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33 straight Asian American dude, Daddy Dom, in a relationship of 3 years, advisor for the Department of defense, from the U.S. South, into: caretaking, exhibitionism, threesomes, and he has a strong oral fixation that goes both directions.

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Luna

Our guest today is a 33 year old straight Asian-American dude who is in a relationship of three years. He is a doughty dame who is into caretaking, exhibitionism, threesomes and he has a strong oral fixation that goes both directions. Joining us from the US South. Welcome, Kemosabe.

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Kemosabe

Hello.

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Luna

Hey, can you start out by telling us if you had to rate yourself on a sexual shame, a meter with ten being the most full of shame and one being not to shame you at all. Where do you fall right now?

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Kemosabe

Two.

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Luna

Okay. What about in general?

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Kemosabe

In general, it just really depends on my current physical self. The same state two right now because I'm alone and okay.

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Luna

I kind of love that answer because it's not so much like, oh, am I around a work person or a home person? It's just sort of like my physical body. I love that, I love that. Okay. Can you give us a little snippet overview of what is your sex life like right now and what are your favorite parts?

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Kemosabe

Right now, it's great in my relationship with my partner because like, I see her throughout the weeks. My job doesn't really have set schedules like I work long hours, so when I see her, it's like, we'll eat, we'll shower and then hop into bed. I think that.

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Luna

Honestly, it was kind of my ideal relationship, etc.. Amazing. Okay.

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Kemosabe

Like as soon as I'm able to text her, I'm. I'm going lyrics, she's like, okay, cool in the shower and we're going to do this. What do you want to do tonight. Like oh is that or is that. Let's do it.

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Luna

Amazing. Can you tell us now what is sexy to you? Give us your personal definition.

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Kemosabe

I feel like it's a male with the. I mean, I was like, it's a good mixture of feelings, concerns, horny with like, the intent, wanting to outwardly portray that sexy feeling, you know, because like, feels to me like you have to be a little horny because if you're not feeling it, you're not feeling it so you don't feel sexy.

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Kemosabe

But like when you get that feeling, you know?

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Luna

So is that when you feel sexiest, when you're horny, or do you have other modes of like when you feel really sexy yourself?

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Kemosabe

Like, if I'm doing something hobby wise or work in like really telling it, like I'm doing a really good job and that confidence that feel good and you know, it's just like, yeah, right now this.

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Luna

Like love that. Okay. Now tell us what counts as sex for you.

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Kemosabe

It doesn't necessarily have to be penetrative sex. It can just be kind of making no sense. Roaming freely from 1 to 10, being completely primal. If it's a shared, intimate space and we're being more physically intimate, you know, that's cool to love. To me, I can have a mental orgasm when I'm really intimate. Some, you know, my partner and we're just really it really.

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Kemosabe

It's a moment. It's more of an emotional attraction. Does that make sense? That's.

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Luna

So how does it feel? Like anything. Or is it just like. Can you describe it a little bit?

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Kemosabe

The tingling. It's tingly. You know, like that tingly feeling. It just feels so good.

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Luna

Amazing. Okay, so now let us know. As a young person, did you ever get an explicit health and safety talk from a grownup that you trusted? Or any lesson in consent?

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Kemosabe

Absolutely not. That's solely based on my cultural from what I've learned. And a lot of people within my culture have had the same experiences.

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Luna

As an adult. Can you give us an example of a time where there was a really explicit clear? Yes. That led to something delightfully, deliciously hot?

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Kemosabe

The first thing that comes to mind was when the and my fiancee worker date, and it was like second or third time, it was the better place. And she had her hand in my lap and I was just doing my daddy. And I'm thinking for rubbing her back or watching the screen gets up, goes for her room, changes into a little onesie with like a bombshell on and the onesie, like, barely zipped up and she just takes my hand, leads me into the room and we just get at it.

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Kemosabe

Not single or series. It's like, okay, I want to fuck right now because it changes into like one hand onesie or something and just takes what she wants.

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Luna

I love that.

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Kemosabe

Even I was just like, oh my goodness, we are okay. She's going to give up taking a nap. Oh.

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Luna

I'm so excited to get into the rest of the details. Okay. Now tell us though, let's talk about safety before we do. What happens to your shame meter when it's time to talk to a new partner about safer sex? It sounds like you guys maybe have some threesomes. But even if it's not a new partner. Because now you have the ante.

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Luna

Congratulations. Tell us about your health and safety conversations and how they go for you in an ideal setting.

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Kemosabe

I won't even consider having sex with someone we don't talk at all like, even if they were more persistent about it, right? I know we have to have this talk for years, be in line and like, you know, preconceived notions of everything. You know, what the lifestyle that we live this we have to do this. This is not a negotiable things.

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Luna

Okay. So do you use condoms with people who are not your primary partner? Well, do you I'm assuming. Well, listen to the assumption of my question. To use condoms with your partner. Like, what do you what's your kind of, like safety protocol for yourself to keep you and your fiance safe?

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Kemosabe

I generally will have problems, but if it's somebody that have tested recently or we agree, then we all are in the clear to them. You know it's it's a on that promise. Not even so.

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Luna

Great. Okay. Here's my question for you on that because I have tried that method a couple of times and been lied to by my partners. Like just that's why I have herpes in my throat. How much trust building do you do and what does it look like? Like when do you decide to trust the person? Because I'm like, I'm really good at trust and pattern sometimes.

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Luna

But then I'm like, sti wise, I've gotten lied to twice. So what do you do to make that decision for yourself? Is it just an intuition thing?

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Kemosabe

It is. I like to pay attention to their everyday life before they even commit to having sex or play, because I find that for me, if they're not up to standards, a chore like politics keep living space. And just like you can't even clean up on a regular clean of regular.

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Luna

I love that idea, and I think I'm going to start FaceTiming people or being like, send me a selfie in your wedding, wherever I can.

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See that we've been to their house. Yeah.

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Luna

I use that kind of metric for if someone is very boring in a conversation and I'm just meeting them, I'm like, oh, you're not going to be creative in bed with me or you're going to let me do all the work, but that's excellent. Thank you for that nugget. I'll try it.

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Kemosabe

Like just go over there and like, hang out like, especially if you're not one for or in the mood to have like the birthday or something. And then you just go hang out or something or just take note of everything. You there socks in the kitchen counter in.

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Okay.

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Luna

That's a good point. Okay. What do you first remember hearing thinking, feeling about sex as a young person?

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Kemosabe

I was probably a pre-teen when I saw my first, like, scrambled porn on, like, the Black Box cable network. Okay. And remember, I wasn't so pixelated or whatever or whatever, but like, I remember being up late night, you know, just on the weekends or something and flipping through the channels one morning and that same channel was now clear as day, and I was like, oh, okay, this is getting tighter.

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Kemosabe

My pants. This is weird, but it's not. I like this. And I remember the very first porn scene ever scene was like at a beach. And it was just like, they're naked outside. That's dope. Like to me, like me as a kid, like being naked outside was just not even the thought that was completely mind blowing to me.

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Kemosabe

And I was like, I want that. I don't know why, but I want that. So from then on, like I look for an excuse to be like naked around the house, not just like in my room bathroom and like, my parents were non-existent growing up. So like, I had the house to myself a lot. So like, I just walk around naked and then, you know, doing it more and more, just like I'm walking, running hard on this very, you know, private backyard school hanging out on the balcony in the backyard, just sit in a lawn chair and just do whatever.

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Luna

That's great. So when did you start to, like, feel your. So you got a boner. You're young. You had alone time. Did you have siblings or anything? It was just you.

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Kemosabe

My sister. But she was always out with my I got it, but at the same time was like having the boner and a hard on. Felt great as it is. So like just sitting there, I'm just like, this is really nice. So like experiencing as a young boy, I'm just like, I if I rub the tips, then I'm just playing with myself, figure out what feels good.

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Kemosabe

Yeah. And early investor that dry hands didn't really do much for me. So like I ran to the bathroom and like, did the bar so lathered with soap and water started like myself. I was like, oh, this is nice. This is real nice. And so that led to like doing that in the shower and jerking off the soap and all that, and then like, because the water was running and but this is before I hit that.

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Kemosabe

So like I would have this sensation of orgasm, but I didn't realize, like there was potentially something coming out of it. Was that like, I learned all you got a bottle of lotion that you're mad her what do you do it so I tried to and I was like, oh, this is messy. Yeah. So the whole learning experience is like masturbation or like, keep a towel on hand.

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Kemosabe

Don't use Vaseline. Even though everybody jokes about that. I just to, like, do anything with it. Yeah.

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Luna

Good point. I realized that recently I was like, Vaseline is the same thing they were talking about. But that's not that's like sticky. Did soap get sticky when it started to like, wash off or did you just like, keep reapplying?

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Kemosabe

Yeah. Did you have to constantly, like, rewet your hands?

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I love it.

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Luna

So tell us a little bit about the vibe in the household. It sounds like there was not so much talking about it. Was it the same with like your friend group, your social? Like just give us kind of a landscape of your early formative years and kind of like sex wise, where you talked about it, where you learned about it beyond scramble.

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Kemosabe

For the most my parents have ever talked about, it was some that you're going to have a kid and we're going to be great. Yeah. You just like, okay, guess, cause I grew up in a very Catholic house, so sex, I guess, was taboo to them. I don't even remember a time ever. Like hearing my parents go at it or any inkling like, oh, there might be a box of contents in their closet or something.

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Kemosabe

So, like, I don't know, they're not as exactly active. That's fine, because I don't know about that totally. As far as friends go, it was just the whole dude bro like, oh, you made out with that girl in there? Oh, I hear you're talking to this girl. This man or. Oh, you're dating her. Well, I heard that sentence after dating her as well.

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Kemosabe

So, like, you're getting your second and mumble, so. Okay, she's giving me attention.

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Luna

I like that. Okay. So even from a young age, I love that you were like, no, you can't change me. I like my attention. So tell us about when you did start exploring with partners and like talking to ladies, like, how did you how was that for you? What sounds like ladies, you said you're a straight dude.

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Kemosabe

So I'm assuming maybe I've. I've talked to girls knowing that I was interested in her from a young age. So like I think like I had this pretend girl from like third grade, even though I was just like, oh, I sit next to you or you my girlfriend, you know.

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Luna

Totally.

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Kemosabe

But I didn't really start exploring until like sixth grade when I had like my first makeout session. It was making out friends. How one of her friends in her band accent aerobics. Really? And all this. And then, oddly enough, I didn't have a boner then because I think your dress fully like built pants on. And like, back then I was really gothic and emails started, fell.

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Kemosabe

So like that rubbing against each other, which is kind of a little painful.

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Luna

It's painful.

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Kemosabe

Let's see. I lost my virginity probably around eighth grade. Ninth grade summer. If it wasn't really something I was wanting to do at the time, because at the time I was like focusing on my wrestling in high school. And so like we were doing, you know, making out such a lot of love, rubbing up on her. And she was playing around and whatnot.

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Kemosabe

But we had the sex talk and I was just like, oh, I don't know, like, we don't have a condom. Let's not do this. You know, like we just learned about sex. That's like, no pregnancy. Yeah. And so even with that, she touched me and inserted meaning so and so like there was a little uneasy feeling. I was like, oh, let's not do this, let's not do this, do this.

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Kemosabe

But I'm still, you know, okay.

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Luna

How was that as a first time over?

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Kemosabe

Very quickly, I think it was probably riding me for a minute or two, and I was just like, I know what's going to happen. You need to get off me real quick. Otherwise this is going to be a big, big issue. And so just like, okay, okay, cool. I was like, but I still want to come. So like when do you like cycling off of me?

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Kemosabe

She's like, I hate myself. That's weird. So she played with the suit like she drove me off for a while and, like, being first, like orgasm. I've had that myself. Like, I sort of got that come to touch the ceiling. Oh, it was intense. Yeah, I pretty much rained and showered us with come.

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Luna

Do you come that easily with Handjobs now? Like, I've made people come with Handjobs, I'm always very anxious about it because I'm like, I'm not going to do it right. They're probably better at this. So it's like I hear the hotness in there. Is that something that's continued for you?

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Kemosabe

Like simple handjobs actually make me very relaxed and I can fall asleep. It's like a soothing thing for me. So like, if I come on like I had a very sad day, like my fiance, just be like, I'll see you later, I got you. I'm just slowly jerking off to like, not and then of it. And then sometimes I'll wake up to like blowing.

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Luna

All that hot. I have a fantasy about getting woken up or, like, waking up and having sex be happening on me. I know that that falls into a rape category for a lot of people, but I'm really looking for a partner that I can trust where I can be.

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Like, do it, babe. Do it.

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Kemosabe

Yeah, it's it's so fun.

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Luna

So you can fall asleep while you're getting a handjob. So that means you're not necessarily coming. It's just like the stimulation or arousal, but it's relaxing.

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Kemosabe

Yeah, it's very relaxing. Oddly enough, it's when you add moisture or some color to that and, and then it's just like, oh, let's go to okay.

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Luna

So leading up to your sexual debut with a partner, had you had any oral or manual play with another partner before that moment you already told us about?

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Kemosabe

No, it wasn't until, like I girlfriend or the next few playdates or it after that, because I had switched high schools from a mildly conservative, once more liberal one. Okay, thanks for that. And that's when, like, my sexual leave started growing as roots and whatnot as my popularity in high school is very contingent of how much weight I saw.

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Kemosabe

So I was in with all of the trials and cliques. I was with the judge, cheerleaders, stoners, the guy everybody knew me. And so I had like an untapped market of potential hookups. Wow. Like I learned at a very young age that having sex while I was, No. Yeah.

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Luna

So will you tell us a little bit about that time period in your life, like sex wise? Like, what are you learning about yourself? What was fun? What do you remember.

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Kemosabe

That was learning everything. So because of that, I had so many like, potentials. If one particular girl wasn't wanting to do this or that, I need another one did. And I made it a point to not get exclusive with anybody. And they knew that. So like, I was kind of living like, every high school is great.

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Luna

But it's not like you're communicating about it too. And not just like you. Also sounds like the reverse of the part of you. Like that's okay that she's with someone else. I'm getting attention. Like, is it still how your kind of like relational brain is organized? Like, are you jealous? Are you monogamous now with your partner currently?

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Kemosabe

Right now we're monogamous, but we haven't talked about playing with the third and more public stuff, man. You know, it's whenever she's ready, not pushing it, but whenever she's ready, I'm all for it. You know, it's so busy in your life right now, it's not really a main priority for you to focus on, but it's a time.

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Luna

Slot and let's all get vaccinated for monkeypox before we go do our group.

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Kemosabe

Play. I'm all for safe sex.

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Luna

Yeah, exactly. So in that time, it sounds like even though you were, like, hooking up with ladies, the origins of your daddy Dom care. Take yourself. Were already there. Like, it seems like there is care and attention to partners. Is that what it felt like at the time, or were you more like high school? Whatever. Whatever.

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Kemosabe

I think subconsciously, me just being a nice guy, you want to say, like, I've always kind of had this mindset of if I said girl or like take care of her and said more traditional sense, she wouldn't give up to me. But then, like I generally found that I enjoy taking care of people, not just necessarily women, but like if one of my friends in a very bad situation or needs cheering up like, bro, let's go have dinner, I got to you want to hug?

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Kemosabe

You want me to scratch your head or something else I got? You know, some of this, just generally natural caregiver kind of person. It just helps. And it's a benefit that usually leads to sex.

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Luna

Well, totally. I mean, I think that's an important thing to actually, like, notice and pay attention to because it's like, sexually, I'm always looking for like a safe space and a caring person, but also like as a person who's also a nurturer and my nurturing qualities get wasted because how many? You know, I'm sleeping mostly with a dude.

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Luna

I'm still figuring out women. I experience it sometimes. It's difficult to be like, hi, I'm here, I'm ready to nurture. And then if it's not intimate, if it's not sexual, then if there's like a different level of closeness in a lot of regular society. So I totally I'm all for that nurturing everywhere. So what happened next? What was unfolding for you?

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Luna

Or like, what else did you learn about yourself in that kind of era? And tell us about high sex if you want those.

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Kemosabe

Probably messy. All of it was short lived because, you know, like, you know, we're kids, we young, we we don't have the experience, may have the energy and stamina, but that doesn't necessarily mean we have the energy to like you know, round and round around. I mean, some people do. But yeah, for me, sex is really short back then, because it's the overstimulation and the excitement of like a very sexy I thought the to marriage or blah blah, whatever.

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Kemosabe

It wasn't until senior year or even after high school started living life as a adult. Men out of the South to the West Coast and started meeting other adults. And like sort of learning about sex doesn't always have to be penetrative. Like you can make people orgasm become not just penetrative sex was just like, okay, because, you know, with performance anxiety level, like a lot of guys that suffer through that.

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Kemosabe

Like, yeah, I always tell, especially people in my group like, you can make people orgasm with your mouth or your hands to see whatever you want to like. It's just not I'm all about thrusting into somebody it's or this, my great long take it out with. Over in the West Coast, she could get off of planes or fly.

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Kemosabe

It's the only a like hot, the most awesome together was just giving each other oral. I was like.

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Luna

It's so hot. And this seems like a great time to tell us about your oral fixation.

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Kemosabe

Yeah, just something about having my mouth and space in a lady's most intimate areas is try to turn on like, I could be down there for hours and hours and hours. Everything tastes. The smell on her body language. I just love, love making them so good.

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Luna

Amazing. Do you have any specifics of, like, physical moves that you like to do when you are worshiping a pussy?

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Kemosabe

It started with, you know, telling each other, oh, you should do the alphabet with your tongue. That's what drives ladies. Well, I'm like, okay, that's bullshit. So it was just tons of trial and error. And then I remember coming across like a interview on Pornhub or something about how to give oral the best way coming from other porn stars.

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Kemosabe

And they're just like free eating pussy like a blowjob. There should be suction, there should be a good seal around. You played hand or lips and the whole thing. Just don't stab at it with your tongue. Like every woman has different likes me as far as a few. Wants to be pleasant. Really? My girls close to something. I kind of do the same move and it's my lips seal around and clit like, kind of halfway on her lips.

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Kemosabe

It's a lot of suction. I actually use the bottom of my tongue, the top, because it's smoother. Yeah, it's like a lot of women can feel the difference.

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Luna

Wait, how do you do it. What do you like when you're suctioned up against. Is it like over your teeth.

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Kemosabe

Like I flip it up.

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Luna

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Kemosabe

I see you just said that. Yeah. And it helps get my fingers in there and kind of just seal around, I switch it up to like you said. But emulation and flip it. It's where I'm going. Deeper. Nice. You know swipe up until they're happy and shiver and quivering.

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Luna

Amazing. Do you want to tell us about how you like to be worshiped as well?

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Kemosabe

I like to be to a certain sides of my dick are very sensitive. So, like, if you're sucking up and down on the side of it, then at times you all like it gets a point, throbbing hard, like it's twitching. Especially the front end. The same principle. Yeah. If you're sucking in similarly with your tongue there, I'm just I'll do whatever you want afterwards.

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Kemosabe

You want me to clean it gets an and gets.

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Luna

Good to know. I hope your fiance that takes note. Oh that's awesome. I want to know about these sensitive sides. Is it like if you're moving up and down the whole thing? It's awesome. I mean, maybe that's true too, but kissing and licking up besides, is that nice or is that overstimulating?

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Kemosabe

Like is it it's phenomenal. The only overstimulation I have is when, like, I'm getting I'm coming and like just still going at it. This is like, oh, not totally. I learned from my first through some experience that my sides are really sensitive from having a mouth on either side. That's where like, that's from. And so like we don't say do it's like so stimulate one side or mouth and tongue and kind of do this like thing with your hand and it it's stimulus.

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Kemosabe

The same pleasure.

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Luna

Oh that's so fun. So do you want to into some details about that through some experience like where they're making out on other side like what happened.

00:24:05:22 - 00:24:36:05

Kemosabe

To it happened with me meeting like a group of women on like a bachelorette party or something like that. And we were just sharing drinks, just talking. And I hadn't noticed, like, this one girl was really, like, checking me. Yeah, let me go. I'll check you out to. And so one thing led to another. We go back to their hotel and we were making out, getting drinks and she was starting to go down on me.

00:24:36:05 - 00:24:55:04

Kemosabe

And so I'm sitting in like a hotel chair next to the table. She's going to me for a good bit, and I guess the chick who was friends with us, who had the hotel room with artist in and was completely shocked, he's like, oh my God, just keep going. And she's just like, come here, come here, come here.

00:24:55:09 - 00:25:08:03

Kemosabe

You have to check this guys dig out. It's it's like it's like I don't have like the biggest thing ever. But like I guess from what I've been told, it's esthetically nice. Oh.

00:25:08:05 - 00:25:19:01

Luna

Congratulations. What sizes? Not everything. There are so many nice cocks. I'm so glad that you got appreciated. What a great way to get appreciated. So she's like, come check out this nice cock. And then.

00:25:19:03 - 00:25:44:01

Kemosabe

Yeah, for us, both men were blown me at the same time. That was my first like, oh my God. I'm like, yeah, this is. But you only ever seen roads in my life that's ever right. Now let's let's get it started with me just playing with the first girl for a while, because the other girl was just kind of hesitant about going beyond giving a blowjob, and I was like, no, girl, you have to try this.

00:25:44:01 - 00:26:04:17

Kemosabe

This is amazing. She's hitting this particular spot. I never knew I had to like, let's I wonder if I have a spot. And I was like, come here. And, she gets, the other place down in front of me and like, we're going at a missionary. The other girl had the idea here. Now you get on top of him, reverse cowgirl.

00:26:04:19 - 00:26:23:11

Kemosabe

And as he was writing me first girl got in between her legs and sort of something on her side and side. My girl, like, stroking you on. And I was just like, is this for real? Or this is out of this world. And she started doing that. I was like, all right, I'm back. I'm like, this, this is a lot.

00:26:23:13 - 00:26:35:14

Luna

That's amazing. Also, you got to look at a butt while you're I mean, like, that's. So also, I have a new fan. I don't think I've ever been on someone reverse cowgirl. Now to someone else going down on me now I want that.

00:26:35:16 - 00:27:00:11

Kemosabe

You should try it. It's it's great. And then we actually had a second threesome later that night too, after dinner. Because over dinner, it was just us. And like a couple other people. And I guess somebody else in their party had heard us. Hey, guys, y'all doing like, that conversation until, like, not all horny for it again. So that time I'll ask them a lot.

00:27:00:12 - 00:27:05:00

Luna

Yeah, well, if you've already been drained, then it's a little bit easier to sort of, you know.

00:27:05:00 - 00:27:28:18

Kemosabe

Yeah. You know, be in 19, you know, new to the experience and all that. Move back to my city in the South. And somebody had invited me to a sex party at a local lounge. And I started really getting like, a more intimate understanding of, like, Sam was role play was public displays and stuff, you know, group stuff or just listening.

00:27:28:19 - 00:27:47:10

Kemosabe

And so I just like, he's fighting back. I want to learn more and more and there's like, well, unfortunately you can't come as a single guy. You have to have some female companionship with you, at least, at the very least. And I'm like, okay, cool. And just, you know, hit up one of the old girls from high school and be like, hey, you want to come with me?

00:27:47:11 - 00:28:03:16

Kemosabe

You know, for all time sakes. And so that happened, and I was like, wow, people are like, that's what I used to do as a kid. But I get that sex doing it. Okay, cool. So like that play more into, you know, I'm starting my like if like the mission starts.

00:28:03:18 - 00:28:16:06

Luna

Tell us more. Also, I wish that I had had one of my, like hookup buddies from high school be like, hey, sex club. Like, that would be so cool. Yeah. Tell us about the exhibitionist. Enjoyments that you have.

00:28:16:08 - 00:28:40:14

Kemosabe

Is something with fresh air, sunlight on your skin. It's not really a sexual thing for me. It's like a lifestyle. It's like really calming. But then, like, if I can have sex while doing it, that's even better. You know, exploring the mountain ranges or lakes or beaches out here in the south and really just being able to like, fucking go.

00:28:40:16 - 00:28:52:02

Kemosabe

It's about a waterfall or a pond or a lake or something or stream. There's something very like natural, almost primal about, you know. Yeah.

00:28:52:04 - 00:29:01:15

Luna

Okay, so here's my question. Have you gotten to do that, like with your fiance and stuff? And do you do it like on the ground standing up, like, how dirty do you like to get in the literal dirt sense?

00:29:01:17 - 00:29:24:00

Kemosabe

Oh, it doesn't matter to me. I haven't had a chance to do with my fiance yet because she's so busy with her career. Right? But my past. I've gone to the hiking trails, waterfalls, the whole nine, and I will always bring a blanket of some sort every with a little bit of a poncho liner that can sit like three people and I'll lay it down.

00:29:24:02 - 00:29:43:14

Kemosabe

But like if it's we're in water, we'll do like on the inside of it, in the water, because it's just like our hands in a tearing one. That's like, we'll play with some water and then like when it's time for like a really fuck no, let's go over to the blanket. You know, we'll be at there. And I actually have a cabin trip coming up in October.

00:29:43:16 - 00:29:53:19

Kemosabe

And the pictures you were showing me about the cabin has, like, this gigantic patio. I'm just like, I just want to lay out naked in the sun. Ten.

00:29:53:21 - 00:29:58:15

Luna

Yeah, okay. But what about also like, some balcony fucking or something? Or patio.

00:29:58:15 - 00:30:34:00

Kemosabe

Like. Oh, absolutely. She in her ass and she's all right. I'm like, tell this, let's hear it. She's had like her own experiences with like, threesomes and all that parties of. But it wasn't until she met me that she, like, started figuring out like, oh, we can really explore what I'm into and whatnot. So I've been leading her into more and more second venture, the one that I remember one of my admins for my fetish group flew into town to meet up and have dinner and like, I was playing with her under the table at dinner.

00:30:34:01 - 00:30:42:13

Luna

That's also one of my fantasies, which I'm like, why haven't I had that? So what kind of will you set the scene for us? Like what? Was there a tablecloth? Or was it like.

00:30:42:15 - 00:31:03:11

Kemosabe

No, she wasn't just a dress like this one dress or something? No underwear. It was me and her sitting next to each other, friend from her and her at the time, the guy she was dating, we were at Korean barbecue, just eating or whatnot. Like, you can just kind of see my arms and I'm like, you couldn't tell her from the table over here.

00:31:03:13 - 00:31:17:11

Kemosabe

And so dinner at, she was my. And she's like, I'm so fucking. What do we do to have somewhere to like? I was like, okay, just follow me. My car. And you like, from a random parking lot. And I parked my trunk and I've met her at my trunk with her ass in air and just gone at it.

00:31:17:13 - 00:31:19:12

Luna

Really hot.

00:31:19:14 - 00:31:30:00

Kemosabe

Yeah. I'm like, cars are driving by, people are walking by. And for you, it just looks like I'm looking in the trunk or something. So, like, I'm always. I'm always looking for an excuse to have public sex.

00:31:30:02 - 00:31:33:22

Luna

Yes, but that's a very good, sneaky public sex that's not offending people.

00:31:34:03 - 00:31:34:19

Kemosabe

It was that night.

00:31:34:19 - 00:31:42:11

Luna

Yeah, yeah. What else have you done publicly? Is there anything else that we need to know about? Or just like, places or fantasies that you haven't done yet that you want?

00:31:42:12 - 00:32:15:19

Kemosabe

Oh, back to the backgrounds. They ultimate like pinnacle of my experiences was it was a workshop for oral education. And so I went to the practice material and the teacher was teaching the crowd how to give blowjobs. And there I was on the stage being so material. And then let's you hey, you have really good like, stage presence, you know, how about you participate in having a threesome on stage and the crowd learn and whatnot?

00:32:15:19 - 00:32:17:06

Kemosabe

I was like, I can't if.

00:32:17:08 - 00:32:23:17

Luna

You had a threesome on stage, what was it like? Did they tell you what to do? Or did you like like what? What was it like?

00:32:23:18 - 00:32:41:18

Kemosabe

I wasn't the middle in this particular threesome. It was one of the ladies, and it was really her calling, what she wanted to do and whatnot. She was a teacher. And so it was kind of going at it and going with the flow pace and like just taking answer or suggestions from the crowd was like, hey, such and such.

00:32:41:22 - 00:33:04:10

Kemosabe

Okay, what does it feel like to have two mouths on your penis? Or what does it feel like to hear? How can you give oral to one girl with two mouths and whatnot? Or like what happens if you do this operation? Or can we see this position? Or is there a position to where everybody has an orgasm at the same time, or something like it was kind of like very hands on workshops.

00:33:04:12 - 00:33:10:05

Luna

That's like my ideal. I don't I apparently I get turned on by like educational related sex stuff.

00:33:10:05 - 00:33:13:13

Like I apparently have a very specific.

00:33:13:15 - 00:33:24:14

Luna

Like and now I'm like, oh, wait, is this something weird working? It's my whole life. And like hearing you, what was the phrase you used source material. Source material? Or the practice material like. Oof.

00:33:24:16 - 00:33:25:15

Kemosabe

That was the workbook.

00:33:25:17 - 00:33:37:02

Luna

So workbook? Yes, the living workbook, that first of all, hot. I want to go there. Second of all, I cannot wait to go into the spaces and like learn all the sexy things in person. What a cool way to get educated.

00:33:37:04 - 00:33:44:00

Kemosabe

Yeah, unfortunately, that wound up sorry about is still closed because of Covid, so like, nobody's in that sense. Yeah.

00:33:44:06 - 00:33:53:01

Luna

Okay. Were you able to learn anything while you were a piece of source material? Okay. The workbook or were you just like, in pleasure? Like, what was that like for you?

00:33:53:03 - 00:34:03:11

Kemosabe

I was just in pleasure. It was a surreal moment for me. I was like, I'm just going to be here, be present, try to last the whole hour long workshop like that.

00:34:03:17 - 00:34:20:16

Luna

Wow. So I would love to hear a little bit about your kinky unfolding and development. Like, when did you become aware of what a daddy dom is? And do you and your fiancée have a DLG dynamic, which is a daddy done little girl dynamic for listeners.

00:34:20:18 - 00:34:50:01

Kemosabe

I wasn't aware of before her until my last ex, and so she was like, hey, you have a very natural, like dominant demeanor about you. Like, you know, ask me things that needs to be taken care of. You just kind of go and do things. But then at the same time, they're very soft and gentle. And apparently what really got me to understand it was I had subconsciously been taking care of them after sex, like aftercare.

00:34:50:03 - 00:35:07:21

Kemosabe

I had no idea that was a thing until like, were just like, you know, it's very nice that you go get a towel and get a drink, some water. And like, I really appreciate, like cleaning me up and asking me if I want to shower. And do you want a snack or something, like, especially when it's really intense.

00:35:07:22 - 00:35:46:12

Kemosabe

It's like primal play and they're just kind of in the moment and just can't really function at the time. Like I'll come to the market just to meet them wearing. I'm like, oh, you're cold. No, they're just overly sensitive from all the stimulation for like putting of like kind of really them. Yeah. I mean like, you know, how the biggest factor into her getting into me and having feelings for me was because of all that, because she had already been to that stuff before me, but she didn't have much experience knowledge as well, but she just knew that she was paid well before me.

00:35:46:13 - 00:36:09:06

Kemosabe

Money is when we met. It was actually the first day that I started my fetish group on Facebook. Yeah, we met there. She joined that day and she was like, oh woah, you're from the same city. That's cool. Like, I didn't realize there was a whole new group for Asians to be with each other and whatnot. Yeah, it's great.

00:36:09:08 - 00:36:30:00

Kemosabe

And so I dmed her was teasing her about the time off again. You know, you should post more aggressive. Really sexy. You should be more active in the group a lot. And that led to us talking for a while. And then we started hanging out and going on dates. And honestly enough, the beginning of our relationship was actually very wholesome.

00:36:30:00 - 00:36:52:00

Kemosabe

We never talk about sex. What a lot. Wow. We never shared nudes. We never, like really flirted or right. Not where like we were subconsciously had the same idea. Getting to know each other and then like led to the whole one thing or like one day. And we joke about it now because we're like, oh yeah, that was such a waste of time.

00:36:52:02 - 00:37:02:12

Kemosabe

Know hold three weeks. We were being awful too. But now we can fucking because I definitely wanted to fuck you for something that you would like a relationship. Is it to do that? Yeah, yeah.

00:37:02:14 - 00:37:16:19

Luna

Also, trust building leads to hotness. That's amazing. Can you tell us the parts about having that body dom energy that feels sexiest to like? Were other parts of that dynamic that are really delicious for you?

00:37:16:21 - 00:37:54:02

Kemosabe

It's really the telling of what to do, the guidance and just basically doing what I want to do and just having my submissive don't just be like, yes, yes, please hurt me, hit me, you know, shove your fucking my mouth's choke, blah blah blah. It's fun for me to be taking control. And then if you find the right person, I it like it turned on more not to have to think about what to do and just have this, you know, we're doing taking care of me, taking the lead because it comes from her busy career.

00:37:54:02 - 00:38:13:18

Kemosabe

And so at the end of the day, this is like, if I can just shut my mind off and you just take the reins, fuck me silly. It's my turn off for. And I goes into like our everyday life too. It's it's like, what do you want to eat alone? Know, what do you want to eat? So if I just say, hey, we're going to go get tacos.

00:38:13:19 - 00:38:24:13

Kemosabe

Yeah, I guess I appreciate that. I didn't have to think about it. And then, like, if I carry that same energy base is like taking care of me. I don't know what.

00:38:24:15 - 00:38:41:17

Luna

Yeah, well, and for myself personally, those are the moments where then I start to get replenished enough because I can let go of the narrative that I'm in charge of every single little decision, and then it gives room for my own creativity to bubble up, and then I'm a better worshiper.

00:38:41:19 - 00:38:49:17

Kemosabe

Yeah, that's the same with her too. Also, the more stress I can take away from her the slaughter she gets for me.

00:38:49:22 - 00:39:01:22

Luna

Beautiful. Will you give us a few details about the sort of like we heard a little bit? There is some impact play there, there. It sounds like there is some, like, I heard you talking about primal stuff and aggressive stuff. We'll speak to that a little bit.

00:39:02:00 - 00:39:25:10

Kemosabe

So she is very, very much a huge masochist. Like she's in the pain. I can bite her in areas of her comfort, like an idiot, like a biter on their necks. If, like, we're making out, I can bite down on her nipples, thighs, scratch the back really hard. I can make her come without penetrative sex being inside of her.

00:39:25:12 - 00:39:47:16

Kemosabe

Yeah, like I can of. She did it for her to give her the story, but she's so it's a pain like it's. It makes my job easier. And so like, if we're going edit fucking, you know, like, I'm fighting for hot spots, she just goes crazy. She becomes a wet noodle. So yeah, she loves getting spanks. We've got riding cross nipple slams.

00:39:47:21 - 00:39:57:03

Kemosabe

Yeah. She's got a toy that you play with plugs, dildos. She just recently bought me a bunch of flashbacks to that we play with each other.

00:39:57:05 - 00:40:02:19

Luna

Okay. I was literally just going to be like. What toys do you use on yourself? What do you do? What do you like? Flashlights. Have you got to use them? Yeah.

00:40:02:21 - 00:40:19:06

Kemosabe

I have used them whenever she's not doing it or when she is in the mood to play with toys is like, these are toys. I'm like, yeah, sure, go get your, like, her favorite toy right now it's Tracy's dog. It's kind of like hook shaped for like with a doll, though. And this suction, like, right on the plant collection.

00:40:19:06 - 00:40:20:15

Kemosabe

So it's the best thing ever.

00:40:20:17 - 00:40:25:01

Luna

Well, that's intense. I don't know if I could click it. Handle that. That sounds harder.

00:40:25:03 - 00:40:30:23

Kemosabe

She says, like, the best we ever had it for. It was like, is it my replacement? No.

00:40:30:23 - 00:40:34:23

Luna

The best toys are best used by favorite people.

00:40:35:01 - 00:40:51:03

Kemosabe

Oh yeah. Yeah. So that's what I use it on. It's the last time we had restraint play. Like I tied her down to the bed. Use that boy on her while I was like she was incapacitated for the rest of the night. Like she just couldn't. She just couldn't live.

00:40:51:05 - 00:40:52:11

Luna

That is amazing.

00:40:52:11 - 00:41:17:09

Kemosabe

Yeah, she's. She's very much an angel, too. I wasn't an angel until I met her. I like some of her head because she's, like, four foot alive and like, all of the thickness, you know, tattooed, like she's the perfect one for me. Hot. Yeah. She's very much in the Angel. She's got very nice plugs. She's got a whole different eyes that we will use on her before I penetrate her ass.

00:41:17:11 - 00:41:38:16

Kemosabe

I remember one time I was using the chase dog on her and to kneeling in front of me, and so behind her I'm interested. I got Tracy's answer. I'm playing, rubbing my hands all over again. I'm biting the back of her neck and she's shaking as if she's like having a contraction. And then she just collapses. Feels like, don't touch me, don't touch me.

00:41:38:16 - 00:41:41:04

Kemosabe

Yeah. Just like, just don't touch me.

00:41:41:06 - 00:41:42:02

Luna

Amazing.

00:41:42:07 - 00:42:08:11

Kemosabe

Even though she just becomes completely, like, overly sensitive. What? Noodle. And just like we call it, come drunk. Yeah. Hot. Oh, yeah. You'll just have orgasm after orgasm. And so, like, she gets Uber sensitive even, like, if I just blow on her, like, if she gets a nurse comes in and she's warning us like, if we're at it for a while, I can just kind of just blow librarys on her.

00:42:08:11 - 00:42:11:04

Kemosabe

And she's like, not that sensitive.

00:42:11:06 - 00:42:26:08

Luna

Oh my gosh. Okay, first we had really mind talking about coming from the wind. And now you can just blow on your fiancee like literally just blow that incredible and so hot. Wow.

00:42:26:10 - 00:42:33:08

Kemosabe

Full disclaimer is not anything that I do or like. I'm not trying to say that I'm just like sex or anything. It's.

00:42:33:08 - 00:42:36:00

Luna

No, you're not saying it that way. Her body is cool.

00:42:36:00 - 00:42:56:06

Kemosabe

I did this connection that we have, you know, like I know her body, she knows mine. And like, over the years, we've just gotten to know each other sexually to that extent. So, like, I know the right, you know, combinations of buttons to push and all that. And it's the whole upright, upright lifestyle and every kind of like like.

00:42:56:08 - 00:43:12:17

Luna

Okay, so speaking of those combinations, what about your body? I would love to hear some physical details that we haven't. We heard a little bit about your cock. Are there other places on you that feel amazing? Maybe not necessarily the go to erogenous zones, but also those also would love to hear about your butt.

00:43:12:19 - 00:43:41:04

Kemosabe

My eyes are really sensitive brusher and unless I was an immediate encounter, I love having neck because all the way she plays with my chest like no, she wants her hands on my chest. I don't know why, but just whenever she does certain things, it's just like immediate. Like, yeah, and like the way to get me to submit and Daddy Dominic, like, have both my balls in my hand during girl.

00:43:41:06 - 00:43:44:09

Luna

Okay. What kind of stimulation do your balls like?

00:43:44:11 - 00:44:00:00

Kemosabe

Massages. I don't really like sucking on them too hard. Okay? But just like, caressing massage and kind of like, in tandem with whatever your other hand and mouth is doing. And it's just like one fluid motion of just pleasure and just like to get.

00:44:00:02 - 00:44:06:18

Luna

Are you comfy with like, back door play. Like, do you like to kind of wander down or is that what's your butt like for you? It's foreign.

00:44:06:20 - 00:44:12:15

Kemosabe

I've never had anything inserted in me, but like I've had my doll, like, it's great, I like it cool.

00:44:12:17 - 00:44:15:07

Luna

Would you ever consider insertions with her?

00:44:15:12 - 00:44:21:06

Kemosabe

We joked about it like, you know, happy International Women's Day. It's time to bag you.

00:44:21:07 - 00:44:37:11

Luna

I would love to hear a little bit. You mentioned Facebook group and sex. How do you have an erotic Facebook? I've gotten kicked off a thing so many times and shut down to like, what are your secrets? What are you doing? What does that community like it? How has it been? How has it shaped your sexual self?

00:44:37:13 - 00:44:41:09

Kemosabe

So we are actually on our third group because we keep getting shut now.

00:44:41:12 - 00:44:45:22

Luna

Oh okay. I guess that makes me feel a little better, but also terrible for the world.

00:44:46:00 - 00:45:10:17

Kemosabe

Yeah, Facebook and me don't have a great relationship because like getting 30 bands left and right. But it originally started with a different non-sexual group called subtle Asian traits. Okay. And that is where Asian Americans are. Asians in general can get together and just joke about the common nuances of just being an Asian American, like, oh, my parents are this, oh, really?

00:45:10:17 - 00:45:41:03

Kemosabe

Mine? That too? Well, like, it's a whole generational cultural thing. And that got me thinking, like the Asian community in general is very conservative. Like nobody really talks about sex unless it's like in a close knit group amongst friends of like. And so me and one of my other friends is one of the admins, my group, like I reached out to her was like, what if we started our own subtleties, I think, or how would that turn out?

00:45:41:05 - 00:46:12:18

Kemosabe

So she's like, we can try. We'll do it. And so we set up with the whole nation. Don't yuck somebody else's. And just because somebody is being sexual or outwardly sexual doesn't mean they're wanting sexual with you. That was consent stuff. So, like, we are really big on, you know, talking about consent and all that to, to the point where, like, I had to make a post about consent as far as an exhibition and stuff goes, because, like, not everybody in public wants to see all that.

00:46:12:18 - 00:46:31:11

Kemosabe

Not everybody can't consent to all that. So, like you really, even though you're wanting to do public stuff, you kind of have to do it privately, publicly and see that totally. And so it got to the point where more and more people started joining. Yeah, I think the most we've had was like 600 members, but it was internet.

00:46:31:11 - 00:46:54:07

Kemosabe

So not just in states like we have members in the UK, Malaysia, Singapore, all over Asia, the United States. I think we had some in like South America. Hey, got big enough to where relationships are forming. Mine in particular where people are meeting up with each other like, hey, I'm going to be in this certain city, is anybody in this area?

00:46:54:09 - 00:47:00:23

Kemosabe

And then like a couple of days later posting, you know, details and pictures, listen at about their meetup.

00:47:01:01 - 00:47:01:19

Luna

That's awesome.

00:47:01:19 - 00:47:27:16

Kemosabe

There's a great bond that I've started, basically the whole premise that I was like a safe place for fellow A's. And we're not exclusive to me. We have other members of other races. The only stipulation is like, you can't join unless you're dating somebody isn't, because a lot of people care about the whole yellow fever society. You know, somebody's race and nobody wants that.

00:47:27:18 - 00:47:37:20

Luna

Okay. Are there any other turn ons or any stories we need to hear that we haven't heard yet, or turn offs that you know, just what else do we need to know about your sex life? We've heard a lot.

00:47:37:22 - 00:47:47:08

Kemosabe

It's more for, like, character traits that turn me off. Like, if I notice, like my date and my date is, like, really rude to the waitstaff. Yeah. I don't want anything to do with. I am.

00:47:47:11 - 00:47:48:06

Luna

Totally.

00:47:48:10 - 00:47:59:12

Kemosabe

I guess I consider myself mean sexual. We're more attracted people, personalities, mindset and whatnot. Yeah, because if I, if I don't like me, they're not like because.

00:47:59:14 - 00:48:17:08

Luna

I get that same thing. Also, people's faces, their physical appearance really morphs to me depending on how nice they are to me. Like like our relationship and like, I don't know if I count as demi sexual. Do you think there can be a casual demi sexual? Because like I do, I like sex, okay? And then maybe I'm casual.

00:48:17:08 - 00:48:21:09

Luna

Demi well, I don't know. I still pay attention to. I'm like, can we just treat each other like people?

00:48:21:11 - 00:48:32:17

Kemosabe

Right? Like, I wouldn't want a gatekeeper because you don't feel fully in, you know, like, like three point is you are going to come across somebody was just like, oh, you're. So I don't even care if you said person.

00:48:32:19 - 00:48:44:06

Luna

It's me. Yeah, I guess I've never had that. But also, I think there are moments where I could come across a hot, nice person and not get to know more and just have that moment. And then I don't know, because we can always.

00:48:44:06 - 00:48:46:06

Kemosabe

Look purely physical. Yeah.

00:48:46:06 - 00:48:59:21

Luna

And then like learn better or worse things about them later, I guess I haven't had that happen. So I feel like I have a good intuition. Okay. Any other like travel stories or weird places or places you want to do it that you haven't yet, or just like other general fantasies.

00:48:59:23 - 00:49:13:23

Kemosabe

Just very like, you know, you see posts on Instagram and Pinterest, stuff like very esthetic, you know, hiking trails and whatnot. I'm just like, yeah, one particular place is like fancy. And I have you seen the porn lakes out there in the mountains?

00:49:14:01 - 00:49:15:02

Luna

Where is it? Banff.

00:49:15:03 - 00:49:26:08

Kemosabe

Yeah. Bam, Canada. Oh, like it's crystal blue. Turquoise water with nice woods. Mounds is pure esthetics. I'm just like, oh, fuck, I'm in there. Yeah.

00:49:26:10 - 00:49:32:20

Luna

But what I think every single beautiful vacation photo. I assume that's what they're inviting me to think about, but. Right.

00:49:32:22 - 00:49:50:16

Kemosabe

I do like, like the on the water huts and like the Maldives. Oh yeah. Like like I want something with Uggs or like a net over the water or something, you know, like anywhere. Like of water for sure. Yeah. Especially in some, like, beach like for sure. I'm never going to turn that down.

00:49:50:18 - 00:50:03:04

Luna

Totally formative experience. Oh, I was gonna ask you, actually. So you had that formative beach sex porn experience, and porn was part of that teen years. Are you still a porn person? Do you like porn? What can a porn? Are you into that in your life? Very much.

00:50:03:06 - 00:50:21:11

Kemosabe

I haven't watched porn in such a long time. I basically get sex in a row and it's like there hasn't been a need for porn and aspiration. Like, that's always nice. Like I'm blessed in that sense. But for the longest time I couldn't get off the porn unless it was like solid play female playing with herself.

00:50:21:13 - 00:50:21:18

Luna

Okay.

00:50:21:18 - 00:50:30:22

Kemosabe

So like, that's really I mean, it's like there's something about the female audience beyond sexual and it's just like esthetics and slip.

00:50:31:00 - 00:50:31:21

Yeah.

00:50:31:23 - 00:50:35:01

Luna

Do you and your partner ever make porn together?

00:50:35:03 - 00:50:45:15

Kemosabe

We do. Yeah. That's right. Yeah. Every time, like we have sex, it's like, are you going to be posting on your private Snapchat for everybody? I'm like, yes.

00:50:45:17 - 00:50:50:06

Luna

Cute, I love it. Is she part of that community with you now or is it something that you kind of have separate.

00:50:50:06 - 00:50:51:16

Kemosabe

Yeah, she's one of my admins.

00:50:51:16 - 00:50:52:12

Luna

She has oh she's one of.

00:50:52:12 - 00:50:54:00

Kemosabe

The hot hot.

00:50:54:00 - 00:51:09:10

Luna

Amazing. Oh that's so nice okay cool I love that. So it sounds like group sex is on the table in the future at some point with no urgency. What are your kind of fantasies about what that would be like? Is it mostly threesomes or is it like, would you want to take her to the kind of play places?

00:51:09:10 - 00:51:10:14

Luna

Or what do you guys talk about?

00:51:10:16 - 00:51:29:16

Kemosabe

I want to do everything with her. To be honest, threesomes groups that we're not into something that's just my first thing. And that's. I've tried it a couple of times. It never got beyond the physical aspect of it because I have to have that connection to really enjoy my second people, and that's what, like what makes me and her work.

00:51:29:16 - 00:51:51:18

Kemosabe

But yeah, so she's totally down to do anything that I want to do whenever she's in the right mindset for it. And when she gets in her life, like we talked about taking her out to like a resort with me and going out to those lounges whenever they're open up again. Yeah, yeah. Which doesn't seem great. Because of monkeypox.

00:51:51:20 - 00:51:55:12

Luna

I mean, we'll see. Divine timing, I guess.

00:51:55:14 - 00:51:57:16

Kemosabe

Yeah.

00:51:57:18 - 00:52:08:11

Luna

What would your fantasy space be like in in a imagine, like a big resort area, middle of the desert. No one else can see it. But, like, what public place would you want to, like, be able to fuck in anywhere where people.

00:52:08:11 - 00:52:19:12

Kemosabe

Just with, like, a mediterranean style carpet on the floor with a bunch of pillows, you know, maybe, drinks on the sand or just around water. Oh.

00:52:19:14 - 00:52:24:15

Luna

I love that. Like indoor outdoor. Kind of like lounging cabana. Yeah.

00:52:24:17 - 00:52:45:10

Kemosabe

Yeah, I've always imagined, like, my ideal house would have just my back in the house with a kitchen. The living room is, like, completely under the wall. An open space where, like, we just our living room and just kind of work our way out to the back patio or front of there's lines just like open the breeze and natural sunlight.

00:52:45:10 - 00:52:48:18

Kemosabe

It just feels so on the skin.

00:52:48:20 - 00:52:56:17

Luna

Hashtag life goals that is the reason that I'm like, oh, I love my apartment. I would love a place with some dirt so I could go outside and just.

00:52:56:19 - 00:53:13:17

Kemosabe

Speaking of apartments, the last apartment I had, it was on the third floor, and I had gotten some privacy screens from Amazon. And then, like, I would find out for with it. So, like, nobody can see. And there's just like my perfect little niece area to be able to see and whatnot.

00:53:13:19 - 00:53:24:19

Luna

I love that two privacy screen. So you can be as naked as you want without worrying about neighbors. That's great. Okay. Do you have any other like thoughts on sex in general? Before I ask you a wrap up questions?

00:53:24:21 - 00:53:58:00

Kemosabe

Okay, to be honest, all the episodes that's been listening to, so far, is it just like filled in gaps from everybody else's experience? I was wondering how I could incorporate being into Eddie on the sex play and also like, help with mental health and self-love and all that. So just like there was one particular episode where he was telling me personally, tell her she loves herself and she didn't get it.

00:53:58:02 - 00:54:14:08

Kemosabe

Yeah. So I started trying to do that. I was just like, oh, because I think there's a very big issue with like self-love, self-esteem and all that. So like, if I can incorporate sex is making her feel better about herself, I would like I would that learn more about different it. In fact it's about.

00:54:14:10 - 00:54:36:10

Luna

Amazing I mean that's yeah, it's such a tricky thing because it's different for every single person. My former master, we went through a little phase where he would do some stuff similar to that for me, because I have a really hard time actually receiving a lot of attention on me, both sexually, but like also in the world, like there's a reason that I'm, you know, I mean, I'm looking at you on a video here, but I'm a voice to most.

00:54:36:10 - 00:54:38:01

Kemosabe

People.

00:54:38:03 - 00:54:51:10

Luna

And like, I like pictures, I like photography, but he would have me sort of meditate on being the center of my own universe and like, have me kind of like, repeat these phrases and like, you know, it would come and go depending on how much attention he was paying to me.

00:54:51:10 - 00:54:53:17

Kemosabe

But like, self-affirmation, I was.

00:54:53:19 - 00:55:15:11

Luna

Kind of yeah, we were never as in-tune emotionally. Sometimes we shared some stuff, but there were big emotional gaps because we didn't have the closeness that I've always dreamed of. We had a lot of sexual closeness, which led to some other stuff, but I think had we known each other in more day to day ways, there could have been even more helpful influence there.

00:55:15:11 - 00:55:21:22

Luna

And you sound like a person who's just so attuned to your partners. I'm curious to know how that unfolds for you. It's going to be great.

00:55:22:00 - 00:55:42:03

Kemosabe

Sex for us is a bonding thing. You know, we had bad days or whenever we have sex and that leads to, like me, baby shower. I feel like I'll be in the shower before and after we have sex and it's amazing. I'll give you a pacifier, brushing hair and all that. So yeah.

00:55:42:05 - 00:55:47:03

Luna

That's so cool. Oh, is your hair long or how long is it like to ever make a ponytail?

00:55:47:03 - 00:55:51:22

Kemosabe

It's like below her shoulders, so, like, I can braid it, put it in a ponytail.

00:55:52:00 - 00:55:54:10

Luna

I love that for her.

00:55:54:15 - 00:56:13:03

Kemosabe

Whenever she wants to get in a little space, like make her snakes, get her coloring books, give her the pacifier, her favorite blanket. I recently got her a giant squishmallow from like Ariana. Nice. Yes, or snuggle for blue. Or like I can't baby Yoda plushie and all that.

00:56:13:06 - 00:56:20:04

Luna

I love that. So. So what are your hopes for your sexual self going forward?

00:56:20:06 - 00:56:40:18

Kemosabe

Just to be able to learn more? Is my understanding of sex. It's an art and it's a study like we are always students. That's and there's always more to learn. So like I'm always the same mindset of what more can I learn. So like some of the sex or is this just like this is perfect, you know, just pencils and everything, you know?

00:56:40:19 - 00:56:51:13

Luna

Totally. Well, I learned so much from people's specifics, the patterns that they share, their experiences. There's so much more than I have learned. And lots of books. And I'm still reading all the sex books. But, like, here's my favorite.

00:56:51:15 - 00:56:57:10

Kemosabe

I would like to start reading more site books, too. If I had the time for me, but that's on my to do list.

00:56:57:13 - 00:57:09:16

Luna

Well, on my to do list is to make a list of the sex books that I've read and sort of like create categories and put them on the website so that people can like go look, just if anyone's curious, because I know I've mentioned a lot and sometimes people are like, you're talking about these textbooks, what are they?

00:57:09:16 - 00:57:12:08

Kemosabe

So I feel you. Yeah, that helped me out a lot.

00:57:12:14 - 00:57:18:12

Luna

Yeah. Yeah, exactly. So now that I know that you want that, I'll make it faster. Do we say all your hopes.

00:57:18:14 - 00:57:24:18

Kemosabe

All the sex with her love? I actually proposed her this past Sunday.

00:57:24:20 - 00:57:28:14

Luna

Oh, my God, it's so fresh. Congratulations. Shins.

00:57:28:16 - 00:57:47:06

Kemosabe

Definitely renewed. Like the sparks and flames and a whole getting and several relationships. And like she she has that looking at the ring. She keeps sending me different pictures of like doing stuff with the ring list. She's like, oh like like it's me holding the steering wheels. Look, it's me pushing the shopping cart.

00:57:47:08 - 00:57:49:09

Luna

Do you have one of her on your cock yet?

00:57:49:09 - 00:57:52:07

Kemosabe

Like, no. Not yet.

00:57:52:09 - 00:57:54:21

Luna

Look at me. Giving a handjob.

00:57:54:23 - 00:58:03:16

Kemosabe

She made a joke. Same night about. Oh, I guess the sex is so good you put a ring on it. I was like, well, you technically have put a ring on it, but it's.

00:58:03:18 - 00:58:11:22

Luna

Amazing. Okay, so if you could go back in time and give young youth sex advice, what age or ages would you pick and what would you tell them?

00:58:12:00 - 00:58:38:02

Kemosabe

Definitely learn more about consent, because I'm using a unique situation like I was in the mindset of doing it, but I let it slide the way so that we can say there were a lot of times where my hesitation led to not having sex. It's just like, yeah, just go for it. Yeah. You know, like, if I had no, my life would turn out the same way and just go for it.

00:58:38:02 - 00:58:45:13

Kemosabe

We did the best I could be, like an expert philosophy because it started at the peak of Covid.

00:58:45:15 - 00:58:47:14

00:58:47:16 - 00:58:48:08

Kemosabe

Okay.

00:58:48:10 - 00:58:57:01

Luna

Okay okay. Well I'm curious to hear how it will grow and maybe you can come back and tell us at some point. You know it sounds like you're in a great place.

00:58:57:03 - 00:59:02:23

Kemosabe

Yeah I think so too. Very confident for sure. Super happy.

00:59:03:01 - 00:59:06:18

Luna

Kemosabe. Thank you so much for being a guest on Sex Stories.

00:59:06:20 - 00:59:07:22

Kemosabe

Thanks for having me.

00:59:08:00 - 00:59:10:02

Luna

Do you have a sex question for me?

00:59:10:04 - 00:59:13:04

Kemosabe

Any short term goals near future?