20 queer Nigerian cis female in a polyamorous relationship with her Dom.

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Luna

Our guest today is a 20 year old Nigerian, this woman. She identifies as queer and is in a polyamorous relationship with her Dom, who loves to praise her and call her princess. She has the hots for group sex, rope bondage, roleplay, impact play, Bdsm, and a budding interest in fisting. She's a student architect and a product designer from Lagos, Nigeria.

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Luna

Welcome, Princess.

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Princess

Hello.

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Luna

Hey! So if you had to rate yourself on a sexual shaming meter right now with ten being so full of shame and one being not so shame me at all, where do you fall right now?

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Princess

I would say one.

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Luna

Okay. Why?

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Princess

I'm generally not ashamed of anything related to sex. I haven't really been. Okay. Maybe not. Never. I wouldn't say shy. I mean, when I was younger, I didn't really know much about it. But the high school I went to, the first high school I went to was very not necessarily sex positive, but like, there was a lot of talk about sex.

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Princess

So I didn't really have a lot of shame around it then because everyone was talking about it.

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Luna

Amazing. Okay. Can you give us a little overview of what your sex life is like right now, and what your favorite parts are?

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Princess

Right now, I would say I'm in sort of a burst. So I'm in a federal university in Nigeria and there's some issue with the government or paying the lecturers. So they're currently on strike. We've been at home for like seven months now, so I've not had as much sex as I normally would if I was in school because my parents are sort of strict, so I don't really go anywhere.

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Princess

Yeah, but normally if I was in school I would have sex like three times a week. Maybe right now it's just like once a week. But what I really like about my sex work is the fact that me and my Dom, my current primary partner, we're really comfortable with each other and we get to do a lot of exploring.

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Princess

It's like that. Yeah. Amazing.

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Luna

Do you have time or space to have sex with yourself currently?

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Princess

Currently? Yes. Okay. About a few weeks ago. No, because I was in a different state in another family member's house. So it wasn't a big place. Yeah. So there would have been too many people. But now it has been of time.

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Luna

Okay. Okay. That's good. Okay. So can you tell us now what is sexy to you? Tell us your personal definition.

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Princess

I think sexy is comfortable and confident. So when a person is comfortable with their body and with other people's bodies, and they're also confident, and you can, like, feel that exuding from them, I find that very sexy.

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Luna

Awesome. Is that when you feel sexiest or is that change things?

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Princess

Yeah, that's when I feel sexy is cool when I'm really comfortable. Yeah.

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Luna

Now tell us, what is your definition of sex? What counts as sex for you?

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Princess

I would say everything about sex for me. I love it.

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Luna

Okay. And it sounds like maybe you did get an explicit health and safety talk in school. Did you ever get one from family or any lessons in consent?

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Princess

I get one in school. It was more of the students were talking a lot about sex and other related things. Not necessarily that we had like a proper talk from like a teacher or an authority. Well, I did get a sort of sex talk from my mom, so I thought because she was sort of shy about it. So I didn't really get much from that, but at least she tried.

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Princess

Okay.

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Luna

Okay. So most of your learning has come from friends and stuff?

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Princess

Yeah, friends and the internet. And the internet. I mean, very research based person. So I tend to do a lot of that.

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Luna

Awesome. When did that research start for you? Sexually speaking.

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Princess

When I first entered secondary school, because a lot of people were talking about things I didn't know, and they would make it feel weird to ask, but if you didn't know. Yeah. So I made use of Google. Amazing. I don't remember getting a talk about consent per se. It was more of a oh, don't let strangers touch you type of thing, but it wasn't proper consent because, like, family members could touch me and I would want it, but I can't say no.

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Princess

Yeah. Then on health and safety before I got into the university, my mum came up one day. It was like that. My dad said she should have a talk with me, and she was trying to tell me to wait for marriage, but that if I didn't want to, that I should use protection and I should not do anything.

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Princess

I don't want to do that. That was basically it.

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Luna

Okay. Yeah. Okay. That's pretty similar to kind of what I got. I don't know if I got a protection talk, but what about then in your current life or in your, I guess, adult life, you're still young compared to some of us out there, but is there a moment from your sexually active life where you can recall an explicit.

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Luna

Yes. That was a really yummy and sexy and hot deal.

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Princess

I feel like since I've become sexually active, I've given a lot of enthusiastic yeses.

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Luna

Nice. Okay, so now tell us, does anything happen to your shame meter when you want to talk to a new partner about safer sex? What are those conversations go like for you? And what's the like best version in your opinion?

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Princess

I don't think anything happens to my shame on me. Now, when I first started, I had sort of an issue bringing it up with my first boyfriend because it felt uncomfortable, but I ended up getting to that anyway. But now in recent situations, I haven't necessarily been the one to bring it up. Like, I like to have sex before having sex.

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Princess

So like I like to have a conversation and discuss what we like, what we don't like, how things are going to go before we actually have sex. So it might be like online or in person during that is when the safer sex would come. So if I were to ask, I would probably go, okay, so we know some things we like, some things we don't like and we're willing to explore certain things.

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Princess

Is there anything I need to know? How do you feel about using condoms or have you gotten tested recently? Stuff like that.

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Luna

Perfect. Easy. You make it sound really easy. That makes me so happy. Okay, great. So now take us back to your early years. What is your first sex related memory? When do you remember hearing about it? For the first time.

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Princess

I heard about it on TV. Like a movie or something. But in my household, when we were younger, we were watching like a kissing scene or something my mom would like. I suppose the cover of the cover is something like, yeah, yeah. So I think my parents or some other family members were watching a movie and somebody said something about it.

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Princess

All right, go for that. But then they told me to cover my eyes, so I did that. So. But. Earliest memory of sex. So I can say this in particular is necessarily sex related. But I remember when I was in primary school and we went to the same school most times before our parents and at each other's houses.

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Princess

And I remember we used to do a lot of mommy daddy games. So basically we were acting like mom and dad and we would make out, but we actually thought about sex. Then it was more like, oh, we see our parents kissing and like on TV and stuff, and we just wanted to do that. And it wasn't that.

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Princess

So we kept doing that.

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Luna

Totally. When do you feel like you really did start to get what it was?

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Princess

I think that would be when I got into secondary school. Okay. Well, I heard about it from church and stuff, because sometimes I would stay in the big church with my mom instead of the children's church. They would talk about, like, how, you know, so please have premarital sex and stuff like that. And I'm like, what are you guys talking about?

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Princess

Yeah. So I do really guess what it was then until I got to secondary school.

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Luna

How old are you in secondary school?

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Princess

1011 thereabouts.

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Luna

Okay, so it sounds like there was a lot of sort of like, don't do this, but it also sounds like you weren't full of the shame you messages. So how did you like how.

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Princess

Well, when I started to understand what sex was and how, like in church, they would say, oh, you can't do this or you get married. I'm sorry. But I was like, okay, sure, I'll wait then. But then at some point I was like, I could delay any time. Do I really want to die and not have sex? I was like, you know, God is going to try to forgive me.

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Luna

So I think so, I think so.

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Princess

Now, I don't exactly identify as a Christian, okay? But that was my thought process at the point.

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Luna

Thought and totally. So how would you say the culture of your family and where you grew up influenced your sex life?

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Princess

Okay. In Nigeria there's like really heavy periods in culture where all women have to be perfect and they have to keep themselves for marriage. And there's none of that for men. It's just very there's a lot of shame from like this society on women for just existing. So I think somehow I was able to fight that early.

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Princess

Yeah. And not necessarily feel shame from it. I think it was more of me. I do want to bully type thing. So like I'm talking about like in school settings though. So there was this point where I told this guy that I liked him but not enough to date him. But we could be like any friends with benefits type of situation and well he goes to me afterwards.

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Princess

But when we go back to school, it seemed like he had told some people, so I was getting slut shamed. Was that. And that was so confusing and annoying to me. And at that point I was already sort of comfortable with myself. So I didn't let these slut shaming happen. I was like, fighting against it. So yeah, I think from when I was little, I've always had like an issue with the inequality between genders in our society.

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Princess

So I always like fought against that. And I think actively going into like searching about sex was a part of my rebellion. Yeah. Yeah.

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Luna

I love that. Sex is a great rebellion. I love that.

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Princess

Yeah.

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Luna

Okay, so when did you start to physically discover sex for yourself? Either with your own body or with a partner?

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Princess

I was still, like, in the whole Christian thing, so I was like, against masturbation, not necessarily against violence, but I would go to hell for it. Yeah. So yeah, I didn't do that. But I was on Wattpad reading a lot of smart.

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Luna

I love it. Where did you find the smut?

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Princess

I think I was reading a regular Wattpad story, and one of my friends recommended something that had smut, and I was like, what? So I now check it out, and I was like, oh, okay, okay. And then I just went on looking for more. So at that point, the school I was in, we had like tablets. So I had my profile there and I could read whatever I wanted, but I couldn't take it back home.

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Princess

So I was using my grandma's tablet and she rewards her mother and she reportedly to my parents, I do like, oh, that you never learn like, why do you keep doing this, blah blah blah. And I had also started like writing some Wattpad stories as well. And my mom felt.

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Luna

What were they about? What did she find?

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Princess

I think I could find I still didn't really get what sex was. So it was more of a sexual tension thing because like I said, the kissing part, I did not know what will happen next. So I would just all of the kissing.

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Luna

But it's kind.

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Princess

Of cute though. Okay. That was an issue because when I was in primary school, like I was about to finish, I had a crush on this boy in my class. I had a diary and I wrote in it. So I went to visit my aunts and I was with my diary. And at that point I was taking my diary everywhere and like, putting down, like, everything we did every day and stuff like that.

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Princess

So it was in her bag. So she was emptying her bag when she picked out the diary. So I was scared that she was going to open it. So I told her not to. And then she proceeded to open it because I told her no. Oh, so she saw this stuff about it like an old book. And honestly, their reaction to that was too much because I wasn't interested in kissing in them.

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Princess

I just wanted to hold his hand or sit beside him or something. Well, yeah, it was a whole big deal. And yeah, they were like really upset about it. So ever since then, I've sort of been like, you naughty girl.

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Luna

Okay, so you're like the naughty one of your friend group to your family, or, like, who makes you naughty or.

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Princess

Is it just you? My family? Well, okay, we haven't really talked about that now, but like before, I was going to become, I don't know, lose or something because I liked a boy in primary school, but in my friend group, I'm still doing that book. It was about sex. Totally get it?

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Luna

Was it always that way? Did other friends, like when you were younger? Were there other horny friends that you had, or were you kind of a pioneer explorer in your group?

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Princess

Yeah, I was all horny friends, but they weren't necessarily open to talking about it. I wanted to know more. So I would always ask, like, how did that go? Yeah, tell me, tell me about it.

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Luna

I guess there's some of us that just want to put words to all of it. Okay. So when did you start touching yourself or touching other partners or what unfolded for you first in your physical explorations?

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Princess

Well, I did not have a lot of boyfriends in secondary school, but there was this senior that I like and I've always been very direct. So if I like someone who's not going to keep quiet about it, I will most likely go and tell them, regardless of what will come from that.

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Luna

I love that.

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Princess

Thank you. So I told him that I liked him and I don't think he likes me back. I think he just wanted to be able to touch someone. So we would sit by the stairs and he would touch me. I mean, it was a really all that. But after that, I moved to a new school and the guy that I was interested in.

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Princess

But I do want to date that. I thought he was sort of weird because when I said that I do want to date him, but I'd like to be in a friendship benefit situation. So he goes there, me and we didn't talk for a while, even when we were in school. And then, like I sort of got over and I just moved on my life, and then we started talking again.

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Princess

And then he was trying to touch me when I did not want him to. So like when I wanted him to, he did it. But is when I said no that he did. So that was a very weird situation there. Well, after that I got a boyfriend. When I was in year 11, it was mostly a long distance relationship because it was online.

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Princess

We didn't really get to see each other, but there was a time where we went on a cinema date with some friends and as I said, my parents are strict so that was the first time I was going to go out with friends and I would lie, but I was going to go with my female friends. But there were no girls there.

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Princess

Yeah, so the city isn't necessarily the safest place. So my dad, in order to be a good dad and keep me safe, I know he stayed in the car all through and the movie we went to watch like it was me, my boyfriend at the time, and two of his friends. So the other two, they came too late so we didn't get to watch the movie that we had planned for, so we have to watch another one.

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Princess

Well, I was really excited to meet him for the first time, so I forgot to call my dad to tell him that, oh, I'm going to stay extra. So he was just there in the car waiting. Yeah. So we went in for the movie. There was a lot of kissing and touching of me, and I think that was the first time I gave a proper handjob, although it was of weird because his friends were sitting right beside me, but I just went with it.

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Princess

It was so much fun. And then I came out and one of his friends that came was part of my best friend group at the time. So I was like, oh, you should come and meet my dad. And then I was like, oh, dad, this is my best friend's daddy, all of that. And then my dad was like, oh, hello.

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Princess

And I don't really know how. If my dad was about me and the opposite sex, right. So we go home like he asked how the movie was and I said it was cool and, well, we go home and the next day he asked for my phone, and then he went through my chats and saw my chats with my best friend about like how the dates actually went.

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Princess

Yeah, it was it was terrible. And it seized my phone. Oh no, I didn't have a phone until like I graduated. But then I'm very stubborn sort of when it comes to my parents, so that's always around it. So I was still dating Becca until I got to university.

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Luna

Wow. Oh my gosh. Did they ever find out? Or do they know?

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Princess

Well, there was a point where I used my mom's phone and she had two messages apps or I forgot to delete the message. So she saw. And then that was another issue. But then they didn't know that it's still considered after that.

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Luna

Wow. Okay. You are such a happy sounding sexual person for how many tribulations.

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Princess

You had to go through, especially.

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Luna

In formative years as these early partnered explorations were happening. You know, so those stairs guy, had you touched yourself at all at that point? Like, I know that you were taught masturbation is not so good, but when did you discover otherwise?

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Princess

That was after I actually had sex. Okay.

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Luna

And when was that?

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Princess

I had already gotten into the university when? Not exactly. I was doing a diploma program, so that would take me to the second year. So I was doing the program in the university. So my boyfriend at the time was also in the same university.

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Luna

Okay. Same boyfriend. This is the same.

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Princess

Yeah. Same boyfriend. Yeah. Actually, before that he came to the house. It was sort of impromptu. Oh, but it worked somehow. So the way that the States is, you can't get in or leave unless the owner of the house lets the kids know. So I was so lucky that. So my dad went to work and then my boyfriend came over.

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Princess

So I went to the gates and I brought him in and he didn't sign in because usually you have to, like, sign in at the gates. Yeah. But for some reason they let him pass without signing in. So he came here and it was me and my little sister. So both of us, him and I, we went upstairs and we were making out.

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Princess

So yeah, we made out a lot. And then I gave a blowjob and elected as Lord buttons. But I had already decided that I wasn't going to have sex until I got into university. I just felt like I would be more ready then. So we didn't go further than that. But there's this guy that comes to do some stuff with my dad in the house, so he wasn't supposed to show up that day what he did.

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Princess

Oh well, he figured out what was happening and he was like, oh, that you have to go because he can't let me do that. But that's. Okay. But he was going to tell you. And I was like, pleased that he should tell you that he's going to leave now. And he said, okay. And I didn't really trust his okay.

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Princess

But he kept his word. Okay. Yeah. He kept to his word. Yeah. Oh that went really well. And my ex left. Then there was the security guard that was like trying to hit on me. And he asked for my number and I refused to give it to him. This was like a long time after. So he when my dad came back from work that day, he told my dad that all I had was a guy into the state.

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Princess

I was like, so because I refused to give you my number, you decided to run? Yeah. Anyway, I told my dad, but I don't know what he's talking about. Like only guys I call me here are like, delivery guys or Uber guys.

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Luna

Yeah. I mean, that's a good time to be like, no, dad, he just hit on me and I rejected him. So, you know, that's it.

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Princess

Yeah.

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Luna

Wow. Okay, so once you got to university, did things shift for you? Were you like, let's go, or did you still take your time like, what unfolded happened next?

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Princess

Once I got to university, the main problem was that we didn't really have a space because we were both in school hostels. So we were both on campus, so we didn't have a proper space to actually have sex. Yeah, but we decided to go to a nearby hotel. I would call it a motel. Okay. It was like a month before I turned 17, and I had done a lot of research before that, all that.

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Princess

So just be sure that, okay, everything was going to go well. So we went there together and it was actually pretty nice. Like I've heard that a lot of people's first times were like the best was it was nice. It was so nice. But I wanted to keep having sex. Yeah, yeah.

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Luna

Oh that's amazing.

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Princess

So what happened after that was we had a whole lot of sex. Now, I know at that point I did not know. But now I know I'm hypersexual because not everybody has that much sex. But yeah, we had a whole lot of sex. And the whole issue with the strike being happened again, it happens a lot here. So we were home for a while and I was getting really frustrated.

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Princess

And lucky for me, I was home alone sort of at that point, like my sisters were in school. So it was just me in my grandparents house. So I was like, we can't take this anymore. You know? Let me just try and see how this masturbation thing is. And so I did. And the first time I squirted, I was like, wow, okay, is that normal?

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Princess

And I went to Google and I was like, okay, okay. And then I went back.

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Luna

That's so cool. Do you squirt every time or was that just your first for you? Like, tell us more about your masturbation. What is it like.

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Princess

Now when I'm massively, I'm most likely going to cream that squirt. I think at that point I was still exploring, so I was a bit more free to allow anything happen. But now I tend to not want to make the mess that would come with squirt.

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Luna

And you can pick up really.

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Princess

I mean, lately I've been creaming a lot more of it without actually trying to. Okay, yeah, but the squirt thing, I have to put extra effort to relax and be sure that it's okay to mess up, whereby before I can properly squirt. Yeah. Good god.

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Luna

Okay, so do you feel comfortable giving us a little bit of detail about how your pussy likes to be touched?

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Princess

I very much enjoy getting head and fingering. I recently found out, like last week that there is a part of my tits that is ticklish. I was with my partner, my Dom, and we were just chilling and making out. And then he started fingering me. And there was a particular point that it's I had just recently became ticklish there, but he hasn't touched that point before because he was just moving and oh, it was really nice.

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Princess

And I was like, wait, this is ticklish. It was so funny. I really didn't want to stop because he was having a lovely time watching me struggle.

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Luna

I have a funny spot sometimes inside that on certain days when it gets stimulated, I have an itchy spot, like inside my vagina. If I'm getting stimulated in a certain way, it makes like my right hip itch. Like just above the hip, like on my belly. It's not funny how nerves are. Wow. I'm curious if you're ticklish. Spot is always there.

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Luna

Like, have you gotten tickled there more than once? Like maybe report back to if it's a new discovery because my nerves do different things on different days, but that itch spot comes and goes. I'm curious if it tickles at the same.

00:27:08:14 - 00:27:23:06

Princess

Well, it's new because I just found out about it last week. I've not had enough time to masturbate on my own since then, so I will find out later on if it's like a regular thing or it was just that day. That's so.

00:27:23:06 - 00:27:25:18

Luna

Cool. What else does your pussy like?

00:27:25:20 - 00:27:37:14

Princess

She likes to be licked a lot. I would say I'm generally always very wet. Well, I like, like, extra wetness from my mouth. Yeah. Yeah.

00:27:37:16 - 00:27:48:16

Luna

Right. And then are you comfortable being touched with any of your other holes? Are you in the anal play or just like licking the general area or like, what other pleasure down below do you enjoy.

00:27:48:18 - 00:28:09:18

Princess

Watching into anal play yet? But I'm planning on doing that. I think I would have gotten to it already if not for the whole strike thing. So my partner and I don't have a lot of time to do, like a lot of explorations and stuff. But yeah, I'm getting to that. However, I'm very interested in eating him out.

00:28:09:20 - 00:28:19:18

Princess

His not ready apparently, but I think that he has a really nice looking ass and I feel like he deserves to be eating out, so I love that.

00:28:19:21 - 00:28:25:00

Luna

Okay. And then in the meantime, is he letting you eat him in other ways?

00:28:25:01 - 00:28:54:12

Princess

Oh yeah. I'm not sure how to put it, but I really enjoy it. So with some previous partners, it has been like really easy to get them to come, but it's not so easy with my current dom. And so it feels like I'm challenging myself every time. So I recently started touching his Gooch. So I was like the space between his balls and his butthole.

00:28:54:18 - 00:28:57:22

Luna

I love that term for it.

00:28:58:00 - 00:29:22:12

Princess

And he really likes that. So like I've been learning new things. Trying new things so I can get him to cook for him. But I just want to do that and feel accomplished. I haven't gotten there yet, but according to him, I'm guessing that. So apart from that, I really like the feeling of having a dick in my mouth or slapping me or something.

00:29:22:17 - 00:29:24:01

Princess

Yeah, pretty nice.

00:29:24:03 - 00:29:25:10

Luna

Do you like to play with the balls at all?

00:29:25:16 - 00:29:36:05

Princess

Oh, yeah. Yeah, yeah. Well, some of my other previous partners did not like that because it was too sensitive. But he likes it a lot and have a lot of fun with that.

00:29:36:07 - 00:29:54:15

Luna

I would love to hear you speak a little bit to how you research sex stuff, just because I know not everyone is a researcher, and I love how I'm well. When I hear you talk, it sounds like you really have this confidence because of your research. Maybe. Maybe I'm just projecting that, but I would just love to hear you talk about it a little bit.

00:29:54:17 - 00:30:19:13

Princess

I think you're right. I think I have a lot of confidence because I've done a lot of reading and well, since 2020, I've been listening to a lot of sex positive podcasts. So that has now become part of my research. But before it was just like reading articles, I never really use porn because it always looked fake to me.

00:30:19:15 - 00:30:46:13

Princess

So I would like search for articles mostly from cosmopolitan. I usually went through like multiple articles so I could see what was the same in all these articles, so I would know. Okay, so this is like something solid that everyone believes. And yeah, stuff like that. Sometimes Google doesn't give you what you're looking for. So you have to like change the way that you ask a question.

00:30:46:13 - 00:30:52:00

Princess

So I always try different ways until I get what makes sense.

00:30:52:01 - 00:31:06:00

Luna

Amazing. Thank you. I have just love like hearing you tell your handjob story and you're just like in a cinema. And that's the first time you're giving a handjob. I think I would have been like, super duper like, I don't know what to do. And so, like, I love that you're just like and I did. It was fun.

00:31:06:02 - 00:31:20:01

Luna

His friends were right there. But okay, so can you fill in for us? We heard a little bit about your early lovers, and we know you have a Dom now. How did we get there? How did you find your dom? What other pieces do we need to know? And how did you discover you were kinky? Which is a big part of it.

00:31:20:03 - 00:31:43:08

Princess

I think through research and also through 50 Shades. I mean, it was not the best example, but it brought like the whole kinky thing to me. So first I heard about 50 Shades because I was with the senior and she was reading it on her laptop, and I was reading it with her because we would usually read books together like that.

00:31:43:08 - 00:32:13:15

Princess

At that point when I changed school, I was in a boarding school, so at that point they would take us to a church close by on Sunday for like a sermon and all of that. So there was this time we went and there was a speaker. Apparently she had lived in the US, so she came to talk to us about sex and masturbation and stuff, but it ended up her, like, seriously shaming the whole 50 Shades trilogy.

00:32:13:17 - 00:32:41:19

Princess

And it wasn't any oh, this isn't exactly how it is type of being. It was the this is not right. So I'm sort of like the loose type of thing. Got it. And that piqued my interest in it again. So one of my friends had all three books and I was like, oh, I'm going to read that. So I read all three and I was like, okay, okay, some of this is a bit off, but it seems really interesting.

00:32:41:21 - 00:33:02:18

Princess

So when I was able to access the internet, I did more research about kinky stuff. But at that point I was with my first boyfriend and he wasn't really into that. Like he wasn't into twerking or spanking or like the light stuff we had. Vanilla sex was ten. I mean, it was good vanilla sex, but it was still fun.

00:33:02:19 - 00:33:27:02

Princess

Illicit. Then we broke up and I had a terrible time around that period. I think I started having like panic attacks and stuff because I've always been a lover girl, like a Disney princess. That's actually what my dog like to call me a Disney princess, I love that. Yeah. So I've always been like, oh, I was like into love and all that.

00:33:27:02 - 00:33:53:04

Princess

So at that time I was like, oh, he's the only one that I love. And we've been together for so long and oh my God, I would be breakup and all of that. Then I think, what exactly happened? Okay, I went to therapy for it and I started getting better. My therapist suggested that I do like something new, so I decided that I was going to sleep with someone new so that I would know that I can move on.

00:33:53:08 - 00:34:18:21

Princess

Yeah, totally get it. Love your therapist. So I texted one of my friends at the time, we don't talk anymore. And I was like, oh, I need to know that I can move on, so can I use you? And he was like, yeah, sure. So during that period, I was like, transitioning from the diplomat program to get into my second year in university.

00:34:18:21 - 00:34:43:03

Princess

So I had to go to school to do some like registration things. And also I use that like I did my registration stuff early and then I went to meet him. So that didn't work out well because he wasn't getting hard. So like, we couldn't have penetrative sex. Yeah. And then we ended up just talking afterwards and I left.

00:34:43:05 - 00:35:15:23

Princess

But the fact that I went there and, you know, I started that was enough for you. So after that, me and some of my friends from the diplomat program, we got added to the group chats for the second year. Students like people that started from the actual first year. We were like trying to get to know other people on the group chats because we were still at home at that point and somebody said something about eating chicken pot, and another person was like, why would you do that?

00:35:15:23 - 00:35:29:08

Princess

I was like, oh, but chicken, chicken, what is actually quite nice. And then this guy replied, you're like, so you like eating ass? And I was like, yeah, oh, I did. So he texted me.

00:35:29:10 - 00:35:32:04

Luna

This is a great how we met the story. I'm so excited.

00:35:32:04 - 00:35:52:06

Princess

To hear where it goes. So we started texting them, but it wasn't really serious at that point. I mean, I think he texted me because like I just said, yeah, I like you think that was funny. So we're both visual artists. So he had seen some of my art and he was like, oh, that has seen some of my art.

00:35:52:06 - 00:36:21:03

Princess

And we just talked a bit, but then we didn't talk much after that. And then he posted something on his status. I can't remember what exactly was, but it was intriguing. So I texted him and we just started talking from there. So that was how that started. And we were just talking regularly and then almost every day and then we started flirting and I was like, are you trying to propositioned me?

00:36:21:07 - 00:36:26:01

Princess

Like, do you want to have sex? And he was like, oh, okay. Yeah.

00:36:26:03 - 00:36:31:13

Luna

I love how direct you are. If the whole world was like that, it would be so nice.

00:36:31:15 - 00:36:58:19

Princess

So from that, we started talking more about sex. And that's when I found out that he was into Bdsm. And I was so excited because I've been wanting to do that. And I was like, yeah, definitely, we're going to do this. We were just talking online for most of that period. Then we finally got back to school. So I went to school, let's say on a Sunday.

00:36:58:21 - 00:37:16:09

Princess

So I would go to my hostel on a Sunday. And he was like, would you like to meet up? And I was like, yeah. And then I said that I would probably give him a blowjob when we met. And he was like, am I sure about that? I was like, yeah. And he was like, okay, if that's what you want, fine.

00:37:16:11 - 00:37:42:16

Princess

So how was a bit worried at first that our physical energy might not be the same as, like we were on time, but then we met up and I saw him and I was like, yeah, definitely. So if this met. Great. So he took me to our class and there was something up with the class. I think they needed to fix the lights or something like that.

00:37:42:16 - 00:38:00:04

Princess

So people weren't there at that time. It was night, by the way. Yeah, people were in there at that time. We were in another class, so it was just him and I, and it was time to make small talk. But like, that's all I was there for. So I kissed him. And then we were making out and then I got on.

00:38:00:04 - 00:38:16:15

Princess

No, I did get on my knees because, like, it was dusty. I told him I wanted to give him head, so like, we clean the stool. So I sat on that and I gave him head. And then I was like really hot and bothered and I was like, I think that's I would like for you to fuck me.

00:38:16:17 - 00:38:36:12

Princess

And he was like, are you sure? He was like, I was crazy. It wasn't necessary. Oh, he's not going to be. He was like, are you sure? Like we just met. Is this really what you want to do right now? Yeah. So and I was like, yeah, yeah, you're wasting time. It's late. I have to go back at some point then.

00:38:36:14 - 00:38:37:22

Princess

Yeah. Okay. Yeah.

00:38:37:22 - 00:38:47:06

Luna

That's do feel like he was surprised because you're a woman. Because I feel like people, dudes, I feel like dudes are surprised when I'm, like, horny. Do you feel that?

00:38:47:08 - 00:39:03:12

Princess

Maybe. Yeah. I'm very shy about that. So I wore a simple black dress and no underwear because, well, normally I don't like wearing underwear. I prefer to be free. But, Yeah, he was very surprised about that.

00:39:03:14 - 00:39:04:12

Luna

How convenient.

00:39:04:12 - 00:39:08:21

Princess

He was like, oh, so you planned this? Oh.

00:39:08:23 - 00:39:10:16

Luna

Were you like, yes, here's a condom.

00:39:10:18 - 00:39:44:12

Princess

No, he had one on him. Great. He just carries around just in case, which was good. Yeah. So we did that and hadn't had sex in a while before that. So like I was really, really excited. I came a lot and I was so, so come on, like, is everything okay? I had a very lovely time. So it just turned out that he sort of takes time to get comfortable.

00:39:44:14 - 00:39:51:15

Princess

So he might enjoy the situation but he wouldn't necessarily come back the first time.

00:39:51:17 - 00:40:12:01

Luna

Oh yeah. I feel like it's porn fault because they make the ejaculate from a penis just such the focus. And I have a lot of sex with dudes and they don't necessarily cum. And it's still a great sexual session. And I feel like I love that your stories include those parts, because that's really normal. And every single guy, when he doesn't come, I like how normal it is.

00:40:12:01 - 00:40:27:20

Luna

He's like, really? Really. And I'm like, yeah, dude, it's fucking normal. Especially if you're remotely like anxious or I don't know if circumstances aren't exactly perfect or you're a little bit tired, you know? So yeah, I love that you include those details in your story. So that was your first night with him. Was this your dorm?

00:40:27:22 - 00:40:31:14

Princess

Yes. Yes, that was my first night with him. And it was my dorm. Yeah.

00:40:31:14 - 00:40:39:13

Luna

So hot. So what unfolded next for you? Like, did you start talking about explorations or what have you explored together? Should we go there? Where do you want to take it?

00:40:39:15 - 00:40:58:18

Princess

Okay. We had already had some discussion about like Bdsm and scenes and all of that. Okay. So after that I went back to my hostel and then he came to my hostel the next day. At this point, I was off campus. Yeah, he came to my hostel the next day. We had more sex.

00:40:58:19 - 00:41:00:23

Luna

Amazing. How long have you been together?

00:41:01:01 - 00:41:04:17

Princess

Two years and a couple months. Nice.

00:41:04:19 - 00:41:07:15

Luna

So he calls you Princess? What do you call him?

00:41:07:17 - 00:41:09:01

Princess

Saya.

00:41:09:03 - 00:41:15:18

Luna

So, Amazing. Okay. When did you figure out that you're queer? I'm polyamorous.

00:41:15:20 - 00:41:41:22

Princess

So the queer parts I've always known, into girls. When I was younger, I saw the music video for Tamo. Ariana. I was very excited about that. It was like, the same way I feel like things. I would make her happy personally go fuck me. But then there was a lot of homophobia where I was. Yeah.

00:41:41:22 - 00:42:08:15

Princess

And I internalized that because like that was what I was taught. I didn't know better. Yeah. So I was like trying to like push a away pretty gay away. But there was this point I was in secondary school, for some reason I was having a lot of sexual thoughts about my friends that were girls, and I wasn't like, thinking about guys at all.

00:42:08:17 - 00:42:46:17

Princess

And that made me uncomfortable, sort of. So, like, I thought, I'm looking for a gay guy to, like, focus on so I could keep my mind away from that. But by the time I was leaving secondary school, I'm not sure what exactly happened, but I sort of wanted to change my views on life. So I was doing more research and then I was trying to figure out what exactly it was that made me so upset about people not being heterosexual, or why I disliked myself so much for that.

00:42:46:22 - 00:42:56:07

Princess

Yeah, and I just realized I did not make any sense. So thank goodness.

00:42:56:09 - 00:42:57:05

Luna

It doesn't make a.

00:42:57:05 - 00:43:09:19

Princess

Whole lot of sense. It was a bit hard to get out of that, but slowly I did. Yeah. When I was with my first boyfriend, he was so homophobic. But he fetishized lesbians.

00:43:09:22 - 00:43:18:11

Luna

Oh, of course, of course. Okay. And probably like bisexual because it's like when they fetishize lesbians, they assume they're bisexual, usually. Right? Like,

00:43:18:12 - 00:43:18:22

Princess

Right.

00:43:19:01 - 00:43:22:23

Luna

I'm making a generalization, but I feel like that's my experience.

00:43:23:00 - 00:43:46:18

Princess

So I didn't really talk about it with him. Like, I knew that I liked girls as well, and I was comfortable with it, but I didn't really talk about that with him. And then after that, when I started talking to my dorm, because like after that relationship, I decided that I wasn't going to be with anyone that was homophobic or all of that.

00:43:46:18 - 00:44:11:01

Princess

Yeah, I didn't want to be in that space anymore. So one of the things that made me move forward with my dorm was that he is not homophobic, and he does not fit to say lesbian and bisexual with it, so yay for that. So during our conversations, I mentioned that I'm also into women. And he was like, oh, that's cool.

00:44:11:03 - 00:44:21:11

Princess

So when we first started, I wanted to be exclusive because before that I would describe myself as a serial monogamist.

00:44:21:13 - 00:44:28:07

Luna

Yeah, yeah, I was going to say Disney Princess. I like the idea of a polyamorous Disney princess.

00:44:28:09 - 00:44:58:12

Princess

Yeah. So like, I enjoy being in relationships and the comforts and everything that comes with that. So at that point, we weren't exactly dating. We were just sleeping with each other and we were exclusive. So we did not define things. What? I tried to get fall in love very easily. So that did not take long. Yeah, especially because he was a likable person.

00:44:58:12 - 00:44:59:13

Princess

So yeah.

00:44:59:13 - 00:45:04:15

Luna

And you're fucking right. Like hopefully having sex. Like, how could you not. Yeah.

00:45:04:17 - 00:45:33:10

Princess

Yeah. So our situation became an actual relationship. Like we did not want to define it or anything like that. So he had already told me that he would rather not be exclusive. And we made a deal that, okay, if there's any point where you like someone different, you can let me know. And we can end this because I don't think I would be okay not being exclusive.

00:45:33:12 - 00:45:59:18

Princess

Yeah. Then things were going pretty well and then another strike happened. So we're back at home. Okay. And the strike that happened was during Covid time. Yeah. So we were already at home. And in 2021 school started opening up. But my school, we hadn't opened up yet because strike. So we were having online classes and doing exams online.

00:45:59:18 - 00:46:20:21

Princess

And I was sort of feeling bad for him because like he had the opportunity to go out and have sex, I didn't because I was in a different state. I'm not really a people person, so even if I was allowed to go out, not sure that I would have met someone that I'd be willing to have sex with.

00:46:20:21 - 00:46:51:00

Princess

So I feel I felt somehow about that. And so I brought it up that I'm considering having an open relationship. And he was like, oh, am I sure about that? And I was like, well, we can talk about it. And we can try. And if I don't like it, I'll let you know. So we talked about it and we set some ground rules because I had done research on that before I brought it up to him.

00:46:51:02 - 00:47:19:05

Princess

So we set some rules. Nothing too serious. Things like if we're going to have sex with other people, it can't be with people in our class or our mutual friends. So it doesn't, like, complicate things. Yeah. Something. I got nothing too serious. Then we finally got back to school, and we didn't really discuss much until he came to visit me and my hostel and some of my friends were there.

00:47:19:07 - 00:47:45:19

Princess

There was this mutual friend of ours that he had a thing with before I joined the class, and there was still some tension there. I didn't really like the situation, so the three of us were walking to get a bus to get back. They were talking to each other and it was upsetting. I was jealous and I just moved away.

00:47:45:21 - 00:48:12:16

Princess

So then we go back and he was asking like, what's up? Is everything okay? Like, why are you so quiet and all? So I said, what happened? Then? We had a very, very long conversation about what was going on between them and how like he felt. And he was like, oh, that he still likes her and stuff. And I was like, am I okay moving forward with this?

00:48:12:18 - 00:48:53:06

Princess

And then, that. I also liked her. Oh. Oh, okay. Yeah, I liked her, but I did not bring it up to her. Okay. No, I did what she thought I was joking, okay? She did not take me seriously. Right? Yeah. But then she later realized. But I was serious. Yeah, but I didn't really measure it because, well, at that point, we hadn't, like, properly opened up the relationship and I wasn't sure, like, if she was into it or not, we had conversations and she wasn't sure what exactly she like.

00:48:53:11 - 00:49:21:06

Princess

So my Dom and I, we had conversation and then we ended up laughing about how both of us like her, were like, okay, because she's a classmate and a mutual friend, so she had to be, like, excluded from that particular rule that we need. We decided that we were going to both tell her that we liked her and then see what would happen from there.

00:49:21:12 - 00:49:43:14

Princess

This time we got back and we were like, oh, wanted to talk to her. She tends to get like, shaky when, like, people are trying to gang up on her to Ireland. That's good. So we were like, wow, we both like you. We both want to sleep with you. And she was like, no, why would you can go and be like, she's a no then?

00:49:43:16 - 00:50:03:03

Princess

Well, like, no pressure that she doesn't have to give an answer now. She can think about it later. Oh. Well, she was like she said no. Then she, said you would think about it, and then later she still said no. And we're like, okay, no for the best way. Then we had a game night thing where it was three of us and a couple of our other friends.

00:50:03:05 - 00:50:24:02

Princess

I think it was close to her birthday, and he was spending a lot of time with her, and I was jealous about that. So we ended up talking about this. And then she was drunk and she came and she was like, she hopes that she didn't upset me and stuff. I was like, oh, that's fine. There's no I have an issue.

00:50:24:02 - 00:50:45:13

Princess

It was him. Yeah. And then we talked it out in her drunk state, and then she asked if we were still interested and we're like, are you sure? Yeah. Not like sober right now. And she was saying, yeah, yeah. So she and I, we made out and then we made out with him and then we both gave him head.

00:50:45:15 - 00:51:15:15

Princess

But we didn't go further than that because she was on her period. And also we wanted to like have a proper yeah. Should uation. So we move that until later. And then the day came, she thought that she wanted to get high for. So we got we'd then we were making out and touching each other, and then I was about to give her head, but I looked up.

00:51:15:17 - 00:51:36:15

Princess

She really looked comfortable, so I stopped and I asked if everything was okay. I told my yeah, yeah, go on. And then she knows. She was like, actually know that can we stop? And we're like, oh, okay, is there a problem or something? And she was like, oh, that she's sorry, but she couldn't do it okay. So she dressed up and yeah, that was, you know, sad.

00:51:36:15 - 00:51:57:16

Princess

But like, yeah that was okay. So him and I, we just stayed because we couldn't have sex after that. Yeah. Yeah. The vibe just wasn't there anymore. So we just stayed. And then later we asked her like if everything was okay, like, yeah, but no problem. Wasn't that we were doing anything wrong? More like she wasn't feeling okay at that moment.

00:51:57:16 - 00:52:27:12

Princess

So like, okay. Yeah. So we have gone back to that. After that I decided to get with women. Okay. So I met someone through a friend and we went on a date. It was like, hey, we had shawarma and we took a walk on. Were just talking a lot. It was really nice. But then I prefer to be open and just see like how everything is.

00:52:27:13 - 00:52:52:09

Princess

So I told her about my dorm and we were in an open relationship. And so we were talking and texting, and then there was an event that we were going to have at my department. So I invited her for it. It seemed like she was making excuses. So I was like, if there is any issue, if she would like to not continue, like she can let me know.

00:52:52:09 - 00:53:19:00

Princess

I would rather she let me know that. Yeah. And so she said that she wasn't comfortable with the whole situation, like me having another partner and then was like, okay, that's why I understand. Then I think I took a break. I thought maybe I couldn't handle the whole open situation. Yeah. And my partner, he already had other partners and I would get so jealous.

00:53:19:06 - 00:53:46:14

Princess

Yeah. I used to get jealous a lot. Well, we had a conversation about it and I found this podcast. I was talking about mixed relationships in the sense that one person is monogamous and the other person is polyamorous. Yeah. And it made me understand a few things, like how it's okay to be jealous because I was getting jealous and I was uncomfortable getting jealous because I had agreed.

00:53:46:14 - 00:53:57:18

Princess

I even brought up the open relationship thing. So it was talk about how is okay to be jealous, but you would have to try and figure out where that is coming from and see if you can work through it.

00:53:57:20 - 00:54:00:07

Luna

Yeah, yeah. What need needs to get met.

00:54:00:09 - 00:54:25:02

Princess

Yeah. So I had conversations with my term and we sorted that out. I mean, I see I get jealous now. Not really. I think I'm very much okay with the whole situation now. I had taking a break then and I was like, oh, I'm probably not polyamorous. It seems like I'm monogamous. So is this how the relationship is going to be?

00:54:25:04 - 00:54:55:07

Princess

Then I mean, I still had the option to, you know, explore other people, but I wasn't doing anything. Then a friend of mine came to a sleepover and we were talking, and then both of us decided that we were going to join dating apps so that we could vibe with it. Yeah. We spent the whole night doing that, but that was a lot of stress because it was just a lot, really.

00:54:55:09 - 00:55:01:07

Princess

We matched up. There was one person that both of us matched up with and that was really funny. But.

00:55:01:09 - 00:55:03:03

Luna

Yeah, well what happened?

00:55:03:05 - 00:55:35:00

Princess

Well, it didn't really work out with the person for me. Okay. But my friend and the person they talked, although they didn't get to meet up because my friend said that there was something weird about that situation. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So another person I matched up with, we moved from the dating app to WhatsApp and we were talking and all, and we had already decided, oh, okay, we're going to meet up and talk in person and then figure out from there.

00:55:35:02 - 00:56:01:04

Princess

But then she started talking about someone. She had slept with before. She was very rude and fatphobic. And I was like, that's not the situation I want to be in. So I told her that it wasn't going to work out, and I blocks her so that she would text me anymore. Yeah. Then after that I was in kind of a post.

00:56:01:04 - 00:56:32:06

Princess

I wasn't having any action. Like girl was. Yeah. And also in Nigeria there are laws against people being themselves, you know, like it's illegal to be gay, all that rubbish. So there are not a lot of people that are openly out. So it's sort of hard ish to navigate that, especially like if you're just new to the scene, because like before that I had been like straight in after that.

00:56:32:11 - 00:56:56:18

Princess

My dog came to meet me one day and he was like, that's someone that we both know wants to sleep with me. And I was like, okay, so he's into music. So both of them were writing a song or recording a song together or something. And then somehow the conversation got to our relationship and how we're open and all.

00:56:56:20 - 00:57:09:11

Princess

And she was like, oh, something about how she would like to sleep with me. And he was like, oh, I see if I can actually hook you guys up. I should like for you. I was like, yeah, so you came to tell me and I was like, oh God.

00:57:09:13 - 00:57:16:00

Luna

That is my dream come true. One of my lovers bringing me another lover. Great. Oh my gosh.

00:57:16:01 - 00:57:21:00

Princess

Yeah. He's very supportive and he encourages my harlotry.

00:57:21:02 - 00:57:32:23

Luna

I love that he's great. Leaving her out of the dream. So did you get two? Did it or did it turn into a group thing or what? What happened?

00:57:33:01 - 00:57:53:18

Princess

She was so shy. I think so we talked a lot. We were talking and then I wasn't sure what exactly the vibe was. So I was like, would you like to just talk and get to know each other first, or would you like to just get straight to the sex? I was like, but she would like to talk for it.

00:57:53:19 - 00:58:19:23

Princess

So we were talking a lot for that period and then someone new joined, like the class below me. Okay. And she was a friend of a friend in my class, and I was just like in a group conversation with her. And she was very quiet, you know, I was like, interested, but I wasn't sure if she was into a girl at that point.

00:58:20:00 - 00:58:43:19

Princess

And then I asked my friend and they said, yeah, so what day? While we were in school, I went to meet her and I was like, oh, I heard that you're into girls and I'm into you. If you would not mind, I would like to have your number. So we exchanged numbers and we talked a bit like I thought that was close to Christmas.

00:58:43:19 - 00:59:17:06

Princess

So I went home for the Christmas break. We talked a bit and then we started talking more because we moved to a different platform that she was more comfortable using. She said that she would like to talk about sex stuff in person, and I was like, okay, so with her first cool to resume. So we got back and then we finally got to having the conversation and she was like, she enjoys my company, but she wasn't feeling sexually attracted to me, and oh, damn.

00:59:17:12 - 00:59:50:04

Princess

Well it's suicide. Yeah, yeah. But I was like, okay, that's fine, no problem. So we just kept on talking as friends. Then things were sort of picking up with the other girls when we met up, but the first day we did, we were just talking and having fun and we were going to get into at least kissing. But then my dad called that he needed me to do something, so I had to go, oh yeah, but when I got back, we met up again.

00:59:50:06 - 01:00:04:02

Princess

We finally had sex and it was so nice. And I'm such a boob person. I really love to have boobs on my face. Is that so? Yes.

01:00:04:04 - 01:00:10:09

Luna

Amazing. I love that you would love to have boobs on your face. Yeah. What else? What did you like about it? What did you enjoy?

01:00:10:11 - 01:00:31:18

Princess

I really enjoyed like it? Different type of body like you. Female body. Because I'm used to male presenting bodies. Yeah. So I really enjoy like, female bodies. And it was really nice. It felt so good. Like, wow, why did I take so much time to get to this?

01:00:31:19 - 01:00:52:12

Luna

Okay, well, not for lack of effort. Let's say that right. And I do want to just like, highlight how amazing it is that you have so many stories of exploration and attempts, and I see in you what I myself want to practice more of which is total relief. Well, it seems like from over here released in the okay, that's okay, that's okay.

01:00:52:12 - 01:01:09:10

Luna

But it's a no, you know, which is the sexiest thing alive. You know, it's consent culture. But also I get really crinkly about rejection and I'm like really admiring your sort of like grace. And I'm so happy that you finally got to bang a lady. What has happened since? Was that your first? Has there been more did you ever get to do?

01:01:09:10 - 01:01:12:20

Luna

I know that your you have the hots for group sex? Have you done it? Yeah.

01:01:12:22 - 01:01:36:01

Princess

Yeah, I've had it. So. Okay, so that was my first time. That has been my only time with her. Okay. Still not sure about what the situation is on strike, so I'll figure that out later. I'm not sure if that's going to continue or not, but the other girl that had said she wasn't sexually attracted to me, something changed at some point.

01:01:36:03 - 01:02:06:00

Princess

Great. So she's also like really open about sex. So we've had a lot of conversations about sex, not necessarily including both of us, but just sex in general and experiences, I know. And then she found out who my partner was and she was like, oh, that's really cool. Or something like that. And one day she told me that she had a dream, that she was watching us have sex.

01:02:06:02 - 01:02:26:15

Princess

And I was like, oh, amazing, okay. I'm happy to have featured in your dreams. Yeah, she was sort of flirty, but I wasn't sure like what exactly was going on at that point. There was one day we were in class and my dorm was sitting, and I was standing in front of him and he was like holding me.

01:02:26:17 - 01:02:52:01

Princess

So she passed behind me. And then she whispered in my ear instead to dream. And I was like, I wasn't sure what to do at that point. So I talked to my dorm about it, because at this point we have started talking about other apartments. So I talked to him about it. He was like that. I should just ask her, like if things have changed.

01:02:52:01 - 01:03:14:08

Princess

And I was like, I feel like she would say if things had changed. So then I asked her and she was like that. She was actually glad that I asked because things had changed, but she wasn't sure if to bring it up because she had said no the first time and all of that. Yeah. So at some point I had to go home, go back home for a while.

01:03:14:10 - 01:03:44:21

Princess

But I came back and then she and I, we met up and it was sort of an annoying day ish, but it was really fun. So she was on her period, and at that point I had a yeast infection, so there wasn't going to be any forever contact me. It was so stressful because we were making out, touching each other, and then we would get close and would just be like, well, it was a really fun experience.

01:03:45:00 - 01:04:05:21

Princess

I enjoyed it a lot. So I'll sleep with my friends like, I like to be friends with the person first because that makes me more comfortable. Yeah. So for example, with the first girl, I made some tea or her, mostly because we were both high and we just felt like drinking tea time. We both like tea. So I was like, oh, you know what?

01:04:05:21 - 01:04:08:09

Princess

Let me just make tea for you, you know? Yeah.

01:04:08:09 - 01:04:10:21

Luna

It's so sweet.

01:04:10:23 - 01:04:35:03

Princess

So with this other girl, I gave her a massage because I wanted to seduce her. Yeah, we had talked before and she said that massages get her, like, really horny. Yeah. I'm very good at giving massages because I have a lot of older family members. So when they have pain, I would be the one to do massaging.

01:04:35:03 - 01:04:55:19

Princess

Yeah. So I got really good at that. And I always carry coconut oil around. Mostly I was like a hand cream, but it didn't work great. And we used her vibrator on her and on me, but like through panties. So since we couldn't have proper contact.

01:04:55:21 - 01:04:57:00

Luna

Of me.

01:04:57:02 - 01:05:29:14

Princess

With my Dom, I feel very, very comfortable and at peace when I'm with him. We got a small Bdsm kit recently, so it has a blindfold. It has nipple clamps, it has rope, it has a whip, it has, a vibrator and a pop plug. Yeah. The simple kit. I feel free, when I'm having a session with him.

01:05:29:16 - 01:05:55:19

Princess

Because it feels like. How do I put it? Okay, so I'm the first born. I'm the first child, and also the first grandchild of both of my family sides. So I feel like I have a lot of responsibility on me all the time. So when I'm with him, I feel like I don't have to do anything. Like, I don't have to put effort into thinking about doing something.

01:05:56:00 - 01:06:19:01

Princess

I can just be. It's always so refreshing whenever we have like a session. The first time we tried on the nipple clamps, it was just me and him at his apartment, and then some of our mutual friends came over. They were we'd. So we were happy about that. But then they also brought games like monopoly. And that takes so long.

01:06:19:06 - 01:06:44:12

Princess

Yeah, yeah. And so we were playing big games and I book clubs on, on that shirt. And it was just it kept getting tighter and tighter and it was making noise. But I don't know if like they could hear me sound, but it was just they know it was so excruciating and I was just getting more and more horny.

01:06:44:13 - 01:07:10:08

Princess

And then the two girls I had slept with were there, and them and my partner, like they have good sexual chemistry. And I was just speaking, what if all four was? I was excited that night. I mean, I was sitting between both girls and they were both like just slightly rubbing my body. I was so tired or oh my goodness, amazing.

01:07:10:13 - 01:07:28:09

Princess

And then I whispered to them, both of them, I was like, hey you guys, what if three of us had a threesome together? What would you think about that? I wouldn't do it. They were down for it, but that didn't work out. So I had to go to the bathroom to take off the nipple cups because they were getting to say.

01:07:28:14 - 01:07:33:19

Princess

Yeah. And obviously nothing was going to happen about it.

01:07:33:20 - 01:07:39:20

Luna

Just sounds like a lot of effort for nipple clamps for not so much payoff.

01:07:39:22 - 01:08:06:23

Princess

Yeah. So the girl that wasn't interested before I got interested later on. So when we first started talking, I wanted to be with her. But I had also fantasized a threesome with my partner, including her, and I told her about that. So we had discussed all three of us, and we had all agreed that we were going to have a threesome.

01:08:07:03 - 01:08:36:06

Princess

We had just done a simple discussion, and so there was this time where we were in the same place. So she came over to his apartment so that we could have we could set a date. Let's just think we did not just talk. What did you do? He went out to buy something. I was high at that moment, so we were just lying down and I started touching her boob, and she started touching mine.

01:08:36:08 - 01:08:54:23

Princess

And we were making out. And then he came inside and he was like, oh, is this what we're doing? So we made out a lot. There was a lot of touching, but then at some point I was like, oh, her boyfriend is waiting for her. So she had to leave. Yeah, because she is in a different relationship. Yeah.

01:08:55:00 - 01:09:00:01

Princess

I feel like I had quite a lot of experiences. Totally.

01:09:00:02 - 01:09:10:19

Luna

So many good experiences. Is there anything that you want to say about, just like what you love about Bdsm or like sensations that you get or anything like that?

01:09:10:21 - 01:09:32:19

Princess

I've been in subspace a couple of times and it's like a comfort zone for me. I always look forward to having sessions, especially since, like my Dom and I, we've not been in the same place for a while, so we don't get to have a lot of sessions. So I look forward a lot to that. I love being cuffed.

01:09:32:21 - 01:09:46:11

Princess

Oh, also in the kids desi ball. God, yeah. I mean, we haven't properly used it. We just tested it out and took some pictures because I like sexy pictures being taken. Lovely.

01:09:46:13 - 01:09:52:01

Luna

Fuck yes. What else would you either like to explore or have you already explored that you love?

01:09:52:03 - 01:10:22:19

Princess

I would like to get into anal stuff. We haven't gotten there yet, but I'm very excited to go into that. And also, we haven't used the rope yet because he's still trying to figure that out. Yeah, so when he does, I will be very ready for that. So I've had this fantasy about him sitting in front of his mirror with me on my knees, and he's like holding on to the rope of my collar.

01:10:22:21 - 01:10:30:23

Princess

Ooh. And he's like masturbating. And I'm waiting for him to come on my face. And I'm hoping that that happens this week.

01:10:30:23 - 01:10:37:06

Luna

That's a great fantasy. I hope so too. Oh my gosh, what about.

01:10:37:09 - 01:11:03:07

Princess

Fisting? Fisting? Okay, so now that even came about, we actually had like another day with the girl that we started making out with. I we're going to have a threesome with. Yeah. So we set an actual date and that's happened. So the plan was that he was going to dump both of us. My duty was to assist him.

01:11:03:09 - 01:11:28:06

Princess

And so both of us were paying attention to her, that type of thing. So we switched a couple of times, and then I was, like, resting on the bed with my butt up in the air, and I was getting fingered. And then both of them were behind me and they made a sound. And I was having so much fun thinking about it.

01:11:28:08 - 01:11:51:05

Princess

But later on I was like, oh, what happened? And they were like, oh, that! I took all four of her fingers and I was like, what would I do? Yeah, I was really excited about that. I did all the I could do that. So since then I've been looking into research, so that I can actually get bits that, yeah.

01:11:51:05 - 01:12:01:23

Princess

Well, I suspect that it could have been because she has small hands. Yeah, but then that I might just be able to think his big heads as well.

01:12:02:03 - 01:12:05:12

Luna

You might. You might be able to just relax enough.

01:12:05:13 - 01:12:37:23

Princess

Yeah. So this situation with her isn't there anymore because there was some sort of tension between me and her boyfriend. So that didn't work out. But we're still friends, so my Dom and I really enjoyed that, like the whole group sex thing. So we're looking into getting like a third, but we're not very sure yet if we want a third, like in a relationship type thing or just for like sexual encounters or whatever, figuring that out.

01:12:38:01 - 01:13:08:03

Princess

And because we're not in school, we're not in the same place constantly. It's hard to find someone. So, you know, we've not gotten into that there. But yeah, we're looking forward to having group sex because of the way Nigeria is. A lot of people aren't out about their sexuality, all that stuff. So I tried to join that, like to see if like there was a community here, but not really.

01:13:08:03 - 01:13:30:07

Princess

I have not been able to find like a proper community. So that would be like an actual sex party or something like that. I'm not been able to get back. The girl that we were with, she was thinking of setting up a sex party and I was helping her with it, but we haven't gotten to that yet, so I'm excited for how that is going to work out.

01:13:30:07 - 01:13:32:19

Princess

When eventually does. Yeah, yeah.

01:13:32:21 - 01:13:34:06

Luna

Keep us posted.

01:13:34:08 - 01:14:14:11

Princess

Yeah, I'm so very much into exhibitionism. And also voyeurism because during the threesome, the two of them were together and it was so hot or not. And I was like, yeah, I definitely want to watch him fuck somebody. Yeah. I've also recently found trans porn and I found that very intriguing. I don't think I would necessarily find like someone to explore with here, especially because like, people aren't out and stuff, but I would be really, really interested in that.

01:14:14:13 - 01:14:30:00

Princess

I'm also interested in having a threesome with two bisexual men. It hasn't happened yet because my partner is straight, so if I find two people interested in that, I think that that would be very fun. I think.

01:14:30:00 - 01:14:31:12

Luna

It's a when you find the two.

01:14:31:12 - 01:14:36:07

Princess

Bisexual men, right? When I say.

01:14:36:09 - 01:14:45:22

Luna

Okay, what else do we need to know about your sex life? Before I ask you wrap up questions or thoughts on sex in general, other things we haven't gotten to.

01:14:46:00 - 01:15:18:02

Princess

Okay, I had sort of, exhibitionist situation because first girl that I had sex with. So she and my partner have good sexual energy, and she mentioned to me that she would like to watch us have sex. And I was like, oh, okay. Yeah, I am down for that. So we were all together. Oh, actually, this was the same night when the other girl came for us to discuss the date, but the threesome and we ended up, you know, making up.

01:15:18:02 - 01:15:44:22

Princess

That's both. Yeah. So earlier than that, the first girl I had slept with was also at the apartment. Other friends that were there had left, so I brought it up that. Oh, he said that she's interested in watching us, and I'm interested. So I was leaning up so that we could have a conversation. And not necessarily do it then, but I was ready to do it.

01:15:44:23 - 01:16:07:15

Princess

The totally my partner was like oh that we should have talked about this first like just two of us before that. Okay. Well he wasn't comfortable. So we have to stop that for like I think they have plans to try again. Yes. I'm really excited for them to be naked in front of people.

01:16:07:19 - 01:16:24:20

Luna

Oh my gosh, me too. Me too. Especially if they might touch me. I love how much you talk about sex with partners ahead of time. I love that I want that to be more normal. And I feel like if we all just lived in that kind of world that you have told us about today, our sex lives would be better.

01:16:24:20 - 01:16:31:14

Luna

Even, you know, and giving people the chance to go away and change their mind and come back and see where it goes, I love that.

01:16:31:19 - 01:16:59:19

Princess

Yeah. I want to be comfortable with whoever it is, but I'm sleeping. Oh, actually, I just realized that I did not mention that I actually had another male partner, but in the beginning of the open relationship thing. So he was a friend. He's still a friend. I thought he was hot and I was like, you know what, let me actually try how this open relationship thing is.

01:16:59:21 - 01:17:22:07

Princess

So it was really nice. We had sex twice, I think, and then I had like four partners at the time and it felt too much for me. So I felt like I was juggling too much and I wasn't like paying attention to everybody. So him and I ended. Things were still cool, but that was also a really nice situation.

01:17:22:09 - 01:17:47:21

Princess

Another thing that I've been interested in lately is having my dorm hook me, split in my mouth, and then slap me in that exact order, especially during missionary. It's like it's so hot. So I enjoy it a lot and also I lose it. Usually I close my eyes, like when I'm like enjoying myself. And then one day I was like, you know what?

01:17:47:21 - 01:18:14:12

Princess

Let me keep my eyes open and just see. And this was like also in missionary position. And he looked so hot, like the way he was moving. I was like, is this what I've been missing? So I tend to close my eyes when I'm enjoying myself. It sort of like helps keep it in water. But opening my eyes, especially in that moment.

01:18:14:13 - 01:18:47:08

Princess

So it helped me be more in the moment and like also enjoyed from seeing him move. Also like when I'm really enjoying myself, when I'm deep in the throes of pleasure. There was this time that we were together, my atonement and we didn't do much. All we did was he gave me a hit. It was so good. Like I'm not entirely sure what was so good about that particular giving situation.

01:18:47:10 - 01:19:17:09

Princess

Like when I came, I had sort of like a seizure of because I'm not entirely sure that that's what we would. I couldn't control my hand movements. I was like stuck for a bit. And then he noticed, like he sort of held me, until I calmed down. But even after that, I was like. As I came to, my fingers kept twitching like, uncontrollably for like 20 minutes thereabouts.

01:19:17:11 - 01:19:47:19

Princess

And it didn't hurt anything. It was just different. And that has happened once or twice other that, oh, I'm also really into toys like sex toys and stuff. I currently have three, although not really because two of them are not working anymore. Yeah they would died on me sadly, but I recently got a rabbit vibrator. She's so good.

01:19:47:21 - 01:20:00:08

Princess

She's so good that I had to give her a name, so I call. Hi, it's Bill and she is so good. Like, I was like, wow. Yeah.

01:20:00:10 - 01:20:04:10

Luna

What are your hopes for your sex life going forward?

01:20:04:12 - 01:20:37:15

Princess

I'm hoping to have more partners now. I love that answer. I me, two years ago, I would not believe that I was saying this because, like, I was all monogamy and all of that, but, like, I'm really enjoying the polyamorous relationship and I'm freeing myself from what I was taught. And I'm enjoying people for different reason. It feels more fulfilling than I thought it would be.

01:20:37:17 - 01:20:51:15

Princess

Yeah. Yeah. I was oh, very much okay with the monogamous relationship. I feel like I would have continued if he did not introduce it to me. But now that I'm in this, I don't think I will be going back.

01:20:51:17 - 01:21:01:23

Luna

That is how I feel. I'm like, wait, I can have options, or I can get stuck to one person who might get grumpy at me and resent me because they're stuck to me, to,

01:21:02:01 - 01:21:21:11

Princess

Right, I don't know. Yeah. So I'm looking forward to having more partners, experiencing new things because at the moment I'm just with my Dom and that's really fun. I always have a lovely time with him, but I would still like to experience more people. Yeah.

01:21:21:13 - 01:21:30:02

Luna

Fuck yeah. And if you could go back in time and give younger you a piece of sex advice, what age or ages would you pick and what would you say?

01:21:30:04 - 01:21:56:12

Princess

I think I would go back to when I was in secondary school with the situation with the guy that I liked, but did no one to touch me when I wanted him to. Yeah. So at that point I felt weird because I sort of still liked him. Yeah. So I would go back and tell myself that it was okay, that I still like them, but it wasn't okay that he was touching me when I did not want him to.

01:21:56:13 - 01:22:05:05

Princess

And I would go back to when I was like 15 and tell myself to keep up the good work.

01:22:05:07 - 01:22:20:00

Luna

I'm so good. Okay, I know that we're like, really out of order here, but I'm realizing I didn't ask you about your praise kink. Will you just say a couple minutes of like, what you like about being praised or kind of what words feel good to you?

01:22:20:01 - 01:22:46:11

Princess

I sort of feel like from where I am, my whole family situation, I get a lot of praise when I do well in like school, mostly school, but some other things. And sometimes it feels like my family members forget the great things that I've done when there's an issue. So I think that is the main reason I have a priest kink.

01:22:46:13 - 01:23:16:18

Princess

And what I like about my Dom so much is that he's always very kind and gentle with me. Yeah, he's always very sweet to me. So it feels even better when he praises me because he's never off when he speaks to me. So when he, like, tells me that I'm a good girl, or he rubs my head and says, oh, that's my princess, or you like, yeah, it's okay that it makes me feel very warm and fuzzy and say.

01:23:16:22 - 01:23:21:21

Luna

I love that. Okay, lastly, you're studying architecture.

01:23:21:23 - 01:23:23:12

Princess

Yeah, I am.

01:23:23:14 - 01:23:30:08

Luna

But this is just a silly question. There's a favorite building somewhere in the world that you would love to fuck in.

01:23:30:10 - 01:23:32:18

Princess

I have not thought about that.

01:23:32:20 - 01:23:33:16

Luna

Okay, okay.

01:23:33:18 - 01:23:37:02

Princess

Planting that seed because.

01:23:37:04 - 01:23:38:04

Luna

Because I want.

01:23:38:06 - 01:23:40:12

Princess

To go and look at you.

01:23:40:12 - 01:23:49:07

Luna

Do I mean it? Yeah. Or just something that's in my brain all the time when I'm like, oh, that's a beautiful space. Oh, I would go over there around the corner. Looks like what I think every time I walk in a building.

01:23:49:09 - 01:23:55:20

Princess

Oh my God. Wow. That's like oh God, thank you so much for that.

01:23:56:02 - 01:24:01:23

Luna

My pleasure. And you can keep me posted. Princess, thank you so much for being a guest on Sexy Stories.

01:24:02:00 - 01:24:04:01

Princess

Thank you two for having me.

01:24:04:03 - 01:24:06:18

Luna

Do you have a sex question for me?

01:24:06:20 - 01:24:23:01

Princess

Yes, actually. And I think I've heard you talk about tantric sex. Oh, I'm also interested in that, by the way, but not enough time to get into it. So I would like to know what you think about that. Like if you've tried that out, how that feels for you.