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24 pansexual polyamorous woman, from Chicago, stripper, legal courtesan at Sheri’s Ranch, into: roleplaying, kink, Dominance, submission, brattiness, ski masks

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Luna

And our guest today is a 24 year old pansexual polyamorous. Born and raised in Chicago. Girl who is into roleplay and kink fantasies including dominant, submissive, and especially bratty sexual experiences. She has a weakness for a ski mask on both men and women, and has been a stripper for five years. A legal courtesan at Sheri's ranch outside Las Vegas in Pahrump, Nevada, for the past two years, and an adult actress and model for the past year.

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Luna

Welcome, lavender.

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Lavender

Hi. Thanks for having me. I am so excited to talk to you.

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Luna

Okay, so could you please start out by telling us if you had to rate yourself on a sexual shaming meter, with ten being the most full of shame and zero being like, I do not have shame. Where do you feel today? Right now? And when? If ever, have you felt your shame costar squiggle around?

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Lavender

I would say like 0 or 1 or, you know, zero today. Chillin. Honestly, as I matured, that shame went down as like, I kind of grew and like, learned more about myself and my sexuality and like, just my hustle, I guess, as well, to be honest, I kind of just started prioritizing what's important to me, which is, you know, things like stability and living my life while I'm here.

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Lavender

So fuck yeah. Yeah. Fuck yeah.

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Lavender

So it's just decreased with age and maturity.

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Luna

I love that. Was there ever a time where it was like, high shame a meter.

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Lavender

And not as much as like because I was never, like embarrassed or thought my actions were wrong, but like, you know, like societal pressures, like, you know, in Las Vegas where I, you know, I like to hang around and work, it's a lot more accepted there. But where I grew up in Chicago, it's a little bit more hush hush.

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Lavender

So.

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Lavender

I think it was societal pressure more than personal shame in any way.

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Luna

I feel like some of the shame, crinkly as people have spoken to, have originated from the Midwest. Yeah. Do you feel like there's a lot of shame crinkles over there? Well.

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Lavender

There's just a lot of people with a lot of opinions.

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Lavender

Yeah. So, you know, if I look at.

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Lavender

Especially when you're young.

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Lavender

Yeah. Yeah.

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Luna

So okay, so can you tell us what is sexy to lavender. Like what's your definition. And also what do you find sexy. I don't know if this is when we bring up ski masks.

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Lavender

But.

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Lavender

I threw that in there. I like well I really do like, like, I don't know, like, I'm freaky. I'm kinky.

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Lavender

I want, you know.

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Luna

I want to have a full hood. I want, like, yeah.

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Lavender

I like the mystery thing. Would you.

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Luna

Also want to be in it or is it.

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Lavender

Like, yeah, I, I have my own. Okay. Yeah, I have a few. I have a collection. Really. Yeah. What are they like, are.

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Luna

They all like black. You have different kind of.

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Lavender

Different colors and different cuts for the eyes and different material. Some of them are like, just like basic. Some of them have like, safety pins and shit and, little devil horns, you know.

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Luna

Were you always attracted to them or was there like.

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Lavender

No, it was like.

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Lavender

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Lavender

It's just I think it, I think it just came for, like, my love. Like when I was like, outside in Chicago in the car scene and stuff, like, a lot of ski masks, you know, I think it's just, I, like I said, I'm kind of like a bit of a thrill seeker, too, and stuff. So I think that I really had a lot of fun out there.

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Lavender

There's a lot of, I don't know, cute men and women in ski masks and, the cars spinning, fire, all kinds of chaos, but fun chaos, like.

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Luna

Literal fire or like that fire.

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Lavender

Literal fire.

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Luna

Oh, wow. Okay, what else is sexy, like, besides a ski mask? And, like, do you have a definition or kind of like.

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Lavender

Well, what? Well, I mean, I'm.

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Lavender

Not, like, fixated on a ski mask, but I like.

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Lavender

I am I know that you active.

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Lavender

It's like, definitely a thing for me. But I'm into, like, kink in general. I like a lot of, like, dominant and submissive role play. I'm a switch. Okay. So I like to be dominant when I'm dominant. When I'm submissive, I like to be bratty. I'm a big brat.

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Luna

Okay.

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Lavender

I don't like the power exchange. Okay. Which is definitely where some of my kink, I think, was, you know.

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Lavender

Alba, you know, there's there's just dominance involved.

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Lavender

So I'm a very dominant person myself. So I think I really appreciate someone who can dominate that dominance.

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Luna

The right energy. Yeah. Yeah, the right context. Also, for anyone not watching the YouTube video, there was a gesture that looked like putting on a hood or scheming.

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Lavender

Yeah, yeah, I see,

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Lavender

Mostly in the bedroom and, actual relationship. I find it very sexy to have communication and, like, compassion and just, you know, being a power couple, being a team. I'm. I prefer to be polyamorous. I, you know, I'm pansexual. I like, I don't I'm not to blame it on, it's not correlated at all, but I'd like to ideally have a boyfriend and girlfriend.

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Lavender

Yeah, yeah, I'm totally.

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Luna

I'm the same way. And also, I'm like, I want to be with a partner who, if they meet someone they want to explore energy with, they have that option. If I meet someone I want to explore an energy with, I have that option. And I just if we are partners, I want to come back and let those other experiences strengthen our connection and that we're both secure in ourselves enough to do that.

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Lavender

Like, I think that that's a really wonderful thing about it, too, because I feel like a major part of your other, your polyamorous or an open relationship or just exploring, you know, something in that lifestyle. I think there's a real like one, selfish. What's the word? Not self esteem, but.

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Luna

Like actualization.

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Lavender

Confidence. Yeah. Like, there's like a confidence to it.

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Lavender

Like security.

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Luna

Security.

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Lavender

Security. And your self, your partner, your relationship. That's the word I'm looking for.

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Lavender

Totally.

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Lavender

So on top of you're letting go of that kind of ownership that in that traditional monogamous relationship which some people seek and that's totally all right. But I think that there's a lot of love that has to come into that, and loving each other very authentically. It won't work if you don't.

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Lavender

Yeah, yeah.

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Luna

I'm like, own me, but energetically and earn me every day. Yeah. Like like and then I will be yours. I also feel like I would rather have a relationship where I trust that they want to be honest with me about their actions, no matter what, you know. And so building a container where it's like, if they do go explore with a new boo, I do want to have a relationship where they can tell me about it later.

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Lavender

Absolutely. Yeah, absolutely. Communication is so important for any relationship.

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Luna

Totally. When do you feel sexiest?

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Lavender

I don't know, like when I'm in the club or when I'm not sharing and I'm getting paid to be beautiful.

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Lavender

Oh God. It's worship. I like it a lot.

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Lavender

I don't know if this is wrong to say, but, like, money definitely really turns me on.

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Lavender

No, no, I have a party.

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Lavender

And it's just like the being taken care of. Yeah, and, like, being worshiped. Yeah. I've always loved, ever since, you know, I was first starting dancing. I've always kind of loved that. Like, wow. Like you're paying me to do nothing but sit here and look hot and, like, you know, dance.

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Luna

Around and have.

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Lavender

Some fun.

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Lavender

Yeah, yeah.

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Luna

Oh, I love that. I've been thinking a lot about, like, the metaphor of, like, a cake. I don't know why this one popped into my head, but I'm like, you know, maybe if you had, like, a girlfriend or boyfriend, maybe my boyfriend bakes me a cake and I go over and I feel entitled to eat as much of that cake as I want.

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Luna

But if I'm going to go to, like, a store or anywhere else, or anyone who's like, not my partner and eat some cake, like I'm probably going to offer, if not money, like some sort of concrete value. Certainly wouldn't go to a grocery store and eat a slice of cake if you were going to buy, you know, like something like rent me, like have a have a slice to like, have a, have a offer.

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Luna

Something about offering to the goddess.

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Lavender

A mutual exchange at least.

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Luna

When did that kind of like develop for you?

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Lavender

I think that I kind of developed that in in the strip club. Because when I started dancing, I was working three jobs previously, and I was very stressed out.

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Lavender

Yeah.

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Lavender

I was like, really trying to hustle for my independence. It was just like I couldn't go to sleep. Basically, I would get like 4 or 5 hours, and that was my night. I'd be rushing to the next job and it was like, one day, a restaurant. I was working at a Tilted Kilt in Chicago, and one of my friends just came up to me was like, you know, hey, I started dancing at this place, and it's paying for my college.

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Lavender

And I was like, you know, I, I don't have college bills, but I got life bills. Yeah. And right when I went there, I was making immediately in a shift more than all three of my jobs, like, easy. So I it made my life, easier. And I think something about the stability it provided. Yeah, it just really, it turned on a light for me.

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Lavender

Amazing. Yeah. Amazing.

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Luna

Okay, before we get to that era and fill in those details, I would love to hear how you learned about sex starting from wherever you're comfy as a young as you remember first, like learning about it and then like, tell us what were the formative experiences you learned from? Did you get a sex talk? Did you learn about it in school?

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Luna

Did friends talk about like, take us through your sexy timeline and share whatever feels relevant?

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Lavender

Well, I definitely started like being interested in, like, what I didn't realize was, like, sexual behavior young because, like, you know, I do sexy movies. I like to credit The Mummy. Oh, I know a lot of people do. It's a common thing.

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Luna

Well, pirates like.

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Lavender

All of it. Everyone I realized I was into man.

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Lavender

I realized.

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Lavender

I was into woman when Eve was shackled up in the second movie, I realized that, like, Mead's,

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Lavender

Like.

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Lavender

That formative experience.

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Lavender

For the thrill, thrill seeking, and.

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Lavender

Then, you know, as I got older, I experimented, and I definitely did start experimenting young, but, yeah. And I just kind of found my way and navigated from there.

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Lavender

Okay.

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Luna

Did you explore your own self before you started playing with partners or what was kind of.

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Lavender

Yeah, definitely. Yeah. I definitely explored was masturbation. Yeah. When I was younger.

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Luna

What about, like, sex talks or sex and from grown ups?

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Lavender

I.

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Lavender

Mean.

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Lavender

I definitely remember when, like, they brought us in to talk about periods and then we had, like, not not the most sex education, I would say. I feel like they gave us like, a very dulled down version of it. I do like to joke that it took me working in a brothel to have a proper sex education here in America.

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Lavender

For sure.

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Lavender

So I'm much more educated now than school. Ever educated me, I, I don't really credit them much for my sex education.

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Lavender

Yeah, okay.

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Luna

What about when you started either, like, exploring yourself and or with partners like, what do you remember learning? You know, you didn't have much to go off of. So, like, were you just kind of fumbling around? Did you get pleasure at all? Like, what? What do you remember about your formative years?

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Lavender

Well, I had access to porn before I had access to sex.

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Lavender

Okay.

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Lavender

Through, like, the internet and me and my friends being curious and stupid online. And, like, oh, my God, look at this. Like, you know, like, so we had that, so right off the bat with the first partner I was intimate with, we were like, wanting to get into stuff like that. I was watching kind of freakier.

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Lavender

It was pretty awkward. I mean, I enjoyed myself, but it was pretty awkward, and.

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Lavender

But,

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Lavender

It just kind of got better with age and experience, realistically. As I got into, like, high school, I kind of started secretly, like, ordering, like, online, like through, like I'm trying to remember what the website is. I don't even know. It's like one of those, like, type machine type websites. And it was like I was ordering like all the Bdsm, like cheap cuffs and stuff and like, sneaking them.

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Lavender

In and like.

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Lavender

The ball gag, the robe, all of it. I, you know, probably by the time I was like 15 or 6. Really in that in. Yeah.

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Luna

Oh, okay. So you played you played with kink from a younger age.

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Lavender

Yeah. What was that like?

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Lavender

I mean, I just always knew I was into it. It's like some something that's just always turned me on. I think I, I started when I was younger. It took until I was an adult, and I explored myself to be as much. I was always like a sub, and I was actually a pretty true sub. So I just always knew I liked being dominated.

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Lavender

Yeah. I was, yeah, very, very submissive. And I like to. I liked them. I had exploring years.

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Luna

I love like when you were in that first submissive phase, what qualities did it take from a dominant for you to like, feel safer, to have you feel like you wanted to explore, like what was in place and or and or what did you learn that you loved?

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Lavender

Oh, no. I was like a stupid teenager. I had stupid teenager types, you know, like, oh, the kids at the skate park, you know, or like something like that. Don't. I'm trying to think of specific qualities. I mean, I liked, like, other kids who were kind of, like, rebellious, like me. I was getting, like, tattoos at a young age.

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Lavender

I was doing.

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Lavender

My own right to the person.

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Lavender

So like, I liked kind of other kids who were like on that same wavelength or just like, not caring about society's, like, rules were going to be authentic. I don't know, like that was a big turn on for me, for sure. It was just people who were like out there and like, different, and I guess that's not like a dominant feature, but it, it is at the same time, because you have to be unapologetic when you're walking into the room, like about like, you know, like, yeah, I'm wearing black nail polish and then you know, it's like that confidence was very like, yeah, I like that.

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Lavender

And like I like them to be still a little artsy, still a little soft. Someone who could be dominant. The soft me, you know. So those are all things that when I was a teenager I was like, ooh, I still kind of targets to that.

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Lavender

Yeah.

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Luna

Well, my experience of you, from what I know, is that you seem like a very powerful goddess creature. Do you identify as powerful?

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Lavender

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Lavender

I think so. I'm pretty, like, passionate and proud. I think those are pretty strong words. I like to associate with you.

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Luna

So I would imagine that, partner wise, for someone to tap you and and hold you in that tops picture a lot. It takes a lot.

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Lavender

Yeah. Yeah.

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Luna

Well, it's sort of like since sessions, have you discovered that you love to experience as a bottom or as a top?

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Lavender

I love for some reason, getting beat on the back of my neck like, pretty hard. I've had, like, bite marks, like broken skin, like, I like, I like that. I don't know why. Like specifically right there.

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Lavender

It's kind of. I got chills thinking about it. I like it, yeah. There's, like feral, like, sometimes.

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Lavender

I've had, like, dudes who like, growl. I really like.

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Lavender

Yeah. Play into it more play. Yeah. Ooh.

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Luna

What else?

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Lavender

Oh.

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Luna

Do you like to be restrained? You like you.

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Lavender

Said. Yeah. I had,

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Lavender

I had a lot of fun with Jabari in my time with, the Japanese rope bondage.

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Lavender

Ya.

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Lavender

Probably my favorite experience was Jabari was being tied to a hole in a room, and they had tied my hands to my favorite vibrator. And so, like, I was forced to hold it, and then they, like, slid the rope through my leg. So it was forced to be on my clit. And then they just sat down and watch TV.

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Lavender

For how long?

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Lavender

Actually a pretty long time. Like a good hour and a half before they started even, like trying to pay attention to me.

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Lavender

Like, God, yeah, but I like a while.

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Luna

It's not the type of thing, like, can you come from that? Or is that just like, oh, like, is it stimulus?

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Lavender

Oh, I mean.

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Luna

Like, what is it?

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Lavender

You turned off the vibrator at certain points, but like, he just kind of sat there and let me like.

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Luna

So.

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Lavender

I.

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Lavender

Have to.

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Lavender

Wait. Wow.

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Lavender

Yeah, it was really hot.

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Luna

Do you feel comfy giving, like, sensation specifics of your pussy like, vibrator? Like, what is it like? What is she like? What sort of sensations? What? What's your clit like? How do you come the most or the best or the favorite is.

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Lavender

I, I adore, you know,

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Lavender

So I definitely like the most important for me out of everything is probably clitoral stimulation of some sort. I do really love my vibrator is like my best friend. I have the wall plug in one so it never ends.

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Lavender

Yeah. Yeah, that's a little tilted. I just my mind just finally exploded. Like from my first dominant partner. Like he gave it to me right before I started this podcast and just a few weeks ago it died and was like, oh, I think it. And it was.

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Luna

Like it was like a little I was like using it. And then there was like a little like I felt it rumble change. And then there was like a pop, and then my light went out on the vibrator, just like it, like flipped the circuit breaker. I was like.

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Lavender

The most reliable was gone. A new era, though. Yeah, true.

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Luna

Okay, so you you like is it magic wand or is it something different? Oh.

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Lavender

Yeah. I do have the magic wand.

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Luna

Okay, okay. And is that like, can you put it, like directly on your clit or do you need like indirectly?

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Lavender

I'm like, all right. I'm like, I should do mindful because I am pierced on my hood.

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Lavender

Okay.

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Lavender

So sometimes I've had an issue where like it just vibrates a little weird. So like I have to get it like right in the right spot.

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Luna

But I bet if you put it in the right spot, it's really nice.

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Lavender

Yeah.

00:17:24:05 - 00:17:27:20

Luna

Tell us about what having your hood pierced is like. And did you do that one yourself?

00:17:27:20 - 00:17:31:14

Lavender

Oh, no. No, I went to a professional. Yeah, I.

00:17:31:14 - 00:17:39:21

Lavender

Did my I had my nipples done. I did, yeah, that was at home. You did your own ones. Well, with assistance from friends, it was a whole nother story.

00:17:39:21 - 00:17:41:21

Lavender

But we'll get to that.

00:17:41:23 - 00:17:56:02

Lavender

But. So when I went in to do my hood, I was already dancing, and, like, another girl had her. Christina, which is right above it. It's a little bit of a thicker piece of, skin. And I really wanted my Christina. I was like that. She looks so cute, I want it.

00:17:56:08 - 00:17:57:23

Lavender

Oh. Okay.

00:17:58:01 - 00:18:01:14

Lavender

So I went into my piercer, who I trusted in piercings just before I was born.

00:18:01:14 - 00:18:02:15

Lavender

Whoa.

00:18:02:17 - 00:18:07:11

Lavender

He's really awesome. He had his eyeballs tattooed. The whites are black.

00:18:07:13 - 00:18:11:11

Lavender

He had his eye. What? She literally. Yeah. He's, like, super cool. Do you know.

00:18:11:11 - 00:18:16:01

Luna

That your eyeballs are like the pieces of your brain that are just so. He literally has brain tattoos.

00:18:16:01 - 00:18:18:02

Lavender

That's crazy. I didn't even know that.

00:18:18:02 - 00:18:20:11

Lavender

I have to tell him that next time I go crazy.

00:18:20:11 - 00:18:21:09

Lavender

Whoa, wait.

00:18:21:11 - 00:18:23:10

Luna

Like, how is that even possible?

00:18:23:15 - 00:18:30:15

Lavender

It's injections with, with a syringe with ink in. And they it they can only just change the color of your whites. They can't design anything.

00:18:30:15 - 00:18:31:13

Lavender

Oh. That's all.

00:18:31:18 - 00:18:35:05

Lavender

Yeah, it's crazy because you have to, like, say, super still while they're doing it.

00:18:35:07 - 00:18:37:02

Lavender

Okay. Yeah.

00:18:37:04 - 00:18:53:11

Lavender

But super cool. Dude. So I went into his shop super knowledgeable. Trust him always to pierce me. And, I was like, yo, I want like Christina. And he was like, honestly, he was like a belly ring, so I'm not sure if you do. You have you have you ever had. No. They get crusty. They kind of hurt when you bend.

00:18:53:11 - 00:18:56:11

Lavender

Over in your belly button or when your belly button ring. Okay, okay.

00:18:56:12 - 00:19:11:17

Lavender

And so they get crusty. They kind of hurt when you bend over and they are, they say swollen there. Take a while to heal. So he's like, it's going to heal like a bellybutton ring. He's like, but get your hood. He's like, it goes right above your clit. So you'll actually be it'll be functional. He's like, you won't.

00:19:11:17 - 00:19:28:07

Lavender

He's like, it doesn't hurt. He's like, I swear I he's I know it sounds crazy, but it doesn't hurt. And he was right. He's like, and you won't even know it's there by the time you leave. And he's like, you can actually actively have sex within like a few days versus like, you're Christina, you can do you have to wait a long time?

00:19:28:09 - 00:19:35:06

Lavender

So he's like, dude, just do your hood. Like, it's way better. And I did it. And sure enough, I didn't. I've done it twice. I didn't feel it either time.

00:19:35:06 - 00:19:41:23

Luna

Oh my. Oh, wait, does that mean you have two piercings? Are you pierced and repair piercing crystal? But does it get caught on panties?

00:19:42:01 - 00:19:47:14

Lavender

Only one time ever has it happened where it got caught on something and it was during a lap dance.

00:19:47:16 - 00:19:49:01

Lavender

Oh, so you start going a full nude? Yeah.

00:19:49:04 - 00:19:57:05

Lavender

Oh, so it got caught on the client's zipper, and it was just this really awkward moment of like, yo, please don't move.

00:19:57:07 - 00:19:58:05

Lavender

00:19:58:06 - 00:19:59:13

Lavender

My pussy is attached.

00:19:59:13 - 00:20:03:10

Lavender

To, like, your pants zipper. Like, yeah. Like.

00:20:03:10 - 00:20:04:01

Lavender

Please don't.

00:20:04:01 - 00:20:05:09

Lavender

Move.

00:20:05:11 - 00:20:12:15

Lavender

And I ended up like, the ball fell off and it fell out, and then I was panicking. I was, like, holding it in my hand. I was like, what.

00:20:12:15 - 00:20:14:21

Lavender

Do I do?

00:20:14:23 - 00:20:16:21

Lavender

I had gone up to a bouncer. I was like, I don't know what to do.

00:20:16:21 - 00:20:18:21

Lavender

And he's like, me neither. I can't.

00:20:18:21 - 00:20:25:19

Lavender

Handle it. No, it was fine. I put it back and it was okay, okay, okay. Yeah. It's just the ball fell off him.

00:20:25:19 - 00:20:28:09

Lavender

Off? Yeah. Is it like a screw or a. Yeah.

00:20:28:09 - 00:20:30:00

Lavender

It's like a little screw top.

00:20:30:00 - 00:20:31:09

Lavender

Oh my god. Well it full.

00:20:31:09 - 00:20:31:17

Luna

Nude.

00:20:31:17 - 00:20:32:13

Lavender

Full nude.

00:20:32:13 - 00:20:33:18

Lavender

Everything not like.

00:20:33:20 - 00:20:38:03

Lavender

Super fun honestly I, I prefer full nude clubs. Okay. I had like a.

00:20:38:03 - 00:20:38:21

Lavender

Real I would.

00:20:38:21 - 00:20:40:20

Luna

Too. I love to be naked as much as possible.

00:20:40:20 - 00:20:59:18

Lavender

Yeah. That too. But also it's like not to become like a marketing person, but it's really good, upsell wise, because they charge more for the full nude dancers. And I have a tattooed on there and a piercing, so, you know, you want to see it, you know? So, you know, so, so, yeah, that's, I like full nude clubs for sure.

00:20:59:20 - 00:21:00:07

Lavender

Oh my.

00:21:00:07 - 00:21:06:00

Luna

Gosh. Okay, so nipple piercings. You had a friend help me. What does that feel like? Do you get sensation?

00:21:06:02 - 00:21:10:12

Lavender

You know, I was it was my friend's birthday party. We were.

00:21:10:14 - 00:21:11:19

Lavender

Special party favors.

00:21:12:00 - 00:21:16:19

Lavender

Drawn. We were like, probably like 16, 17 year olds.

00:21:16:19 - 00:21:17:08

Lavender

Oh, my God.

00:21:17:11 - 00:21:25:16

Lavender

And my. And we all woke up with a piercing. Okay, and there's a picture somewhere on my phone, which shouldn't be there because my titties.

00:21:25:18 - 00:21:29:08

Lavender

And it's of all of our piercings. And.

00:21:29:08 - 00:21:39:00

Lavender

It's like my friend is smiling and her nose has blood on it from the septum piercing. And my other friends lip and swollen because she. But they're all straight. They're all perfectly straight, by the way.

00:21:39:00 - 00:21:41:15

Lavender

They're they're well done.

00:21:41:17 - 00:21:51:09

Lavender

But yeah. No, mine, mine was done by me and the assistance of one of my friends because I guess I was the piercer. I don't even really remember. I they're all straight.

00:21:51:09 - 00:21:52:19

Luna

They're great. I had.

00:21:52:19 - 00:21:59:18

Lavender

Piercing needles. I shouldn't have, but I was piercing myself. I wasn't old enough to go to a piercing shop. My parents were signing off of it and I want piercings now.

00:21:59:18 - 00:22:00:05

Luna

Oh my gosh.

00:22:00:06 - 00:22:01:18

Lavender

So,

00:22:01:20 - 00:22:05:10

Lavender

You know, I was a teenager. I wasn't making good decisions. I don't recommend it. Don't do that.

00:22:05:10 - 00:22:08:09

Lavender

Do not do that. Like.

00:22:08:11 - 00:22:12:04

Luna

What would your parents say when you came home with piercings? Like, were they like.

00:22:12:06 - 00:22:14:11

Lavender

Did they say anything first?

00:22:14:13 - 00:22:32:03

Lavender

I like my mom. When she noticed myself them, I was flipping it up my nose so you couldn't see it. And then she was like, hey, you got a booger? And I was like, and she's like, yes, a real shiny one. I blessures oh my gosh. Or I'd come home. I had like my finger tattoos. I just redid them, but I did them originally when I was 13 on myself.

00:22:32:03 - 00:22:37:03

Lavender

Oh, really? And, I just told her I was like, yeah, it was just Sharpie. I just tried every day.

00:22:37:05 - 00:22:37:15

Lavender

She couldn't.

00:22:37:15 - 00:22:38:18

Lavender

Believe it. I know she did.

00:22:38:18 - 00:22:43:12

Lavender

Okay. No, she's not. She's wiser. Yeah. Wow. Yeah. Oh my God.

00:22:43:13 - 00:22:45:07

Lavender

I was like, what are you going to do? It's already there.

00:22:45:07 - 00:22:45:16

Lavender

You know?

00:22:45:17 - 00:22:53:05

Luna

Okay. So your hood piercing and your nipple piercing. Like do they add sensation for you or do you just like having them because they're pretty, like, what is it like?

00:22:53:05 - 00:23:08:02

Lavender

My hood piercing is completely functional. I it's funny because before I got it, another girl had told me she was having orgasms for weeks after she got it. Walking because it rubs on your clit, and I can confirm, you get used to it.

00:23:08:02 - 00:23:14:06

Lavender

Eventually, but I, I was, like, pretty juicy down there for, like, the first few weeks.

00:23:14:08 - 00:23:19:09

Luna

So then it stops because you get used to it, or you just like I constantly turned on. Or do you walk different now?

00:23:19:10 - 00:23:22:08

Lavender

Maybe. I'm not really sure. I don't. I don't notice it as much.

00:23:22:09 - 00:23:23:11

Lavender

Okay.

00:23:23:13 - 00:23:25:17

Lavender

But I still get stimulation when people play with it.

00:23:25:17 - 00:23:30:10

Luna

Okay. I was going to ask that. Is that like, what? Is it like a bar or is it like a it's like a.

00:23:30:10 - 00:23:45:07

Lavender

Ring and a barbell. It's what you would use in your high brow, pretty much. And it's just like the little piece, a labia right over your clit. So then when the piercing moves, it rubs on your clit. Don't. Oh, I don't recommend actually piercing your clit. There's more than a 50% chance of, like, losing losing sensation.

00:23:45:07 - 00:23:47:10

Lavender

Yeah yeah yeah. So yeah. Now with it.

00:23:47:11 - 00:24:04:22

Luna

But how do you like partners to play with it. Like is it just moving it slightly touching changes. What about when they go down on do like people going down on you? Okay. Like, can they play with it with their tongue or like, like if you're, if you're in a fluid bonded situation where you don't need to use protection, but like, yeah, they can just like.

00:24:05:00 - 00:24:08:20

Lavender

Yeah, absolutely. Yeah. It's nice. Oh. So cool.

00:24:09:00 - 00:24:14:11

Luna

Do you prefer clitoral stimulation or do you also like internal like are you what's your pussy like.

00:24:14:11 - 00:24:18:17

Lavender

So if I had to pick one I would be clitoral. But my absolute preference is both.

00:24:18:19 - 00:24:26:11

Lavender

Yeah. Yeah I'm like why choose one. You can have them both at the same time. And that's so hot. Okay.

00:24:26:12 - 00:24:28:07

Luna

What about the nipples though.

00:24:28:09 - 00:24:35:13

Lavender

You know what. My estrogen level piercings. I don't think my body like them. Maybe they were pierced. Wrong. They were done drunk at home, so who knows.

00:24:35:13 - 00:24:36:08

Lavender

Okay.

00:24:36:10 - 00:24:51:14

Lavender

Well, I did redo them professionally as an adult, though, and I still had a bad experience. I felt like they never healed, and, like. But also, I was a dancer when I re pierced. So people are always trying to touch and always slapping their hands away. I'm like, I just know you got to wait nine months, you know?

00:24:51:14 - 00:24:52:15

Lavender

Okay.

00:24:52:17 - 00:25:11:02

Lavender

So I felt like they never healed properly, and eventually I just took them out because it was my second time piercing them. And, I was with a partner. Well, not not like a dating partner, but just like a sexual partner. Yeah, yeah. And I was like, hey, man is up on my boob. And he was like, oh, okay.

00:25:11:02 - 00:25:16:20

Lavender

And then he just snapped his hand, snagged upwards for a bit. So I just.

00:25:16:22 - 00:25:19:03

Lavender

I never carefully oh my God.

00:25:19:04 - 00:25:34:20

Lavender

I never reversed it. After that, I went to my piercer, same guy. I was like, I think I tore my nipple red. Can you, like, tell me if I need to take it out? And I was trying to be discreet. And he comes out and he yells in front of them. It was a very busy day. He knows someone has a problem with their nipple.

00:25:34:22 - 00:25:38:03

Lavender

Just raise my hand in the back.

00:25:38:05 - 00:25:38:12

Lavender

He said.

00:25:38:12 - 00:25:43:03

Lavender

I could keep it in, but I felt like it wasn't healing still, and I just, I never yeah, I never did it again.

00:25:43:07 - 00:25:46:11

Lavender

I, I did that. Yeah.

00:25:46:11 - 00:25:50:03

Luna

Damn. Okay. What other sensations do you like on your body?

00:25:50:05 - 00:25:51:06

Lavender

I love a lot.

00:25:51:06 - 00:25:54:08

Lavender

Okay, I like biting, I love sensory,

00:25:54:10 - 00:26:00:18

Luna

Oh, here's a question. I imagine that has to be specifically negotiated. If it's in, like, a client environment, right?

00:26:00:18 - 00:26:05:02

Lavender

Yeah, I suppose so. Yeah. Yeah. Different rules. That's very connected.

00:26:05:02 - 00:26:09:18

Lavender

And like, also I have to also think of, you know, if it's something that could potentially bruise me or Mark.

00:26:09:20 - 00:26:10:12

Luna

It's a special thing.

00:26:10:12 - 00:26:23:22

Lavender

It could mess with my money and the rest of the week. You know, some people don't I like bruises, I think they're so hot. Yeah. But some people don't. And, you know, so I have to value it higher because it could potentially interfere partners.

00:26:24:00 - 00:26:46:18

Luna

You know, I'm polyamorous. I'm not a monogamous person, but I've been in situations where I like. Well, right now I have a very, very bruised ass. And then just like going on dates with other people who are more possessive, even if they're quote unquote, into openness and or not claiming me, they're like, I don't need any reminders of that, you know, or if I'm sexting and throwing someone and doing like video stuff I've had partners with, like, don't show me if you have bruises.

00:26:46:18 - 00:26:58:23

Luna

I don't need to be reminded of other people. And I'm like, oh, damn. So I can see how that would be like a consideration. But damn. Okay, so, what other sensations or should we. Yeah.

00:26:59:00 - 00:27:04:17

Lavender

Well, I learned at Chicago Exotica this year that I'm a big fan of, like, the electric plays.

00:27:04:18 - 00:27:05:14

Lavender

Oh.

00:27:05:16 - 00:27:07:10

Luna

Okay. Yes.

00:27:07:12 - 00:27:25:08

Lavender

I'm a rubber doll who I actually, I'm really still learning all of the porn stars because. Tired of being in porn, I didn't know anyone, so I'm learning them as I meet them. So it was my first time learning about her. I've learned a lot about her, so she's super awesome. So, but she had, like, a little domination.

00:27:25:08 - 00:27:35:06

Lavender

We all landed on mistresses choice. Oh, I love that. And she tortured the hell out of me, including the Violet one. And I loved it. Like I drew a crowd. I couldn't stop moaning.

00:27:35:06 - 00:27:37:14

Lavender

Yeah, yeah. What did you get done?

00:27:37:16 - 00:27:53:01

Lavender

She did so much. I have to show you that video later, too. She, like, with the vloggers, which she's super talented with. She had me, like, in, like, one of those old fashioned, like, head and, like.

00:27:53:03 - 00:27:56:17

Lavender

What is. Oh, my God, a start. Stop. Oh.

00:27:56:18 - 00:28:06:23

Lavender

She had me in, And. Yeah. So I couldn't see anything that was going on, and she was just playing with me, spanking me, using my, like I said, flogger pose. And then eventually the violet wand.

00:28:06:23 - 00:28:12:16

Luna

And I love it when I'm stuck and I can't move. I mean, I also like looking and seeing, but when I can't see, it's extra hot.

00:28:12:19 - 00:28:17:18

Lavender

It was nice. And in the video you can see when she was shocked me, my eyes were like the muscle.

00:28:17:19 - 00:28:19:14

Lavender

Like Joel was so hot.

00:28:19:14 - 00:28:21:06

Lavender

It was so nice.

00:28:21:08 - 00:28:23:21

Luna

That's so cool. Is that your first time with electro play? That.

00:28:23:21 - 00:28:24:08

Lavender

Yeah, that was.

00:28:24:14 - 00:28:26:18

Lavender

An I love it. Oh, I'd like to do it.

00:28:26:18 - 00:28:28:12

Lavender

Oh, okay. Okay.

00:28:28:14 - 00:28:43:06

Luna

Oh. That's amazing. Okay, let's dive into a little bit of, like, your sexy journey as it unfolds. Like, when did you start dancing? So you were working three jobs, then you were like, oh, I'm dancing. And it sounds like once you started, it was a fit for you.

00:28:43:06 - 00:28:44:05

Lavender

Yeah, absolutely.

00:28:44:07 - 00:28:50:17

Luna

Were you already like a dancing person or did you just like, learn on the job? Like, what was that aspect like for you learning curve wise?

00:28:50:19 - 00:28:51:07

Lavender

Well, I had a.

00:28:51:07 - 00:28:54:17

Lavender

Background in dance as far as, like I belly dance.

00:28:54:18 - 00:28:55:10

Lavender

Ooh.

00:28:55:14 - 00:28:57:06

Lavender

But it's very different from stripping.

00:28:57:06 - 00:28:59:04

Lavender

And I learned it very quickly. Okay.

00:28:59:06 - 00:29:15:15

Lavender

Because I went on stage, my belly dancing would, like, get me through. But first of all, I'm not a belly dancer in heels, so that was. Oh. So I had to learn from, like, scratch. I felt like when I started with pole and floor work and, like, I had the basics to twerking because belly uses your hips lot.

00:29:15:15 - 00:29:27:14

Lavender

Okay. But I still hadn't really gotten like that genuine twerk down, just kind of the more like eastern formats of it, I guess. You know, all the different shimmies, shakes and hip drops.

00:29:27:16 - 00:29:29:01

Lavender

00:29:29:03 - 00:29:46:12

Lavender

So I did feel like I had to learn, when I first started, I would work day shifts and night shifts and during the day shift when I would be slower. The girls were really nice and they would teach me anything I needed to know, and I learned pretty quick. That's cool. So I didn't know how to do my first audition day to day.

00:29:46:14 - 00:29:50:16

Lavender

I told them I was like, oh, was terrible. And they're like, it's okay. Like, you'll the girls will teach you.

00:29:50:16 - 00:29:51:20

Luna

They're like, you're very hot.

00:29:51:20 - 00:29:53:19

Lavender

Yeah, figure it out. They basically.

00:29:53:19 - 00:29:56:10

Lavender

Told me, as long as you don't run off the stage crying.

00:29:56:10 - 00:29:57:08

Lavender

Right.

00:29:57:10 - 00:30:00:11

Lavender

That's what we're looking for. Are you happy to be here?

00:30:00:12 - 00:30:01:07

Lavender

You know.

00:30:01:09 - 00:30:04:08

Lavender

And they were like, you're hot, you're good. You'll learn, you know.

00:30:04:08 - 00:30:13:09

Luna

So it was there. Is that where you, like, realize that you like, have a money kink? I know we talked about it. Yeah. The earlier. But like was there like a moment or was it just like. Yes dollars dollars dollars like how.

00:30:13:09 - 00:30:16:02

Lavender

It was, was that feel developed? Okay.

00:30:16:04 - 00:30:27:19

Lavender

I didn't realize it at first. Because I feel like, I don't know, the club brought so much to me and my life and my view on everything, including, like. Like my want for stability.

00:30:27:22 - 00:30:28:19

Lavender

Yeah.

00:30:28:21 - 00:30:33:04

Lavender

As well as, like, self-respect and things like that, which I think is something that also maybe turns me on.

00:30:33:07 - 00:30:35:14

Lavender

Yeah. I don't know, like.

00:30:35:16 - 00:30:38:17

Luna

Like sovereign being, like, I'm an earner for myself.

00:30:38:17 - 00:30:40:18

Lavender

It's hot. Yeah.

00:30:40:19 - 00:31:02:11

Lavender

So it developed slowly. It wasn't even at my first club that I really think I realized, it was that probably like my second club, I was not. Some of the girls were a little bit more up front there. And whenever I'd like, I don't know, whenever I'd whine about any problems, they were just like, really? Reality check me on how awesome this job is and how awesome we are, and that we're just really bad bitches.

00:31:02:11 - 00:31:08:22

Lavender

And they would say it really harsh, but in a way that I needed to hear. I love that. And so I feel like it's just really.

00:31:09:00 - 00:31:09:10

Lavender

Yeah.

00:31:09:10 - 00:31:24:03

Luna

That's so cool. Did you learn anything about your sexy self sexuality? Like, whether it's like, what clothes turn you on? What, like vibes of customer clients, clients, other clients at a strip club. What? Yeah. Okay. Okay. Like what? What did you learn?

00:31:24:05 - 00:31:34:17

Lavender

I definitely learned, like, my style. I had to find it when I started dancing. All the other girls were looking super cute, and I never knew how to style myself prior to that. Really? Never really cared about it.

00:31:34:19 - 00:31:37:22

Luna

I was such a stylish creature.

00:31:38:00 - 00:31:56:12

Lavender

I, I, I had never really cared about it. And I was like, looking around like, these girls are so beautiful. Like, how do I put my outfits together? I really like fishnets and I really like the sparkly fishnet. That's something I like. I really like a lot of, like, the leathery looks as well. I used to.

00:31:56:16 - 00:32:03:07

Lavender

I used to love. And you can only really get away with this. A full nude strip clubs. I feel like dancing with the butt plug in. I thought it was, like, the hottest.

00:32:03:08 - 00:32:05:01

Lavender

So hard.

00:32:05:03 - 00:32:22:03

Lavender

Like. And it would pull so many champagne rooms because they're just like, this girl has a plug in, like. And, you know, at the club, I had worked out you didn't get nude on stage, only in lap dances and champagne rooms. So I would be twerking and bent over and you could just, like, see it through my panties, like it would just be coconut.

00:32:22:05 - 00:32:23:06

Lavender

Oh.

00:32:23:08 - 00:32:25:17

Lavender

Yeah. How do you ever follow the drool?

00:32:25:20 - 00:32:30:12

Luna

No, not of my asshole. My ankles like like those. It wants to push those ones out.

00:32:30:12 - 00:32:43:06

Lavender

I would always wear, like, appropriate size. And then if I was, like, the appropriate amount of lube, you kind of have to refresh the lube. Like, because I would after a stage set, you can go to the locker room and I would go to the locker room, just kind of like take it out cleaner, lube it up, put it back.

00:32:43:06 - 00:32:44:12

Lavender

Like.

00:32:44:14 - 00:32:45:03

Lavender

Yeah.

00:32:45:05 - 00:32:52:15

Luna

Well, wait, can you connect the dots for my brain? They see a butt plug, and then it equals a champagne room.

00:32:52:15 - 00:32:57:03

Lavender

Well, there's just curious now, because this is cool. She has a plug in.

00:32:57:05 - 00:32:58:18

Lavender

It stands out. I'm like, you know, I.

00:32:58:18 - 00:33:13:19

Luna

Would wear a butt plug. Maybe I should try a stripper ring. I don't know, you know, like, just stands out. Okay. Oh, that's so hot. Tell us more about full nude. Like, you're talking to someone that kind of knows a little bit about stripping, because I've been researching the hierarchy, but the butt stripping is one that I've only heard, like in here.

00:33:13:19 - 00:33:24:05

Luna

So I've never done myself or tried, but, What what are some of the differences as you understand them between like not full nude and full nude, other than obviously one is full nude and the other one is not.

00:33:24:07 - 00:33:25:03

Lavender

00:33:25:05 - 00:33:34:22

Lavender

I mean, I've noticed, a heavy majority of full nude clubs don't have liquor. I'm sure there's kind of legals. Yeah, and they're usually 18 plus instead of 21 plus because there's no liquor.

00:33:34:22 - 00:33:37:02

Lavender

Right, right, right.

00:33:37:04 - 00:33:39:21

Luna

A client's different at all.

00:33:39:23 - 00:34:07:18

Lavender

Honestly, clients, I feel like, differ just depending on where you're dancing. And, like, when I was dancing at this full nude club, there was a lot of construction in the area. We get a lot of construction workers, and they had a lot of money to spend on us. Cool. But then, you know, if you go down there wasn't really downtown Chicago, if you go downtown more towards like the, you know, clubs in the loop area, then you're getting a lot of these businessmen, and they also have plenty of good money to spend.

00:34:07:20 - 00:34:22:05

Lavender

You you get a lot of, you know, I think everywhere you go, you get hella couples and, like, people out ready to party and throw money, too. But, you know, you just get different. I feel like demographics, depending on where the club is located and who's nearby.

00:34:22:05 - 00:34:30:17

Luna

That's so cool. Do you also, like, do lap dances or just the champagne room is like different, like explain the different kind of like things that you do and what you like the most.

00:34:30:17 - 00:34:45:08

Lavender

Yeah. So like most strip clubs, you could do a single lap dance. You could do like a set of lap dances. Or you could like say, fuck it, you know, I want to spend like a half hour, an hour, three hours with this girl, and you can rent out the champagne room. They bring champagne most of the time.

00:34:45:08 - 00:35:07:16

Lavender

Unless it's a no liquor club. But still probably bring you drinks, like Red bull or something. And, yeah, you can basically, you know, most clubs have a set price. Some clubs allow dancers to set their price. It's really different everywhere you go. But I prefer getting into the champagne rooms. Most of the time. They have, like, you know, lap dance rooms are usually these tiny little chairs.

00:35:07:16 - 00:35:24:18

Lavender

And like, everyone's kind of crowded back there and trying to get back there, whether it's like a feature or whatever is going on, you know, the two for one lap dances, whatever. But in the champagne rooms you have like one like the, kind of illusion of the like the more privacy, obviously there still will be security nearby, you know, for the girls safety.

00:35:24:20 - 00:35:53:08

Lavender

And basically, you know, you kind of have just a wider couch. They usually have nicer set up, sometimes themed setups. And it gives me, as a dancer, more capability to do more crazy dance moves, you know, some more fun stuff. It's just. Yeah, I think it and it also creates a more intimate space. I really do actually have a good time getting to know these people and connecting with them and meeting really cool people, getting their input on life.

00:35:53:10 - 00:35:58:11

Lavender

So it does create that intimate space. And yeah, it's just nice.

00:35:58:13 - 00:36:06:18

Luna

When do you feel like you developed your top side? Like when did you notice that you were a switch? Does it have a relationship to sex work at all for you?

00:36:06:20 - 00:36:27:10

Lavender

It was I feel like almost in a good way, forced out of me. Yeah. Because I don't know what it is, but right when I started working at Sheri's, you know, I would get it to it at the clubs in Vegas. It's since Vegas. I've been getting a lot of, like, step on me, mom. You know, ask your cigaret on me.

00:36:27:11 - 00:36:28:02

Luna

Have you got.

00:36:28:02 - 00:36:30:21

Lavender

To step on someone? Yes, yes, she owns people.

00:36:30:23 - 00:36:33:00

Luna

Yeah. Balls with heels. Yeah.

00:36:33:03 - 00:36:33:17

Lavender

Oh, my God.

00:36:33:17 - 00:36:47:05

Luna

I talked to someone in Sex Partners. It's like telling me all about how he loves to have his balls. Like, put in. I don't know what they're called, like things that hold the balls separate so they can get paddled more. He'll come just from that. And then, like, stepping to step on the ball, you step on the scrotum, on the skin around it.

00:36:47:05 - 00:36:50:09

Lavender

I try to go for the skin because I've had people that get.

00:36:50:11 - 00:36:51:12

Lavender

To, like, kind of really.

00:36:51:14 - 00:36:58:09

Lavender

Like me. Yeah, I'm a guy. And it kind of came out of me there. Oh, yeah.

00:36:58:12 - 00:36:59:11

Luna

Ball stomping. It's.

00:36:59:16 - 00:37:20:15

Lavender

I do have a very clear memory at a strip club in Vegas with, with a man who was just wanted me to dominate him. And I remember he was a he was a smaller gentleman. And I'm. I'm a taller girl, and I'm kind of, you know, I, I do pull and buff, and I don't look like it, but I can lift, you know, and, I remember just picking him up by his shirt collar and his belt loop and tossing him.

00:37:20:15 - 00:37:21:15

Lavender

He wanted it.

00:37:21:17 - 00:37:30:05

Lavender

You know. It's a very small man. Like, why were you wearing.

00:37:30:07 - 00:37:31:09

Luna

Like, platform heels?

00:37:31:12 - 00:37:32:06

Lavender

Do we? Yeah.

00:37:32:06 - 00:37:39:21

Lavender

I was wearing stuff for heels. I don't usually take. I know a lot of girls take them off in the champagne rooms. And let's just, like a rule at the club, I don't do it because some clubs don't want their chairs to get ruined.

00:37:39:21 - 00:37:41:04

Lavender

Right? Right, right.

00:37:41:06 - 00:37:54:16

Lavender

I, I like my heels. I like the way they look. I like, kind of, putting my long legs over them and kind of almost. I see why they want me to step on them. I put my feet right there. I.

00:37:54:18 - 00:38:03:15

Luna

So, are you more like boots or like sandals? Like all of them? Like, what are you what are your favorite stripper shoes? Like?

00:38:03:18 - 00:38:17:01

Lavender

I like all of them, but I do. I like my preference isn't necessarily boot versus sandal, though. I do wear a lot of boots for the grip. It's more height versus short. I like the tallest ones I can find.

00:38:17:03 - 00:38:17:14

Lavender

You.

00:38:17:16 - 00:38:19:08

Luna

To be of, like real giant.

00:38:19:08 - 00:38:21:07

Lavender

Yes. And I used to hate tall.

00:38:21:07 - 00:38:39:10

Lavender

Heels because I'm like five seven, which isn't huge, but like, I'm taller. I've been taller than a lot of my partners, and I used to hate being taller than them. I feel that way in the clubs. Something about it I that's for the dominance. I started coming out. I like towering over them and I was like, wait and I started getting taller and taller and follow my heels.

00:38:39:12 - 00:38:41:05

Lavender

I started liking it more and more.

00:38:41:07 - 00:38:42:14

Lavender

So. So now.

00:38:42:14 - 00:38:43:14

Lavender

I'm Gigantor at.

00:38:43:14 - 00:38:44:15

Lavender

The club.

00:38:44:17 - 00:38:46:20

Luna

Have you done giantess fantasies?

00:38:46:22 - 00:39:05:01

Lavender

My first porn club ever, which was my first, like, video I made. He's a short king. And he's very proud of it. So we put on my tallest heels, which are 11in. Oh, my God. And we took a lot of photos of my leg just right over his shoulder. Basically.

00:39:05:03 - 00:39:05:18

Lavender

We've done a lot.

00:39:05:18 - 00:39:08:14

Lavender

Of, like, that was like my major, one that I did with,

00:39:08:16 - 00:39:09:02

Luna

Oh, my God.

00:39:09:03 - 00:39:11:13

Lavender

It was a really hot video.

00:39:11:15 - 00:39:21:19

Luna

Okay. So what kind of top are you? It sounds like it depends on the request you're getting, but, like, energetically or vibe wise, what are some of the different flavors that lavender the top has?

00:39:22:01 - 00:39:23:01

Lavender

00:39:23:03 - 00:39:45:10

Lavender

I'm like, I don't know how to describe it. Like calmly aggressive. Like I'm like slow and sexy, but, like, I like to move really slow, and you just don't know when I'm going to step on your nail. You know, I. I like to play, like, sexy EDM, like something with bass, but like a slow B, you know?

00:39:45:10 - 00:40:12:16

Lavender

Yeah. Or maybe like some metal, you know, like in this moment. Rammstein. Something fun. So, I don't know, I just I'm very dancer in the way I do everything. So it's very just like about, like, the tease, like, rather I have you tied up blindfolded and bent over, and I'm teasing you with touching, and I, you know, spank the shit out of you with whatever tool or whatever weapon.

00:40:12:18 - 00:40:16:00

Lavender

A weapon of.

00:40:16:01 - 00:40:31:07

Lavender

You know, or rather, it's not. We're like, just laying there each other, and I'm just slowly putting my foot on your neck and pushing you down. I like to be very just slow and sexy and sensual and dance certainly about the way I move.

00:40:31:09 - 00:40:32:01

Luna