23 straight cis female in a monogamous heterosexual relationship with a partner of 2 years.

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Luna

Our guest today is a 23 year old straight cis female. She is in a monogamous hetero relationship with a partner of two years. She has a foot fetish and is into anal and is super turned on by the idea of full dress up role play. And the idea of watching her partner be with somebody else. A legal assistant living in new Jersey.

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Luna

Welcome, ace.

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Ace

Hi. Thank you.

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Luna

You. Can you start off by telling our listeners, if you had to rate yourself today, right now on a sexual shaming scale with ten being the most full of shame and one being not so shaming at all, where do you feel?

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Ace

I would say three, but others will say one.

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Luna

Oh say.

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Ace

More.

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Ace

Friends, they say that I'm very open to say things about my sex life. My boyfriend says that I am very, shameless when it comes to sex, especially with him. But I would like to maybe say I'm a three just because I do have some shame. Even though I might be expressive about it, I do feel at times that I shouldn't.

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Luna

When and how does that come up for you? If you can notice a specific pattern?

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Ace

When I feel very confident. So if it's a day that I feel very confident, I'm with my friends, I'm like, oh, I did this. I did that. Or when I have great sex, I will always text my friends like, oh my God, I just had like the best sex, or I just did this or I tried this and this was amazing.

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Luna

And then when do the shaming parts come out?

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Ace

When I just first meet people and it seems like they're open to talk about me and I don't know them very well. I'm like, well, I don't know how I feel about talking to goddess or family.

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Ace

Oh yeah.

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Luna

Okay. Yeah, for sure, for sure. Can you tell us what is your sex life like right now and what are your favorite parts?

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Ace

My sex life right now is pretty amazing. It's not like an every day like we do something, but it's like when I need it or when I want it the most. It's there. So he gives me what I need. I give him what he needs.

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Ace

Nice.

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Luna

Do you usually initiate or does he?

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Ace

We both do. Many times. Like we get home around the same time from work. Sometimes he's like, okay, get in the bedroom right now. Or like, sometimes I'm like, okay, I need you to go and get in the bedroom for me. So it's like it's a balance.

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Luna

I love it.

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Ace

We have kind of like the same sex drive, so I think we have a great balance.

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Luna

Okay. What would you say your shared ideal is? Assuming that you're not, like, stressed out by life? Like, if things were perfect, like, how often would you be doing it?

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Ace

If it was my choice every day?

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Ace

Yes. Every day.

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Luna

Like I feel you. Yeah. If only work and life didn't get in the way of the sex schedule.

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Ace

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Luna

Okay. Can you tell us now. What does sexy mean to you.

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Ace

Confidence. So like I said before when I feel confident I talk about sex. I talk about things that shouldn't. You know society doesn't want you to talk about. So I feel like being sexy is something that society doesn't really look at the right way. So that's something that it's like when you're confident you feel sexy.

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Ace

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Ace

I personally feel sexy when I'm being complimented and not necessarily by my sexual partner but by just anybody. Hey, if anybody says oh I kind of like your hair.

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Ace

Or.

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Ace

I look like you look great in this. Okay, I feel sexy. I feel good about myself.

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Luna

Amazing. Does that apply to. I know that there's, like, some people don't like compliments if they come from, say, gentleman on the street. I tend to get really polite compliments from random people. Like strangers. Like, is there a type of compliment that will turn you off?

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Ace

There's not really a compliment that will turn me off, but it's just the way that you say things. It's not what you say is the way that you say it. So definitely when somebody says something, you know that it's not the typical compliment. They try to compliment any part of your body, but they don't see it the way that you would feel comfortable.

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Ace

I feel like that's definitely a no no. If you're walking down the street, somebody says, hey.

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Ace

Like, you look good or, you know.

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Ace

That's good for me. And that will make me feel very good.

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Luna

Yeah, there is so much even I can pick up on the tones there. And I think the thing for me is like when someone is really entitled, like they think that they, like, deserve to have me, or they're like, acting like, that's what I'm like. Fuck off. But when it's someone who is very polite and there's just this energy of like, respect and admiration, I'm like, thank you.

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Luna

I see you as a person too. And that's like how I feel. Yeah, I love that you love compliments.

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Ace

I do.

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Luna

Are you gracious at receiving them? Like, what do you say or wait, can I practice?

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Ace

Sure. Okay. Go ahead.

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Luna

You look incredibly radiant and open. I see this beautiful face of just like unknown curiosity before me and a radiant smile.

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Ace

Thank you. Thank you. How fun. Yeah.

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Ace

That was. That was really nice. I'm, like, blushing right now.

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Luna

I need to practice too. I actually have a friend who's really good at receiving compliments, and she has, like, helped me sort of feel into, like pleasure of sharing the gift with the giver, if that makes sense. Like it's so much easier for me to because I've heard her so many times. Go thank you to really like feel into that for myself.

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Luna

So I love that, I love that.

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Ace

Well, I am going to say that I feel that my faith, expression and everything right now, it's also because of the vibe that you're giving me.

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Luna

Thank you. That feels like a compliment to me. Amazing.

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Ace

Welcome.

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Luna

I have been noticing so much lately how just the tiny little energetic invitations and really understanding how the words we use and the energy that we give is an invitation to another person. And it's actually like clocking the difference between the interactions that I have in this space. On this podcast versus the real world that I'm like, oh, I see what's happening here for sure.

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Ace

Yeah.

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Luna

Can you tell us next? Did you ever learn about consent explicitly growing up?

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Ace

Yes.

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Luna

As okay. You did. Okay. And then as an adult, part two. The question is, do you have a sexy consent related experience, like where it was like a clear yes. And it was hot. So part one, you learned about it explicitly. Tell us about that.

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Ace

Yes. My mom, since I was very little, she always said to me, always be careful with anybody that wants to touch you. Anybody that might do something that you don't feel comfortable with. And she always made sure that I knew that I would always can go to her and tell her, I hate this happened to me later on in life, something that happened to me, and I did not do that.

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Ace

I didn't go to her. But I do feel that when I'm ready, I could definitely go and talk to her and tell her this is what happened and this is how I feel. Yeah.

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Luna

Well, yeah. I also just want to reflect that. I love that you're doing it in your own time, in your own way.

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Ace

Thank you. Thank you I appreciate that.

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Luna

Do you want to answer the question about, like, a hot consent moment, or do you want to speak about the part that wasn't consensual or maybe both appeal.

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Ace

We can do both.

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Ace

When I was 20, I was sexually assaulted. I was raped by a person that I did have a relationship with before that. And by the time that that happened, we weren't together anymore. It had been a while since we weren't together, and it happened in my own home. So I felt very, you know, exposed. So it was something hard to deal with.

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Ace

Still, it's only been three years, so it's still very hard to deal with. And he was a close friend of the family, so.

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Ace

It's.

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Ace

Been hard to be able to open up about him.

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Ace

Yeah.

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Ace

But when I met my boyfriend, he's actually the first person that ever said, hey, can I do this? And we met. We were drinking and it was a family party. And he's a friend of my family as well. He asked me, can I kiss you? And it was so like. And expect that I didn't expect it at all.

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Ace

And the funny thing is that he tried to make it back. He said, okay, if this song comes up next, can I kiss you? And I said, I don't think that song is going to come up next. I think my, the song that I requested was going to come up next. He ended up changing the song and he made this bet with me, but he asked me, can I kiss you if this song comes on?

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Ace

And it just, you know, it changed my perspective on a lot of things because he literally just asked me if he could kiss me. I never been next.

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Ace

Yeah. How did it.

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Ace

Feel? I felt so comfortable and I felt so special because it showed how valuable I am. And it showed how much of a good person he is and somebody that deserved that kiss.

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Ace

Oh.

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Luna

Before we move on, do you feel comfortable sharing what you did to take care of yourself after the trauma occurred for you?

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Ace

Yeah, I talked to some friends, and those friends were not as understanding as I thought they would be.

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Ace

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Ace

And it really hurt my feelings because I felt like I was being blamed for what happened to me because I had this relationship with this person before anything happened. But during the time I actually asked my mom, I said to her because we were also going through some family issues. I said to her we should go to therapy as a family, individually.

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Ace

However, you would like a bit of therapy. I started going to therapy on my own. Then she joined in. It kind of helped me to talk about it. It was the first time I ever actually spoke to somebody about it. Yeah. And I actually stopped therapy a few months ago, but they put me on medication and stuff. It did help a lot.

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Ace

And it came to a point where I actually went to the police to report what happened. And I get so nervous when I talk about this.

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Ace

Yeah.

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Ace

And my boyfriend was actually the one to kind of push me to do that, to say to me, listen, what happened to you? Was that okay? And you are in total control of what you can do about it. And you have these options. And that's why I decided to go ahead. I kind of told my mom about it, didn't tell her exactly what happened, okay.

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Ace

But I was able to express how I felt when I felt like my personal space was violated.

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Ace

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Luna

Thank you for sharing that. I know that that is a lot on top of a violation in the place where you live.

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Ace

Thank you.

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Luna

Okay. Getting back into our intro questions. What happens to your shame limiter when it's time to talk to a new partner about safer sex? And in your ideal world, how would that conversation go?

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Ace

If we could go down to negative, I think if we go down to -100.

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Ace

Yeah.

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Ace

Because I'm very, very careful.

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Ace

With.

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Ace

Who I'm with and funny thing, and this is why I feel like I'm in the perfect relationship for myself. My boyfriend and I, when we first have sex two days later, we both went to the doctors to get tested and everything.

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Ace

But it was separate. You know, we were just dating.

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Ace

We weren't, like, really enough for our relationship. And I asked him, oh, what did you do today? And he said, oh, I went to the doctor and he asked me, what did you do? And I was like, oh, I also went to the doctor, but we never told each other why. We went to the doctor. And then later on we said, oh, what the time that I told you that I was at the doctor's to getting tested because we had just had sex and we never had the conversation.

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Ace

But I've had the conversation with other partners where I said, I don't feel comfortable unless we're using a condom, or I don't feel comfortable doing this unless I know that we are both clear. Yeah. So my deal conversation would be I don't feel comfortable doing such and such until we both get tested. But a lot of people are not comfortable with that.

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Ace

They're not comfortable with a conversation of safe sex.

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Ace

Yeah, I.

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Luna

Would imagine that you make people feel very comfortable. Am I getting special treatment or are you a pretty, like, calm person?

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Ace

I am a calm person.

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Ace

Yeah.

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Luna

I really feel that from you. Like, I feel like the grounded energy that is sort of very, very. I mean, just the way you speak, even the way that you say clear. I love that, like, clear and sort of clean, like, that's, Fuck, yeah. Yeah, I made it all rub off on. I was, I love that. Oh my God.

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Ace

Yeah.

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Luna

Okay. Let's dive into the juicy details. Take us back to your early years. What do you remember? What are your first memories? Hearing about sex. What did you think about it? What did you feel about it?

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Ace

First time I ever heard about sex, I was 12. I was pretty old. I mean, you know, I didn't know anything about masturbation. I didn't know anything about kissing. I had my first kiss when I was 12, but it was just a peck on the lips. It wasn't anything more than when I was about 14. I found this box in my mom's room, and there was a box of cards and it had pictures of naked women and naked men.

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Luna

Like playing cards. What kind of cards?

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Ace

Yeah, like playing cards. Okay, I think it's think, you know, I didn't.

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Ace

Know why it was.

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Ace

There. I left it.

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Ace

Alone. Later on, the same year, my mom said, oh, I'm having a couple of friends over, and we're going to have a sex expert talk about sex and things that we can do. So I would like you to go out or go to a cousin's house so we could do that. My mom has always been very open about sex, and she has always, like, expressed how she feels about it.

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Ace

She's always been very loving to my dad and loving, I mean, like, always kissing him or she'll get on top of him. She's very tiny. She'll get on top of him. So for me, being affectionate was always something that was part of life. So when we talked about sex, I mean, she would talk about it. She was just talk about it and she wouldn't really care.

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Ace

But now if it meant, like, me having sex.

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Ace

No. Oh, wow. It was.

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Ace

A no. A hard no.

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Ace

Okay.

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Ace

So, yeah, the first time, she never gave me the sex talk, but the first time that she did kind of mention about me having sex. It was because I was a freshman in high school. A classmate of mine got pregnant, and my mother sat when I told her, if you get pregnant, I'll slap you for getting pregnant at such a young.

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Ace

Age, but we'll deal with it. I told her I.

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Ace

Was like, I've.

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Ace

Never even kissed a boy. And she was like, okay, good, don't do that. Oh, wow. Wow.

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Luna

That's so wild. I also am very curious as an adult. Do you know what your mom is into? What did the sex expert teach her?

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Ace

I think my mom is into everything except that bringing other people in and anal. She has talked about that. She always says that's not meant. Nothing is meant to go in there.

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Ace

And she always gets that.

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Luna

Politely disagree. But okay, so you didn't really get a sex talk. When did you have your first kiss and partnered explorations, and had you explored your own body at that point?

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Ace

Well, first, I feel like I hit puberty very quickly. My boobs were really, really big by the time I was 12. Boys never really, like, talk to me. I guess I always had that very innocent looking, you know, girl, like, she's very innocent. Don't touch that. So nobody ever, like, really talk to me.

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Ace

So when I was.

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Ace

Maybe 15, a lot of my friends had boyfriends. They started talking about sex. I looked up what sex was I them.

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Ace

What it was, whatever. I just literally put sex.

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Ace

On Google and a bunch of porn came on. Oh, not. And I started watching. I didn't do anything, but I started watching it. And then one day I felt like I wanted to know what it felt like. So I started touching myself. I only touch myself down there in the vagina. Nothing else. Like I was just, you know, little, like, fingers or whatever.

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Ace

But then my first boyfriend, I was 17, we had kind of like a long distance relationship because I was a junior in high school. He was a senior. He graduated when we first started dating. She lived in New York and I lived in new Jersey, and he would love to have sex.

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Ace

But I didn't know what to do because it was my first sexual experience. Yeah. Oh my gosh. So what did you do? So he would.

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Ace

Ask me, oh, like, touch yourself here or like grab your boob or do this. He was very into my boobs. And I would do that. And I would tell him I honestly, I don't like it. I don't like what you're saying to me. I don't like, you know, I told him I was like, I don't like it. And he said, okay, maybe if we do it in person, you'll like it.

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Ace

We did do it in person. We were on a date. We were in a car. He started touching me and he started fingering me. And I was like, well, I do like this.

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Ace

I like this a lot.

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Ace

So then we.

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Ace

Started playing around with each other later on. We didn't have actual sex until a year into our relationship, and when we had sex.

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Ace

The first.

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Ace

First time I was shaking so much that I didn't feel anything.

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Luna

Wow, nervous systems are crazy. Okay, what do you remember?

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Ace

I told her I was like, is it in? I don't feel anything. And you said, yes, it is. And I was like, okay, well, what is that like? Your phone is ringing. Turn your phone off.

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Ace

Oh wow.

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Ace

He says, no, that's not my phone, that's your legs. And I was just like, wow. I couldn't believe it. But it was in after I had sex. Like real sex, I realized that that wasn't good sex.

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Luna

Okay, let's let's do some definitions. Tell us, is definition of real sex just for this purpose? Like for the purposes of this story in particular.

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Ace

Real sex is when both parties feel good, when both parties are feeling pleasure and you feel that you are in another world, that's what real sex is beautiful.

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Luna

So with those early explorations with that partner, it sounds like there was a lot of curiosity. Was the fingering? It sounds like that felt good, but was part of that novelty. I think a lot of my early experiences that were good might have been me being excited that it was new, and I can't tell now, but what do you remember feeling about it?

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Ace

The fingering for sure, is something that I really like.

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Ace

Is.

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Ace

Something that I really like because I do orgasm through penetration more than rubbing.

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Ace

Great. Yes.

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Ace

So that's something that is really important to me. I don't want to judge. I've been with guys with very small penis. Like for example, that boyfriend had a very small penis and then my boyfriend now has a very big penis. I definitely like bigger penises because I definitely have orgasms through penetration.

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Luna

Yeah, if you can orgasm through penetration, I absolutely see why that makes a little bit more of a yes difference to you.

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Ace

So the finger definitely was something that I liked. Everything else, not so much. But I did discover that I was very into anal with that boyfriend at first.

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Ace

Boyfriend. Okay.

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Luna

That's a good way to get introduced to anal too. I actually like okay, just jumping ahead. Have you had a huge cock anal wise?

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Ace

No. And that's.

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Ace

Like an issue that I'm having.

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Ace

With my boyfriend because it's like really hard.

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Ace

We've tried it, but it just doesn't work.

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Luna

Oh okay. Look at look at that. I also just I got an inflatable butt plug that I haven't tried yet, but I finally unwrapped it today and I'm like, put it. You know, I'm just I'm just curious, okay. But I want to focus first on actually the details of your pussy. What does she like and like, can she come from fingering like, and how do you touch yourself and how has that evolved over the years?

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Ace

Okay. First, the hands are very important. When I'm actually with my left hand. It's not the same as when I measure it with my right.

00:21:06:18 - 00:21:09:13

Luna

I cannot come with my left hand.

00:21:09:15 - 00:21:11:13

Ace

I can only come with my left hand.

00:21:11:19 - 00:21:12:14

Ace

Oh, wow.

00:21:12:14 - 00:21:15:15

Luna

Really? Yes. Are you left handed? In regular life?

00:21:15:17 - 00:21:19:09

Ace

I am a righty and I can only make myself come with my left hand.

00:21:19:10 - 00:21:22:13

Luna

Okay. What's your, like, motion or style or what do you do?

00:21:22:15 - 00:21:31:00

Ace

It's just literally I put my middle finger and my ring finger right above my clit, and I just rub. I just rub.

00:21:31:02 - 00:21:33:14

Luna

Do you ever go inside by yourself with penetration?

00:21:33:14 - 00:21:56:17

Ace

No. Okay. Don't. When I do, if I'm by myself, I think I like more just rubbing the outside. I don't really like to go in the inside. I actually have bought vibrators that are, you know, vibrators. Dildo. They're both together and I don't like them. Yeah, I really don't like them. I rather just do a vibrator and. No, nothing.

00:21:56:17 - 00:22:01:15

Ace

And only when I'm actually having sex. It's when I like penetration. Yeah.

00:22:01:17 - 00:22:18:20

Luna

So does that mean you can also come from just your clit as well. So you have both like both options. Cool. Yeah. I have to say when I use vibrators that are dildo shaped, the only times that I ever like use them as a vibrator and a dildo at the same time is if I'm just putting firm pressure on top and then that's kind of hot.

00:22:18:20 - 00:22:40:04

Luna

But I'm the same way. I'm well, I've actually been making effort to experiment more lately with different masturbation, so I have been playing around with internal stuff, but like my go to is like that outside regular basic stuff. Here's a question for you. You like penetration with partners. Is there any sort of manual stimulation that you like with partners that you, if you're me, feel too lazy to do for yourself, but like it when.

00:22:40:04 - 00:22:43:00

Ace

Someone else does it? No, there.

00:22:43:00 - 00:22:50:06

Ace

Is actually when I'm in doggy, I love it. Love it when my boyfriend rubs my claim from the back.

00:22:50:08 - 00:22:51:14

Luna

Like a reach around or like from.

00:22:51:15 - 00:22:58:01

Ace

Yes, I could reach out reach of like a reach. Yeah. Yes. I love that he doesn't do it often.

00:22:58:06 - 00:23:00:08

Luna

Okay. Does he know how much you like it?

00:23:00:10 - 00:23:02:06

Ace

He does. He does good.

00:23:02:06 - 00:23:07:10

Ace

Though. When we get into it, we get into it. If there's like, no distractions.

00:23:07:12 - 00:23:15:07

Luna

Amazing, amazing. Do you also like getting fingered in your asshole? Like, since we're on manual stimulation, like, do like all the things.

00:23:15:09 - 00:23:21:07

Ace

I do actually do a lot, but I haven't done it in such all that time.

00:23:21:07 - 00:23:22:09

Ace

Okay.

00:23:22:11 - 00:23:30:12

Luna

Before we get to these details, is there anything else we need to know about your formative experiences before we kind of dive into your current, like, favorites?

00:23:30:14 - 00:23:56:16

Ace

I had a fucked buddy once that was a very strange experience. It was not something that I was used to, and I was very young. I was a he was maybe seven years older than me. I was 18, I had just broken up with my ex, and that was my second sex experience ever. And it was like, you know, no strings attached kind of relationship.

00:23:56:16 - 00:24:06:23

Ace

So it was very, very strange. But I enjoyed it. Yeah, weirdly, I did enjoy the fact that, like, I didn't have to commit to anything.

00:24:07:01 - 00:24:12:13

Luna

Were there any like sexual things you learned from it or enjoyed from it or like discovered through it?

00:24:12:15 - 00:24:17:19

Ace

I discover that I like to watch myself having sex.

00:24:17:21 - 00:24:19:10

Luna

Like in a mirror or on a video or.

00:24:19:10 - 00:24:20:09

Ace

Yes, yes.

00:24:20:09 - 00:24:21:18

Ace

Mirror.

00:24:21:20 - 00:24:37:12

Ace

Videos too. I've tried videos with my boyfriend now I've tried videos. But, this guy, he had, big mirror on his wall and every time I would be on top, I would just look at myself and I'm like, wow, you are so hot. You're a goddess.

00:24:37:13 - 00:24:40:20

Ace

Like, look at you gazing.

00:24:40:22 - 00:24:43:04

Ace

So I do like to watch myself that.

00:24:43:04 - 00:24:58:10

Luna

Awesome. And so that was your next sexual partner? I feel like it took me so long to start even being able to, like, calibrate my sexual experiences. But you mentioned that there was a moment where you realized that there was, like real sex or like, good for you. Six when did that hit.

00:24:58:12 - 00:25:15:16

Ace

That hit with this one guy that I had a very good relationship with? We were friends, and then we just randomly had sex and it was amazing. Like every single part of it was how I wanted sex to meet. Like.

00:25:15:18 - 00:25:21:02

Luna

Amazing. Are there any details about this randomness that are worth sharing?

00:25:21:04 - 00:25:43:09

Ace

Yes they are. So funny thing. I was sleeping over at his house. I was in a different bedroom. He came in. I was somewhat drunk, but I wasn't too drunk. He came in and he gave me his shirt. He said, here, you can change into this so you can sleep comfortable. And I said, okay. So he sat down and we were just talking, and then we just started kissing.

00:25:43:09 - 00:25:51:08

Ace

And it was just like he touched every single part of my body. And he went down on me. And actually, he was the first person to ever eat, know.

00:25:51:13 - 00:25:53:04

Ace

Oh.

00:25:53:06 - 00:25:57:16

Luna

Oh, how was that for you? It sounds like it was good, but what do you remember?

00:25:57:18 - 00:25:58:03

Ace

It was.

00:25:58:03 - 00:26:18:12

Ace

Really. There was a lot of tongue. And I really like tongue cream. He definitely knows how to do it because he wouldn't. You know, there's some guys that they would just eat URL and they wouldn't touch anything. Do we just do that? He now he was touching every part of my body while he was doing it, and it was like he was so into it.

00:26:18:14 - 00:26:23:08

Ace

And I was like, oh my God, this is amazing. This is how I like it.

00:26:23:08 - 00:26:25:01

Ace

Wow. So yeah.

00:26:25:03 - 00:26:47:13

Ace

And then we just had sex. And then I really knew that I would just like anal and anything but stuff. So since I already knew that and he actually he put his finger in my bud and then he actually kissed my body. He was kissing everything. I was like, wow. Like it was literally every single thing that was like the first time.

00:26:47:14 - 00:26:50:12

Ace

Every single thing that I wanted actually happened.

00:26:50:14 - 00:26:52:18

Ace

Wow. That's magical.

00:26:52:20 - 00:26:57:00

Luna

Oh my gosh. So how was it getting your butthole kissed for the first time?

00:26:57:02 - 00:26:58:17

Ace

It was good.

00:26:58:19 - 00:27:00:21

Ace

Yeah, I think I came just from that.

00:27:00:23 - 00:27:02:06

Ace

That's amazing.

00:27:02:09 - 00:27:07:17

Luna

Holy shit. Can you have asked chasms? You said that there was a kiss? Yes, that the kiss led. Oh.

00:27:07:18 - 00:27:11:06

Ace

So cool. Oh my God.

00:27:11:08 - 00:27:21:20

Ace

Yes, I know for sure that I can, because the only orgasms that I had with my first sexual partner, it was just through anal.

00:27:21:23 - 00:27:37:15

Luna

Great. So your internal nerve bundles are, like, there and ready to go. That's fucking awesome because some people just aren't shaped that way. Is it possible to articulate the difference in like internal feeling between an ass gasm and a pussy? Get them.

00:27:37:17 - 00:27:38:21

Ace

Ass.

00:27:38:23 - 00:27:43:01

Ace

Is definitely more intense, and it's more of.

00:27:43:01 - 00:27:43:18

Ace

Them.

00:27:43:19 - 00:27:53:22

Ace

Out of world experience because you're having an orgasm through your butt, but everything is coming out through your vagina.

00:27:54:00 - 00:28:02:17

Luna

That's a great way to put it. Yes, yes, because it's like back there. But then it's like for me, I don't know, it's like throbbing outward. I don't know, it doesn't make sense. But I think.

00:28:02:18 - 00:28:04:12

Ace

You know.

00:28:04:14 - 00:28:06:11

Luna

What about the rest of your body?

00:28:06:12 - 00:28:24:18

Ace

I know that I told you that my first boyfriend, he was very into my boobs. I've never been into my boobs. I've actually been very insecure about them because they're very big and they've always been very big. So they made me always look older than what I was. And I didn't feel comfortable with that, because a lot of men will look at me differently.

00:28:24:22 - 00:28:28:10

Ace

When I was very young and I didn't even know what sex was.

00:28:28:12 - 00:28:29:08

Ace

Yeah, but.

00:28:29:08 - 00:28:43:12

Ace

With my boyfriend now he loves boobs and he loves titty fucking me, and I've never done it before him. So when he first said, oh, I'm going to titty fuck you, I was like, what is that?

00:28:43:14 - 00:28:46:07

Ace

He looked at me. He looked at me like.

00:28:46:09 - 00:28:49:03

Ace

You know damn well you know what, titty fucking ass.

00:28:49:05 - 00:28:51:17

Ace

And I was like, that's like my whole life.

00:28:51:17 - 00:28:52:22

Luna

And like, no, but what do you mean?

00:28:53:04 - 00:28:56:14

Ace

Yes, I do, but just tell me again. Yes.

00:28:56:16 - 00:29:15:05

Ace

So he lay me down because he didn't know. I didn't know how to do it. So he lay me down and he said, just squeeze your boobs together and I'll put my dick in there. So that's how we did it for the first time. But now I love when I get on my knees and he's sitting down and I'm literally just moving my boobs up and down on his dick.

00:29:15:05 - 00:29:17:13

Ace

I love that it's so good.

00:29:17:16 - 00:29:27:23

Luna

That is amazing. I don't know if I've seen or heard of that before. Spell it out for me. Do you do the movement? Is there a chair? Is it the bed? Does he. Are you grabbing his legs like what is most of.

00:29:27:23 - 00:29:39:02

Ace

No, I'm grabbing my boobs. You're grabbing. You're sitting down. Yes. And he's sitting in the back and I just go. I just move my boobs. At times I do get tired because I sit. Like I said, they're very big, so they're heavy.

00:29:39:02 - 00:29:43:12

Luna

Yeah, that's literally what I was wondering. I'm like, that sounds like a lot of work.

00:29:43:14 - 00:29:47:01

Ace

It is an arm workout. Wow. So he does help me.

00:29:47:03 - 00:29:50:01

Luna

Do you use lube or or is it like skin?

00:29:50:03 - 00:30:10:21

Ace

We use lube. We found this new lube. I don't remember the name, but it's the best look that we've ever used. It's organic, it's amazing. Awesome. And it doesn't dry out. Okay. It's so good. You know how some lube dry out? So we always struggle with that. And this one is just amazing. Like sometimes we use lotion because sometimes he just wants to get to titty fuck me like he doesn't want anything else.

00:30:10:23 - 00:30:17:12

Ace

Oh my god. So sometimes we will use lotion. And now that we found this new lube, it's so good. We don't need anything else.

00:30:17:12 - 00:30:18:11

Ace

Okay.

00:30:18:13 - 00:30:20:20

Luna

Where do you like him to come?

00:30:20:22 - 00:30:22:18

Ace

My face.

00:30:22:20 - 00:30:23:17

Ace

Okay.

00:30:23:18 - 00:30:30:17

Luna

It's always where you always get facials. Or is it partner dependent for you? I know it's very touchy for some people, but tell us what your feelings are.

00:30:30:19 - 00:30:33:00

Ace

I never had it before him.

00:30:33:02 - 00:30:33:10

Ace

Okay?

00:30:33:12 - 00:30:51:22

Ace

It was one day we didn't see each other for a whole week because we went on vacation with his friends. He came back and we had this amazing sex. And literally when he was fucking me, I was like, can you please come on my face? And then when it happened, I just got on my knees and he just came on my face and it was just like literally my whole entire face.

00:30:51:22 - 00:30:55:03

Ace

Because again, we didn't have sex for a while.

00:30:55:05 - 00:30:57:09

Ace

Well, for us, a while is a week. Yeah, yeah.

00:30:57:12 - 00:31:02:10

Ace

So we didn't have sex for that week and it was a lot of cum. So it was like all.

00:31:02:10 - 00:31:05:13

Ace

Over my face. Awesome.

00:31:05:15 - 00:31:20:07

Ace

Yeah. So then we kept doing it a couple of times. It was his one time that it got on my eyes and my eyes were red for and our contacts, oh, my eyes were red for like five hours. Like they didn't go down at all. It was really bad.

00:31:20:09 - 00:31:39:06

Luna

Yeah, I've definitely gotten stuff in my eyes before. And that's where we especially have to be careful for, with partners that are not our fluid bonded ones. But yeah, just a regular UTI I'm trying to think of mine has ever like been itchy for five years. I definitely have had. I don't think so. I think I've been lucky, but I definitely have found like cum in my eyelashes.

00:31:39:07 - 00:31:40:17

Ace

If it makes me feel better.

00:31:40:17 - 00:31:43:20

Ace

I've sometimes had found cum under my boobs.

00:31:43:22 - 00:31:48:18

Ace

Under boob. It is Nikki's spot. Yes.

00:31:48:20 - 00:31:52:04

Luna

Amazing. Okay, so you get some body shots sometimes too.

00:31:52:06 - 00:31:54:03

Ace

Yes, yes.

00:31:54:05 - 00:32:07:02

Luna

Oh that's amazing. What's the sensation of the rest of your body? Like, like, take us through some of your erogenous zones. Not necessarily the private parts, but the private parts. If we haven't talked about them yet. Like, how do you like to get touched in different places?

00:32:07:04 - 00:32:28:08

Ace

I feel I have a foot fetish. I have a foot fetish for myself. I have foot fetish for others. I love it when I get my feet kissed or massaged. It turns me on. It turns me on. I literally just want to get on top of whoever is doing it. Just fuck. And I love looking at my feet when summer comes.

00:32:28:08 - 00:32:33:21

Ace

I love wearing sandals. I love looking at my feet. Do you have a pedicure yet? Yes.

00:32:33:23 - 00:32:36:15

Ace

So I always.

00:32:36:15 - 00:32:46:21

Ace

Always, even in the winter because I love looking at my feet and sometimes people say, oh, the first thing I look at in a person is their smile. Me it's like the first thing that I look at is their feet.

00:32:46:23 - 00:32:54:03

Luna

Is this part of your partner selection? Like, if you found a partner that ugly feet, would you just make them help them, make them nice? What would you do?

00:32:54:05 - 00:32:57:10

Ace

I don't think I would even look at their feet if they were nice.

00:32:57:10 - 00:32:58:14

Ace

Okay, okay.

00:32:58:14 - 00:33:05:07

Ace

My boyfriend has a very weird big toe. I always call his toe Megamind.

00:33:05:09 - 00:33:07:15

Ace

Oh my God, this toe is like, very, like.

00:33:07:15 - 00:33:27:12

Ace

Skinny on the bottom. But then, like what? The nail bed is huge. Cause I'm like, you have a megamind toe. So yes, that's one thing, but his feet are so soft. And I sometimes like when he's laying down. I'll go and kiss his feet because I love his feet even though he has a megamind toe.

00:33:27:14 - 00:33:30:03

Ace

Yeah, I love his feet.

00:33:30:05 - 00:33:33:23

Luna

Oh my gosh. So when did you first discover this about yourself?

00:33:33:23 - 00:33:45:18

Ace

And how that partner that I told you that that was the first time I ever had good sex. I'm telling you, he touched every single part of my body. He touched my feet. He literally just kissed my feet. And I was like, wow.

00:33:45:20 - 00:33:53:10

Luna

That's incredible. Have you ever gone on a date with another, like, foot fetish person or like, is your partner in two feet?

00:33:53:12 - 00:33:55:01

Ace

No. Okay.

00:33:55:03 - 00:34:02:04

Ace

And he's not either. My partner is not he's not into a lot of things that I am into, but he compromises.

00:34:02:06 - 00:34:12:20

Luna

For the right people. We find that balance. I just always have these. Like when I hear you talk about, like, loving your feet, being touched and turning you on, I have heard stories through various friends who.

00:34:12:20 - 00:34:13:22

Ace

Have foot.

00:34:13:22 - 00:34:25:02

Luna

Worshipers who buy them pedicures and like, I'm like, what a match made in heaven that would be. Or even just to find worshipers to get your pedicures. Is that something that you'd ever consider or like? Do you take pictures of them and share them anywhere?

00:34:25:04 - 00:34:29:06

Ace

I never consider that, but I do take pictures of them. I do take a lot of.

00:34:29:06 - 00:34:30:04

Ace

Pictures for.

00:34:30:05 - 00:34:31:14

Luna

All that money left on that.

00:34:31:14 - 00:34:37:06

Ace

Table. If you feel like. I actually got.

00:34:37:06 - 00:34:48:16

Ace

In contact with a person who has a website where he sells pictures of feet, and I did not want to do it because he wanted me to show my face.

00:34:48:18 - 00:34:49:18

Luna

Oh.

00:34:49:20 - 00:34:52:12

Ace

You don't, and I didn't want to. So I said, no.

00:34:52:14 - 00:34:58:12

Luna

It is a lot of work. It can be like a full time thing, but also I feel like you could put some pictures and get some free pedicures. If you ever.

00:34:58:12 - 00:35:01:04

Ace

Want to do.

00:35:01:06 - 00:35:13:08

Luna

Is there anything else to say about feet? Like have you gone to a dinner, like a dinner date and like slid your feet up anyone's legs? Or is that like, does that do anything for you? Is it more about them being worshiped?

00:35:13:10 - 00:35:23:12

Ace

I do that all the time with my boyfriend. Every time we go on dates, he's always asking me, what are you doing? I mean, at first you always ask me what are you doing now? He's just like, used to it. Okay, so.

00:35:23:14 - 00:35:36:13

Luna

And then are you one of those people when you orgasm? Some people have like a foot and or toe slash genital slash nose connection. It's something to do with the vagus nerve. But like does that exist for you at all.

00:35:36:15 - 00:35:37:15

Ace

It does in.

00:35:37:19 - 00:35:38:03

Ace

Okay.

00:35:38:09 - 00:35:45:03

Luna

That's even cool. I mean, it's all cool, but it's like it's just so cool to know all of the layers. And are your feet ticklish at all.

00:35:45:05 - 00:35:46:19

Ace

Surprisingly, now.

00:35:46:19 - 00:35:47:03

Ace

I.

00:35:47:05 - 00:35:54:21

Ace

Am ticklish. My legs like, if he's kissing my legs or if he's going up my thighs, I start giggling.

00:35:55:01 - 00:35:55:17

Ace

00:35:55:19 - 00:35:56:19

Ace

I can't stop it.

00:35:56:21 - 00:35:58:06

Ace

Yeah.

00:35:58:08 - 00:36:09:23

Luna

What about the rest of you? Like do you like tummy touches. Do you like side touches. Neck ears head any of that stuff. Neck. Oh I said neck. Different kind of neck.

00:36:10:01 - 00:36:11:07

Ace

Neck. Yes.

00:36:11:09 - 00:36:30:12

Ace

But not all these. You know, that's one thing about me that not every part of my body is, you know, place to turn me on. Not every part of my body is a turn on button. So I really do like that because when we cuddle a he's touching me, you know, my back and stuff. I just feel relaxed.

00:36:30:12 - 00:36:33:08

Ace

I don't feel like, oh, I want to have sex. I just feel good.

00:36:33:12 - 00:36:34:06

Ace

Yeah.

00:36:34:08 - 00:36:39:20

Luna

Oh my gosh. Okay. What turn ons do you have that we haven't gotten to yet?

00:36:39:22 - 00:36:45:05

Ace

Turn ons. When my partner does something without me asking for it.

00:36:45:07 - 00:36:48:02

Luna

Ooh. Like what? Do you have a good example?

00:36:48:04 - 00:36:58:18

Ace

Like anything when it comes to sex, even when he just, like, puts it in my mouth without me. Like, sometimes you walk in the room and he'll have his dick out. He just puts it in my mouth and I'm like, oh.

00:36:58:18 - 00:37:01:22

Ace

My God, yes.

00:37:02:00 - 00:37:17:07

Luna

It sounds like you are a couple that really has a couple years of solid trust under your belt. Was it like that from the beginning, or did you grow that trust? And what were the sexual origins of your relationship like? It sounds like you. Maybe you're a little kinkier, but like, was that something you looked for when getting together with a partner?

00:37:17:09 - 00:37:38:12

Ace

Yes. I always wanted somebody to be comfortable with sex because again, I saw that growing up. I always saw that, okay, you can be comfortable with sex. You can like sex. My partner now, when we first met, we actually hooked up the first time that we met. So when we first had sex, she was just so into me.

00:37:38:13 - 00:37:54:03

Ace

It was another. This is what sex feels like experience, right? This is what sex should be like. And I was like, wow, like this guy, he's just everything. He's careful. He's so sweet. But then he's so nasty and make a freak. And I was just like, yes, like, keep.

00:37:54:03 - 00:37:56:06

Ace

Doing whatever you're doing.

00:37:56:08 - 00:38:11:03

Ace

And I really, really enjoyed it. However, I am going to say, I don't know if this has happened to other people when I first had sex with him, I personally did not think his dick was as big as I think it is now.

00:38:11:05 - 00:38:16:19

Ace

And that's just what I thought you were going to say. Oh, okay.

00:38:16:21 - 00:38:19:01

Luna

Yeah. How say more?

00:38:19:03 - 00:38:38:14

Ace

Because he did say that he wasn't as hard because he was nervous. Oh, he said because of the way that I came on to him, he was not expecting for me to be into him. So after we have sex a couple of times, I was like, wow, like, your dick is huge. But I never really expressed that to him.

00:38:38:16 - 00:39:03:12

Ace

So it was like, okay, I really like your dick, I really do. But the first time I didn't know if I like the experience, but I wasn't sure. But the dick itself. But now it's like, okay, the dick is amazing. Wow. And it's so perfect. It's like, it's literally how I love dicks, how it looks and everything. And I've never seen one like it in person.

00:39:03:14 - 00:39:10:02

Ace

But hey, is that like blush pink? I love pink dicks.

00:39:10:04 - 00:39:13:20

Ace

I have a thing for picnics, I love it.

00:39:13:22 - 00:39:18:09

Luna

Does it get darker when he's hard? Or it's that when it's blush.

00:39:18:11 - 00:39:19:15

Ace

That's when it's blushed?

00:39:19:15 - 00:39:21:00

Ace

Oh wow.

00:39:21:02 - 00:39:26:23

Ace

Yeah. And I love it. And he actually he got circumcised as an adult.

00:39:27:01 - 00:39:27:19

Ace

Oh wow.

00:39:27:22 - 00:39:35:16

Ace

It was before I met him. So I always wanted to know what it would feel like to suck on an uncircumcised dick.

00:39:35:16 - 00:39:36:22

Ace

Totally.

00:39:37:00 - 00:39:43:09

Ace

But now that he is circumcised, I am like, okay, this is like very Snackable like, this is really.

00:39:43:09 - 00:39:45:23

Ace

Good, very.

00:39:45:23 - 00:40:05:00

Luna

Snackable excellent. I also do want to just circle back and talk about dicks and anxiety for a second, because I don't know if I say often enough out loud just because of some recent friend reflections I've gotten. Well, soft, anxious dicks are very normal. All right, that's what I want to say. They're very normal. Very normal not to come.

00:40:05:00 - 00:40:23:05

Luna

Especially like every dude that in your 30s that I fucked has been like, oh, it's not working the same as it used to. And it's like, it's fine, it's normal, it's good. The more you worry about it, the scarier it will be. The longer it'll stay soft. And that's why I also feel like, yeah, it's such a gift to have older partners who are like, no, it's not like it's hard.

00:40:23:05 - 00:40:28:20

Luna

It's soft. Like, I know I've talked about, like loving watching stuff. Get do love watching his dick get hard.

00:40:28:22 - 00:40:29:09

Ace

Yes.

00:40:29:09 - 00:40:34:05

Luna

Does he grow? Is he there? Just like a he grows. Oh, yeah. You said that.

00:40:34:06 - 00:40:38:13

Ace

Oh cool. Cool. Yeah. So you love.

00:40:38:13 - 00:40:40:06

Ace

Watching when it comes to.

00:40:40:09 - 00:41:00:20

Luna

Love, especially in a drawn out sexual session, people are like, man, I'm with often say ahead of time that they have this anxiety that they're not going to stay hard the whole time. I'm like, I'd like to fuck for hours. I'm a big fan of like, get hard, get soft, get hard, get soft, get hard. You know, go with the like literally with the flow of it.

00:41:00:20 - 00:41:07:12

Luna

And like, if I can make it harden in my mouth or my hands or my boobs, like, that's just my favorite.

00:41:07:14 - 00:41:09:08

Ace

Definitely in my mouth.

00:41:09:10 - 00:41:13:20

Luna

Well, that's what I was going to ask you about next. So you like blowjobs?

00:41:13:22 - 00:41:41:11

Ace

I love blowjobs, I love giving blowjobs. I never gave a lot of blowjobs before my relationship. Now my first time giving a blowjob, I was giving it to my first partner and he was teaching me. It was literally a lesson. It was like if I was taking a sex class and he said, okay, do this. He told me, make it seem like you're sucking on something like that.

00:41:41:11 - 00:42:04:16

Ace

It's not a dick, like you're sucking on a lollipop. You want to put your teeth in an hourly pump. And I was like, no. He was like, okay, so do that. So I kind of like, started with the tongue. And he would tell me, go from the bottom to the top with a tongue and then kiss it. And then after you kiss it, you open up your lips a little bit more and more each time.

00:42:04:18 - 00:42:11:06

Ace

And then that's how you do it. Because he was very into blowjobs, he made sure that I knew how to suck a dick.

00:42:11:08 - 00:42:12:16

Ace

Yeah.

00:42:12:18 - 00:42:31:22

Luna

I love that. I asked, I had to ask for tutorials, and it was like I finally found a friend who could give me clear communication. Literally, the first six dudes were like, what? Just do it. And I was like, well, okay, you know, I wasn't confident. Has that lesson served you well? Have you adapted your technique like it sounds like other partners might like it?

00:42:32:00 - 00:42:37:22

Ace

My partner now, he's like, he's like, there's no way that you haven't sucked many takes before because you suck it.

00:42:37:22 - 00:42:40:13

Ace

Way too good.

00:42:40:15 - 00:42:43:17

Luna

You're like, I'm just a natural.

00:42:43:19 - 00:42:45:12

Ace

Literally. So yeah.

00:42:45:12 - 00:42:58:12

Ace

So I feel like I've better the way that I do it. I definitely before when I used to Deep Throat, I wouldn't put my tongue out. It helps me when I stick my tongue out while I'm Deep Throat.

00:42:58:17 - 00:43:01:04

Ace

I don't know if I do or not know I need to go test.

00:43:01:08 - 00:43:04:13

Luna

We stick it out, like onto your teeth, like.

00:43:04:15 - 00:43:06:00

Ace

Yes. Okay. Yes.

00:43:06:02 - 00:43:13:14

Ace

Okay, so my boyfriend told me to try to lick the bottom of his dick while I'm deep going in.

00:43:13:14 - 00:43:17:02

Ace

It, but great instruction.

00:43:17:04 - 00:43:26:01

Ace

He's very into porn. So he showed me a video where a girl was doing it. He said, this is how you do it. So I started doing that.

00:43:26:03 - 00:43:26:23

Ace

And it actually.

00:43:26:23 - 00:43:31:10

Ace

Helps me with the breathing when. When I'm sucking in. Yeah.

00:43:31:12 - 00:43:51:03

Luna

Oh my gosh. Oh my gosh. Now I just need a subject so I can do some experiments. Now here's another question you mentioned with that first experience where your whole body got touched, that you loved how when he went down on you, he used his hands, his whole hands. Do you do that as well when you're blowing a partner or do you like do you incorporate ball player?

00:43:51:04 - 00:43:55:18

Luna

Do you like to grab a thigh or do you ever reach around back for a little finger action?

00:43:55:20 - 00:44:24:13

Ace

I am a people's pleaser, so I love pleasing my partner. So when I am giving him head, I only focus on that and I do touch his body, I do. If he's laying down, I reach for his chest and I wrap his legs up and down when I'm doing it and stuff like that. Or for example, when I want him to fuck my mouth, I'll grab his thighs and I'll like motion it.

00:44:24:15 - 00:44:25:06

Ace

He already.

00:44:25:06 - 00:44:27:16

Ace

Knows. So yeah.

00:44:27:18 - 00:44:38:09

Luna

It sounds like you guys have such an amazing chemistry, but also like light, like unspoken body language for sex. Does it feel like fluid when you're together? I just hear so much desire.

00:44:38:11 - 00:44:56:12

Ace

It does feel like it's just part of who we are. And that's why I feel so comfortable in this relationship, because I never had that before. And with my whole experience of being or being sexually assaulted, it was very difficult to be comfortable again with my body.

00:44:56:17 - 00:44:57:13

Ace

Yeah.

00:44:57:15 - 00:45:01:02

Ace

And this person really, really makes me feel comfortable.

00:45:01:04 - 00:45:01:13

Ace

Wow.

00:45:01:15 - 00:45:05:10

Ace

And I could say even though he never tried anal before.

00:45:05:10 - 00:45:05:16

Ace

Me.

00:45:05:21 - 00:45:11:19

Ace

And even though he never really wanted to do it, he was like, you like it? Okay, let's do it.

00:45:11:21 - 00:45:14:10

Luna

Okay. So how has that been going?

00:45:14:12 - 00:45:37:00

Ace

So the food fetish, he said, you want me to touch your feet? I'll touch your feet. The first time he ever actually stepped on my toes, I was just going crazy and to this day, I always tell him that day was the best day we ever had. Sex. That was the best sex that we have ever had in our relationship, because it was the first time that he sucked on my toes.

00:45:37:02 - 00:45:38:21

Ace

So I was like, wow.

00:45:38:23 - 00:45:39:18

Ace

Okay, so.

00:45:39:23 - 00:45:53:04

Luna

You mentioned a little bit that he's on the larger side. And for your asshole, what are you doing to like, have you gone in that direction all the way? Have you are you like working up to it? Like what's the status there?

00:45:53:06 - 00:46:09:08

Ace

We're working up to it for sure. We haven't tried much recently, but at first we bought the you know what they're called, little string beans. Like the anal bead actually, for my birthday, this my birthday that just passed, he bought.

00:46:09:08 - 00:46:10:00

Ace

Me.

00:46:10:02 - 00:46:14:08

Ace

A bunch of anal toys. I think that was my birthday. Give.

00:46:14:10 - 00:46:16:07

Luna

So like but plugs and beads.

00:46:16:07 - 00:46:21:07

Ace

Or what else? He bought me a butt plug that has a little demon. So what I am.

00:46:21:11 - 00:46:21:20

Ace

Is the.

00:46:21:20 - 00:46:23:01

Ace

Little diamond poking out.

00:46:23:01 - 00:46:25:03

Ace

Pretty he me assure.

00:46:25:03 - 00:46:27:01

Ace

This is on my pussy.

00:46:27:03 - 00:46:29:22

Ace

Which I don't like out.

00:46:30:00 - 00:46:36:16

Ace

And for me I haven't used it yet, but it's like something that you also put in your butt. But I don't know what it does.

00:46:36:20 - 00:46:37:23

Ace

Okay.

00:46:38:01 - 00:46:45:05

Ace

So but we haven't tried that yet. But we have tried a couple of things. But the thing is that his dick, his head is very big.

00:46:45:10 - 00:46:45:21

Ace

Okay.

00:46:45:21 - 00:46:50:09

Ace

So when he tries to put it in, it just doesn't. I just I can't take it.

00:46:50:11 - 00:46:52:20

Ace

Wow. Okay. Yeah.

00:46:52:22 - 00:46:56:06

Luna

I definitely did work my way up with plugs.

00:46:56:08 - 00:46:56:20

Ace

Okay.

00:46:57:02 - 00:47:02:18

Luna

What other stuff have you tried? Like, have you guys do use toys together? Are you exploring any kinky stuff?

00:47:02:20 - 00:47:12:13

Ace

We use toys together for sure. He's the first partner that I've ever used toys with. We used vibrators. We bought the bullet and we bought a ring for him.

00:47:12:15 - 00:47:14:11

Luna

Oh, vibrating a regular.

00:47:14:16 - 00:47:18:20

Ace

Vibrating. It didn't work. It couldn't. It couldn't fit.