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Luna

Today I have the pleasure of speaking with Sex Empowerment coach, sexy content creator and doctor of Physical Therapy, Kyle. Kyle sees clients online and in person, helping to empower women and men whom are longing for deeper sexual expression to embrace their intimate desires safely. He's a 30 year old cis dude from New York who is heterosexual and bisexual and partnered and is into erotic bodywork, kinky breathing, public play and group sex.

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Luna

Welcome, doctor Kyle Dean.

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Kyle

Thank you so much for having me. It's been a pleasure to come on here.

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Luna

The pleasure has been truly all mine. And I wish that you would tell our sweet audience first. If you had to rate yourself on a sexual shame meter with ten being almost full of shame and one being the least shaming, where do you fall? Right now?

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Kyle

I would say it too, just because I feel there's always something underlying maybe some shadow or something underneath that I still need to work on. So I would say a two.

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Luna

Is it usually two? Does it wiggle around?

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Kyle

I'd say it's usually a two. Yeah. Nowadays maybe in the past it used to be lower or higher okay. Based on your skin. I used to be maybe around the 4 or 5, but we've worked down to a one with more self-awareness, more education, more coming into myself and my authentic voice.

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Luna

So fuck yeah. Okay. And then can you give us just a little overview of what your sex life is like right now and your favorite right now?

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Kyle

My sex life. Well, the past month and a half, I actually just recently got over having a monkeypox, which kind of took my sex life away for about 5 or 6 weeks. I've only recently gotten back to being intimate just this past week. So that's exciting. So otherwise it's been pretty null and void. But normally, you know, I go through dry spells every now and then and then also I do content creation on OnlyFans.

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Kyle

So I might be working with other creators or making solo content. And then I usually have a partner or two regularly who are sexual, but I don't have any long term partners, at this time.

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Luna

Okay. And what would you say are your favorite parts of your sex life right now?

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Kyle

I'd have to say sharing about it, because truthfully, my sex life is very, very dull at the moment. I'm just being honest. We're just getting back to things. So being able to share it and put it out there into the world, put out all the knowledge that I have and helping to empower other people in their sex lives is actually what brings me the most joy at this moment.

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Luna

Okay, now can you give us your personal definition of sexy? What is sexy to Doctor Kyle Dean?

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Kyle

I want to choose a couple words I feel I would say authentic, secure and honest. I say that because, you know, we think of the physical when we think of sexy, right? And the nice hair, the big chest, the big ass, whatever. But I think none of that matters unless someone is truly present with you. If they are completely authentic, they don't have a mask on, and they're trying to make themselves out to be something just to make you happy or make others happy.

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Kyle

When someone is just raw and vulnerable and their authentic self and fully self aware of what they like and what they don't like, that's really sexy. Because then I know if I'm really going to vibe with this person or not, and if I don't, that's okay. Maybe we just say mutual acquaintances or friends and that's better than wasting any time or energy.

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Luna

Fuck yeah. When do you feel sexiest?

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Kyle

When I'm with someone, when I'm having intimate time with someone and I feel I'm providing them pleasure. I'm meeting their desires. I'm giving them the time of their life, the experience of their life. Sexy to me, is feeling like I can show up for a partner. I can change their world. I can rock their world. And so that feels sexy to me because I feel like I'm bringing amazing value and amazing experience to this person.

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Luna

Yeah. Do you feel like you're service oriented or like how do you frame that sexiness you've described?

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Kyle

So service truly means when you're doing something directly for someone else's pleasure, not necessarily for your own. So although I do do that at times, especially with a lot of the work that I do, no matter what, I still get some pleasure back from seeing someone have their desires met, to be pleasured, to become empowered no matter what.

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Kyle

Field or realm I'm working in, whether I'm working with clients or I'm working directly with a partner. I just love to see someone come into themselves and be free and express themselves. So when I can achieve that, that's really great. But of course, I do love pleasure myself. And it's not just seeing someone else in pleasure that gives me that feeling.

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Kyle

I also like to be pleased as well. I'm just generally, generally more on the dominant side, but I do switch for partners. And so allowing them to take over and allow them to be in their realm and just worry about me. And my pleasure is also a great experience to have.

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Luna

What counts as sex for you.

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Kyle

I will, I'll say a lot of people think sex is just penetrative, and to me sex is not just penetrative. Sex is intimate time, whether it's just external, whether it's rubbing, touching, kissing, different forms of foreplay or form of sex. To me, so understanding that anything in that realm is sexy to me. There's also ways to energetically exchange sex.

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Kyle

So with breath, with movement really going deep and connecting with someone, that's also a form of sex to me. Also food. Food can be very sexual at times too, if we're just being honest.

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Luna

Like in a figurative way or like a literal.

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Kyle

Okay, both. Yeah. Like whether you're bringing food into the bedroom or like, you know, you eat a really delicious meal and it's fucking orgasmic.

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Luna

Yeah. Or like, I want to be a table for a sushi dinner.

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Kyle

Yeah, yeah, yeah, that works too. Or chocolate sirup and strawberries.

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Luna

And one.

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Kyle

Time. Yeah, I did have this. I mean, if we could go into a story. Yeah, I did have this one time. This girl I went to college with after graduation, she was working in New York City. I'm from there. But I was living across the country. And every time I would come in to New York to visit, she would hit me up and be like, hey, let's hang out.

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Kyle

Wanted to play because we had some good times in college. And this one time I went to her apartment and I was like, I think I brought up the idea of bringing chocolate sirup in the bedroom. She was down, and we basically just used an entire bottle and covered each other with it, and it was really hot until it was over.

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Kyle

And then we were an absolute fucking mess, and that was gross. But did you have to go? No. I think she told me that she would just throw out the sheet so she didn't really care. But yeah, it was a mess after. But during great, great time. What I do it again to that extent. I don't know.

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Luna

In like a kiddy pool maybe.

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Kyle

Yeah. Yeah, that would be good. And like, I don't have to clean it up.

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Luna

Yeah yeah yeah. So as a young person, did you ever get a clear, explicit sex talk or was there ever a time where someone was like, hey, this is what consent is?

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Kyle

So sex talk, I remember I believe it was sixth grade where. So I was 11 or 12. We had the students and our parents come in to an auditorium and they did some form of a sex talk talking about how women get pregnant and how that whole thing goes. You can't remember the full extent, but all I'll say is that's really all we had.

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Kyle

We did have a health class, but I don't really think we spoke much other than about STDs. And we had some woman come in and give a speech about how she got HIV the first time she had sex, and tried to scare the crap out of every student, and I, I know I was scared, I remember because all I could think was, I'm never having sex.

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Kyle

I'm going to die if I do. So that wasn't healthy. Outside of that, though, we didn't really talk about consent necessarily, other than getting my parents telling me to, like, be kind and not, you know, do something wrong to someone or take advantage of someone. So that always kind of came across normal to me of like, how to approach that if someone says no, to abide by that.

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Kyle

But nothing specific to sex.

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Luna

Okay. And because I love examples and think that they're very hot. Do you have a specific example from your adult grown up life of a time where there was a clear, explicit, yes, that was super duper hot.

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Kyle

Yeah. Very recently I connected. Well, prior to the whole monkeypox episode, I connected with a girl. I think it was on Bumble. I live in Las Vegas. We're here in Las Vegas right now in Sin City, and we connected on Bumble, I believe, and she was visiting her mom to do some work and whatnot, but she was here for a couple weeks and she was very flirty, trying to have a good time.

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Kyle

Got out of a recent marriage, so she was ready to just have fun. And we finally found a night to meet up, and she wanted to do very adventurous things. And I was like, all right, like, let's go do something in public. And we went down to, well, I met her down at the Golden Nugget on Fremont Street.

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Kyle

She was there with her mom gambling. And I said, let's meet on the street, and then I will find an area to go and public and just fuck. And lo and behold, there's an alleyway, like right down the street from Golden Nugget. And she met me outside. We walked over there within like 2 or 3 minutes. I bent her over behind this wall in this alleyway and was inside of her.

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Kyle

And it was extremely hot. She loved it. She was all about it, you know. So when we first talked about it and she was a fuck yes, I was like, all right, let's do this thing. And she was trusting. We built a relationship, you know, texting before we even went there. So we knew what she was okay with.

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Kyle

But I was okay with boundaries, all that kind of stuff. But she was very down, and it was a fucking amazing fucking time.

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Luna

Fuck. Yes. Okay. On that note of health and safety, what are those conversations usually sound like for you? Like what's your ideal version of them?

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Kyle

Sure. So sometimes it comes up naturally where depending on the intent of whatever exchange or encounter a relationship I'm having, we might be talking about sexual things right away. And then if we're planning to meet up, I always make sure we have some form of conversation around sexual how a threesome partner is, you know? What are you looking for?

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Kyle

Just to make sure that people make informed decisions? Myself, as well as whoever I'm playing with for safety purposes. But normally, if that doesn't naturally come up and I'm looking into having some sort of relationship with this person, whether sexual, romantic or something else, I'll bring up a conversation called the Spread Talk. It's an acronym and it stands for sexual health preferences, Relationship status, emotions.

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Kyle

Ask, meaning ask your partner for them to go through that stuff and then desires. So there's more content that goes into the spread. Talk about what you talk about in each specific letter, but it's a way of going through all the things that way both partners can see, are we on the same level? Do we want to move forward with something sexual or romantic, or are we just staying friends and then speaking to desires and we can see where we match?

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Kyle

And basically just making sure we can make a conscious, informed decision about what we want to do with this person, how much risk we're willing to take.

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Luna

Like, where did you learn that?

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Kyle

So I learned that at a secret sexuality retreat, or training, I should say specifically called esta. I'm not associated with them, but it's where I'm learning a lot more about sacred sexuality, spirituality. And I'm actually going to another training next week. To continue my studies.

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Luna

Okay. So now take us back to your younger years and, like, walk us through your whole sexual formative timeline of whatever is important, but start with your earliest memory. Like when do you remember first hearing about sex or like having it into your awareness?

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Kyle

So I don't remember when I started liking girls or masturbating, but I know I was masturbating before, anything came out of my penis when I would orgasm. So that was definitely around maybe 12 or 13 that I started, maybe younger, but I would just do this thing and it felt good and it was great. Until one day something came out of my penis when I did that, and I didn't know what to do with it.

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Kyle

So I would either do it in my bed like a dirty child, or if I didn't want to make a mess in my bed that my mom could see. And this is kind of gross, to be quite honest. I didn't know what else to do because I had no idea I would. My bed was in the corner of the room, so I would just turn to the side and just shoot my load all over the wall, and it was just a trip down the wall, down to the floor, between the bed in the wall.

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Kyle

And I would just keep doing that for a while later, as the years progressed, because I slept in that bed for a long time, there were just dried stains down the wall that were like kind of gross and getting like brownish. So I wish someone told me about like the sock method or something else earlier. My mom eventually noticed that when they sold the house like years later, and my dad was getting the house already, apparently.

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Kyle

And this is gross. But she goes, I don't know what you got on the wall, but your father had to scrape it off so he could paint over it. And I just was like, goddamn, I, I have no idea what that is, mom. Have no clue. It was probably soda or something. Here.

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Luna

That's a very, if you think about it, it's almost like a living art piece created over the years on it, can target like, a target. It's always.

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Kyle

Subjective perspective.

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Luna

Methods. What were your early methods like?

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Kyle

Just used my hand and occasionally some spit, other than that. Oh, and then there was one time where I was, like, really wanting to experience something. I don't know what I why, but I went into my the freezer at my house. No one was home at this time. And my mom had this like, I don't know, frozen cake in the freezer, but it was like it was still like cakey, even though it was frozen.

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Kyle

And I took it out and I yeah, I stuck my dick in that cake.

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Luna

Like in the layers of the like, well.

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Kyle

Yeah, I fucked the cake. So the point where there was like cake all over the kitchen floor tiles and I didn't know what to do. I made a mess, I like, I don't, I was just a stupid kid just trying to get off and horny and didn't know what to do. And yeah, there was fucking cake all over the floor that I like.

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Kyle

Pushed under the cabinets, into the corners because my you have to understand, my kitchen growing up was all white like white tile, white cabinets, black and white. And so you would notice specks or crumbs and my mom would call us out on being like, clean that up. Even the littlest thing in microscope. And I was like, oh fuck, I don't even know what to do here.

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Kyle

I don't know how to clean this up. And then she came home and she's like, what the fuck happened here? And I was like, I dropped it, I don't know. And yeah, I just made up some bullshit because.

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Luna

She doesn't know that. Do you have a type of relationship? Okay.

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Kyle

No, she does not know that I fucked the cake when I was like 12 or 13 years old.

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Kyle

I don't even know if I've told this story anywhere else. Okay, so this anywhere else?

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Luna

You're trying not to laugh because we're sharing. I'm like, but oh man. Okay, so.

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Kyle

It was chocolate. Yes. You wonder.

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Luna

I was wondering, have you done that as an adult?

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Kyle

No. For like.

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Luna

Seven bucks a.

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Kyle

Cake. I did it once and I judge someone if they want to do that. No, I've thought about bringing cake in the bedroom, but I'm also like, that's a fucking mess. You know, also, a lot of women are worried about, like, getting it in the wrong areas and they're balance. So like, yeah, maybe one day we'll get a cake and, you know, for birthday and then turn.

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Kyle

It's actual.

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Luna

Hot. Okay. So you discovered yourself. Did you start exploring with partners next. Did you talk about sex with friends at school? Like what was kind of like the vibe in your household, in your community that you grew up with?

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Kyle

So we didn't like talk about sex in my household. However, my parents did have gay friends. They would go to a lot of drag shows on fire Island because I grew up in New York on Long Island. And so they had friends who did drag. And so being around gay individuals was normalized in my family, which was a good thing, because I know not a lot of people that was normalized for especially seeing someone in drag as a kid in the 90s.

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Kyle

Like, that wasn't necessarily a normal thing to always be around. And it wasn't like all the time, but it was every summer they would go. Then also we had, gay couple that we met in a vacation to Cancun from England, and they became really good friends. I would visit every single year. So I did have relationships with people of various sexualities, which is gay or sexual identities.

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Kyle

But we didn't talk about sex much in the house other than that. My brother had a girlfriend in high school, and like, I would start to play around with girls lightly. But I was a late bloomer and so I wasn't super confident in high school. I was used to be the short kid, and, I hit puberty, I skyrocketed, I got taller than my friends, but then I was really skinny and lanky, and I didn't feel like man enough.

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Kyle

And additionally, since, you know, I hadn't really had any experiences with women or anyone, I was like, is my dick too small? Is it? I don't know, I have no idea. I'm not confident. I would literally avoid going to the high school bathroom in school because there was always kids smoking cigarets or doing dumb shit in there, and I thought, oh great, I'm going to go in there and they're going to judge me and they're going to look at me.

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Kyle

And so I would literally never go to the bathroom in high school. I would just wait till I got home. Fuck, yeah.

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Luna

All that. Yeah. Did you get bladder infections?

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Kyle

No, but I just don't think I drank water.

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Luna

Oh, fuck.

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Kyle

Okay, so I definitely drink a lot more water.

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Luna

Not very good. Oh, yeah. Okay. Okay. So when did you start exploring with partners? Like, how did you get from there to now you're like an erotic coach.

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Kyle

So I remember my first quote unquote girlfriend I think it was in sixth grade. And like I remember making out with her, we made out a few times but that lasted all of like a month. And then as I like hit puberty, I remember I got my first girlfriend. But prior to that, prior to my first real girlfriend, I had my first sexual experience.

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Kyle

I believe I was 16 and the girl that I slept with was the great younger than me, and that wasn't the best experience either. For anyone who doesn't have a great virginity story or breaking of their virginity. I went over to her house and went into her room. I don't remember how we planned it out, but I just remember it was freezing cold room.

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Kyle

She had the air conditioning on and I was already nervous, so I was already shaking and we were on her floor. Why? We were on her floor, I have no idea. Like, if she can try and get the wrapper off of the condom, trying to figure out how to put a condom on for the first time ever. And we did it.

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Kyle

I don't think I lasted long at all. I was definitely less than like a few minutes and I was freezing the whole time, so that did not help. It was memorable, but not for like the best reasons. But we got it done and got past that. And then. Yeah, and then I had my first girlfriend, like real wine for about a year and we would play around.

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Kyle

We had great times. Then she broke up with me when she went to college my freshman year, which broke my heart. Yeah, went through that whole situation and led to me going into my whole phase of like, fuck relationships. I'm going to go have fun and do my thing. And that's when I started to fuck around a lot in college.

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Kyle

And really start to come into my sexual prowess in a way, not necessarily in the most healthy ways. More in a validation manner of, oh my God, I'm actually good at this. And like this is fun. I enjoy this like, it gives me attention, like girls like me. And so in addition to having friends who would also encourage that are like doing the same thing and seeing like who's sleeping with who, the whole college thing.

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Kyle

Right? And like, who is sleeping with more women or whatnot. It was not the healthiest thing. But that's what we did. And it was like a confidence boost to be like, oh yeah, I've slept with like 20 girls now or something. And so I did that for a while. I had relationships in college, which unfortunately, I definitely made bad decisions in, or I just got into relationships because I was lacking self-love.

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Kyle

I was codependent, and then I would self-sabotage relationships because I didn't feel like I was worthy enough, or I had these other sexual desires with other people, but I couldn't be honest about it because I was worried they would hate me, they wouldn't love me, they would break up with me, and then I couldn't stand that. So I had no idea what to do.

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Kyle

And so I went through this like identity issue for a while and not having a job, really being broke in college, I just felt like I had nothing else besides either this relationship or my sex life. And so that's the only thing that made me feel somewhat good about myself. Outside of that, it was a struggle. A struggle to communicate.

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Kyle

As a man growing up, my dad didn't really know how to communicate. My brother didn't really communicate much, so I didn't know how to communicate my feelings. And I just kind of had a lot of guilt about having these sexual desires. And why can't I just be with one person and be happy, like this person over here? And like, monogamy was the only thing in culture.

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Kyle

So I was like, there's just something wrong with me. I'm never going to be good enough or this kind of crap I went through, and I didn't start really working past that until I got out of college. I got better about telling people my intentions, like if I was just looking for something sexual, but I really just did go through it where we didn't communicate these things, and then a lot of people would have feelings for me.

00:21:14:11 - 00:21:31:07

Kyle

And then I was, you know, end up hurting someone because I'm like, that's not really what I'm looking for here. I didn't know what I was looking for. Yeah. And that lack of sexual or just self-awareness in general about my intentions led to me hurting others. And because I hurt others, I hurt myself because I didn't like making people feel bad.

00:21:31:09 - 00:21:51:03

Kyle

I just felt like I was a terrible person all the time. And I got eventually tired of feeling that way and tired of hurting other people and started to go through my path of a lot of personal development, working with coaches, going to therapy, all the things, listening to podcasts, and just really working on myself these past like six years or seven.

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Kyle

I don't even know where we're at now. And through all that, through a lot of that deep in our work, working on my inner child shadow work, I've gotten to the place I'm at now. Now, being a sex empowerment coach, I'm also a doctor. Physical therapy, being a physical therapist, you have a great understanding of the body, how the nervous system, and trauma can affect the body and how you react to your behaviors.

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Kyle

And that affects sex as well. Just as someone were to be sexually traumatized. There's physical trauma, whether it's a soccer injury or a car accident. They're all forms of trauma, different in nature. But how they represent in the body at times, or in behaviors or reactions can be very similar. And a lot of the techniques to help someone calm down and work past that are very similar.

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Kyle

And just having been a very sexual being, having had a ton of experience growing up and just honestly getting around, and working through my, you know, negative toxic traits as a man, just becoming a better overall person, I naturally started to step into this role of like, I love sex and I would like to talk about it.

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Kyle

And once I had a couple partners who opened up to me and said, hey, like, you really need to coach this stuff. And I was like, what do you mean? And they're like, well, you really take care of me. You listen to me. You meet my desires like you give me an amazing experience. I have, like the greatest sex with you.

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Kyle

And I was like, well, I don't know. That's that's just what I do. Like. That's all I know. I just know what I do. And they're like, well, most guys are not like you. They either don't care about me. They don't listen to me. They come before me. They do like they just don't meet my needs. And it's unsatisfying.

00:23:26:00 - 00:23:54:00

Kyle

I get frustrated and I just wish a lot more men knew what you knew and did what you did, because I would be a lot happier. I was like, oh, okay. And then after I heard that like similar stories a couple times and I helped one partner, work past like trauma from an ex with like, anal and just helping other girls, like, really explore their kinks without judgment and shame and all these things which I just thought was normal.

00:23:54:02 - 00:24:12:18

Kyle

And that's just because I became more secure in my sexuality and my sexual desires as I became ethically non-monogamous, really stepped into that lifestyle and realizing it was for me. And that helped me open up and be just communicative and very honest from the start with everyone about my intentions, about my desires that I am a sexual being.

00:24:12:18 - 00:24:41:06

Kyle

And if you're not okay with that, then that's fine. And it started to lead to better relationships. I wasn't hurting anyone, I was educating more. I was just my authentic self. And that started to show and social media content that I was making and sharing a lot more about that. And then I just dove more into my education around a secret sexuality, sex itself and just really connecting my education, my experience, and this additional training to do what I do now as a sex empowerment coach.

00:24:41:08 - 00:25:02:05

Luna

Amazing and well told. Now I'm wondering if you could perhaps share a few of the physical specifics of those things that your partners reflected to you that they love so much. You gave us kind of like facilitate the butt sex, but like, let me start with your personal favorites. So we know that you like making a partner feel good.

00:25:02:07 - 00:25:08:13

Luna

What are ways that you like to do that specifically that others might benefit from hearing? And then I would love to hear what you love to receive.

00:25:08:16 - 00:25:32:01

Kyle

Sure. Well, I would say one of the number one things, which this is more physical, but we'll get into the things that are more important. A physical thing is, I can say I've helped numerous women, squirt for the first time, which is something that a lot of women might be nervous about or they want to do but don't know how to or never felt safe to do so.

00:25:32:03 - 00:25:50:15

Kyle

And so I've enabled a lot of women to do that because I just know how to do it. And that's why, like I teach it and I make videos about it on like, my only fans. And I'm going to make some more content about that in like upcoming courses about how to do some of these things so you can pressure your partner, but first it comes down to how do I make someone feel safe?

00:25:50:20 - 00:26:12:23

Kyle

And you make someone feel safe by bringing that presence of being aware of what they are trying to accomplish here, what type of connection they want, what desires they have, listening, maintaining eye contact, making sure that you're not just worried about yourself, that you're worried about your partner's desires. And so that's a big thing that a lot of my partners love is just that.

00:26:12:23 - 00:26:29:09

Kyle

I'm like, I listen, I take my time. If they say no and they want to stop or slow down like I do it, and then they realize, okay, like we can push boundaries here because they feel safe to do so. And they know if I say no or I say stop. And like if I communicate my needs, he's going to listen.

00:26:29:11 - 00:26:48:09

Kyle

And that takes a lot of stress away and the ability to go, all right, now we can we can push a little harder because like I feel safe with you to do so. And so that's where I've been able to help women like try out anal or try out Bdsm or getting tied up. It just takes that level of safety and communication.

00:26:48:11 - 00:26:55:06

Kyle

Yeah, I would say the squirting for sure, but really just the safety communication factor.

00:26:55:08 - 00:27:02:06

Luna

Do you warn them, are you like suddenly squirting them or you're like, I'm going to make you squirt now? Or does that make people more anxious or does it?

00:27:02:08 - 00:27:17:16

Kyle

We might talk about it prior. Okay. Like, you know, whatever their interests are, because a lot of women say, oh, I would really love to squirt, but I've never done it. And I go, I can help you with that. And they go, really? And some of them are like, don't believe it. They're like, okay, yeah, sure, we'll see.

00:27:17:18 - 00:27:39:16

Kyle

And I'm not kidding. Like, this is not to be cocky. I just know it. I know what I'm doing there certain ways to facilitate it. And I've made some great fully orgasm, fully squirt in the first like two minutes of playing with them because I just know what I'm doing. Or there's just ways to arouse someone again, make them feel safe if they don't feel safe, they're going to guard and they're not going to fully release.

00:27:39:18 - 00:27:59:12

Kyle

Like if you want something out of your partner, whether it's new or recurring partner, they need to feel safe so their nervous system can relax, their muscles can relax, and they can stop judging themselves and just fully immerse themselves in it. Because there are some women who, when you're about to squirt, I don't know the true feeling because I don't.

00:27:59:14 - 00:28:02:14

Luna

I do, I don't. I know that feeling a lot. I squirted a lot.

00:28:02:15 - 00:28:17:03

Kyle

Exactly. But it feels like you're about to pee for many and some women for the first time. They're like, oh my God, I feel like I'm going to pee. And they get really self-conscious about that. Like, I don't want that to be seen. Like, I don't want to make a mess and I just don't fuck. Yeah, I do it.

00:28:17:03 - 00:28:43:00

Kyle

I want to see that. Like, I love that. I'm like, do it. So it's just a lot of encouragement and and empowering someone to be like, release like this. Don't hold yourself back the same way when you're doing breathwork or you're doing other forms of release or you're dancing. How we can get it in our own own heads about I don't want to move that way because someone will look at me or, you know, if I breathe too heavy in this breathwork, I might actually, like, cry or something.

00:28:43:00 - 00:29:02:00

Kyle

I'm like, that's what we want. Yeah, I want you to hit that point. I want your nervous system to finally just go, I surrender and just let things flow. And so it's a great therapeutic thing for many people to fully release and like, oh my God, this is an amazing experience. And not every woman orgasms with squirting.

00:29:02:05 - 00:29:07:05

Kyle

It can happen simultaneously. It can happen separately. But it's still an amazing feeling. Exactly.

00:29:07:05 - 00:29:17:02

Luna

Yeah, it's like hotly intense and especially if I have a partner who loves squirting, then it's like hearing that feedback, like hearing that it feels like an accomplishment, but it's just like hotness.

00:29:17:04 - 00:29:38:19

Kyle

It also, again, it empower someone to know, oh, like, I don't have to feel self-conscious about this. Like guys like this or women like this. That's what it comes down to a lot of times when it comes to sex and kinks and desires, is we judge ourselves and we don't want to go there because we're worried people are going to think we're weird or strange or different, and they're not going to like me.

00:29:38:21 - 00:29:57:01

Kyle

And I'm like, these are your desires. If I'm not into it, I'll say that politely and just be like, you know what? That's not for me. But, you know, if someone's like, wants to suck my toes or something, I'm not really into that. But I respect you for having that kink. It's just not something that might be a boundary with our relationship.

00:29:57:02 - 00:29:58:04

Kyle

Like I'm not into that.

00:29:58:04 - 00:29:59:04

Luna

Are you ticklish?

00:29:59:06 - 00:30:00:20

Kyle

I am ticklish in certain areas.

00:30:01:01 - 00:30:01:21

Luna

On your toes.

00:30:01:23 - 00:30:03:18

Kyle

I think it depends on how you how you touch.

00:30:03:18 - 00:30:07:05

Luna

Them, you know. Yeah, yeah. My ticklish ness varies because I love, love.

00:30:07:06 - 00:30:13:19

Kyle

Yeah, I love a, like a firm foot. Right. But if you start being like really light touch with about. Yeah. I'm like, I feel weird.

00:30:13:21 - 00:30:21:23

Luna

What about receiving give us the details and you can receive in giving. But like tell us the specifics of your body and what it loves.

00:30:22:01 - 00:30:49:17

Kyle

Relaxation. I like to feel a rush. I like to go into almost, like, subspace, where you come out of the room and you're just getting so involved with the partner or partners you're with, and you enter this whole other realm where you're more out of your head and just into your body and feeling everything. I love nails, I like scratching, light spanks, light choking, but not too much there.

00:30:49:17 - 00:30:56:08

Kyle

I do love any sort of massage technique. Firm gripping. It's cool. Some hair pulling pretty good.

00:30:56:08 - 00:31:00:06

Luna

Is that all receiving or is it giving and receiving the differences?

00:31:00:07 - 00:31:20:05

Kyle

I mean, those are definitely things I would receive. Okay. I'm happy to do those things for someone, but being a physical therapist and doing bodywork, I'm like used to doing massage and using my hands. So I do know how to use my hands very well in that manner and like know what feels good or do soft tissue mobilization, but in this case in more of a sensual manner.

00:31:20:06 - 00:31:24:10

Luna

Okay. And it doesn't feel like work if you're doing it on someone you like want. Yeah. Okay.

00:31:24:10 - 00:31:42:07

Kyle

Yeah, like I do. I do love fingering is the number one way. I actually used to get someone to score. And I just love being able to keep maintain eye contact and as I'm doing it. Right. Yeah. It's just I just love seeing it and feeling it and connecting in that way. And just until they hit orgasm, it's okay.

00:31:42:07 - 00:31:49:14

Luna

Now tell us specifics of your cock your balls. Like what are you into? But stuff do you like you're like. And are there any other erogenous zones like yours? Yeah.

00:31:49:19 - 00:32:16:08

Kyle

What's again? I love, like running nails through my hair on my head. Feels amazing. That might put me to sleep, though. I don't know if it'll get me aroused, but I do love my feet up like pressure to my feet. Feels great. It was just one time during a three way with two other girls. One of them happened to be a massage therapist and my girlfriend at the time was riding on top of me and I couldn't see the second girl, but she was down by my feet just watching.

00:32:16:08 - 00:32:31:15

Kyle

And then she started to like, rub my feet as the other was riding me and I was like, Holy shit, this feels amazing. And I ended up like coming really hard. And once I was done, I was like, what the fuck were you doing on her? She's like, I was just pressing on her feet, you know, massaging her feet.

00:32:31:20 - 00:32:50:17

Kyle

That was great. And then at the time, I didn't know anything about erogenous zones and I learned about it. I was like, oh, that makes sense now. So yeah, definitely my feet. All right. My cock it is. Cut. I think that's a nice cock. I usually get compliments on it. It's very straight. It's not curved or anything. It's kind of nice tip to it.

00:32:50:17 - 00:32:52:08

Luna

Where it's sensitive parts.

00:32:52:14 - 00:33:13:00

Kyle

Sensitive a friend. Yeah I'm a little bit which is around the tip underside like my tip like if you are like sucking on my tip a lot or playing with it, it's like overtly sensitive, where I might have to tell you to stop because it's like too much. It's like overstimulation. And then I do like my balls being lightly played with like a little tickle or like nails on them.

00:33:13:02 - 00:33:32:08

Kyle

And I love my perineum played with two. So in between the taint as you would between the balls and the anus, it's really nice to get like rub there, use a little oil or spit. And the greatest combo, of course, is like getting your balls sucked on while it's just stuck in your cock and also playing with your perineum or asshole.

00:33:32:08 - 00:33:38:12

Kyle

That's just fucking great. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I mean, I'm above average. I'll say that if you want to see the whole thing, you can go to my only family.

00:33:38:14 - 00:33:43:23

Luna

It is only fans. Are you into butt stuff for yourself or giving receiving.

00:33:44:00 - 00:34:07:05

Kyle

So. But stuff I've definitely done. It's not like a make or break for me though. Like, if I went my whole life without it, I'd be okay. But at times I definitely do it. I usually only do it with a partner that's a regular partner just because, like a new encounter. I don't know if this person knows how to do that stuff if they've had their nails cut, because I will not fuck with you if you have long nails, like you're not going to go there.

00:34:07:09 - 00:34:21:06

Kyle

But I also do like have a love and, remote control vibrating butt plug that I'll use on me occasionally a partner will use it, obviously, but cleaner. And yeah, I've done other things. Like I did a double ended deal with a girl once.

00:34:21:07 - 00:34:21:11

Luna

Oh.

00:34:21:11 - 00:34:40:06

Kyle

Position and like, been fingered or eaten out. I like to eat now, but I will say a big reason why I don't do a ton of anal stuff is because in the past I had diagnosed prostatitis, which is basically inflammation in the prostate. And so if you go into the anus, that's where you can palpate or touch the prostate and apply pressure.

00:34:40:08 - 00:35:01:13

Kyle

And when that used to happen, it would cause like a burning sensation. And so I wasn't enjoyable. And if at sometimes I would actually like exacerbate my symptoms. So that was a big reason why I actually like avoided anal stuff for a while, because I was worried, even if I wasn't having symptoms, if I was playing in there a lot more, that I might get the infection again, which anyone can do.

00:35:01:13 - 00:35:12:10

Kyle

Any man can get it. Sometimes it's bacterial, sometimes it's, other things that are related. But I didn't want that to come back because it was not comfortable and I had it for a while.

00:35:12:12 - 00:35:25:00

Luna

You mentioned threesomes earlier. Have you had more of those like tell us a little bit about your group sex experience and or desires and or anything non-monogamy related that may come up in that context.

00:35:25:02 - 00:35:53:20

Kyle

So I've definitely had a handful of threesomes I've had, I don't know how many threesomes I've, I've had probably double digits, but like not like more than 20. Absolutely not more than 20, but maybe around like 10 to 15. And then I've had a four way ones and a five way ones. I think that's it. So usually the times that I was doing these things or able to have group sex more regularly was when I had a partner who was into it and very open.

00:35:53:20 - 00:36:10:04

Kyle

Like outside of that, if you're the only way you're going to find it is if you're finding like a couple that's wanting to bring you in as like a unicorn or something, because otherwise, if you're trying to find two people on your own, it's very difficult. Honestly. People flake. People aren't picky. This person doesn't like that person, but they like you.

00:36:10:06 - 00:36:27:16

Kyle

So normally I had like a partner who was either romantic or sexually related that we would go explore or find people. The five we started out as a three way. So there was this one time I came up to visit her that the girl that I would play with sexually, I got a hotel for the night. I was like, let's just have a night or play, have fun.

00:36:27:18 - 00:36:45:08

Kyle

And we talked about having three ways and like, I was on Tinder and I matched with this girl while I was there. I told her what we were doing and I was like, hey, do you want to come over and like, have it three way, but make it a surprise? And she was actually down like, this was within like 20 minutes of talking because my girl was coming over very soon.

00:36:45:14 - 00:37:01:17

Kyle

I was like, come over to the hotel and we'll meet, hang out for a little bit and we'll surprise her. And that's literally what we did. I made out with her first a little bit and just like, you know, get to know her and have some fun and warm up. And then when my girl arrived to the hotel, I turned off the all the lights.

00:37:01:17 - 00:37:19:23

Kyle

I blindfolded her and I was like, I have a surprise for you. And trust me, I knew like she would be okay with this important context. I knew this was like consensual, that she would be into it and the other girl who was waiting, she was. I had her waiting naked with whipped cream on like just above her pussy.

00:37:20:01 - 00:37:41:17

Kyle

And I took my girl. I started making out with her while she was blindfolded, started to undress her, and then got her to the point where I put her on the bed and just put her face right in this girl's pussy. And she was like, it took me a second to know what was happening, but then I, like, looked around and then realized and she just started to eat this girl out.

00:37:41:18 - 00:38:02:03

Kyle

And then I started to fuck her from behind. Eventually she took the blindfold off and was super into it. They started fucking each other so it worked out great. But again, I knew this girl very well. We've had conversations like this, so this was something she was okay with consenting to and wanting to do. And I made sure that the girl I found was someone she would be interested in and was safe and all these things.

00:38:02:08 - 00:38:17:18

Kyle

So yeah, those two we ended up meeting again for another night, and then we found a couple to come join and the couple. The only thing about the couple was the girl was on her period, so she was a little limited in how she played, but otherwise.

00:38:17:21 - 00:38:19:05

Luna

It counts as a 510. Yeah.

00:38:19:06 - 00:38:27:18

Kyle

Oh yeah. Definitely. So it's two guys and three girls, which was fun. I would just it would have been greater if that girl could have played, but understandably she didn't feel comfortable.

00:38:27:18 - 00:38:30:00

Luna

So how are you playing with dudes?

00:38:30:02 - 00:38:46:16

Kyle

Totally fine, as long as there's no, like, power struggle between guys. Like, I don't fuck with that at all. It's like one's trying to be dominant towards me. I'm like, that's not what this is about. Like, this is just we're all having fun, you know, if there's certain boundaries, like, if it's a couple. Sometimes they don't want me.

00:38:46:16 - 00:39:07:01

Kyle

Like kissing the girl on the mouth or it's like, absolute must that I wear a condom because she's not on birth control kind of thing. Like, oh, of course, respect all those things. But there was like one time where I remember I was fucking this guy's wife and like, I came on her belly and he was like, you clean that mess up now or something.

00:39:07:01 - 00:39:25:17

Kyle

And I was kind of like, very like instructional and dominant. I was like, okay, it's a little like a little weird. Yeah. So as long as people are very chill, there's a good vibe. If I don't feel that way, I'm not going to be into it. And like, I don't I don't want that at all. Like, I want to be able to feel like I can just hang out with these people.

00:39:25:19 - 00:39:32:01

Luna

And you're straight, but like, would you like a guy to suck your cock if it's in a threesome situation or like, what's your kind of vibe like that?

00:39:32:01 - 00:39:53:06

Kyle

Yeah. So I get asked this all the time because a lot of people think or have wishful thinking that I am gay or bisexual. And the truth is, I'm not. I say I'm a heterosexual, bi bisexual, meaning I'm totally cool with, like, cuddling with my gay friends and, you know, going to get clubs and giving a guy hug, like, you know, that's okay with me, but I have no sexual or romantic interest in men.

00:39:53:08 - 00:40:18:14

Kyle

And I've had like, sexual encounters or explorations that I've had to see, like, is this something I even want? And once was with a bisexual guy and his girlfriend, which tried penetration, did not enjoy it whatsoever, had like 1 or 2 other encounters that were a little milder than that. And both times not interested at all. If anything, I was like, I need to leave now, or I need to stop this because I'm feeling weird about it.

00:40:18:14 - 00:40:35:19

Kyle

It doesn't feel right. But with that said, like I have no problem being naked in the room with Guy, you know, touching like I've done double penetration on girl. Like that's not a big deal for me. So as long as those boundaries are are met and just respected, then I have no problem.

00:40:35:21 - 00:40:40:01

Luna

You mentioned being into kinky play. Well, you talk about that.

00:40:40:03 - 00:41:11:03

Kyle

Yeah. So for those who don't know, kinky has consensual non consent. It's basically I like to be in more of a dominant role generally speaking. Although I will be submissive at times for partners. I do enjoy that at times, but I'm generally more dominant and consensual. Non consent. It sounds confusing, but it's basically, let's say your partner says, I want you to take advantage of me and, you know, within these boundaries so you can do anything you want to me except don't slap me in the face and don't choke me.

00:41:11:05 - 00:41:26:20

Kyle

But you can put it in my ass. You could put it on my pussy. You can spank me. And then, you know, just in case, let's have safe words of like red, mean stop, yellow means pause kind of thing. And so within that, you can do whatever you want. To me, you can use rope, you can use tape.

00:41:26:22 - 00:41:51:21

Kyle

So you are consensually allowing someone to do whatever they want to you. So do things that are non-consensual in a consensual way, if that makes sense. That can be confusing. So think of like and I don't want to trigger anyone with this, but some women do have, rape fantasies, where they want to be taken advantage of, but obviously it's in a way that they know they're going to be safe at the end of the day, like they're going to walk away from this.

00:41:51:21 - 00:42:05:11

Kyle

They're not going to have an STD. They're not going to be traumatized because some women who have had trauma or men as well, these thoughts or these desires come up as fantasies and you don't need to give reasons to it.

00:42:05:11 - 00:42:10:06

Luna

But I was going to say I haven't had trauma, but I feel like those things. Yeah.

00:42:10:06 - 00:42:29:00

Kyle

And yeah, you don't necessarily have to have trauma to have these fantasies. But for some who have had those traumas, doing this form of play can actually be very therapeutic and replace the negative experience with a positive one where I got to be taken advantage of, but in a safe way. Like I knew that this person is going to stop.

00:42:29:00 - 00:42:41:21

Kyle

I know they care for me, and now they're doing this in a caring way and that like I get to have this experience that's a good release for me. And then you're taking that that negative experience and replacing it, one that was positive and enjoyable.

00:42:41:23 - 00:42:48:18

Luna

Fuck yeah. Okay. And I would love to hear maybe these go together. Maybe they don't breeding and public sex.

00:42:48:20 - 00:42:50:17

Kyle

Well I did talk about public sex. Ready.

00:42:50:17 - 00:42:57:18

Luna

Okay I know you give us a preview, but you didn't tell us like in general it's the thing you do. You give us one specific example. Yeah.

00:42:57:20 - 00:43:18:03

Kyle

So I my only fans, I do a mix of content. I do educational content because of what I do as a sex empowerment coach and also a lot of people just want to learn from me because I am very sexually experienced. So I make educational videos like I made one on how to use a penis pump today and a cock ring, how to use a Fleshlight, how to make someone squirt like all these different things.

00:43:18:03 - 00:43:36:17

Kyle

Partner massage. And then I also just do general NSFW content because people want to watch me. And so I really enjoy doing things outdoors. So we'll go hiking in a bunch of the videos that I have and just do it out in nature where it's very like primal and very raw. I've done it like in a river.

00:43:36:17 - 00:43:55:09

Kyle

I've done it on mountains, so that's a lot of fun. Obviously, if I am like more in the public, I do take precautions because I don't want to expose someone that's really non consenting or like risk getting in trouble. Yeah. But like for example, that first story I told you, we were in an alleyway in Las Vegas, number one, Las Vegas.

00:43:55:09 - 00:44:10:21

Kyle

Like I've seen people fucking in their cars walking down the street. So it's a little more like it's Sin City. It's like you see these things, you see worse things on the street than that. But still, like, we made sure we were kind of like behind this. It wasn't a dumpster or anything, but it was some sort of wall.

00:44:10:23 - 00:44:24:22

Kyle

So I knew we were hit in. But there's a chance someone could come out of nowhere and we might, like, pull our pants up and run. So it's a bit of the risk. It's a bit of the thrill. The spontaneity. It's a lot of fun. As opposed to just predictably doing things in the bedroom every single time.

00:44:24:23 - 00:44:29:08

Luna

Yeah. What about, like, parties or clubs? Is that your vibe?

00:44:29:10 - 00:44:33:19

Kyle

I'm not a big partier nowadays, because I don't really. I don't drink anymore.

00:44:33:21 - 00:44:35:05

Luna

Like sex parties.

00:44:35:07 - 00:44:55:19

Kyle

So I really don't go to sex parties. I totally would, but I've just always traveling, so I don't always a, like, have a normal community of kink around that I can be a part of. And usually you have to, like, ingrain yourself in some of those communities so people know you. They know you like you're recently tested who your partners are, right.

00:44:55:19 - 00:45:07:23

Kyle

So it's safe. And then like, this is Las Vegas. So there's lifestyle clubs here, but some of them are grimy or it's not the people that I want to be around. So I don't necessarily put myself in those positions. Yeah.

00:45:08:01 - 00:45:10:22

Luna

What about sexting nudes porn.

00:45:11:00 - 00:45:20:14

Kyle

Love sexting. Love sending and receiving nudes. Definitely a bit of an exhibitionist. And yeah I watch porn but in like a healthy manner. Moderate manner.

00:45:20:14 - 00:45:22:15

Luna

Like what's your definition of healthy.

00:45:22:17 - 00:45:48:11

Kyle

You're not addicted to it. It's not affecting other parts of your life. It's not taking away from your current relationships. You're not utilizing it instead of your relationships. So you're jerking off to porn instead of having sex with your partner, right? So as long as it's not affecting those other parts of your life and it's, not consuming you, and you can use it in a healthy manner and ethical manner that's maybe benefiting you, because using porn, ethical porn can benefit you.

00:45:48:11 - 00:46:08:18

Kyle

Obviously, you need to know that most porn sites that you go to Pornhub and read to or whatever the fuck else there is a lot of that is, is is a performance. It's not real. You know, they're using actors who are paid and this is their job, and they might be cutting scenes and they might be using pills such as Viagra and all these different things.

00:46:09:00 - 00:46:30:00

Kyle

So as long as you understand, if you're watching that type of porn, that that's not like real and you shouldn't expect that from partners, then that's cool too. But there are ethical forms of porn where they're not using all this extra shit like it's very real, it's very authentic, so that it's replicable in real life for you. But yeah, I just make sure I'm not over utilizing it.

00:46:30:02 - 00:46:36:18

Luna

Okay, cool. Any other turn ons, turn offs or fantasies we haven't touched on? Or just stories that are hot fantasies?

00:46:36:19 - 00:47:11:09

Kyle

I mean, I definitely have like fantasies of more group play. I would love that. Or having like a partner that's very exploratory and down to like do all different types of shit where we can really explore together and just be very sexual in nature. I also love, enjoy meeting people, from different countries, different accents. I find it very sexy to connect with someone on that level who's grown up in a different culture, speaks a different language, like learning to connect in that way and then bringing it to the bedroom is very hot for my experience.

00:47:11:13 - 00:47:32:04

Kyle

And so more of that. So I will be doing more traveling coming up very soon, going to Costa Rica in two weeks. So I'm very stoked for that. And I do love sexting and dirty talking and all that. Like that'll put me in sex brain. Sometimes if someone's like on the same level as me, I'll have to actually like stop because that's when it, like, might take away from my day.

00:47:32:04 - 00:47:42:20

Kyle

So I'm like, I can't stop talking to this person. Or like, I really I just jerked off five times today because of all these conversations we're having, like, it's very a big turn on for me.

00:47:42:20 - 00:47:48:00

Luna

I'm literally I'm like, I just want that in my background all the time.

00:47:48:02 - 00:48:05:14

Kyle

It takes it can take away though, like if it's really turning my eye on or this person's like really hot. I'm very attracted to them. It like I, there's been days where I've jerked off for hours or edged for hours, and next thing I know, it's two in the morning and we've been talking for four hours and I haven't even come yet in like, damn.

00:48:05:14 - 00:48:19:11

Kyle

Like I gotta go to bed. Like we gotta. We gotta take a few days off of this. But that's good. It's like a it's a form of connection. And if I can't do it without with someone, there's going to be a problem. At least for me. Like, that's something I want in my relationship.

00:48:19:12 - 00:48:28:14

Luna

It's like, okay, so what are your hopes for your sex life going forward? We heard some fantasies, but like overall, all my hopes for the future.

00:48:28:14 - 00:49:05:14

Kyle

Hopes for my future, I mean, I would love to find a primary partner that I can build a foundation with, really focus on our relationship first. But it's also very sexual and eventually will be open in some form so that we can play and explore love with other people in sexual ways or romantic, possibly. But I really just want to build that foundation first with someone who's like on that same level, consciously when it comes to sex, and be able to travel and be able to meet people together and have fun and, and just really explore that life while still having that trust in that bond and knowing that we are rocks, and that

00:49:05:14 - 00:49:26:22

Kyle

we can just meet people on these journeys that we can bring into our lives. So that would be ultimate. Maybe we end up having some form of triad. I don't know, but I'm not going to get to that point until I've met that person. And until then, just continuing to educate and explore and meet new people and have great time.

00:49:27:00 - 00:49:31:17

Luna

On the note of that education, is there anything else you want to tell us about what you do?

00:49:31:19 - 00:50:01:05

Kyle

Sure. I mean, for those who are interested in more of, like what I do for work, I have my own business. I'm a sex empowerment coach. I'm also a physical therapist. So I utilize my education and my experiences to help people overcome shame, overcome trauma, to be more accepting of their kinks, just educated sexually so they can fully express themselves, be empowered in their sex life and in their intimate life and in their relationships so they can attract the right energy into their life.

00:50:01:06 - 00:50:21:00

Kyle

They can forgo any shame or anything holding them back, and really just fully embrace who they are on the deepest level. Because when it comes to your sex life and your intimate life, you really have to have self-love first. You know, in order to be able to put yourself out there fully. And a lot of people hold themselves back and it affects the rest of their life.

00:50:21:02 - 00:50:57:07

Kyle

So my goal was with, I have a private group that I've created. It's called Sexual Empowerment for High Performers, where we have over 100 members now, where I do weekly live trainings, helping people step into their authentic sexual self, improve their relationships, all these things, which has been really great to see grow. I'll be coming out with like a six week coaching program, where there will be modules, live trainings, calls on a 1 to 1 level where I'm helping people go from this hole that they're in, stuck in their shame, stuck in their negative beliefs, stuck in a crappy relationship, stuck not getting their desires met to coming out the other

00:50:57:07 - 00:51:23:04

Kyle

side, releasing their inner slut, being free sexually, being liberated and not holding back and just putting that out there and allowing that to flourish in the rest of their lives. So yeah, I do that. I do 1 to 1 coaching with people and I also do OnlyFans. So that's another form of education where I'm creating educational NSW videos really on more things in the bedroom as opposed to inside the individual.

00:51:23:06 - 00:51:39:07

Kyle

And yeah, I was on a reality show too recently. If anyone wants to watch, that's called the One That Got Away on Amazon Prime, you can't get away. Well, I'm here now and I'm single, so we'll say that. But you can check it out. It's on Amazon Prime. Watch me. You get denied. And but you can determine for yourself.

00:51:39:09 - 00:51:40:04

Luna

What the win really.

00:51:40:04 - 00:51:43:12

Kyle

Want. Who's yeah who won. Who won and who did it.

00:51:43:14 - 00:51:47:02

Luna

Do you have any other final thoughts on sex in general?

00:51:47:04 - 00:52:11:12

Kyle

For anyone out there who's listening and, like, wants to be more empowered in their sex life and is maybe listening to these podcast by while who wants to like, explore more and get out there and like be more confident in their sex life. Continue to learn, continue to educate, to continue to put yourself in communities where you can talk about these things without judgment, without shame.

00:52:11:18 - 00:52:36:18

Kyle

Like, that's why I created the community I have, because everyone can freely talk about their problems without judgment or shame, and we can work towards helping these people so they can have better relationships and have better sex and work through their problems. So if that's someone like you, maybe you're struggling with your sexuality or you don't have people to talk to who are going to be open talking about sex, find those communities that's going to help you embrace yourself more.

00:52:36:21 - 00:52:55:18

Kyle

Allow yourself to flourish, and you're not going to hold back in other parts of your life. Because if you can be fully open sexually, everything else is a cakewalk to talk about for the most part. So really put yourself in those communities, educate yourself and keep learning and don't judge yourself. So yeah, I would say that.

00:52:55:20 - 00:53:02:13

Luna

And if you could go back in time and give a younger you a piece of sex advice, what age or ages would you pick and what would you say?

00:53:02:15 - 00:53:23:17

Kyle

Or go back to when I was 12 and tell them to use a sock. It's not making a fucking mess. But then again, like the socks, like I use the socks that are at a point, you know what happens? I get fucking crusty and I she know. She definitely knows. She just never said anything. So I don't even know what I tell him I'd be like doing in the shower, but then in the shower, then she'd be like, why are you taking so long?

00:53:23:19 - 00:53:29:02

Kyle

Like she'd know what I'm doing and I don't like shower sex. Yeah, it's not fun. I don't enjoy.

00:53:29:02 - 00:53:31:05

Luna

It. It gets sticky so fast.

00:53:31:06 - 00:53:34:13

Kyle

It's dry. It's like there's less sensation.

00:53:34:17 - 00:53:36:08

Luna

Okay, so you just feel like.

00:53:36:10 - 00:53:41:17

Kyle

I'll do shower stuff, but it's like, all right, let's get Alice. Get in the bedroom. Yes, you know I do.

00:53:41:18 - 00:53:43:20

Luna

Where can people find you? Online?

00:53:43:22 - 00:54:05:10

Kyle

Where can people find me? I'm on TikTok, Instagram, Twitter, and only fans at Doctor Kyle Dean, Dr. Kylie, DEA, and I also have a VIP site on OnlyFans. Like, go to my free page, you'll check it out and then yeah, go on, go on Amazon Prime to watch me on a reality show. Outside of that, you can also go to my website, doctor counting.com.

00:54:05:10 - 00:54:24:10

Kyle

Or if you just go to my Linktree in my Instagram or TikTok bios, you can find all the things I offer from my 1 to 1 coaching, my Private Sexual Empowerment for High Performers, Facebook group, and any of my other offerings. But if you have any questions for me, if you're interested in working with me or anything else, feel free to send me a DM.

00:54:24:10 - 00:54:27:11

Kyle

That's where you can easily get in contact with me.

00:54:27:13 - 00:54:31:06

Luna

Okay, doctor Kylie, and thank you so much for being a guest on sex toys.

00:54:31:06 - 00:54:33:09

Kyle

Thank you so much for having me. It's been a pleasure.

00:54:33:11 - 00:54:35:04

Luna

Do you have a sex question for me?

00:54:35:06 - 00:54:37:09

Kyle

What type of food have you brought in the bedroom?