The core.

00:47:35:13 - 00:47:54:12

Nikole

And so when we did get divorced, I was like, I cannot do that again. I cannot be in a monogamous relationship. There's way too much dick and pussy in the world that I want to explore and enjoy, to limit myself to one. Like very quickly learned that and so like that became like my communication to anyone I dated.

00:47:54:12 - 00:48:13:00

Nikole

Like, I'm not I'm not miss that. I'm not interest in monogamy, if that's what you want, I cannot be your person. And that was a really healing declaration for me to say, like, again, I was never I couldn't really advocate for myself in the bedroom or in my religious life. And so I will say, this is what I'm available for.

00:48:13:02 - 00:48:19:00

Nikole

This is what I'm not. Let me know. And we can decipher and continue or not was so empowering.

00:48:19:02 - 00:48:28:20

Luna

Amazing. That's awesome. So are you. It sounds like you have like a main partner. I don't know what kind of terminology you like to use. Do you say primary. You have your.

00:48:28:22 - 00:48:30:23

Nikole

Yeah. Primary. Who's my main partner. Yeah.

00:48:31:00 - 00:48:48:21

Luna

Okay. And then other people that you date and or play with, is it more for like OnlyFans work purposes. Like do you go on dates for fun because it sounds like your sugar stuff is just like meals and stuff. Not not like selling things, but, what what's that landscape like? Like what? And what specifically? Lights you up?

00:48:48:21 - 00:48:56:10

Luna

Like, what gets you excited enough to connect with someone in a sex oriented way? Because it sounds like you're really satisfied by your partner.

00:48:56:12 - 00:49:09:00

Nikole

Oh my God, unbelievably satiated. Satisfied, ravished. I'm like, baby, we need the world to, like, live stream and watch this all over because it's so fucking hot. I want to see it. But we're not there.

00:49:09:02 - 00:49:11:12

Luna

Yeah, yeah. Okay. That's my dream. I'm like, yeah.

00:49:11:14 - 00:49:33:18

Nikole

Same. He can't because of his work. But if he could, I would totally do it. It is so hot. And I think it would be so healing for people to watch like two people so in love ravished each other to the nth degree. So most of my, sexual escapades are with women and most of it is for OnlyFans.

00:49:33:20 - 00:49:58:20

Nikole

And then we'll do stuff together. Him and him and I with, you know, either one person or couples. And we'll go to the occasional sex club, or strip come and I find that and this is what also made it very clear that I'm non-monogamous when I have a sexual experience with someone else, whether it's with him in someone else, or just mean another woman or whatever the experience is.

00:49:58:22 - 00:50:28:09

Nikole

I fall so in love and feel so mushy from a partner. If there is a direct link and my partner Mike babe, I don't get it. He's like, he's like, I love it. He's like, all I have to do is like, get your pussy involved with someone else and you are head over heels in love with me. And I'm like, I am, I love you and your beat I it just unlocks deep levels of love for my partner and like not only to get some amazing experience, but then I get to take all the energy and pour it into him and it's so juicy.

00:50:28:09 - 00:50:29:20

Nikole

I totally, so good.

00:50:29:22 - 00:50:37:02

Luna

My biggest fantasy is to have a partner who can, like, hold all of my sexual energy, and then I come back and they reclaim me after I go out and explore.

00:50:37:05 - 00:50:38:18

Nikole

Oh yeah.

00:50:39:00 - 00:50:52:23

Luna

So because I'm an explorer, I'm a curious one. Okay? Hopes, dreams, desires for the future. Is there anything that you haven't yet explored that you want to explore? Or just like what's on your horizon? What's lighting you up? What's calling to you?

00:50:53:01 - 00:51:12:06

Nikole

Yeah. So I've, you know, created a lot of success and happiness and wealth for myself, like beyond my wildest imagination from, you know, it's on food stamps just five years ago. Like, it's unbelievable, like the stark contrast. And yet, it's just the tip of the iceberg. So my dreams have a global empire. I want to have my own TV show.

00:51:12:06 - 00:51:32:13

Nikole

I want to have bestselling books. I want to have my own lingerie line, perfume line, makeup line, high heel line. Like Oprah level of success. And so all of this is amazing. My little coaching business, my only fans, and yet is is just the surface of what I feel called to create during my lifetime. And so I'm really jazz.

00:51:32:13 - 00:51:48:20

Nikole

And in fact, this coming Monday, I have a documentary team coming in from the UK filming My Story Is Going, a fourth documentary made about me, and it's just like, I love media. I love being like in the spotlight and I just know this is like the beginning of so much more and I can't wait to see it all unfold.

00:51:48:22 - 00:51:57:03

Luna

Amazing. What do you think we collectively need to make the world a sexier, more loving place?

00:51:57:05 - 00:52:28:12

Nikole

Oh my god, if everyone could just love their bodies and love who they are, if we could all work through and release any body shame and sex shame, we'd have, I think there will be healed. And then if we're able to encounter one another, especially in sex and intimacy, unashamed and unafraid. I just think pure magic and orgasmic bliss will just radiate from all of us, everywhere, all the time.

00:52:28:14 - 00:52:46:20

Luna

I love that, and if you were designing Nicole's perfect place base or Castle or whatever sort of structure it is, you know, so it's a place where people can come together. Lots of people can come together, come together. What sort of like elements would it have? You know, essentially texturally, design wise, like what would it be like?

00:52:46:20 - 00:53:09:13

Nikole

Oh, I love this. I've never been asked. They ask this. I am more on the luxury side. I love romance, I love luxury, I love beautiful things for beautiful people, for beautiful experiences to be had. So I think I don't want people to walk in and just feel like royalty. And you are. You're the prize. You're the divine and human flesh.

00:53:09:13 - 00:53:41:15

Nikole

Like you. Your environment should reflect back to you your essence, your divinity and your sensuality. So I love sparkles, I love texture, I'm a big all kinds like smooth, rough, soft, like fluffy hard leg so you can all experience different smells and food and drinks. I love music and sounds or silence like I would want. Yeah, endless massive mansion of just like all these different spaces for different experiences of the different senses.

00:53:41:17 - 00:53:44:23

Nikole

While you feel like you're the most beautiful thing walking this planet.

00:53:45:01 - 00:53:57:03

Luna

I fucking love that. Okay, lastly, if you could go back in time and give younger you a piece of sex advice, what age or ages would you pick and what would you say?

00:53:57:05 - 00:54:15:03

Nikole

I would say I'd go to high school and I'd say, have as much sex as you want and recommend protection, get tested regularly and have so much fun. Have so much fun. There's no shame, no shame.

00:54:15:05 - 00:54:34:10

Luna

Lovers. You can go find Nicole on Instagram at Mitchell. Nicole Nicole is spelled with a K or find her on only found onlyfans.com/nicole Mitchell links are in the description below. And Nicole, would you tell us, like how can people work with you how or play with you? Like what are the favorite ways that you like love to connect?

00:54:34:12 - 00:54:53:14

Nikole

Yes you can. If you're more just my life coaching work, you can take any of my digital programs I'm teaching. I teach live programs every single month. You can subscribe my OnlyFans. I get a lot of women who subscribe just to check it. Out of curiosity, you can book me for a date if you want to pay for a lunch or dinner and treat me to it.

00:54:53:16 - 00:54:59:10

Nikole

I would love to do that. So whatever floats your boat and would be your favorite way to connect with me, I'm available.

00:54:59:12 - 00:55:03:12

Luna

I love that Nicole. Thank you so much for being a guest on Sex Stories.

00:55:03:14 - 00:55:06:00

Nikole

Thank you. This is wonderful, I loved it.