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Luna

Our guest today is a 21 year old bisexual, poly curious woman in a currently monogamous partnership of almost three years. She's into spanking, sensory deprivation, play praise and degradation. A bratty son from California who works as an instructional aide. Welcome, Reyna.

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Reyna

Hello. It's so lovely to be here.

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Luna

I'm so excited to have you here and can't wait to hear if you had to rate yourself on a sexual shaming meter, with ten being the most full of shame and one being not so shaming at all, where do you fall right now?

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Reyna

Today, right now? Being here with you? I'm at probably a two because I'm fairly shameless as it is when it comes to most people. But with you I would say a two.

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Luna

Okay, wait, am I more or less than most people?

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Reyna

I feel pretty shameless with most people. So you're about the same with everybody. It gets a little higher when it comes to family, I would say. Like with my friends and most people, I'm, I would say a two or a three family members. It tends to climb to like a seven or an eight. But with most people I sit pretty comfortably at a 2 or 3.

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Luna

Okay. Has it historically been like this, or have you noticed a change over the years?

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Reyna

Actually, over the years I've noticed a change because at first I was very self-conscious about it because I didn't want to be too much, I guess, like, I didn't know, like what was too much and what wasn't. Totally. And so I used to be a lot more like, oh, I can't say that, or I can't feel this way.

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Reyna

But now I'm like, fuck it, I'm an adult woman who likes sex. It's okay, dude.

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Luna

I love hearing you say that because I'm like.

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Reyna

I often.

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Luna

Still have this feeling of like, oh, I couldn't, I can't possibly, I shouldn't, I don't want to. And then I'm like, who?

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Reyna

Who?

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Luna

Why do I think that? What do you think? I'm just, like, afraid to shock people. Sometimes people do get shocked and so getting okay with that is my journey. Would you tell us what is your sex life like right now?

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Reyna

Good. It's pretty active. Me and my partner just started living together, which is exciting. So we're getting to have sex more often, which is great because before it was once a week when we saw each other. So more frequent sex has been really nice, active and really good right now.

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Luna

Congratulations. Okay, well then what would you say are your favorite parts?

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Reyna

Just getting to be intimate with them and just like feeling them, touching me, feeling me, touching them. Like I really love, like that moment together. Because to me, sex feels like this huge moment of just like being like together. Together. Like as close as you can get.

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Luna

Love that. Also when you say active, how active is active like a king? Is it possible to answer this question? Do you have a way? Yeah.

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Reyna

I feel like active is different for different people. For me, I would say we're very newly living together. Like it's open less than a week, like it's very, very fresh, but it's probably happened, I would say four times, 4 or 5 times in the like short span of time, which to somebody could be not a lot to me.

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Reyna

That's a lot. I think it's because I'm used to only being able to be intimate with him once a week. Okay, cool. So tell us now what.

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Luna

Makes you an excellent lover?

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Reyna

When I find something new like I really get into it. I like to tease. Well, I like to be teased and I do like to tease. So like when I find something that I know they like, I will kind of like use that to work them up and to really kind of like hold out until it's like they can't take it anymore as we just have to get into it, if that makes sense.

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Reyna

Like, I love doing that. Just kind of like watching them just get increasingly more turned on. And it's a lot of fun because then when you finally kind of break the threshold of like just before playing, you get into it. It's really hot.

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Luna

Amazing. How do you invite a partner to have sex with you? What are your initiation signals?

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Reyna

Usually I will start like touching them, not necessarily in like a sexual like hands down their pants way, but like, my partner has, like, this adorable little tuft of chest hair and I love it. And I'll just kind of, like, run my hands on it and then I'll kiss his cheeks or I'll like, you know, kind of like, nuzzle his neck with my nose.

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Reyna

And I'll start just kind of like, gently running my hands over him. And that's usually his cue. He's like, oh, she wants sex. That's usually how he knows. And that's what I'm trying to do. That's great.

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Luna

I love that you have a method. Okay, so could you tell us now what is sexy to you?

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Reyna

Raina I really love confidence. Confidence is very sexy to me. And also somebody who's, like, thoughtful. Like, I think thoughtfulness is really sexy. Oh, he's sexy. Is it so much like. Yeah, yeah, it's not so much. It's visual sometimes, but it's also for me, very emotional. Like if you think to do something for me and you thought of me, I'm like, that's so sexy.

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Reyna

Or if you're, like, confident in something you're doing that's really sexy to me to.

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Luna

Totally feel that. I went on a first date yesterday, and when I was checking in to meet up, he was like, oh, I got a reservation here and my last name is this just in case you beat me there? And I was like, oh, you know, because I've definitely gone. I was like, so awful. I'm turned on by this thoughtfulness.

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Reyna

I was like, oh yeah, I thought that was good.

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Luna

So I really feel you. What are some examples of like, concrete thoughtfulness that will, like, turn you on?

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Reyna

Like, if I'm coming home from work and my partner has dinner ready, I'm like, oh, I'm like, you love me.

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Luna

Oh, yes. Oh yeah. Especially when it's nurturing.

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Reyna

Yes. It's just so nice. Just like to walk through the door and you're like, oh, you have my suit ready or my pajamas laid out or something. Like, if I walked up to the bedroom and my pajamas were laid out, I'd be like, oh, thank you. Like, you know that I'm ready to unwind and relax. It's just things like that.

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Reyna

I just, I love it. It's so great. Every time.

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Luna

It's like, feed me, fuck me and talk me out, okay.

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Reyna

Exactly.

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Luna

Tell us now when do you feel sexiest.

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Reyna

When I like get out of the shower. There's just something about it. Especially if I've shaved and everything. Yeah. To me I don't care about body hair. I prefer to shave just because after a while I just get uncomfortable. It's like it's sensory. It just feels icky to me after so long. So it's not because I'm ashamed of my body here.

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Reyna

It's just because I just feel the need to every once in a while. But when I'm like getting out of the shower, I just feel so good. For some reason. I think it's just like washing off all that, like stress from the day and everything. It just feels so nice.

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Luna

Totally, totally relate. Tell us now how sex helps you connect to a partner and or like, how does it meet your social intimacy or connection needs? This is a new question I'm noodling with, so also feel free to give feedback.

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Reyna

So for me, I think it's something that I know helps, at least in my relationship. In my experience, it helps us both relax so I think to me I'm connecting with them and it's almost like because we know that, like after this, we're going to relax because that's typically how it goes. So we're connecting and kind of just like getting to be together without talking most that I mean sometimes there's like a little bit of talking, but we just get to be together and like enjoy each other's presence and then we get to relax and just kind of be.

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Reyna

And most of the time I would say it's like after we're like from work or whatever we've been doing. So it's just like a very nice, kind of like release for both of us. Amazing. And it helps me just kind of like chill out after like a long day. Fuck, yeah.

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Luna

Okay. Can you give us an example now of a sexy, explicitly clear yes that you have either given or received that led to something super duper hot?

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Reyna

Oh, yes. This was actually fairly recently, probably a couple of months ago. My partner was previously living with his parents. And when parents are around, it's hard to do things sometimes. And we were upstairs and they were not around and he was playing with me a little bit and I was getting really turned on. And so we had something to go get out of this trailer that's in their backyard that they don't use anymore.

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Reyna

And so I looked at him and I just said, do you want to go get that thing out of the trailer? And he said, what right now? And I said, yeah. I was like, let's go to the trailer and get that thing out. And he said, okay. And we went down to the trailer and shut the door and just like, immediately started making out, like, hands all over each other because I was like, this is where we can get away.

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Reyna

Yeah. Four minutes. And we knew we wouldn't have a lot of time. So I was like, unbuckled his pants and I got on my knees and I just like, started sucking his dick because I was just. So I was like, this is all we have time for and this is what I'll do. And so I did that for a little bit.

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Reyna

And this was in the span of maybe like ten minutes. It was a very short period of time, like I was sucking his dick for a little bit. And then there was like a bed in the back and he put me on the bed, and he just kind of like, fingered me for a little bit. And then we were like, oh, we can't keep doing this.

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Reyna

Like we're going to get caught eventually. So we both stood up for our clothes back on, got the thing we needed to get, walked out. And I remember because like his dad had just walked outside the back door and we were both like, if like if he would have been a couple minutes early, that would have been an interesting conference, actually.

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Reyna

Wow. But it was just like, I think he knew after a second of me asking him to go what was going to happen. And so we just kind of like it wasn't like a verbal yes, but it was kind of like he was like, oh, I know what we're going down there for. A really, it's not because we need something.

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Reyna

I love that we talked about that a lot for like a couple weeks. It seems like a small experience, but it was so, so fun.

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Luna

Yeah, I mean, it's layers of hot with all of that buildup and then the like almost getting caught or like the like, will we won't we like.

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Reyna

Yeah. Well and then later that night he took me home and we were still going from earlier. And I was like, we need to go upstairs right now. And we went upstairs and then we got to have sex later. And it was so good because we were both just like waiting. We were waiting because we knew that we would get a chance later.

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Reyna

I love that. So tell us, know when.

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Luna

You tell a friend that you got laid last night, what do you usually mean? What counts as sex for you?

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Reyna

To me, my brain automatically jumps to penetration because I think that's what most people think of. Usually, if I'm telling somebody like I had sex, I think like for me in my particular partner, like penis, vagina, sex, if it's anything other than that, I would say that we like messed around is like the term that I would use, I guess.

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Reyna

So that for me can include like making out, giving or receiving head or fingering and handjobs things like that. So but actually like if I was like, oh yeah, I got laid last night, to me it would be like typical sex. Okay.

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Luna

And no, tell us if you ever got a helpful health and safety or sex ed conversation from an adult that you trusted growing up.

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Reyna

So I didn't didn't I got one a little bit, but it didn't quite cover everything. I actually was shown a video. I'm quite a bit older than my younger sibling, and when my mom was pregnant with the younger sibling, she showed me a video and it was like this funny little cartoon that pointed out, like body parts and then was like, oh, this is how babies are made.

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Reyna

But instead of like it showing the cartoon characters having sex, it zoomed in on this like cat blanket that had two cats on it, and the cats were like a rubbing up against each other. And I guess that was supposed to stimulate that. The adults under the sheets were like having sex. It was so weird. But anyway. And then it showed like, you know that from that you get a baby and things like that.

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Reyna

And then my mom did always tell me that nobody should touch me unless it's a doctor or or her, she said. She said nobody should be touching you in like, an inappropriate way or at all, unless it's me or a doctor and I was like, okay, because she didn't elaborate. So I was like, yeah, that I think makes sense.

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Reyna

And then from school, it was boy girl separation. You're going to have your period, don't get pregnant. Kind of say the word vagina. Like we got little pads and deodorants. It was not very good.

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Luna

Okay. So all those basics. All right.

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Reyna

Oh, yeah.

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Luna

What about consent? Did anyone ever kind of explain the idea of consent beyond that? Sort of like, don't touch, you hear talk you got from your mom?

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Reyna

Not really. I mean, my mom, I think she tried, but she didn't quite give the context that my brain needs to understand. Like, I knew that I was not supposed to touch people if they didn't want me to touch them. I knew that for myself. But it wasn't super clearly taught to me the other way around. Yeah, so I knew that because she was like, you don't touch people.

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Reyna

You know, if somebody says stop, you stop, no means no. Things like that, which is great. But I didn't really get taught that the other way around very well. I was like, you didn't teach me in the way. That's, like, important to myself.

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Luna

Yeah, yeah, important and helpful. So tell us now then, what are your health and safety conversations with partners like and or what are your current practices currently?

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Reyna

I mean, it's hard to say much because I have been in a pretty much monogamous relationship for the past few years. So if I were going to have a conversation with somebody, I would definitely bring up testing just because I think it's important. You never know. I just want to make sure that everybody is being safe. And to me, if they're not willing to have that conversation or go get tested with me, then that's a red flag, because that's a very intimate thing that we're going to do together.

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Reyna

And we want everybody to have a good time and to be safe. So ideally they would be forthcoming and okay with it, and if not, then I probably wouldn't pursue anything with that person.

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Luna

That makes sense. What are the agreements between you and your partner when it comes to health and safety? Like are you fluid bonded? Do you use protection? What's your what's your vibe there?

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Reyna

Yeah, we currently do not use protection. I have an IUD. That's the closest thing that we have to protection when we occasionally play with other people, we do use protection, but together we do not.

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Luna

Okay, so let's now go back in time. You have been with this partner, your three adult years. But first, before we get to those details, take us to your younger years. When do you first remember hearing about sex? What do you remember thinking and feeling and knowing and learning about it?

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Reyna

When I was a kid, probably around five six like, which is very young, but I remember hearing about it. And then it's something that, like adults do, which makes sense, but that's most of what I remember is just like hearing that it's something that adults do and that babies come from and things like that. I wasn't like super curious about it when I was younger.

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Reyna

I think I kind of just lived in my own little world, so I wasn't, like, inherently curious about it. I was curious about myself and my body, but I wasn't curious about, like, other people's bodies and sex and whatever. I just know when I said it, adults laughed and then didn't really give me any further explanation.

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Luna

Interesting. What do you remember being curious about your own body wise?

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Reyna

I remember like I would always like, touch myself, like in the bathtub as a kid, and my mom would come in and she'd be like, what are you doing? And I was like, oh, I'm just like, you know, I don't know. And she wouldn't tell me what I was doing. She would just be like, oh, like, you know, maybe you don't do that.

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Reyna

Like, not in a shame way, but just in a, like I don't think she knew how to handle it. So she was like, yeah, don't do that. I was like, okay. And then I really liked my butt. Like when I was a kid, I would look at my butt in the mirror, oh, look. Oh my God, that I was obsessed with my own butt.

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Reyna

So I remember that. And I was like, I really wanted boobs when I was a kid. Also, like, I was fascinated with those and I really, really wanted to have boobs. And I would put like the squishy light up balls in my shirt and I would, like, run around the area. Oh yeah. I wanted boobs so badly.

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Luna

Do you remember, like where that came from or why or what sparked it?

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Reyna

I don't know, I mean, I guess like a lot of the women in my family are like large, tested women. So maybe that was it. Just like seeing the women around me had boobs and I was like, oh, I want boobs. I was like, why don't I have those? I was like, so excited to get boobs as an adult.

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Reyna

I remember I was just like, I can't wait till I have boobs. How do you feel about.

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Luna

Your boobs now?

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Reyna

A little better. I mean, I'm like the women in my family. A person with huge boobs and their pain, but I also like them at the same time.

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Luna

Nice. Okay, what about your butt? You still. You still approve?

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Reyna

I still look my butt. Yeah, still look at it. Still check it out. I'm like it. Still looks good. That's amazing.

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Luna

It sounds like you got an interesting mixture of messages coming up. Like, what do you remember? What about in your, like, social landscape? Like, it sounds like school in terms of girls of met, but like. Yeah. How did you kind of like learn and grow and what do you remember exploring?

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Reyna

I remember exploring with like my friends a little bit like I remember like, sleepovers or even just like, like if there were no parents around, we would, like, practice kissing each other. Like, we're like, oh, well, one day we're going to kiss boys because I didn't know what gay people were. It just was. It's not like it was kept for me.

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Reyna

It just wasn't like brought up. So I was like, well, we're going to kiss boys. One day, so we should practice so we know what to do when we kiss boys. And so I remember that. And then like, crushes for me were interesting because for a long time I like didn't understand them because people would be like, oh, I like this boy and I like this boy.

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Reyna

And I was like, why? I was like, why do you like them? Like, they don't even you guys don't talk, you know. No. And I like didn't get it for a long time for some reason. And then and I think in middle school is kind of when I like it started clicking for me a little bit more in elementary school, for whatever reason, I just I didn't like anybody.

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Reyna

I had no crushes on anybody. I was like, I don't care. I don't get why people have crushes.

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Luna

Yeah, I mean, I get it, I get it. But then you felt like, do you remember the moment you felt a shift or was it just sort of gradual?

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Reyna

I think it's because maybe the people who are popular too, like I never liked, but I remember in, in eighth grade we had she was there for only like two years, but I had like a beautiful younger English teacher and I was like, oh, I like her. I was like, she is my favorite teacher. And I didn't know at the time that's because I had a crush on her.

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Reyna

I just thought I was suddenly really interested in English and getting my homework done to impress her. So cute! She was really cute. She had like short curly dark hair. She was like, you know, fair skinned. She had like these very big, beautiful blue eyes. She was very sweet too. But I remember, like thinking about that. And I was like, oh, I was like, I'm.

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Reyna

And then at that point I knew what gay people were and I was like, oh, I was like, I just like this class. I was like, she's just a good teacher. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

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Luna

Yeah, yeah. When did you start exploring with other people? And like, when did you start consciously exploring your own body?

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Reyna

About the same time? Actually, I started export really exploring with other people when I was 14. I had a boyfriend who was older than me. It was the old like, you know, freshman dating a senior kind of situation, which is gross, but a lot of people have been there.

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Luna

I loved it, I will just say I.

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Reyna

Always.

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Luna

Loved it. I know people were judgmental, but I was like.

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Reyna

Oh, I don't know. I get so grown up. Oh yeah, because you did. You're like, my dad. You didn't. College next year. It just feels so grown up because when you're a kid, all you want to do is still growing up until you're a grown up. And then you're like, fuck, I had it. So it's like, damn it, I wish I could be it again.

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Reyna

But anyway. So yeah, with that person I started exploring more with and then myself. Actually, it was after we broke up because we hadn't had sex yet. It was very on and off and he would finger me. And I liked how that felt. And then I didn't realize, honestly, that masturbating was something girls did. I thought that it was a boy thing.

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Reyna

And it's funny because I was masturbating, but I didn't know I was because I really get it with my fingers. I would like do the pillow thing. I would like wrap my legs around a pillow, and I would just kind of move until the thing happened that I liked. Yeah. And I had no idea that was masturbating. No clue.

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Reyna

And so then after that boyfriend, I was like, well, if he can do that, I should be able to do that. So then I started doing it and I was like, oh, this is great. I was like, I'm going to move on to do well. Amazing. Okay.

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Luna

What was your kind of like go to method or style?

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Reyna

Honestly, for a while it was literally just like my fingers were inside me and then I would get my palm like on the rest of it, pretty basically. And then I would just like, move it around. I didn't have a method for a while. I just knew that if I did that for a long enough, that something would happen and it would feel nice.

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Reyna

And I remember it was actually like a guy that I was talking to. He asked me if I had ever masturbated, and I was like, I don't know. I was like, how do I do that? And then I realized I was like, oh, well, what he did to me, I must be able to do myself. And then I just kind of eventually put two and two together.

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Reyna

And then that was my method for a while.

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Luna

When did you realize you were bi?

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Reyna

Oh, not till I was in high school, because I didn't real. I mean, I think I have felt things for people other than men my whole life, and I just didn't connect it. I thought everybody felt that way. And I was like, me, dude, what do you mean? Doesn't think like that? So I was probably like 16 or 17.

00:23:54:04 - 00:24:13:19

Reyna

I would say I was like a junior senior in high school when it clicked and I realized and I was like, oh, I was like, I like people other than men. And then I remember it's funny because I told my friend who was the only by person that I knew at the time, and she told me she was like, there's no way, not you.

00:24:13:19 - 00:24:29:04

Reyna

I was like, wait. I was like, you're my dude. Aren't you supposed to be supportive? I was like, wait a minute. I was like, what do you mean? That's so interesting? I mean, now we're still friends. Now she's fine. I mean, it's not like she was against it. I think she was just kind of shocked. Shocked. And then she was like, how?

00:24:29:06 - 00:24:36:11

Luna

Okay, so is that something you've gotten to explore? Kind of like what happened next in your unfolding? Like take us, steer us in the direction we need to.

00:24:36:11 - 00:24:59:03

Reyna

Go a little bit. So I've gotten to explore it a little bit. I want to explore it more. So in high school I was into like serious relationships. So towards the end of high school, right before I graduated, I broke up with my partner, who I was fairly serious with, who I think was like a little bit because I actually came out when I was with him.

00:24:59:03 - 00:25:29:05

Reyna

And I think that that confused him because he was a jealous person. And I think that he thought like, the competition's wider now, and I think, I don't know, he didn't seem to like, be mad about it, but I don't think that he was like super happy about it either. It was kind of hard to tell. But anyways, after that ended, I took a while to myself because I was very hurt after that relationship ended because it was like a year and a half, I think.

00:25:29:07 - 00:25:45:20

Reyna

And so I took some time to myself and then I downloaded dating apps and I thought I was like, well, I was like, I'm bi, but I've never really done anything with a girl except for like when I was a kid. And I'm not sure if you're supposed to count that or not. So it's like, yeah, I was like, who knows?

00:25:45:22 - 00:26:04:06

Reyna

So I downloaded a dating app and I talked to a lot of girls, but it never got past the like, chat. And it was also during Covid, unfortunately. So that was also difficult because I don't want to get sick. I don't want to get anybody else sick. I wanted everybody to be safe. And it was super tough to meet with people.

00:26:04:11 - 00:26:20:15

Reyna

It was kind of difficult, so I got to explore it a little bit in my current relationship, but I didn't get to explore it when I was single very much okay, I did a little bit actually. Now that I think about it, I did. I've met up with one girl that was a it was just like a one time experience.

00:26:20:15 - 00:26:24:11

Reyna

I saw her one time. I have not seen her since. Okay.

00:26:24:12 - 00:26:34:07

Luna

So what happened next for you sexually? Was it the relationship that you're in now, like kind of or are there any other formative pieces that feel like important to mention?

00:26:34:09 - 00:26:55:07

Reyna

So in between my senior high school boyfriend and my current partner, I had some other partners. I think all of them I only slept with once. They were like a few. Kind of like just Tinder hookup one night stands are not Tinder Bumble. Sorry. No, I won't give Tinder credit or not. One of the most Tinder one of them was Tinder.

00:26:55:11 - 00:27:23:04

Reyna

Okay, so like one Tinder and like a few Bumble clubs in between. But none of them were very like, I don't know how to say it, just they were just fine. They were just what they were. They were people I didn't want to see again for a reason. I'll just put it that way. So a lot of my experiences came from freshman year boyfriend, senior year boyfriend, and then a lot more with my current partner.

00:27:23:06 - 00:27:24:02

Reyna

Okay.

00:27:24:04 - 00:27:35:01

Luna

Is there anything that you want to say specifically about, like your virginity loss or sexual debut? Like it sounds like it's just a lot of like your seem very practical and straightforward, but is there any are there any details that you want to share?

00:27:35:03 - 00:27:57:20

Reyna

Yeah. So I lost my virginity when I was 16. It was weird. It was a little it was a little bit funny. It was my freshman year boyfriend. It was not when I was a freshman anymore. I was like a sophomore, almost junior at this point. He picked me up from school because once a week he would pick me up from school on the days that we got out early and he said, my parents aren't home.

00:27:57:20 - 00:28:20:10

Reyna

Do you want to go to my house and have sex? And I was like, yeah, I guess it's pretty basically because I was like, do I? I don't know. And I was like, maybe I do. And so then we went and his friend was at his house, which I thought was really weird. And apparently he knew what we were going to do because he was like, I'll just stay out here.

00:28:20:13 - 00:28:27:10

Reyna

You guys go do whatever. And I was like, so his buddies like in the backyard, like, was.

00:28:27:10 - 00:28:29:00

Luna

He like the look out or like.

00:28:29:03 - 00:28:48:21

Reyna

I guess I don't know why he was there. He just was. And so he just sat out in the backyard, and then we went in his room and we very nervously, like, we didn't even, like, undress each other. Like we were like a couple feet apart, just like undressing ourselves, which was, I don't know, we were both like, it was weird.

00:28:48:23 - 00:29:09:12

Reyna

And then I remember I had a friend of mine who I knew was having sex, buy me condoms because I was scared to go buy them. So I had my friend buy them for me and I brought them and I think I like, had them with me just in case, because I knew it was going to happen soon, but I just didn't know how soon.

00:29:09:14 - 00:29:34:08

Reyna

So I had them with me, thankfully. And I remember because he once put it on, he asked me if it had to go over his balls too because he had never put a condom on before. And I was like, oh, I was like, I don't think so. I think it just goes. So for the the man part and we tried to do missionary and it just wasn't he like couldn't figure it out.

00:29:34:09 - 00:30:01:12

Reyna

It wasn't working. It just miscommunication. We both didn't know what we were doing. So I ended up getting on top. And I actually I wonder if that's why that's my favorite position. Maybe because it was my first one. I wonder if that's why it's my favorite. But I ended up getting on top and I remember thinking like this doesn't hurt as bad as people say it does, because I got on and I was like, oh, I was like, it's a little bit of like pressure, but it doesn't really hurt.

00:30:01:14 - 00:30:19:01

Reyna

And I thought everybody was like, it's painful, it's going to hurt, it's going to be painful. And then it wasn't. And I was like, amazing. But I have a high pain tolerance. So that also might be me. Maybe. Okay. Me. But yeah, that was I mean, that was most of it. I neither of us had an orgasm.

00:30:19:01 - 00:30:39:23

Reyna

It was like very quick. I was on top for probably a few minutes. And then we were both kind of like, well, this isn't really I don't know what's if it's working or not, but we did it technically. So let's just go back to what's really okay. Did you guys try it again or like, did you get good at it or what did what did you think and feel about it with him?

00:30:39:23 - 00:31:03:23

Reyna

We did not get good at it. We tried it again, maybe like 2 or 3 more times. It just wasn't working. We just weren't. I just it for each other. We just weren't working, like in every aspect. Okay. But then the next partner I was with, he had actually had sex before. And so I was like, okay, this is what's going to I'm going to learn from you because you know, what's up?

00:31:04:01 - 00:31:21:15

Reyna

We actually did have like pretty good sex for a while. He was my first partnered orgasm, which was good because, I mean, I didn't really know much. Like, I didn't know I was like, is it normal not to? Should I be every time, like, I, I had no idea.

00:31:21:17 - 00:31:26:09

Luna

So it's all normal. It's all normal. But it's like, what do we want and how do we get there? Yeah.

00:31:26:11 - 00:31:26:17

Reyna

Exactly.

00:31:26:20 - 00:31:28:20

Luna

What do we want? How do we get there? Today it's all different.

00:31:28:20 - 00:31:47:14

Reyna

So I learned a lot of stuff with that person. To go back to the other person. I don't know if this is why I'm into kink or if it would have been this way anyway, but he introduced me to it. Okay. He said, oh, there's this thing I'm into, it's called DLG. And I was like, I was like, I don't know what the fuck that is.

00:31:47:16 - 00:32:03:00

Reyna

And he explained to me what it is and I was like, oh, okay. So I was like, you want me to call you daddy? You want to be like, dominant over me? I didn't understand what any of this shit was. And he like kind of half that explained it to me. So I was like, okay, I think I like that.

00:32:03:00 - 00:32:26:09

Reyna

And we didn't actually use that dynamic very often. So despite him being into it, which was weird. But then when I was with my next partner, we got more into that because I told him about it. I was like, this is what I have briefly explored with this person. And he had watched the porn version of what that dynamic is, and he was like, oh, okay, I know what this is.

00:32:26:11 - 00:32:52:06

Reyna

And so then after further like internet research, I figured out kind of everything I wanted to know. And then we explored that dynamic a lot, but it was more just like just in the bedroom, like it wasn't in our day to day interaction lives. It was just in bed. But I kind of sometimes I wonder if I would be Intuit if somebody hadn't told me about it so early on, but I think I would be.

00:32:52:06 - 00:32:54:18

Reyna

I think regardless, I wanted to end up here.

00:32:54:20 - 00:33:11:19

Luna

Who knows who can say we are where we are, right? I feel like patterns will always come out and it's just a matter of when they bloom. So like, it sounds like this second boyfriend your senior year of high school. Okay. Yes. It sounds like that was like another really good formative experience. Tell us. I would love to hear about partner masturbation.

00:33:11:19 - 00:33:23:19

Luna

I would love to hear, even if you just remember, like how you were conceiving of like sexual relationships or what you were thinking about exploring or like what it felt to like call someone daddy and what else you guys were getting into.

00:33:23:19 - 00:33:48:07

Reyna

Yeah. So at first, and actually now I like doing it. But at first it felt weird because it felt like I was just associating it with, like, my actual dad. Yeah, weird. But then I was like, no, that's not what this is. This is different. We explored quite a bit. He was the first person to, like, spank me and Choke me and things like that, and like me discovering that I like those things.

00:33:48:07 - 00:34:00:14

Reyna

I was like, oh, and then I had though, am I supposed to be into this? Like, is it weird? And I'm like, no, it's not weird. It's something I like. And it took me a while to get out of that too, because I was ashamed of it for a little bit. How did.

00:34:00:14 - 00:34:07:03

Luna

You transition? Like, did you have support or research or friends or like what? Or just a smart brain that was like, I'll be okay now.

00:34:07:05 - 00:34:31:04

Reyna

Yeah. It was mostly like research, like finding other people on mainly like TikTok and stuff who were talking about it and then hearing that other people, like a lot of other people, had these thoughts and feelings and experiences and that it was okay. I was like, oh, because I feel like sometimes when you don't know somebody or see somebody who have those feelings and experiences, it's easy to feel like the only one.

00:34:31:06 - 00:34:56:19

Reyna

So when I got to see that more, I was like, oh, it's not just me. Like other people enjoy these things and feel this way, and it's not bad or weird or any of those things. And so I was like, okay, this is normal. I'm fine. Yeah. But yeah, we explored a lot of that, like the spanking and the choking, and we had limited resources because we were teenagers in my home.

00:34:56:21 - 00:35:15:03

Reyna

She really like to do this thing where he brought, like a tie from his house, and he would use it to tie my hands together. And that was really fun because, I mean, I still I would still enjoy that. Now we have other more correct things I guess to use, but not that ties aren't correct because they can be, but they're good.

00:35:15:03 - 00:35:25:06

Luna

It's fun to play with lots of different things. Were you able to be like at your house? Were parents not home like at the sound of spanking can be loud is what I'm wrapping my mind around.

00:35:25:08 - 00:35:44:07

Reyna

My parents were working and my sibling was at school. Okay, so after school we would walk back to my house because I did not live far from where we went to school and we would just do things in my house. We knew what time people would be home, and we just used that time to do what we wanted to do.

00:35:44:13 - 00:35:52:13

Reyna

So yeah, fortunately for me, I had an empty house a lot. Wow. Because people were working in that school.

00:35:52:15 - 00:35:56:22

Luna

Okay. And so when did you meet your current partner and how?

00:35:57:00 - 00:36:02:21

Reyna

I met him on Bumble. It was November of 2020 that I met him.

00:36:02:23 - 00:36:12:20

Luna

And then how did your dynamic evolve? Like, tell us the evolution of your sex life? It sounds like he maybe has been like the most formative partner. Or is it fair to say.

00:36:12:22 - 00:36:28:15

Reyna

Yeah. So when we met, she actually had never had sex or done anything before. He had never kissed anybody. He had never had sex, he had nothing.

00:36:28:17 - 00:36:30:11

Luna

Okay. How was that for you?

00:36:30:13 - 00:36:53:18

Reyna

I'm not going to lie. I was a little bit nervous at first because I didn't know. I was like, well, I know that I can like, teach him, but I also didn't want to. I don't know, I would think I was afraid of like, it not being what he thought it was in his head. I mean, when you don't know about something and you think of how it is in your head and then it's different, it can be disappointing.

00:36:53:20 - 00:37:17:18

Reyna

So I think I was afraid of it, like not being what he thought. But actually our first time together for him not have ever done pretty much anything went really well. It went really well. We had the conversation of like, I know I like this, and he knew things that he liked from like some self-exploration and from porn.

00:37:17:20 - 00:37:35:20

Reyna

He kind of like knew some of the things that he liked and didn't like. And I knew from some of the people that I had been with the things that I liked and didn't like. And so we talked a lot about that before anything happened. And our first time together was actually really good, and it was very nice.

00:37:35:22 - 00:37:38:01

Reyna

That's awesome. Yeah.

00:37:38:03 - 00:37:58:10

Luna

I'm also just like sitting here listening to you and reflecting on how at ease you really seem like. I like, see that too. What I mean, I don't know, is it really a two? You feel like a one to me? Where do you get shame? You're nervous. Like, do you get nervous with partners? It sounds like you're really comfortable talking to them.

00:37:58:12 - 00:38:22:23

Reyna

Honestly, it might just be because I'm with somebody who I'm very, very comfortable with. I don't know, I've always been pretty comfortable with myself and talking about things. I'm a very open person as it is. Like I've always kind of said with me, what you see is what you get. I'm not hiding anything. I'm not putting on any facades or anything like the person you're talking to is the person I am.

00:38:22:23 - 00:38:42:14

Reyna

I'm not hiding anything from you. I'm not trying to make you perceive me as somebody I'm not. Because to me, it's not worth it. Because I know that I'm a good person and I like myself. And so it's not worth hiding any parts of myself from somebody unless it doesn't fit the situation, obviously. But like, for the most part, I'm very open.

00:38:42:14 - 00:38:58:06

Reyna

And I mean, this is like what you do. So I think for me, it's easy to talk to you because I know that you do this all the time. And even though you're technically a stranger, I mean, I've, I've heard your voice and I've listened to you talk to people. So in, like, a weirdly small way, it feels like I know you even though I don't know you.

00:38:58:06 - 00:39:01:18

Reyna

Yeah, yeah, yeah, I get it. You know, like, I think that's it too.

00:39:01:20 - 00:39:15:12

Luna

That's so cool, though. I mean, it's, I think I'm also maybe projecting or whatever aren't real, but it's still something that I struggle with. So when I see someone and I really feel that solid comfort, I just have to admire it because it's, you know, it's.

00:39:15:12 - 00:39:16:05

Reyna

Yeah.

00:39:16:07 - 00:39:21:01

Luna

Some people haven't, but a lot of people don't. Yeah, yeah, yeah. It's just like yummy to bask in to.

00:39:21:05 - 00:39:25:20

Reyna

Thank you. That really does mean a lot. That's very nice to hear. Good.

00:39:25:20 - 00:39:39:17

Luna

I hope you do let it in because I think it's meaningful. And this is the type of stuff where I'm like, I feel like I learn just by absorbing your energy around it. And, you know, I practice every time, but I still feel like a goober half the time. And then I'm like, what am I doing?

00:39:39:19 - 00:39:41:19

Reyna

There's nothing wrong with Goober.

00:39:41:21 - 00:39:43:22

Luna

I well, I have to just keep embracing it.

00:39:43:22 - 00:39:44:21

Reyna

Because I am.

00:39:44:23 - 00:39:58:12

Luna

So am I correct in guessing, understanding that you and your partner are in a power dynamic now? Like, are you still in touch with your submissive side? Okay. How was it like, you know, like you cultivated a dominant partner?

00:39:58:14 - 00:40:28:14

Reyna

Yeah. I mean, honestly, it's kind of great because since I'm his first everything, it's kind of nice because he knows exactly what to do and what I want. And not that he wouldn't know that if he had been with other people previous, but it's just kind of because I got to kind of like, mold everything, I guess. So I'm like I said, an open person, so I don't mind explaining things or being explicit.

00:40:28:14 - 00:40:50:13

Reyna

And honestly, during the time that I was single, I got into this space of especially watching like the other kinky people on the internet. I was like, I need to just say what I want. I'm wasting my time and theirs if I'm not being direct. So if I do and do not like something, he will know. And that happens in all aspects of our life.

00:40:50:15 - 00:41:12:15

Reyna

But in the bedroom, if it's like if he's doing something and I like it, I will let him know if he's doing something. I'm like, ooh, not that again. Hell no. God. And there's then both. And he knows every time, because I will tell him. I encourage the same from him. I always say like, if I'm doing something and you don't like it, please tell me.

00:41:12:15 - 00:41:16:02

Reyna

Or if you really like it, then definitely tell me so I can keep doing.

00:41:16:04 - 00:41:27:05

Luna

Yes, yes, I've gotten really, really good at inviting that, especially with new partners. I feel like if I set a good pattern, it's great and I feel like if I don't, then I really struggle or I notice that that's when I struggle last.

00:41:27:07 - 00:41:40:12

Reyna

Well, and then it it almost like it sucks because then when you finally get there, you're like, oh my God, I could have been doing these great things all along. And I was just holding myself back. For what? Yeah. Oh, totally.

00:41:40:14 - 00:41:53:17

Luna

Okay, so tell us the specifics of your, like, bratty, stubby self. What gets you off the most? What do you fantasize about? Like what occupies your erotic headspace most often? Like, give us the landscape, give us the layout.

00:41:53:18 - 00:42:11:04

Reyna

I love teasing him. And just like when he tells me to do something, it's just fun to be like, no, look, I don't want to, because then that's. And I mean, he knows this by now, but that's me looking for that force that's like, you know, you need to do it. And kind of getting him telling me, like, I didn't ask you.

00:42:11:04 - 00:42:29:07

Reyna

I'm telling you, do it now depending on what it is or I love the like when I do something, I'm a good girl person. I love. Like, if I can play it, even if it's just a like a little task and he's like, oh good girl. Like thank you. Love it. It's so, so good every time.

00:42:29:11 - 00:42:32:04

Luna

You're a good girl. Brat.

00:42:32:06 - 00:42:36:02

Reyna

Yeah. It's like I, it's I'm a weird mixture of.

00:42:36:02 - 00:42:54:04

Luna

Both, you know, I'm, I'm literally trying to learn because I'm like, I have a person who likes kind of like the energy and I, like, never quit. And I'm scared because in the past, when I've tried to, like, tease people, I think I'm doing a little tease. And then it's an explosion. And sometimes it ends up without friendship, you know, like, or it goes really extreme.

00:42:54:04 - 00:42:54:12

Reyna

Yeah.

00:42:54:12 - 00:43:01:13

Luna

And so I'm, I'm always trying to like, I loved hearing the specific. So you like to be good but you also like to be bad. I mean that makes sense.

00:43:01:15 - 00:43:18:01

Reyna

How do I put this? I like to be good, but like, you're going to have to work for it. If I'm good, you're going to have to work for me to be good, because I'm going to fuck with you a little bit, and I'm going to pretend like I'm not going to do it. I'm really like, no. And then you put me in my place and I'm like, okay, fine, daddy.

00:43:18:01 - 00:43:21:14

Reyna

I'll do it. Like I'll melt and I'll be like, oh, okay.

00:43:21:16 - 00:43:24:18

Luna

I have to be like a strong enough daddy to, like, tame the room.

00:43:24:20 - 00:43:29:19

Reyna

Yeah. Pretty basically. Like, that's I love that kind of shit. It's so good.

00:43:29:21 - 00:43:42:01

Luna

Amazing. So in the sex you're having now, is it mostly kinky? Is it a mixture? Is it sometimes vanilla? Like what do you how do sessions work for you or like what do you get into most regularly or is it variety. Like what's that like for you?

00:43:42:03 - 00:43:59:03

Reyna

It depends on the time we have and the energy we have, because there are some nights where I'm like, I'm going to put my because I have I don't know if you can see it, but this is like it's a day color and so it doesn't come off in the back. There's like a little like you have to have a key to unlock it.

00:43:59:05 - 00:44:19:01

Reyna

It's just like a tiny little day color that I wear all the time. But I have like a bigger one. And so usually when I want to get into something kinkier when we have the time, I'll put my collar on and I'll say, okay, like tonight, I really want to do something heavier, like something more kinky, not just vanilla sex.

00:44:19:01 - 00:44:29:21

Reyna

And a lot of the time we do just have vanilla sex because we're both busy people and that's what we have. The time for. But when we have time to get into it, we do. So it's a mixture of both.

00:44:29:23 - 00:44:38:11

Luna

So does your vanilla sex still have like traces of your dynamic, or is it really okay? Okay. I used to always call that cuddle fucking with my former master.

00:44:38:11 - 00:44:48:16

Reyna

Yeah, that makes sense. So to me it's like, oh, I guess I wasn't thinking about it. I guess to me it seems vanilla, but yeah. No, it's not my people. Yeah you don't.

00:44:48:16 - 00:44:50:07

Luna

Just the choking and some slapping and.

00:44:50:09 - 00:45:09:20

Reyna

I'm not exactly. I'm like him just like, you know, holding in on my clit until I like, absolutely fucking explode. Is, isn't kinky that just normal or something? Or like him choking me while I ride him? That's just normal sex. Like, that's not kinky. Like, to me that's just normal. I'm like, not think not. No, but I know what you mean.

00:45:09:20 - 00:45:11:17

Reyna

Other people don't do that.

00:45:11:18 - 00:45:27:15

Luna

I mean, well, here's the thing. Everyone has their own definitions, right? Like, I know a lot of vanilla people who are into stuff that I'm like, I haven't got too kinky. Okay, I don't know, you know, so that's the whole thing. I just like it when people are safe is possible. But what about cock worship or pussy worship?

00:45:27:15 - 00:45:41:05

Luna

We haven't spoken of either of these things. I mean, you mentioned it in passing, like giving head and stuff, but what do you like to give? What do you like to receive us physical specifics and or if you're dynamic is worked into any of that if it's relevant.

00:45:41:05 - 00:46:14:00

Reyna

Yeah. So I love receiving oral personally. It's one of my favorite things I'm working on loving giving it. And the reason I say working on is because I had a partner who made it. Not a good experience for me is, oh, I will really go into it because it's not worth getting into detail, but I'm working on liking it again because I did used to like it, but I am a little self-conscious about my skills, so I think that's part of the reason I don't like it too, is because I'm not just good at it.

00:46:14:00 - 00:46:38:23

Reyna

Like I'm a little self-conscious about my skills, so I'm trying to, like, make my skills better too. But I do love receiving her. He loves to give it to me, which is great. Awesome. One of the things I used to really enjoy was face writing. I love doing that, but it just doesn't work with us. Our bodies just he can't breathe and not in like a hot way.

00:46:38:23 - 00:46:52:22

Reyna

And like a he can't breathe away so we don't do it because he just can't breathe. But I'm sure if he could breathe while doing it, he would do it. We tried it a couple times and it just wasn't. Our bodies just weren't built to do that.

00:46:53:00 - 00:46:56:19

Luna

Okay. What are the specific feelings that your pussy loves?

00:46:56:21 - 00:47:13:09

Reyna

I love like just direct contact with my clit. Honestly. Like I know some people it's just like too much for me. It's not I love it, I'm like, put it right on there, rub directly on there, put the toy directly on there. Just like I love a lot of stimulation.

00:47:13:14 - 00:47:18:20

Luna

That's so cool. Could you do, like, single finger right on there or do you need, like, flat doubles. Like, what do.

00:47:18:20 - 00:47:33:13

Reyna

You usually I would say doubles I don't know, but every single night I do it single night. But usually doubles are better for me. I think it just gets the area better. Like I think if it was single it would work, but it would take longer.

00:47:33:15 - 00:47:40:03

Luna

Okay, yeah. Singles so intense to me because it's just, you know, it's one pressure point. I like I like multiple, I think I.

00:47:40:03 - 00:47:41:13

Reyna

Like I do too.

00:47:41:15 - 00:47:56:10

Luna

Yeah, I mean I like, I like whole variety and like getting there faster. It's not the point, but sometimes it's like it's not I don't know the whole the whole thing. Okay. And you said you do like penetration said when you touch yourself or okay, are you a squirter at all.

00:47:56:12 - 00:48:17:10

Reyna

A little bit. It's weird because I don't know how to define it because I think I do, but it like puddles. It's not like some people are like, oh, it like shoots across the for some people mind doesn't. Yeah, yeah. Mine is not like mine doesn't. Yeah I don't know why that needed to sound, but mine doesn't like shoot.

00:48:17:10 - 00:48:17:19

Luna

I like your.

00:48:17:19 - 00:48:35:21

Reyna

Sound effect. Oh my god. But it like it just like puddles. Gosh I love actually discovered like a year or so ago that I could do that. I did not know I could do it. For a while I thought I couldn't. I was like, oh, maybe it's just not for me. And then it was actually a toy that did it the first time I went to a sex shop.

00:48:36:00 - 00:48:53:00

Reyna

And I think it's actually the only time I've been to a sex shop since I found this toy. And I was like, this looks like a lot of fun. And I bought it. And that night I was excited and I used it and I was like, oh my God, did I just do that? I was excited and also kind of like in shock.

00:48:53:06 - 00:49:01:21

Reyna

And I sent a video to my boyfriend. I was like, look. I was like, look what I did. I also promise for some reason, wow. But I.

00:49:01:21 - 00:49:03:00

Luna

Mean, I will be two time.

00:49:03:00 - 00:49:14:17

Reyna

Since I like two, but it's also like clean up. So sometimes if I feel like I'm going to, I like try not to because I don't want to clean.

00:49:14:18 - 00:49:17:20

Luna

Fair. I mean, you're allowed to choose, right?

00:49:17:22 - 00:49:37:04

Reyna

And then I bought what I thought was like to go over my bed like one of the mats. Yeah. And I opened it and it was really small. Oh. Which is, I thought I was like, oh, it's going to like, pull over my bed or it's going to like, be like a sheet and like, cover my bed. And it's like the size of a throw blanket, like it's really small.

00:49:37:09 - 00:49:46:05

Reyna

It's like a small jet kind of size. And I was like, this is not what I wanted it to be, so I need to get a new one. I just haven't.

00:49:46:06 - 00:49:55:04

Luna

I think a grown up baby changing blanket also, you like about to squirt and not squirting is almost like a squirt edging. Is that a thing? Like you're like.

00:49:55:06 - 00:50:12:02

Reyna

Maybe I think you invented it. I can't, maybe I did, I can hold it in though, because there's been times where I'm like, I know I'm about to. And I'm like, no, I can't. I'm like, I don't have anything that's so powerful. I don't know how I do it. I didn't know you could. I just don't want to, like, make a mess.

00:50:12:02 - 00:50:16:18

Reyna

And I don't want it to, like, get into my. So I'm like, I can't do it.

00:50:16:20 - 00:50:22:16

Luna

Totally, totally. What about assholes? Ruined the budget of giving and receiving.

00:50:22:18 - 00:50:46:17

Reyna

Yeah, I'm into receiving it. My boyfriend doesn't like it, although I've never done any butt stuff to anybody. Actually, now that I think about it, I've never explored with anybody else. But I like it. I'm a little bit scared of full on, like penis, asshole anal. Still, we have tried it. It went okay, I think I just wasn't quite ready.

00:50:46:19 - 00:50:49:08

Reyna

But like stinkers and toys I enjoy a lot.

00:50:49:13 - 00:50:50:18

Luna

Nice. Okay.

00:50:50:18 - 00:50:59:11

Reyna

But I also, I think it might just be like I have a well-endowed partner, so I think that's the hard part too, is it's just not. It's just not working yet.

00:50:59:13 - 00:51:07:20

Luna

It will definitely be part of it. Have you ever fucked yourself in the ass with like, a dildo or something? I built a lot of trust with my self that way.

00:51:07:22 - 00:51:12:05

Reyna

That's a good idea. I actually have it. I don't know why I never thought to do that.

00:51:12:05 - 00:51:14:16

Luna

It didn't occur to me until after I'd had.

00:51:14:16 - 00:51:18:08

Reyna

A lot of bad sex. Yeah, it didn't occur to me for a while.

00:51:18:10 - 00:51:34:01

Luna

And I'm. And I'm lazy sometimes, but then when I do it, then it is like a special occasion, which I think has value since I live a great life and, you know, we have something to look forward to. Yeah. What are there physical details about your body? Do we not know yet? Like we know you love your boobs and your ass.

00:51:34:01 - 00:51:39:01

Luna

We know you're a big titties, but like, what feels good? Like, where do you love to be worshiped?

00:51:39:01 - 00:52:00:20

Reyna

And how I love having my nipples played with. It's one of my favorite things. It's part of the reason I'm scared to get them pierced because I want them pierced, but I'm afraid it's going to mess with my feeling and I like it too much to compromise it. But I love like getting them either with fingers or like sucked on is usually my favorite.

00:52:00:20 - 00:52:19:06

Reyna

I just it's so good. I've had an orgasm just from him playing with my nipples one time, and I want to do it again because it was so good and it took a long time. But he got me there and it was so, so good. Like I didn't have anything else. There was no toys, there was no touching anything anywhere else.

00:52:19:06 - 00:52:29:02

Reyna

It was just him focused on my nipples and it was so good. And I would love to do it again. But it took a long time last time. That's so cool. But it was amazing.

00:52:29:07 - 00:52:37:12

Luna

Did you, like, have an inkling that it might happen? Like, how did he know to try that long? Because now I'm sitting here being like, well, maybe you've been diligent enough.

00:52:37:12 - 00:52:58:10

Reyna

I don't know, right? He just kind of like a lot of times to like, get me super wet. That's the way to go. So he was just doing it to kind of like as part of our foreplay. It's a very normal part of foreplay for us. I don't know, maybe I was just in a specific mood that day, but I was getting really turned on and I was like, I wonder.

00:52:58:12 - 00:53:16:02

Reyna

Oh, I said, I said, I wonder if I could come like this because this feels so good. Like I wonder if I could. And he said, I don't know. We'll try it. And it worked. And I was like, wow. I was like, this is amazing. Why did we not try this so long ago? Oh, it was great.

00:53:16:04 - 00:53:21:00

Luna

Are you guys sharing a bed now that you've moved in together or what's that like?

00:53:21:02 - 00:53:35:17

Reyna

Yeah, we're sharing a bed now. It's nice, I like it. I like being able to, like, you know, kind of like roll over and have him there. And we both love cuddling. So being able to, like, cuddle before bed and then kind of like separate. Yeah, yeah.

00:53:35:19 - 00:53:51:18

Luna

Are you a person who's into either being woken up for sex or waking the other person up for sex? I had a partner recently wake me up with his cock for the first time, and I loved it so much. And I've never had anyone just, like, insert themselves inside me and I would be open to that. But this was just like a cock on my face, which was fun.

00:53:51:20 - 00:53:55:15

Luna

Is that something that you would like ever be open to? Are you like, no, fucking let me sleep.

00:53:55:17 - 00:54:25:04

Reyna

I don't know if I would like it. Maybe I feel like it's something that I would have to experience to know, because I can't imagine whether I would like it or not. But I have like to wake him up before because we're both sleepy, but he's even sleepier than I am. So I have like woken up for him before and then to wake him up, I'll kind of just start like kissing him a lot and like running my hands down him and then he'll kind of like he's like, oh, okay, I know what's about to happen.

00:54:25:06 - 00:54:38:03

Reyna

And then we'll have sex. But sometimes he's asleep and sometimes he's like kind of trying to sleep. But he can tell that I'm awake. So he's like a little bit of. But he likes it. He definitely likes it.

00:54:38:05 - 00:54:40:10

Luna

What are some things that you do want to explore?

00:54:40:12 - 00:55:04:19

Reyna

I really want to explore more group things. We've had a threesome together twice and they were both really fun, and I really want to do that more often. Right now we live together, but we're not in our own place quite yet, so I think it'll probably be more future, but we both really want to explore more threesomes. I'm open to more than just threesomes.

00:55:04:19 - 00:55:14:14

Reyna

I'm still trying to, like, see how he feels about more than just three people, but I'm open to more than three. I think it would be really fun.

00:55:14:16 - 00:55:32:14

Luna

Fuck yeah. Tell us some of your threesome fantasies. Like what configurations would you be into or more? Some threesomes are more. Some like, would you be into swapping? Would you be into like two cocks and a cunt or like, you know, do you want more pussy? Isn't a dick like would. What would your ideal explorations look like so far?

00:55:32:14 - 00:56:00:16

Reyna

What we've done is just with another girl, another like female presenting person. I would do either way. Actually. It's funny because recently I had a dream about having him and another guy and I was like, wow, because I had thought about it a little bit. But I tend to lean towards women a little bit more. So most of my explorations that I would like involve people with vaginas.

00:56:00:18 - 00:56:19:17

Reyna

So I hadn't thought about like other people with penises very much because I'm kind of been there. I just, I don't know. But the other night I had a dream about it and I was like, oh, I was like, that could be really fun. Yeah. So I'm not sure how into it he would be, but I think it would be a great time.

00:56:19:21 - 00:56:21:01

Reyna

Love it.

00:56:21:03 - 00:56:26:17

Luna

Would you ever go to like a group place based like sex party situation or sex clubs or anything like that?

00:56:26:19 - 00:56:47:08

Reyna

I have been dying to. I would love to go to a sex party or a sex club, or I really want to go to a dungeon so bad. I want to go. And my dream is to one day have like a sex room in my house. Yeah, like I would love to have a room just with all my favorite things.

00:56:47:08 - 00:57:04:05

Reyna

Like one of those. I don't remember what they're called, but like one of those, like sex chairs. And then I want a Saint Andrew's cross so bad. I'm sure they're expensive. I don't care, I'll save for it. I want one so bad. It's a big dream of mine and my partners. We were picturing like bookshelf door kind of vibe.

00:57:04:05 - 00:57:11:09

Reyna

So it's like hidden and it's like yeah only for us like, one day we're going to want to make that room and we're so excited about it.

00:57:11:12 - 00:57:16:01

Luna

Oh my God, please do. And then please tell me about it. That's fucking amazing.

00:57:16:01 - 00:57:25:03

Reyna

I know, and like 5 or 10 years when I hopefully get the spectrum of my dreams, I'll send you a video tour. I'll be like, look, I did it. Oh my gosh.

00:57:25:03 - 00:57:26:15

Luna

I'm, here for it.

00:57:26:15 - 00:57:29:12

Reyna

I'm so looking forward to it.

00:57:29:14 - 00:57:31:10

Luna

What toys would you put in it?

00:57:31:12 - 00:57:39:13

Reyna

Oh, all of them vibrators, butt plugs. Definitely some paddles. Foggers.

00:57:39:15 - 00:57:54:21

Luna

I just bought two new foggers today. I finally have a matching set so I can practice both my hands. Like, literally. And it's only because I'm like, all right, I'm getting serious about my bucket list. Also, I found a new toy. It looks like a long lollipop, but it's not. It's not the thing that's called a lollipop because it's a sphere.

00:57:54:21 - 00:58:00:11

Luna

It's like a 3D, but it's like it's for whacking. It feels really nice. I got it, I couldn't help oh, impulse buy.

00:58:00:13 - 00:58:01:15

Reyna

It's for whacking.

00:58:01:17 - 00:58:02:15

Luna

For hitting. Yeah.

00:58:02:20 - 00:58:05:06

Reyna

Ooh, that sounds interesting.

00:58:05:06 - 00:58:09:16

Luna

I smacked it on myself through my, like, jumpsuit, and I was like, this could feel nice.

00:58:09:17 - 00:58:14:22

Reyna

Oh, yeah. That's not interesting. Is it? Like bouncy ball material? What material.

00:58:14:22 - 00:58:25:23

Luna

Is it? Not quite that. It's like a hard clown nose. So it's it's not like the hard kind of. I mean, it is, it is very hard. It's almost like the texture of a doctor's knee wacker.

00:58:26:00 - 00:58:37:02

Reyna

Oh, okay. What about to use the technical term, it looks like the ball gags that have the actual ball. It looks like that. Is it, like the same? Kind of like.

00:58:37:05 - 00:58:39:21

Luna

It's very similar. It feels nice. I love it though.

00:58:39:22 - 00:58:40:23

Reyna

So cool.

00:58:41:01 - 00:58:42:04

Luna

I definitely want to get it.

00:58:42:06 - 00:58:48:17

Reyna

For some reason. I picture it being like huge. I don't know why I picked it up, like really big. That would be very fun.

00:58:48:19 - 00:58:50:22

Luna

Like getting hit with a medicine ball.

00:58:51:00 - 00:58:57:07

Reyna

I would end up getting silly, like bonk him in the head. I'd be like, boing, boing, boing, know I'm so funny.

00:58:57:09 - 00:59:06:03

Luna

So are you into pain? Like, do you like it? Yeah. Are you like, I do like to get marks. Like, tell us, tell us about your pain and where you like it.

00:59:06:05 - 00:59:27:02

Reyna

And how you like it. I love more specifically like getting hit. Like whether that's being, like, spanked or flogged. I haven't tried it with you. I'd be interested too. I think it might be a little bit too stinky for my personal taste, but I'd still want to try it just to see. But yes, I love things like that.

00:59:27:08 - 00:59:39:06

Reyna

Sometimes with my nipples. Like I like biting it. Sometimes they're sensitive depending on like what time of the month it is. But when they're not sensitive, sometimes I like them to be like between. Oh.

00:59:39:07 - 00:59:44:16

Luna

Have you ever tried nipple clamps or, like, the nipple pumps?

00:59:44:18 - 00:59:57:06

Reyna

I want to get the pumps because those seem like they would be really fun. And since I like the sucking, I feel like they would be great. But I have one set of, like, cute little clamps that look like the little, like hearts. Okay, cool.

00:59:57:07 - 01:00:05:17

Luna

What about porn or nudes or sexting? I mean, now that you live together, you're in a new era, but, like, kind of what's that digital landscape look like for you?

01:00:05:18 - 01:00:29:06

Reyna

So when I wasn't having sex or when I, like, kind of started having sex, but wasn't having it frequently, I really liked sexting. I actually used to have sex a lot when I was like a teenager. I loved sexting and nudes as a teenager. I like nudes now. We don't exchange them a lot. Sometimes I send them. I like receiving nudes and I like sending them.

01:00:29:06 - 01:00:51:12

Reyna

I think I enjoy sending them a little bit more just because it's, I don't know, it's just fun to me. And as far as porn, I'm not really a porn person. I think I would like amateur porn. I haven't tried it just because it's more real, but to me, I think it just it feels really staged most of the time, and I think that's just kind of hard for me to relate to God.

01:00:51:14 - 01:01:07:23

Reyna

So I have a hard time. Like, I think if I was to look at like an OnlyFans creator or like somebody who, like, makes their content themselves, then it would be better for me. But I don't really particularly care for porn. Most of the time.

01:01:08:00 - 01:01:22:02

Luna

I feel that I also like like it more. If someone is like, watch this, and then it's relational for me, because sometimes I'm just sort of like, what am I doing right now? Is there anything else about sex in general that you would like to say or that you think about?

01:01:22:04 - 01:01:44:17

Reyna

I think about honestly, sex education a lot. I really wish that like sex education was better. And it's like very frustrating to me when I think about it for too long because I'm like, it's just so simple. Like, we could be keeping so many more people safe and people could be so much more informed. And why are we not talking about pleasure when it comes to sex education and things like that?

01:01:44:18 - 01:01:58:22

Reyna

Like, if I could just change anything, it would be like good sex education for everybody. Yeah, because it's just terribly bad. And it's like embarrassing because we have the resources. They're just not using them.

01:01:59:00 - 01:02:12:04

Luna

Yeah, yeah, yeah. I feel it's so hard. This is like what I noodle about number one. Number one. What do you wish besides pleasure and or like how do you wish they taught pleasure? Like, what else do you think it needs to include?

01:02:12:06 - 01:02:44:08

Reyna

Oh my God. Honestly, everything. Because for me, they missed a lot. First of all, I don't think that we should be separated or if we're getting separated, we should have to go to both. Like the people with vaginas should get to learn their things, and then they should also go to the people with penis. Their education and learn those things, because then you just understand each other better, and it would just leave so much less confusion, and it would be so much easier to understand things.

01:02:44:10 - 01:03:04:02

Reyna

I also just wish, like in terms of pleasure, they don't have to. I mean, you don't have to get super into it, but just that it's okay to like feel pleasure and learn things about yourself and to like encourage self-exploration and like safe ways and things like that. You know, like, I feel like it could just be done so much better.

01:03:04:02 - 01:03:28:00

Reyna

And also like safe sex for queer people as well as straight people, because I feel like it's just a lot of like, if you don't wear a condom, then you're going to get an STI, or you're going to get a girl pregnant and nobody wants that. Yeah. And it's like, that's one not the only option. Totally. And two, it's just a very kind of like basic way to look at it.

01:03:28:01 - 01:03:28:18

Reyna

Yeah, yeah.

01:03:28:21 - 01:03:40:18

Luna

Also, I wish we could normalize especially for casual hookups. Safer oral sex. Like oral sex. Yeah, I wish that were more of a thing. Especially at play parties too. I'm like, okay, you're.

01:03:40:19 - 01:03:43:12

Reyna

Like, you guys are supposed to know this stuff.

01:03:43:14 - 01:03:51:06

Luna

Well, I mean, people just it's within a lot of people's risk tolerances. And I get it. And I'm like, well, but some people get thrown herpes or other things. And so, you know.

01:03:51:07 - 01:04:23:20

Reyna

Hold risk for those places. I don't know how they work because I've never been there. But I would think that it would be like, everybody needs to get tested before coming, like right before coming the day before if possible, or two days before. And you need to present said test results. And I feel like that's probably asking a lot to some people, but I feel like it's not because if you're expecting me to want to touch you or to let you touch me, I need the bare minimum, which is like for you to be, like, healthy.

01:04:23:22 - 01:04:41:21

Luna

Yeah, yeah. I mean, I know a lot of places don't even get tests back within 24 hours unless they like some professionals in the industry. And so that's like a big part of the tricky problem. But I absolutely dream of like membership spaces with what exactly what you're talking about. And just like normalizing those things. So okay, thank you for that noodle sesh.

01:04:41:21 - 01:04:42:23

Luna

I'll take everything.

01:04:43:01 - 01:04:44:18

Reyna

Out.

01:04:44:20 - 01:04:47:23

Luna

What are your hopes for your sexual self going forward?

01:04:48:01 - 01:05:20:21

Reyna

Just to keep learning and exploring? Like I said, I would love to explore more group things and more things with people with vaginas, so I hope that those things I can explore them more like I want to, and more things in terms of like just new sensations. And I mean, because I haven't crossed off everything, there's no way I have so there's so many more things that I can and want to try, and I just hope I one day get to like, do all those things.

01:05:20:21 - 01:05:29:08

Reyna

And I also hope that I'm still like having sex when I'm old. I'm like still enjoying it as like a seven year.

01:05:29:08 - 01:05:31:08

Luna

Old here, here. Yeah.

01:05:31:08 - 01:05:32:10

Reyna

I hope it never does.

01:05:32:10 - 01:05:38:01

Luna

It's may your sexual flame always remain a light.

01:05:38:03 - 01:05:39:16

Reyna

Oh, yeah.

01:05:39:18 - 01:05:47:03

Luna

Okay, so if you could go back in time and give younger you a piece of sex advice, what age or ages would you pick and what would you say?

01:05:47:05 - 01:06:13:00

Reyna

I think I would probably pick around the time I started having sex. So probably about 14. And I would say it's okay to not know what you're doing. Don't be embarrassed. Don't feel like you're doing anything wrong. It's okay to not know what you're doing and to learn, because I think I was super embarrassed for a long time about not knowing because I thought I should just know these things, and I didn't.

01:06:13:01 - 01:06:22:20

Reyna

And so I think that that is like I would say it's okay, like to learn. Everybody's learning. You're not the only one who's figuring all these things out for the first time.

01:06:22:22 - 01:06:27:14

Luna

Okay. Yeah. Are there any sexy questions you want to ask me?

01:06:27:16 - 01:06:34:06

Reyna

What is your favorite way to feel pleasure? It can be in a sexual context or not. Or both.

01:06:34:09 - 01:06:56:17

Luna

Oh oh, wow. My favorite way to feel pleasure. I love laying perfectly still. I can be tied down or not and have some one else. A partner who really likes to give me sensation gives me sensation.

01:06:56:19 - 01:06:57:11

Reyna

01:06:57:12 - 01:07:21:21

Luna

And it can be any number of sensations, but hopefully it also does eventually lead to like pleasure related pussy sensations. But it literally could be a back massage for. I mean, here's the thing if I'm getting pain eventually, I also want my pussy to get touched like roller, but like receiving sensation. Like just having another person touch me where I don't have to do anything.

01:07:21:23 - 01:07:22:06

Reyna

01:07:22:06 - 01:07:50:09

Luna

But then ideally transitioning to a space where I can do something. I think for me that deep, deep state of surrender is so fucking hot to receive, you know, it's something that I also really get off on creating. But for myself to like just deeply receive pleasure. I like that although I could be speared on the end of someone's cock, like if there was something in my mouth, like fingers or hands or, you know, all of all parts are good that I guess I can.

01:07:50:11 - 01:07:54:10

Luna

Yeah. But yeah, yeah. Is that a sneaky answer? Do you think that's a is that an acceptable answer?

01:07:54:10 - 01:07:58:14

Reyna

Okay. Yeah, that's a great question. An acceptable answer. And answers are going to structure.

01:07:58:19 - 01:08:03:04

Luna

Well what's your answer like a favorite way to receive pleasure.

01:08:03:06 - 01:08:24:22

Reyna

My favorite way to receive pleasure. Oh probably when somebody is like kind of like running their hands down my body and just kind of like making me feel like they're like, really looking at me and just, like, embracing all of me. Like, I just, I love that, like, even, honestly. Like, I can feel pleasure just from, like, a really, really tight hug.

01:08:25:00 - 01:08:31:01

Reyna

Like just that really tight, like nice embrace I love. That's awesome. Yeah.

01:08:31:02 - 01:08:35:20

Luna

Raina, thank you so much for being a guest on Sex Stories.

01:08:35:22 - 01:08:38:02

Reyna

Yeah. I'm so glad I got to be here.