004 | Etiquette at Legal Brothels in Nevada: How to Brothel
- Luna Robbie
- Jul 2
- 58 min read
Luna shares practical, heartfelt etiquette tips for guests visiting legal brothels in Nevada. From politeness and professionalism to consent, clarity, and generosity, she explores how mindful behavior enhances connection, safety, and mutual enjoyment. This guide offers a loving, detailed roadmap to co-creating respectful, sexy experiences.
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Luna
Welcome to How to Brothel a go woohoo yourself mini series.
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Luna
Episode four etiquette at legal.
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Brothels in Nevada.
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How do you treat a lady? What is accepted.
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Behavior around legal courtesans, staff and other guests? Once you arrive at a ranch? In a time where social norms are either never established like many online spaces, although the ones that are excellently moderated, I give them props.
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Or.
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Where underlying assumptions shift wildly from community to community, I feel it would be helpful to have a handbook. So here's the beginning of one for the legal brothel system in Nevada. This is a list of ten ways to be a proper, gentle person at a legal brothel. With some, please do not. At the end. It is by no means comprehensive, and my hope is that my lady friends will help me add to it as we go.
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The main takeaway.
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Treat.
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Other human beings no matter.
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Where you are, with.
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Curiosity, compassion and kindness. So we're going to dive into some specifics on how you can make a great connection at a legal brothel. Whether you are stopping by for lunch.
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A tour to play with a lady.
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Or to make our collective orgy dream party in Playland.
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Come true.
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Here are some in-person because we'll do the email one next. Brothel etiquette.
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Tips one.
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Be polite to everyone you encounter.
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This includes.
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Keep your hands to yourself.
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Let a lady initiate touch.
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If you have mobility needs that require assistance, simply communicate that with the courtesan of your choice ahead of time. You know there may be an instance where you need help. That's okay, but grabbing without warning, especially grabbing out of entitlement, is not the vibe. Politeness also includes keeping personal details to yourself.
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In any.
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Intimate context, always ensure that you have explicit consent from a partner before sharing your private encounters with anyone else, especially if you are sharing publicly.
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On how to woo. I do advise.
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Guests to keep any and all identifying details out of their stories, to keep it respectful for all parties involved. So if someone says a name and they have not prefaced it by saying I have permission to share this person's name, or this is an alias that I made up, or let's just call them bearded lover or whatever, you know, I kind of help people remember that that is the default norm.
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Luna
Like, let us make that the default norm, because while I understand it's really.
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Really.
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Really exciting to share details, not everyone is as open as say, I am. And even then, if someone wants to share loudly and publicly about me, I would prefer if they have a conversation with me about that first. I think it's.
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Polite.
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Another thing that's polite is using professional language for introductions. You can save dirty talk for play time. Okay, so.
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We.
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Might hint at raunchy stuff in the bar, but we're supposed to keep it PG 13 in there. Like we are.
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Quite explicitly.
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In not supposed to speak explicitly until we are in the bedroom doing the negotiation so long before we get to playtime. Yes, it is an adult space. Yes, most people who work there are comfortable with adult topics.
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And it is still polite to use.
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Euphemisms and to save all of the naughty talk for the party time. So again, direct explicit speech about activity is what happens during the negotiation in the ladies room. Even then, there's a specific sort of tone as we are getting to know each other that is preferred. So even in negotiation setting, there's a big, huge difference between.
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Well, I want to fuck your cunt.
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A lot. And, you know, I'm interested in basic sex today.
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You know, there's just a difference. And it's sort of.
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Like, until I personally have checked in with partner to see sort of what words.
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They like, what words they don't.
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Some people are not that specific. They're just kind of open. But it's not until I have checked in about dirty talk that we engage with it. Right? Because because then we run into some consent violations. And this is not a perfect guideline because everyone has a different background and a different kind of sensibility of what is considered raunchy.
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So I would say on the side of polite speech. So again, depending on the specific, because certain fetishes, certain kink, certain activities will require expert speech in the name of clarity. Keep it to a minimum. Right. And kind of let the guideline be like if it's turning you on in an extreme way, that should be in the session beforehand.
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Luna
It's okay if you're getting aroused, but if you're like leaning into it, that is gratuitous. So save that for after the party has officially started, and then you can do all sorts of dirty talk. Once you are in the room and have officially begun. Another polite thing is to put your phone away. This is also a rule at sheri's to maintain an environment of utmost discretion.
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Phones are not allowed to be out in the brothel unless you are in a private space with a lady and have her express permission. I recently.
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Had a.
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Couple who came to visit me and they were so uncomfortable because as they were waiting to be let in a bad timing, we don't have control over this one. Tourist had driven up and you know, people love to like, drive up, take a hundred pictures. One time a guy drove up.
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In his.
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Rented Mustang, like, did a bunch of, like, posing in front of it, and they were like, oh, my God, is this going to show up somewhere? And I was like, no, probably not. I'm so sorry. And also, it's just polite to keep everyone's privacy feeling safe. I also heard a rumor from one of the ladies that they are changing this rule, and I think that is a terrible idea.
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So, you know.
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If you need to use your phone, step outside, go to the bathroom. If you're gonna be on the phone a long time, please. There's only one bathroom per gender. So, be considerate there. Step outside, do your research ahead of time, and.
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Gift yourself the.
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Experience of putting.
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Your phone away.
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Like especially connecting with people. I recommend always putting the phone away. I like to have a phone with me if I'm on a hike or, you know, out on a walk or up at the hot tub, like just in case of an emergency. But there is little research that says that when we are at dinner together, if a phone or if multiple phones are on the table, especially face up, people are less engaged with each other, less present, and it's a worse experience.
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So if you are going to make the effort to go to a ranch, give yourself the best chance of being fully present. I also one time had a client who was in the shower. We were about to get started and his phone kept going off, and the third time I was like, put it away or we will be done.
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Like, this is not because it's not.
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It's not how I.
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Want to spend the time. It's not what we negotiated.
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You taking a phone calls in my room, especially when we haven't begun. Our party is rude.
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So maybe just consider rescheduling your trip for a time where you can leave your phone on do not disturb. Don't even let it vibrate. You know, let your visit be an opportunity for you to be fully present, fully in your experience, and fully in pleasure with another human being. And keep in mind that a little politeness goes a long way in any scenario where you might encounter a lady.
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Luna
So whether that's at a line up, it's really nice to act appreciative, to smile at the lady. You know, you have to sit there with a grin plastered on your face. But to just like, acknowledge each person as a human.
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And it's so cute.
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When after they've made their selection, or even sometimes right before when they think.
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The lady's like.
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We've had people who were like.
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Wow, this.
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Is such a difficult choice and thank you all so much for being here. And then they make their selection, you know, or they make their selection. The lady comes up and greets them and they say, thank you ladies. Like it's just polite. It lets us.
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Know that you know that we are people and it brings the vibe.
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Up. It's definitely good karma. You don't have to, you know, but.
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It is probably.
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More difficult for the guest when they're like.
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You know.
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And I get it. Every nervous system is where they are. For anyone who's listening and not watching.
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The video, I was making crinkly faces.
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With body posture where I'm sort of folded in on myself, looking concerned and not really making eye contact, you know? And it's okay. We're all where we are and.
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You know, can you get.
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Outside of yourself? Can you think about your self less and think about others more? Can you be curious about the process? Can you be curious about the people in front of you? You know, I am one of those people that I've never had a problem with people telling me to smile. You know it. It's a in case you don't know, there's another thing about politeness, especially with women anywhere in the world telling a woman to smile is generally considered not very cool because women are often socialized to be kind, nice, polite, and like that's not the job.
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Luna
I mean, maybe, maybe at the ranch it is literally the job. But regardless of that, out in the world, no one's ever been like, hey, smile, because I walk around being like, and I got to tell you, it's pretty magical because nice stuff happens to me wherever I go. So politeness, appreciation, just letting that show on your face, letting yourself kind of get out of your own scared experience, is always a net positive at the bar.
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Luna
Politeness looks like being friendly, respectful, being clear about your intentions and you know if you really are there to party. If you're on a focused mission, if you know who you want to request, request that lady. And then if someone else walks up to you, you know, once you make a request, ladies should not approach you. Sometimes it doesn't get communicated to us right away.
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So if someone approaches you and you're waiting for someone else, or you want to talk to someone else.
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You can politely say, oh, hey, I'm.
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Actually interested in someone else. Thank you for coming to say hi. Or you can say, hey, I really appreciate you coming up to introduce yourself. You know, I'm looking for something a little different. I hope you have a great day.
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Like, there's there's only.
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Ever mutual net positive for humans being polite to each other. There's also like research about.
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How we.
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Humans engaging in non intimate social connection. You know, so out at the grocery store, out in the world like there are correlations between that sort of just like positive community vibe wherever you go. And quality of life. And I think it was related to life expectancy. So be friendly. Share your intentions. Be open. Be honest. It's okay if you're there just to chat.
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Luna
It's polite to say, hey, I'm just here to chat if that's okay with you, because not every lady wants that. You know?
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And for me.
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Luna
It depends on my mood. If I'm very, very, very hungry and they do a bar call and I'm in the middle of eating, I'll always go to the bar call. But it is kind of a bummer to wait, you know, because we kind of go loosely. There's no defined thing, but we kind of go in order of who showed up first.
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So if I'm the fourth or fifth person to the bar call and I'm in the middle of food and I have to wait, you know, ten minutes per lady, my food gets cold, I'm very hungry. And then if I walk up and they're like.
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Luna
Well, I'm just saying hello, I'm like, damn it, you know? And that's okay.
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And I usually go back into the kitchen and keep eating my.
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Food and keep.
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An eye on it. And I trust it works for me, will always find me. And I also trust that if someone wants to request.
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Me, they can do that.
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But, you know, it's I think it's just nice to always spread ripples of love in large and small ways. Right? Like, it doesn't have to be like love, like with heart emoji eyes. It can just be like loving kindness. Basic loving kindness. Meditation worked into everyday life, you know? And politeness for an appointment looks like following your courtesans lead when it comes to handshakes, hugs and hellos, you know?
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So I've had.
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People I one time.
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Had someone who.
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Was a lover I had seen before.
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But it had been a while. Facial recognition, especially without context, is not my strong suit. And I was like thinking about something I was working on writing wise, like I was at a table, and then I was getting up and I was with Gigi, and I was totally caught off guard when this person came and was like, about.
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To hug me. I was like, wow. And he was like, how are you? And I was like, who are you? And then I felt bad because if he'd simply said, hey, Luna, it's so-and-so. I saw.
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You about a year and a half.
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Ago. Like, how are you? It's so good to see you. Can I have a hug? I totally would have hugged him and.
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Give another human a chance to switch gears, right? Even in the most intimate relationships with a long term partner, you know.
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Luna
It's it's like we don't assume sex is always.
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On the table. We got to get permission, an invitation, an initiation mutual every time. So, with an appointment.
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Let the lady lead. I.
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Luna
Depending on my mood, might want a handshake, might want a hug. I feel into the vibe of the other person, and, you know, bonus points if we bring flowers or a gift from her wish list. That usually makes me want to start out with a hug, because it's very exciting. And it's not about the stuff. It is about receiving, and it is about showing up with good intentions and connection.
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Luna
And being polite means being polite to everyone you encounter at the ranch, not just the ladies to other guests. Keep it classy, keep it friendly. Look for their social cues, right? Sometimes people show up and they, you know, they come out of a party at the same time and they hit it off in the bar, and they're having a great time.
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Luna
A lot of people really want their privacy. Some people are in like a, you know, kind of they've had this incredible experience and they're processing. Everyone is different. So look for those social cues. And I'm not a person who gets social cues right 100% of the time. I can often tell some sort of human emotion is happening, but without further clarity, I may guess wrong.
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That's very normal. However, I am very aware of when I guess wrong a lot of people are not aware of their wrong guesses or their inaccurate guesses because we are. We humans are. Projection machines are creatures of projection. So if you're not sure, check in. If you're like really feeling buddy vibes and you think you are with someone else, it's like, are you?
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Are you cool with talking? Do you want to play pool?
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Can I buy you a drink? You know, and depending on their response, you can figure out if they want to continue connecting or not. Right. And if there are guests present who are not making eye contact, who are sitting, you know, in a booth in the corner, usually that means.
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They don't want to be approached.
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Or even looked at. So just do your best.
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And, you know.
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That's all we can.
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Do.
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With hostesses, with our customer service representative. So anyone working the desk or who is just kind of supports staff for connecting you with ladies, remember, they are matchmakers and coordinators. They are not available. It's extremely rude to ask anyone who is not a legal courtesan. We have to get specific work cards. We have to get specific testing. It's not a compliment.
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Luna
It's not a fun way to hit on them. It's quite rude. If you were like, can I have you?
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What about you? Are you available?
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Luna
I understand that some people have said this thinking they're being funny and cute, and it's just not really polite or respectful to anyone on premises bartenders. Here's how to be polite to a bartender.
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Luna
Tip them and tip them well. Like. Tip them well. Treat them well. Be polite.
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Be kind.
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Don't just wiggle.
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A beer bottle at them from across the bar when you want another one.
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That's so.
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Rude. I mean, back when I was a bartender, if I had a regular and we had a certain vibe and it was a slow Saturday, like, that's a different. Until you have an established connection with someone.
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Luna
It is very polite to be basically polite, you know, which looks like, hey, excuse me.
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Luna
Or and if they're not paying attention, which sometimes happens, you know, you can go over and get their attention. Just be polite about it. Just be kind when you're initiating that connection. And I will.
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Say.
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Seeing someone.
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Be rude.
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Luna
Or not, tip a bartender is a pretty big red flag for.
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Luna
Me.
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Luna
Sort of like if I'm on a date and the person is rude to.
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Luna
The.
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Luna
Service staff, and I will look to see how much they tip, because I have always worked in service industries. And, you know, again, at the ranch, tips of all sizes are always appreciated in the service industry. Tips of all sizes are always appreciated, even if it's not a funny erotic joke. It's so polite. In this society where gratuity is built into people's wages, like many people depend on that.
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Luna
So tipping is sweet.
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Luna
Definitely tip the bartender. You probably won't need to tip security like they're doing their thing.
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Luna
However.
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Luna
If you bring a gigantic bag of toys in, they will check it. You know, bringing stuff in. They check all of our luggage and stuff when we get there. That's just to make sure that illicit materials stay out of the house. And so, you know, they are completely non-judgmental and open minded. They just need to check your stuff.
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Luna
So be cool and gentle and kind about it. And finally, with the customer service representatives or whatever shift manager is working behind the desk, whether you're looking for the hotel or going to book a party with a lady, you know, it's nice to, to chat with them a little bit. Don't take up their time because they're managing phones.
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Luna
Oftentimes there are multiple bookings stacking up. So if you're just feeling chatty, like save that for your party with the lady you know, be friendly at the office. But if you're like, wanting to tell a story, save that for another time and maybe wait until you're not with a lady. You know it's okay, but just feel out the vibe again.
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Luna
Don't ask them if they are available. That's very rude. It's not a compliment. And then just make sure that anything you share in the office is.
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Luna
G.
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Luna
Or maybe PG rated, like the staff at the ranch does not work there to fantasize about us ladies and you. They're together. Okay, so even when the hostess is checking in with you at the end of the party to see how it went, remember, it is her job to do that. It is not an invitation to share every lurid detail, I would say.
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Luna
Save that for your journal entries.
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Luna
If you've partied with me, I would love to receive that journal entry. If you've partnered with me, you know, as long as respectful and polite. I like explicit reviews.
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Luna
It just, And if you're not sure, you can send it to me ahead of time. But I just want to invite people to be really conscious of the experience of everyone working there.
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Luna
Save those glowing specifics for a review on a Ladies Ranch profile or a Google review, or ideally, both.
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Luna
Because that helps other nice people find us. And it really does help spread ripples of love. There are so many people out there who are ranch curious, but tell me that they don't have enough information. So that is the impetus behind me sharing all of this information. And the more that we together create social proof that this is actually a very wonderful, helpful, safe, loving, lovely, connected thing, you know, at least has the potential to be all of that.
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Luna
When people show up with open hearts and open minds, it's awesome.
00:18:21:04 - 00:18:26:00
Luna
So all of that is be polite etiquette. Tip number two be friendly.
00:18:26:00 - 00:18:26:06
Luna
If you.
00:18:26:06 - 00:18:26:19
Luna
Wish to get.
00:18:26:19 - 00:18:34:04
Luna
Friendly. So this dovetails with politeness, but hopefully you didn't come to the ranch to meet a lady and get married. I sometimes when people are like, do you like me?
00:18:34:04 - 00:18:36:04
Luna
I'm like, oh, oh no, you have to be in.
00:18:36:04 - 00:18:46:23
Luna
Vegas to get married. I can't go there with you, you know? And that kind of softens them. However, we do offer wife for a week packages. I am definitely interested in that. I have not done that yet. I would love to cross that off my bucket list.
00:18:46:23 - 00:18:51:18
Luna
I think it would be fucking fun to, like.
00:18:51:20 - 00:18:58:17
Luna
Cross everything off your bucket list. Go through every single thing, see what it's like morning, noon and night. Like every day. Watch our arousal cycle.
00:18:58:17 - 00:19:03:10
Luna
See what exists anyway. And again, I always encourage everyone, especially if people are just like.
00:19:03:10 - 00:19:08:09
Luna
A group of friends coming in for a tour and like bring your bridegroom and or bachelorette parties here, like.
00:19:08:14 - 00:19:12:23
Luna
Let's have a real party, you know? And I think the.
00:19:12:23 - 00:19:20:09
Luna
Best sex happens when a bit of mutual trust, which we build through friendly connection, is the seed, right? So it's like.
00:19:20:09 - 00:19:23:00
Luna
We create.
00:19:23:02 - 00:19:32:05
Luna
A friendly vibe. It is a real connection. I am what is it they say in The Ethical Slut? It's something like I'm misquoting this terribly, but it's like.
00:19:32:07 - 00:19:33:05
Luna
We only believe.
00:19:33:05 - 00:19:36:11
Luna
In having sex with our friends and we believe in being friendly to everyone.
00:19:36:11 - 00:19:39:18
Luna
So, you know, I'm a little bit on that wavelength.
00:19:39:20 - 00:19:59:02
Luna
And I like to remind people that mutual pleasure comes from mutual curiosity and discovery. So in every interaction with anyone, really, but especially at the ranch, ask yourself, what do we have in common? And if you don't know, it's an opportunity to get curious. What can we learn from each other? You can do that just by noticing, you know.
00:19:59:04 - 00:20:15:04
Luna
What am I learning when I notice how my body feels right now? What am I learning as I stare at a beautiful woman and notice I'm tingly? What do I learn as I realize I'm a little intimidated? What do I learn? As I realized I actually love this way more than I thought. You know, there's always an opportunity to learn what makes that other person tick.
00:20:15:06 - 00:20:31:20
Luna
This is something that has taken me many years, and I am not perfect at it. And it's one of the reasons that I love being in spaces where I get to encounter people from all over the world, whether I'm interviewing them on Pi or chatting with them at the bar, or getting to know them on a deeper level, or in a photoshoot, like what gets them excited?
00:20:31:22 - 00:20:51:15
Luna
Where is our overlap, and are we having fun? And if yes, could we have more fun? Not that we need to maximize like fun, fun, fun and fun. Here for me is a broad definition, right? Gentle intimacy. Maybe there's sadness, maybe that's fun. But the fun for me comes from connection and shared joy. So it's like, where is that overlap?
00:20:51:15 - 00:21:00:13
Luna
How can we create the juiciest experience? Etiquette. Tip number three. Generosity is a two way street and comes in many forms.
00:21:00:15 - 00:21:02:04
Luna
So what are the most easy.
00:21:02:04 - 00:21:27:14
Luna
Fun ways for you to be a giver in any of your interactions? Kindness. Like I said, friendliness like we just talked about appreciation and genuine curiosity. Those are all free. So generosity can include money, money is a form of energy, but if you come in with miserly energy, it does not matter how big your bank account is, you will not have a deep experience.
00:21:27:14 - 00:21:54:18
Luna
You will not have an ultimately satisfying experience if you are not willing to open up, if you're not willing to be generous hearted. Okay, so generosity extends to being a good conversationalist. Are you asking and answering questions thoughtfully? Are you even open to connecting? Are you listening to learn? It's okay if you're not. And I would invite you to have awareness of that because, you know, there's nothing wrong with stranger play.
00:21:54:20 - 00:22:01:23
Luna
Some people really, really get off on like the sex work kink of like, oh, I'm so disgusting, I'm going to a brothel, or I'm just going to.
00:22:02:00 - 00:22:02:23
Luna
I'm just going to do it with.
00:22:02:23 - 00:22:07:02
Luna
Someone and I'm going to be kind of disconnected there. You know, I'm like.
00:22:07:04 - 00:22:07:13
Luna
For me.
00:22:07:13 - 00:22:16:08
Luna
That's not the vibe. It's I tend to not attract those clients. It's kind of the same reason that casual sex is really not for me. I know some people are like, what?
00:22:16:10 - 00:22:17:04
Luna
How can you work.
00:22:17:04 - 00:22:23:05
Luna
As a legal courtesan and not be into casual sex? And I'm like, well, I get to know.
00:22:23:05 - 00:22:25:00
Luna
Everyone for at least.
00:22:25:02 - 00:22:40:08
Luna
20 to 30 minutes, which is enough to figure out how we're going to overlap more. If they've written to me, more if I lose track of time, or if no one's timing me in the bar. But it's like I still always need to feel connected to another human being, to feel.
00:22:40:10 - 00:22:40:22
Luna
Clear.
00:22:40:22 - 00:22:45:18
Luna
That we are on the same page about what the connection is, and to feel clear that we have.
00:22:45:20 - 00:22:46:12
Luna
You know.
00:22:46:14 - 00:22:57:03
Luna
A great set of marching orders or fucking orders that have mutual pleasure at the center of the target, where we're going to make our bullseyes. And of course, when it comes to generosity.
00:22:57:03 - 00:22:59:16
Luna
Ladies love concrete appreciation.
00:22:59:22 - 00:23:03:21
Luna
And let's ladies in the ranch out of the ranch. Like, I think people in general.
00:23:03:21 - 00:23:05:16
Luna
Love to be, you know, concretely.
00:23:05:16 - 00:23:07:10
Luna
Appreciated for their time, for their energy.
00:23:07:10 - 00:23:12:05
Luna
For their labor. We love tips of all sizes. We love when.
00:23:12:05 - 00:23:15:13
Luna
You grant wishes from our wish lists and make our fantasies come true.
00:23:15:15 - 00:23:17:07
Luna
Remember to check for links to wish.
00:23:17:07 - 00:23:21:15
Luna
Lists and tipping platforms since we are not always allowed to post them explicitly.
00:23:21:15 - 00:23:23:01
Luna
But usually if you.
00:23:23:03 - 00:23:43:14
Luna
Find someone on social media so from our ranch profile, we're not allowed to link directly to our social media. But if you find the ranch X, formerly known as Twitter, it's at Sheri's brothel. You can find the ladies who work there. Most of us have an X profile, so check for links to wish lists and tipping platforms since we are officially not allowed to like.
00:23:43:14 - 00:23:45:03
Luna
Post those call to.
00:23:45:03 - 00:24:02:11
Luna
Actions. And you know, my favorite clients read my profile and they know that I don't drink alcohol and that I really love dark chocolate. Like dark chocolate because sugar my system can't really handle. I love flowers, I love outfits that they pick out for me. I'm not really a big fan of fast fashion like I'm trying to cut down on Amazon stuff.
00:24:02:11 - 00:24:06:05
Luna
So like, you know, working that out. And I also love healthy snacks.
00:24:06:05 - 00:24:08:14
Luna
Like I get so happy.
00:24:08:16 - 00:24:23:18
Luna
Being deeply nourished on a number of levels, whether someone is supporting my physical body or my creative work or whatever other form of nourishment might be helpful. I love someone brought me like Doctor Teals bubble bath. I'm like.
00:24:23:18 - 00:24:37:04
Luna
Oh, Epsom salts, you know, it doesn't have to be a huge, huge thing. It's just sweet. If gift giving is your love language, if physical touch is the love language, by all means, you know.
00:24:37:04 - 00:24:39:21
Luna
Use that energy for the party of your dreams.
00:24:39:21 - 00:24:41:02
Luna
But,
00:24:41:04 - 00:24:50:18
Luna
Concrete appreciation tips of all sizes always appreciated. And what I'd like to point out to people sometimes, especially if they come in with miserly energy, I'm like, if you're looking for a bargain, any.
00:24:50:19 - 00:24:52:06
Luna
Human being.
00:24:52:06 - 00:25:10:10
Luna
In the most personal way, like you're coming to ask us to nourish you in a deep way, that's a really fucking cool and very powerful. And if it has taker energy behind it, it's, it's going to backfire. So trying to take value without offering something commensurate in return, ask yourself.
00:25:10:10 - 00:25:11:00
Luna
Why.
00:25:11:00 - 00:25:22:17
Luna
Am I doing that? And it doesn't have to be a therapy session. Although if you want to go talk to your therapist about it, I invite you to do that. I think the more that we heal, the better sex will have, the better our world will be. You know? It's all. It's all hand in hand.
00:25:22:19 - 00:25:24:20
Luna
Tiny hand and tiny little fingers and fingers.
00:25:25:01 - 00:25:28:02
Luna
I mean a tiny little chain link with my thumbs and fingers. Okay, so.
00:25:28:04 - 00:25:28:08
Luna
You.
00:25:28:08 - 00:25:50:15
Luna
Know, I invite you to deconstruct your narratives around scarcity and deserving before you visit. We can do it during the negotiation to some degree, but I notice that when someone comes in and they're like, oh, you know, I really haven't I really haven't ever treated myself like, one time I asked someone who came in with less than house minimum.
00:25:50:15 - 00:26:07:04
Luna
So there is a certain lower minimum threshold that I'm not allowed to say out loud, but there is a minimum amount for a party, and everything below that amount can be a tip, but it's not exchange for services, if that makes sense. You know, and so I had someone who came in with that and I was like, well, I can't help you unless you can get to this certain point.
00:26:07:06 - 00:26:08:00
Luna
And I was like, what's.
00:26:08:00 - 00:26:09:17
Luna
What's the most you've ever.
00:26:09:19 - 00:26:33:03
Luna
Treated yourself? And it was a steak dinner, you know, a chain restaurant. It wasn't Applebee's, but it was something of that tier. And I was like, okay. I was like, it's okay if we're not doing anything today. But your mission going forward is to get really curious about what is available to you yourself, because I really think mindset is part of it.
00:26:33:03 - 00:26:38:08
Luna
Well, I've read enough books on neuroscience to know it's that my belief.
00:26:38:10 - 00:27:00:16
Luna
Makes a difference. And also like, yes, our beliefs make a difference and what we think we deserve, we will end up getting, you know, which is not to say be entitled. It is to say when we're coming from a generous hearted, grounded place of valuing what we are asking for. It is the best for all parties involved and it creates the best parties, a raffle.
00:27:00:18 - 00:27:08:05
Luna
So you know, we all deserve pleasure. We all deserve luxury. We all deserve enjoyment in life. Those words can mean different things to different people.
00:27:08:07 - 00:27:16:04
Luna
And if you disagree, then I would recommend that you avoid pleasure centered luxury spaces and experiences.
00:27:16:04 - 00:27:19:10
Luna
People aren't going to go to a fancy spa at a fancy five star hotel and be.
00:27:19:10 - 00:27:20:16
Luna
Like, what? A massage.
00:27:20:16 - 00:27:21:15
Luna
Is inordinately.
00:27:21:15 - 00:27:24:11
Luna
Expensive. Oh my gosh, a room is this much.
00:27:24:11 - 00:27:25:00
Luna
They're going to be like.
00:27:25:00 - 00:27:30:16
Luna
Oh yeah, this is a luxury space. So if you don't want to have.
00:27:30:16 - 00:27:32:19
Luna
A luxury experience.
00:27:32:21 - 00:27:37:07
Luna
Stay away from luxury spaces. It's pretty logical.
00:27:37:09 - 00:27:55:00
Luna
I always like to check in with myself and say, is this desire in balance is what I'm willing to put in effort was, you know, equivalent approximately to what I'm hoping to get out of it. Because energetically everything is a flow, right? And so when we're in flow.
00:27:55:02 - 00:27:56:00
Luna
I really.
00:27:56:00 - 00:27:56:12
Luna
Personally.
00:27:56:12 - 00:27:57:22
Luna
Truly believe that.
00:27:57:22 - 00:28:02:00
Luna
Sex is the most powerful real life magic in this universe.
00:28:02:00 - 00:28:03:19
Luna
I have a lot.
00:28:03:19 - 00:28:07:09
Luna
Of transcendent sex when I have a partner.
00:28:07:11 - 00:28:12:14
Luna
Come. Well, when I have a partner come, that is magic. And I do. Yes, yes, no matter what.
00:28:12:16 - 00:28:38:09
Luna
And when I have a partner who is willing to meet me in the fullness of their self with some measure of vulnerability, per their own comfort level, at that point in their development. But when someone wants to actually connect and is willing and we do for me, that is connecting with divine creation. That is feeling like I understand more about myself and other people and existence on this planet.
00:28:38:11 - 00:28:40:07
Luna
So that's why I do this work. And I.
00:28:40:07 - 00:28:45:03
Luna
Love, love, love seeing when other.
00:28:45:03 - 00:29:08:14
Luna
People experience that often for the first time, you know? And for me, in my own personal life, it took a partner who could really hold space for me to discover my own erotic creature, like I just didn't know. And most of the sexual experiences I had in my early 20s were me just kind of fumbling and trying to look sexy or be sexy and really enjoying how my body felt like I've always been a very sensitive creature.
00:29:08:14 - 00:29:11:16
Luna
Please don't put, real velvet made out of silk. Yes, but.
00:29:11:16 - 00:29:12:16
Luna
Velour.
00:29:12:18 - 00:29:20:02
Luna
Corduroy. I don't like those textures on a highly sensitive creature, and I always liked, you know, the physical aspect of sex.
00:29:20:02 - 00:29:22:11
Luna
And I was really enjoying. I was really.
00:29:22:11 - 00:29:36:00
Luna
Enjoying a lot of bad sex in my early 20s, mediocre or whatever. And when I say bad, I don't. I don't mean that judgmentally, I just mean it was disconnected. And looking back, I now know that.
00:29:36:02 - 00:29:36:23
Luna
We.
00:29:36:23 - 00:29:51:05
Luna
Were maybe both performing for each other, or there was like a fear of, oh, what is this? And that's what I hear from a lot of people who I interview who go down, I'm going to use the word unhealthy. And when I say unhealthy, I mean it feels bad in the body, in the mind and the emotions in the heart.
00:29:51:07 - 00:30:11:16
Luna
You know, unhealthy casual sex, it's a disconnected from me feels way more dehumanizing than anything I've ever experienced at the ranch. And I know that even if I meet someone who's a little bit shy and we don't get all the way to transcendence, I know I leave them better than I found them, and I often get surprising messages from those people, you know, because.
00:30:11:16 - 00:30:16:02
Luna
Sometimes it's kind of it was really, really doing.
00:30:16:02 - 00:30:33:12
Luna
Headshot photography is also intimacy work, in my opinion. And I remember the feeling sometimes of being like, I didn't quite get where I know we could go with them, you know, and I would take big responsibility for that. And I have learned to just allow people to be where they are in the process. And I.
00:30:33:12 - 00:30:34:04
Luna
Also have.
00:30:34:04 - 00:30:45:13
Luna
Learned that I am not correct in my assessments. Sometimes I'm like, oh my gosh, did that. I mean, I felt really good, but I can't tell how it landed on that person. And I.
00:30:45:13 - 00:30:47:03
Luna
Get glowing.
00:30:47:03 - 00:31:07:09
Luna
Emails or like return, you know, return guests and lovers who come back to see me and they let me know how much it changed their life. And I, you know, I can't always tell because sometimes another person has to process the experience before even they know. And so all that is to say, if you want to receive something of value, please offer something of value.
00:31:07:11 - 00:31:09:23
Luna
And you know, I personally only enjoy with.
00:31:09:23 - 00:31:12:00
Luna
People who value me.
00:31:12:05 - 00:31:14:01
Luna
In all contexts.
00:31:14:03 - 00:31:15:12
Luna
It really is funny when I get.
00:31:15:12 - 00:31:17:17
Luna
A certain type of bargain hunter, it's so.
00:31:17:17 - 00:31:19:11
Luna
Easy for me to be like.
00:31:19:13 - 00:31:29:02
Luna
Well, what turns me on about this is the clarity and the clarity that other people have around really wanting.
00:31:29:02 - 00:31:29:21
Luna
Me.
00:31:29:23 - 00:31:34:17
Luna
And really wanting to show up in a specific way together like that.
00:31:34:17 - 00:31:35:22
Luna
Is so hard.
00:31:35:22 - 00:31:42:16
Luna
And fun to me. And anything else I'm just not that interested in. And that's.
00:31:42:16 - 00:31:43:20
Luna
Okay.
00:31:43:22 - 00:31:57:20
Luna
Etiquette tip number four converse to connect. Obviously, you can tell I love words. Not everyone does. And I think there's a little bit of perfunctory chatting that should happen. Should. Oh I sort of should. I normally don't believe in should. I think the.
00:31:57:20 - 00:31:58:06
Luna
Little.
00:31:58:12 - 00:31:59:10
Luna
Chatting.
00:31:59:12 - 00:31:59:21
Luna
Really.
00:31:59:21 - 00:32:04:06
Luna
Is conducive to connection? I have read some books about this.
00:32:04:08 - 00:32:07:06
Luna
I'm a big nerd on communication, on therapy.
00:32:07:06 - 00:32:07:09
Luna
On.
00:32:07:09 - 00:32:09:02
Luna
Psychology. I invite you to.
00:32:09:02 - 00:32:12:00
Luna
Let go of your fear of strangers. I invite you.
00:32:12:00 - 00:32:12:18
Luna
To let.
00:32:12:18 - 00:32:36:14
Luna
Go of your stories about how you're awkward. I invite you to let go of any hate of small talk. It's a chance to connect. It's a chance to learn. It's a chance to get outside of your own experience and, you know, step into someone else's world. That is what I love about talking with people. It's so fun to explore curiosity, to find overlap, to ask how people feel about certain aspects of their life.
00:32:36:14 - 00:32:45:00
Luna
You know, whether it's a home town, a job, a hobby, you know what brings them joy? Rather than sticking to flat information based questions.
00:32:45:02 - 00:32:49:07
Luna
Where did you come from? How long are you in town for? Where are you staying?
00:32:49:07 - 00:32:50:18
Luna
I mean, those are fun questions too. And I.
00:32:50:18 - 00:32:54:21
Luna
Do ask them so you can tease me if I see you in person and then inevitably ask you one.
00:32:54:21 - 00:33:07:22
Luna
Of those questions. And I'm simply saying, what if we went beyond that? Or what? You know, oftentimes people like you ask such good questions. Sometimes people hate the questions that I ask because they are too personal and I can't always tell. So everyone is different.
00:33:07:22 - 00:33:12:01
Luna
But just let yourself be a human. Allow one little sliver of.
00:33:12:01 - 00:33:32:16
Luna
Vulnerability at a time to come through. And you know, if that's not a struggle for you, great for all fucking party and go enjoy it in your party. You know, etiquette. Tip number five be conscious of your time together at Sherry's. Courtesans have ten minutes in the bar to chat to get to know you. Ten minutes. If we talk specifics in our room, a little bit of buffer time, you know, it can be 10 to 15 minutes.
00:33:32:18 - 00:33:53:11
Luna
The kind a little more strict on timing lately. We have a little buffer time if we do a tour and a little buffer time before and after your party for, you know, showering, getting dressed, getting undressed. Depending on what you negotiate, sometimes it's like people I, I'm, I don't like to be a stickler about time, but if we have to, then you know we will.
00:33:53:11 - 00:34:18:02
Luna
But it's really helpful when I am in connection with someone who is doing their part. Again, no need to bring anxiety into it, but doing their part to keep track of time with me helps me feel valued and respected. And it makes it feel better should I choose to be generous with my time. You know which sometimes I can be and sometimes it's not possible in that moment.
00:34:18:02 - 00:34:42:05
Luna
And so I also try to be generous and, you know, through email, through podcasts that are free for everyone to listen to for the last seven years, etc.. So and again, practicing that awareness without getting anxiously obsessed with it is really good. Staying present, staying calm, breathing, breathing in through your nose, out through your nose. Really watch that mouth breathing because that can activate your animal body in scared lizard brain ways.
00:34:42:07 - 00:34:49:09
Luna
And the cool thing is, a second can last for ages at the oasis, which is to say, the ranch.
00:34:49:11 - 00:35:00:05
Luna
If you allow yourself to slow down, to breathe, and to stay in the right now, the present moment with me or whoever you're with and again remain generous of spirit. Touch sweetly.
00:35:00:05 - 00:35:00:12
Luna
Use.
00:35:00:12 - 00:35:14:00
Luna
Loving, respectful words of appreciation and delight. Or if you are the same type of dirty talker and your partner is also on the same page, that's a different type of sweetness. I always recommend negotiating, especially if you're going to get into anything like humiliation or degradation.
00:35:14:00 - 00:35:15:20
Luna
Like, definitely talk about what words are.
00:35:15:20 - 00:35:18:22
Luna
On and off the table for you. Just throw something out there like.
00:35:18:22 - 00:35:20:09
Luna
Nah, you bloody whore.
00:35:20:09 - 00:35:25:01
Luna
Come dumpster like, you know, especially for anyone who is a legal courtesan.
00:35:25:03 - 00:35:27:15
Luna
Throwing out words.
00:35:27:15 - 00:35:34:20
Luna
That are derogatory towards sex workers during a party is not something that I find polite.
00:35:34:22 - 00:35:35:18
Luna
There are a lot of.
00:35:35:18 - 00:35:49:01
Luna
Words like that that will turn me on, and if I haven't negotiated that with someone, it is a big turnoff. So context is really important and I encourage you to show your appreciation and and avoid secret asks for more. For me personally.
00:35:49:01 - 00:35:50:22
Luna
It's way hotter.
00:35:50:22 - 00:35:55:05
Luna
And it is much more likely to be satisfying if you.
00:35:55:06 - 00:35:56:06
Luna
Sweetly.
00:35:56:06 - 00:36:01:13
Luna
Clearly and politely beg me for five more minutes than it is to have you go.
00:36:01:13 - 00:36:05:03
Luna
Come on, just a little longer. I need to go again. I'm almost there. Come on, come on, come on.
00:36:05:03 - 00:36:08:06
Luna
And again, the begging and the polite asking only works.
00:36:08:06 - 00:36:09:13
Luna
If you really are.
00:36:09:13 - 00:36:16:22
Luna
Comfortable receiving a know. If there's expectation behind it. I can feel it and it causes my body to tense up. And I don't want to.
00:36:17:03 - 00:36:24:00
Luna
But if it's sort of this like desperate plea because you're like, I've melted at the hands of a goddess. I mean, you know.
00:36:24:02 - 00:36:29:01
Luna
Especially if you're making me feel good. Like I definitely have found myself in circumstances where my.
00:36:29:01 - 00:36:37:22
Luna
Own physical body required, like five more minutes of cuddling because I was like, whew, you know? And so if someone is pawing.
00:36:37:22 - 00:36:52:05
Luna
At me or dragging their feet like an angry pre-teen putting shoes on when it's time to go, we're kind of acting toddler ish. Then I turn into mommy mode and I turn into strict mommy mode and not not the negotiated mommy dam. Like, I won't, I won't, I won't give that for free.
00:36:52:05 - 00:36:56:00
Luna
But like I, you know, it's it's not fun.
00:36:56:00 - 00:36:58:09
Luna
To play headmistress unless that is explicitly.
00:36:58:09 - 00:37:02:22
Luna
Negotiated as a rule play etiquette. Tip number six.
00:37:03:00 - 00:37:05:09
Luna
Be clear on your wants and needs.
00:37:05:11 - 00:37:06:13
Luna
Clarity is so hot.
00:37:06:13 - 00:37:28:20
Luna
Like looking inside yourself is so hot. First realm of clarity that I find important. Physically. Be physically clear. Tell partners if you have allergies, an injury, or anything relevant to safer play, remember that courtesans are not officially allowed to party with intoxicated individuals, so do not eat all of the edibles before you arrive. Definitely don't eat the edibles and drink a lot of alcohol.
00:37:28:22 - 00:37:43:16
Luna
Certainly don't get to the bar and try to have as many shots as possible. They shouldn't cut you off, they usually do, but sometimes I've had some be like, I've got three more shots and then I'll call you back and I'm like, even if your tolerance is very high, that's not really my vibe. It's okay. But like.
00:37:43:18 - 00:37:47:11
Luna
You know, and always, always, always, always, please.
00:37:47:11 - 00:37:49:05
Luna
Just stay home if you are.
00:37:49:05 - 00:37:50:01
Luna
Ill.
00:37:50:03 - 00:37:51:05
Luna
Even if it's.
00:37:51:07 - 00:37:53:02
Luna
Just a cold.
00:37:53:04 - 00:38:12:04
Luna
We don't need to spread germs. Keep them to yourself. You know, if you know that you're sick, if you're having a cough. Especially flus have been nasty this year. Just stay home if you're ill. Trust the divine timing. I always trust the divine timing and I invite you to to. It's also cool when someone is clear on their wants and needs mentally.
00:38:12:06 - 00:38:30:00
Luna
Journal ahead of time to get clear if needed. Refrain from dumping on your practitioner until after you have received consent and booked your party. You know, sometimes I've had negotiations where I had to sort of be like, I want to hear everything you're saying, and it's important. And like, no, no, no, it's backstory for this, it's backstory for this.
00:38:30:00 - 00:38:45:23
Luna
And I'm like, if you need a therapy session for backstory, then we go to book a therapy session first and then we can do the next version, you know? So if you need to write a really long email, do that. We are supposed to be able to reach an agreement within ten minutes.
00:38:45:23 - 00:38:47:19
Luna
So, you know.
00:38:47:21 - 00:39:08:01
Luna
Clarity about your mental space before you show up is important and will definitely help you have a better experience. And I invite you to ask yourself before you arrive, what are you really hoping to get out of the session? Set an intention again, I'm a huge fan of journaling. I'm a huge fan of talking to trusted, sex positive sex work positive people in your life.
00:39:08:03 - 00:39:11:03
Luna
And and just be clear.
00:39:11:05 - 00:39:12:01
Luna
It's also hot.
00:39:12:01 - 00:39:27:00
Luna
When another person is emotionally clear. Your feelings are always valid, and if you are uncomfy full of an unhelpful feeling, consider working through it with a qualified support professional before visiting and or work that into your party.
00:39:27:01 - 00:39:27:16
Luna
Right?
00:39:27:18 - 00:39:51:12
Luna
You will definitely have the most fun when you show up available. To have fun and fun is not the goal of everyone's session, right? But it's the most whatever you want, whatever your goal is, the most healing, the most joy, the most connection, the most intimacy, the most you know, learning if you're new to this, the most un crinkling, the fear that you're behind or doing it wrong or doing it bad, whatever it is, you will have the most of it.
00:39:51:18 - 00:40:00:18
Luna
If you set an intention and then allow yourself to be available for it. It's also important to have clarity financially. I personally think that it is.
00:40:00:18 - 00:40:04:23
Luna
Really hot when people say that for me, like it's so hot.
00:40:04:23 - 00:40:19:18
Luna
And then I feel like I'm supporting their good habits. It feels conscious and thoughtful and officially speaking, we can only get specific about an activity and a price in our rooms at the ranch on the day of our party. Like I've said before.
00:40:19:20 - 00:40:21:00
Luna
However, as.
00:40:21:00 - 00:40:25:08
Luna
With literally anything all around Vegas, all budgets are.
00:40:25:08 - 00:40:28:00
Luna
Available and the.
00:40:28:00 - 00:40:43:14
Luna
Luxurious experiences have luxury price tags. So whatever saving up means for you, it turns me on when you do it. And I love that. So etiquette tip seven just do your best to communicate and all the clarity, all that other stuff will support.
00:40:43:14 - 00:40:44:07
Luna
This.
00:40:44:09 - 00:40:57:15
Luna
Before the ranch research, especially if it's your first time. If you have a question that is not addressed in these FAQs, please reach out to me directly and ask. In your negotiation, tell your partner of choice what it is that you want exactly.
00:40:57:15 - 00:41:01:21
Luna
Communicate about it and if you have.
00:41:01:21 - 00:41:19:07
Luna
Appropriately prepared, I am confident that you will be able to communicate your desires verbally, even if it's difficult for you. You can also write it down and read it or hand it to the lady if it feels too hard to say out loud, you know? Also, you can totally just practice saying it out loud or courtesans have heard it all.
00:41:19:09 - 00:41:22:19
Luna
It's a safe space, and one of the things that I love.
00:41:22:19 - 00:41:23:04
Luna
So.
00:41:23:04 - 00:41:24:10
Luna
Much about the ranch is.
00:41:24:10 - 00:41:25:00
Luna
That.
00:41:25:01 - 00:41:35:21
Luna
Everyone who works there, regardless of their background, the thing we all have in common is open mindedness. You know, we are there to support and to be supported.
00:41:36:02 - 00:41:37:19
Luna
So it's a it's a beautiful.
00:41:37:23 - 00:41:42:04
Luna
Mutual two way street. And it's okay if you're nervous. Just really.
00:41:42:04 - 00:41:42:15
Luna
Be willing.
00:41:42:15 - 00:41:43:20
Luna
To let the nerves.
00:41:43:22 - 00:41:45:13
Luna
Go or.
00:41:45:18 - 00:41:48:18
Luna
Be okay if they are there and.
00:41:48:20 - 00:41:49:13
Luna
Let go.
00:41:49:13 - 00:41:52:09
Luna
Of obsessing about your nervousness, because that will.
00:41:52:09 - 00:41:55:06
Luna
Loop it. Physically speaking.
00:41:55:08 - 00:41:59:15
Luna
The physiological process of an emotion is over in 90s.
00:41:59:17 - 00:42:01:00
Luna
We will continue to.
00:42:01:00 - 00:42:12:11
Luna
Experience the feeling if we perpetuate it with our minds, with the stories that we tell ourselves, and when we accept the feeling and allow it and trust that it will pass and set an intention for the type of experience that we want to have.
00:42:12:12 - 00:42:13:05
Luna
We will more.
00:42:13:05 - 00:42:25:19
Luna
Easily access that, you know, when an appointment shows up or request or someone I met at the bar is like, I'm so nervous. I say, that's okay, we will transform that if you will allow me to, you know, because nervousness is just the other side of excitement.
00:42:25:21 - 00:42:32:23
Luna
It's totally normal. And if you have a good attitude about all of it, it gets easier. And, you know, good attitudes are hot.
00:42:32:23 - 00:42:50:18
Luna
So during the party itself, communication looks like checking in before sticking fingers in certain places at all. Even if it's on the table. It is nice to either go slow enough that the animal body of the other human being has time to understand what's happening.
00:42:50:20 - 00:42:52:10
Luna
Or I really think it's hot.
00:42:52:10 - 00:42:53:09
Luna
When someone's like.
00:42:53:11 - 00:42:55:05
Luna
Can I put my fingers in, you know.
00:42:55:06 - 00:43:01:16
Luna
Because I don't always want penetration. A lot of ladies need a certain amount of warm up before anything, and a pussy feels good.
00:43:01:22 - 00:43:03:17
Luna
And, you know, and I'm usually.
00:43:03:17 - 00:43:05:17
Luna
Leading the charge there. And I will.
00:43:05:17 - 00:43:06:12
Luna
Definitely.
00:43:06:12 - 00:43:10:06
Luna
Communicate. And I create a really clear framework. And I.
00:43:10:06 - 00:43:11:20
Luna
Love it when people.
00:43:11:20 - 00:43:13:14
Luna
Are co-creating that experience.
00:43:13:14 - 00:43:16:04
Luna
With me. Definitely.
00:43:16:06 - 00:43:30:11
Luna
Always. It must be negotiated ahead of time. If you want to do anything like hair pulling or slapping or spanking surprising someone with that is not okay. Press play. Which is to say, choking is normalized by porn and it is something that.
00:43:30:11 - 00:43:31:12
Luna
Is absolutely.
00:43:31:12 - 00:43:50:18
Luna
Dangerous and just because a person may be a fan of it, just because someone has listened to my podcast and knows all the kinky shit that I'm into, does not mean that it's on the table, unless we have explicitly discussed and agreed upon it during our negotiation, and that is true for any physical, intimate connection that.
00:43:50:18 - 00:43:53:09
Luna
You have anywhere, ever. Okay.
00:43:53:11 - 00:44:12:19
Luna
And that's on the receiving end as well, right? You deserve to have your partners communicate with you. And that way you can ask for that. If a partner is kind of like blowing past unspoken boundaries, I know that especially in the vanilla world, conversations are not yet normalized. And that's the work that we're doing here together on the podcast.
00:44:12:21 - 00:44:29:13
Luna
So you and your partner can develop a dialog together that you are both comfy with. Remember that everyone's comfort levels with dirty Talk are different. Everyone's preferences with dirty talk are different, so check in before surprising someone, especially if it's a degrading term. Check in throughout your play to hone your giving and receiving with a new partner. It is so funny.
00:44:29:13 - 00:44:32:19
Luna
I remember in my early days of podcasting I'd be like.
00:44:32:21 - 00:44:36:02
Luna
Wow, all those people who just know how to.
00:44:36:02 - 00:44:38:18
Luna
Touch other people and I have.
00:44:38:20 - 00:44:39:08
Luna
So.
00:44:39:08 - 00:44:46:12
Luna
Much more experience now. I'm like, wow, all of those people who maybe have missed opportunity is to connect on a deeper level.
00:44:46:14 - 00:44:48:06
Luna
And or all of those.
00:44:48:06 - 00:45:07:07
Luna
People that just got lucky. And, you know, we're projecting their thoughts and experiences and happened to be right, like people can line up. But I have also learned through the podcast that it's also very normal for someone to not communicate when they're feeling poked or prodded or not necessarily in pleasure. And projection is powerful, right? So I always learned it can be sexy.
00:45:07:07 - 00:45:16:17
Luna
It can be in real time a hot. And I like to avoid a yes or no questions because oftentimes if someone's like, do you like that? The other person is primed to be.
00:45:16:17 - 00:45:21:18
Luna
Like, yeah, because saying no to someone during a physically intimate.
00:45:21:18 - 00:45:24:04
Luna
Encounter is difficult for most people.
00:45:24:06 - 00:45:29:14
Luna
I used to be like, no, do like this with my early partners. And I learned that didn't work very well.
00:45:29:16 - 00:45:47:00
Luna
And I've learned that it's much more effective to be like, do you like this touch or that touch more? And then then maybe they pick one, and then sometimes I might be like, show me a different type of touch with my hand that you would like. Show me how you touch yourself. Is there like, let me explore.
00:45:47:00 - 00:46:06:08
Luna
And so I really love to do physical explorations with people because literally every body is different. I also remember interviewing bisexual women early on, and when people are just like, oh, I know what I like. So I just do that, you know, my pussy is different from a lot of other pussies. And so I and my pussy changes every day.
00:46:06:08 - 00:46:23:22
Luna
And the more that I talk to other pussy owners, the more I find out their pussies change on the regular too, because we are cyclical being so. I always love knowing what people love or want more of. I always invite people to tell me if they love something. I always invite them to ask if they are inspired to receive or give something they want.
00:46:23:22 - 00:46:29:10
Luna
Even if we didn't negotiate it. You know I do leave space for that. In parties. It may be a no. If it's something that's like.
00:46:29:12 - 00:46:30:01
Luna
Not allowed.
00:46:30:01 - 00:46:43:20
Luna
At the ranch or off the table, or would be part of a like, you know, like if someone has negotiated a non erotic massage party where they finish themselves off and they're like, I want to put it in you, that's a different, you know, that's kind of a different level.
00:46:43:22 - 00:46:46:11
Luna
And I have space for them to ask for that.
00:46:46:16 - 00:47:01:11
Luna
And I'll usually respond in fantasy like, oh, I would love that. Should we go rebook? Do you want to negotiate or whatever? I don't know, but I'll usually turn it into fantasy space. And then if they actually want it, I'll let them make it clear if they actually do want to, like add that to the order, I guess.
00:47:01:13 - 00:47:21:20
Luna
And I especially love in a session, if someone discovers something that I do that they like, you know, oftentimes people love my fingernails. They are incredibly long right now. Can I get them in focus? Because I have long, strong nails, good hair, good nails, not bragging, just like they get this long naturally. And I bent this one back fully today.
00:47:21:20 - 00:47:41:00
Luna
Walking the dog. You can kind of see. Oh, it is my middle finger. That's funny. You can kind of see the white line very strong didn't break. So I'm really good at giving scratches. They're kind of like, you know, depending on how someone likes their scrotum to be touched or not touched or kind of like tracing along inner thighs or labia or like scratching through the hair.
00:47:41:00 - 00:47:51:16
Luna
I love giving sensations and helping people discover parts of their body that aren't necessarily touched. I had one person that was like, I can tell you really like me, and I was like, I do, but how do you know? And they were like.
00:47:51:18 - 00:48:00:02
Luna
It's the way you kiss my eyebrow. I thought that was so cute. And like, they were correct.
00:48:00:02 - 00:48:00:13
Luna
Because in.
00:48:00:13 - 00:48:03:06
Luna
That moment I felt compelled.
00:48:03:06 - 00:48:15:20
Luna
To kiss that eyebrow in that certain way, you know? And each session when I'm connected with someone has its own specific little wonderful thing, because I think I know a lot of people are worried about the specialness factor and like, is this real? Am I special? And it's like.
00:48:15:22 - 00:48:19:12
Luna
For me, the joy of of.
00:48:19:14 - 00:48:28:19
Luna
You know, sampling different partnerships, the joy of experiencing different people, of holding space for different people, of receiving from different people in all these different ways is.
00:48:28:19 - 00:48:30:12
Luna
Every.
00:48:30:14 - 00:48:32:13
Luna
Energy signature. Well, I do.
00:48:32:13 - 00:48:33:00
Luna
Believe.
00:48:33:00 - 00:48:52:15
Luna
Personally, if we're going to do the spiritual stuff, I do believe we are all one. We're one big energy ball, but we're all little pieces of energy. Ball or left brain hemisphere creates this separateness, this consciousness that is always afraid of being abandoned, that always feels alone, that has these, you know, common human themes of worry. And our right brain knows that we are one.
00:48:52:17 - 00:48:53:05
Luna
And I.
00:48:53:05 - 00:48:54:10
Luna
Love.
00:48:54:12 - 00:49:00:17
Luna
Getting to know the individual specifics of the energy signatures of people, because when we combine.
00:49:00:19 - 00:49:05:00
Luna
It is unique for me every single time.
00:49:05:00 - 00:49:23:08
Luna
And that is a big part of my joy. You know, a big part of I am I really was raised with the phrase, you know, make your work, your play, and you'll never have to work a day in your life. Follow your passion and the money will follow. Like all of that I ascribe to and subscribe to and.
00:49:23:10 - 00:49:24:12
Luna
I love.
00:49:24:12 - 00:49:37:17
Luna
Finding different ways to energetically connect with different people, whether it's photography, whether it's sex, whether it's talking, whether it's writing together, all of it, the yummy. And I'm also a big fan of communication after so.
00:49:37:19 - 00:49:42:18
Luna
I love a good debrief. I love to know what you love.
00:49:42:20 - 00:50:03:05
Luna
I love to know what else it inspired. I love to know how something felt specifically. I also love hearing other stories, you know, receiving your other things you're curious about that you maybe want to try or haven't tried yet. You know, if you're curious about me, that's I'm totally open to questions, especially for like laying there post coil kind of painting in our cuddle time.
00:50:03:07 - 00:50:18:18
Luna
Or I also like chatting about shared interests. It can be vanilla, it could be safer work and like life, whatever it is, during our one down cuddle moment, like I really want to connect. And you know, I think a lot of people are like, oh, you don't care, I'll never see you again. It's like, well, maybe you don't care, but I,
00:50:18:20 - 00:50:24:02
Luna
Journal extensive about everyone we go to with, depending on how busy it is.
00:50:24:05 - 00:50:35:10
Luna
With the amount of time that I have. I have my private journals. And I really love learning about the world through other people, also through books which come out of other people. But,
00:50:35:12 - 00:50:37:12
Luna
I think that.
00:50:37:14 - 00:50:46:03
Luna
Helping each other grow and growing with each other is one of the best parts about life. And it's we. We just have different connection with different people.
00:50:46:05 - 00:50:48:20
Luna
Etiquette. Tip number eight make and.
00:50:48:20 - 00:50:59:17
Luna
Stick to your agreements, including all required safer sex practices. Talking about it ahead of time is totally hot. If there's one thing that the podcast has taught me.
00:50:59:18 - 00:51:02:07
Luna
Talking about it ahead of time is totally hot.
00:51:02:07 - 00:51:05:11
Luna
Unfortunately, I learned that through censorship. And then it was only last.
00:51:05:11 - 00:51:20:07
Luna
Year, in my sixth year of podcasting, that I was like, I got a message on Sex Panther from someone who was like, I jerk off to your podcast. And I was like, what? My deeply sensitive, emotional podcast. And it was only.
00:51:20:07 - 00:51:25:19
Luna
Then that I realized that my respectful, straightforward tone.
00:51:25:21 - 00:51:26:17
Luna
Is completely.
00:51:26:17 - 00:51:50:03
Luna
Lost on some people because of the explicit nature. You know what? I do get excited. I'm like, oh, that's so hot, this and that. But I truly didn't realize that that was arousing to people. Anyway, talking about ahead of time is totally hot, especially when collaborating on a delicious, sensual plan tailored to your desires. We are allowed up to ten minutes in a courtesans room to go over feelings, desires, and budget to craft your party.
00:51:50:05 - 00:52:10:13
Luna
And then, once the booking is made official in the office, if you want to add an activity or a particular amount of time beyond what was initially discussed, like I said, you would have to return to the office to rebook. So we got to stick to those agreements again. Fluid exchange is forbidden. That is the law. It is illegal for your fluids, whether it's spit, whether it's cum, whether it's pussy juices to touch any of those things.
00:52:10:13 - 00:52:26:12
Luna
Blood can't do it. You know that's not what we do. So this means it is important to remember that kissing is not assumed. And I mean mouth kissing. I love body kissing. I love when someone's worshiping my nipples or, you know, kissing me everywhere. Leave a wide berth. Don't be.
00:52:26:12 - 00:52:27:03
Luna
Like, oh.
00:52:27:03 - 00:52:29:02
Luna
I'm technically not kissing your pussy.
00:52:29:02 - 00:52:30:22
Luna
Like, leave some space so.
00:52:30:22 - 00:52:32:00
Luna
That I can feel comfortable.
00:52:32:06 - 00:52:32:19
Luna
Please do this.
00:52:32:19 - 00:52:52:15
Luna
With all of your partners. Like if you've explicitly negotiated an area that's off limits, unless you were communicating about it in real time, don't dance right up to the edge because it feels like a boundary push. Rather, let me put it in the positive. Do make sure that if you're dancing right up to the edge, you are communicating about it so that the other person can feel safe and relaxed.
00:52:52:15 - 00:52:55:17
Luna
Otherwise, it is the opposite of pleasurable.
00:52:55:19 - 00:53:04:17
Luna
Always use lube. Do not use spit. I strongly encourage everyone in any.
00:53:04:17 - 00:53:09:16
Luna
Casual sex scenario, which is to say, any relationship that is not either.
00:53:09:16 - 00:53:11:06
Luna
Exclusive and.
00:53:11:06 - 00:53:14:07
Luna
You've had that conversation and you trust that person, or.
00:53:14:09 - 00:53:14:23
Luna
In a.
00:53:15:02 - 00:53:41:06
Luna
Poly situation or a non-monogamous situation of any kind, you know, I make sure that my partners always are having conversations with their partners and that there are regular testing regimes and that if there's any unprotected contact, which includes using spit as lube, all parties who might be affected by it know about it. Okay, so I think that if the world used professional standards for health and safety, play parties.
00:53:41:06 - 00:53:42:05
Luna
Would be way.
00:53:42:05 - 00:54:04:00
Luna
More fun. Casual sex would be way more safe. This is the dream that I have for all of us, is creating a space where the norms are safer so that people can go out and like, have fucking fun and stay safe and stay healthy. Condoms and dental dams or laurels. My friend Melanie is the creator inventor of laurels, which are natural rubber latex panties.
00:54:04:00 - 00:54:19:02
Luna
So if you have a latex allergy and are a pussy owner or someone who wants to go down on a pussy owner, let us know ahead of time. Because I am usually good about having all things in stock, but if I'm out of stock on something, it's most likely to be the latex free dental plans.
00:54:19:04 - 00:54:24:22
Luna
And now that I've said that, I can change that. But just remember, barriers are required for all oral.
00:54:24:22 - 00:54:30:15
Luna
And penetrative sex, and if there are cuts, you know, depending on the activity, if I'm putting my finger up.
00:54:30:15 - 00:54:31:16
Luna
Above, we wear.
00:54:31:16 - 00:54:49:01
Luna
Gloves for that and if you have cuts on your hands will put gloves on. And if I have, well, I don't I make sure to not get cut on my hands. But if an accident happens, we make sure to wrap it up no matter what. So it is your job as a partner in any circumstance, inside or outside of a legal brothel.
00:54:49:03 - 00:54:49:13
Luna
To do.
00:54:49:14 - 00:55:04:07
Luna
Your best to make sure that the agreed upon safety methods are properly in place and intact. If I'm thinking clearly, you know, when it's time to put on a condom, or laurels, I say, can you help me make sure this stays in place? Because I think it's just really nice.
00:55:04:09 - 00:55:05:03
Luna
I mean, it's.
00:55:05:03 - 00:55:12:00
Luna
Nice for us to both feel like we have a job like that creates trust, it creates respect, it creates agency. It's sort of like in a household, giving children chores.
00:55:12:00 - 00:55:13:04
Luna
Is good because.
00:55:13:04 - 00:55:16:11
Luna
It boosts self-esteem. And then everyone feels like a team.
00:55:16:13 - 00:55:17:04
Luna
You know?
00:55:17:06 - 00:55:30:07
Luna
And it's just really nice to not have to worry like I did one time, have a condom break and my partner told me about it right away, like. And luckily we were changing position. We had not been fucking very long. It was.
00:55:30:09 - 00:55:30:15
Luna
An.
00:55:30:15 - 00:55:47:04
Luna
Unusual circumstance that is not the norm. But the partner, it was like, oh no, we have an error. And I was like, oh God, thank you for telling me. You know, everything ended up being totally fine. And that's why we have to be risk aware of. The only way to have risk free sex is to not have sex at all, or to keep it masturbation only.
00:55:47:04 - 00:55:48:07
Luna
And even then, you got to make sure.
00:55:48:07 - 00:55:49:23
Luna
You wash your hands every time.
00:55:50:01 - 00:56:08:15
Luna
And this is a note for anyone with a penis. Always warn your partners if you are about to come, especially if you do not have a condom on. I make sure to remind people of this. Like I love to know when someone's getting close. I also like to know if someone is coming, even if they're in a condom and.
00:56:08:17 - 00:56:09:21
Luna
If you come.
00:56:09:21 - 00:56:11:17
Luna
In a condom.
00:56:11:18 - 00:56:12:12
Luna
Pull it.
00:56:12:12 - 00:56:44:01
Luna
Out. Definitely let your partner know that you have come. Because I recently had an incident where I had to educate someone on the fact that I couldn't tell that this person came. They were completely silent, individual, and I used all of my words, and I was trying to be okay with the fact that that person had a different amount of words that felt comfortable, and there was a moment where that person went soft during our party, and then when I went to take the condom off, I was holding it, but then it sort of slipped and what looked like cum came out and I was like.
00:56:44:03 - 00:56:45:13
Luna
Did you come?
00:56:45:15 - 00:56:57:00
Luna
And the partner was like, yeah, the first time. And I was like. Well, if we had not gotten to a second time and I didn't know that there had been a first time, so I had to educate that person. That condom.
00:56:57:00 - 00:57:00:13
Luna
Effectiveness requires.
00:57:00:15 - 00:57:01:06
Luna
The person.
00:57:01:06 - 00:57:02:05
Luna
To.
00:57:02:07 - 00:57:04:01
Luna
Take off the condom. We can put a new.
00:57:04:01 - 00:57:09:08
Luna
One back on. We have infinite condoms at a brothel. We have so many. Don't worry about that.
00:57:09:08 - 00:57:14:20
Luna
If you come and I'm not going to stop the party, we can get more condoms at the brothel.
00:57:14:20 - 00:57:16:06
Luna
If you come, you.
00:57:16:06 - 00:57:20:18
Luna
Must let your partner know that you've come. And if you are wearing a condom, you must.
00:57:20:18 - 00:57:22:06
Luna
Leave the pussy.
00:57:22:08 - 00:57:24:22
Luna
Take off the condom that is full of cum.
00:57:25:00 - 00:57:26:06
Luna
Throw it away.
00:57:26:08 - 00:57:57:01
Luna
Wash the semen off the cock before you play again. If because the whole point is safety. So. And similarly if you are not wearing a condom, if it's hand play, if it's something else, you know, especially at the ranch, we just have to make sure that it does not get in any of our orifices. I am comfortable with things being on my belly, on my skin, provided that we talk about it before it happens, and it's just always polite to give a warning and like, do pay attention to ehm, like try to keep it on the sheets that are just for you.
00:57:57:01 - 00:58:13:11
Luna
Try to not get it on anyone's personal decorations, because we bring all our own shit to the ranch and keep it in bins that we store there to make it pretty for you. So it's not a basic ass ugly room, that's how another way to just to kind of have that politeness extend.
00:58:13:13 - 00:58:14:04
Luna
We've said this.
00:58:14:04 - 00:58:29:18
Luna
Before. We'll say it again. Etiquette. Tip number nine. Remember that we love tips of all sizes. We love them. Concrete appreciation is hot. And like I said before, most of us who work at a ranch also everyone in capitalism societies have a money kink.
00:58:29:20 - 00:58:33:02
Luna
So it's nice to tickle. That is fun. It's it's a really fun.
00:58:33:02 - 00:58:33:10
Luna
Way to show.
00:58:33:10 - 00:58:37:14
Luna
Appreciation etiquette. Tip number ten leave a review.
00:58:37:14 - 00:58:39:02
Luna
And tell your friends how lovely.
00:58:39:02 - 00:58:40:03
Luna
We are.
00:58:40:05 - 00:58:48:15
Luna
Go leave a review on the courtesans profile on Sheri's ranch.com. Cooley review on Google. Is Yelp a thing? If Yelp is a thing?
00:58:48:21 - 00:58:52:03
Luna
Wherever you can leave a review that's positive, do that.
00:58:52:05 - 00:59:14:12
Luna
Keep it respectful. If you're not sure, ask the lady ahead of time. And we love that. So those are the ten do's. Here are some don'ts. We've kind of gone over some of these one. Avoid all rudeness. This includes vulgar speech, name calling and touching a person or their things. Closet door handles, clothing, shoes, artwork, instruments really anything that does not belong to you, don't touch it without permission.
00:59:14:13 - 00:59:33:03
Luna
Do practice kindness and curiosity to connect and do. Practice offering legal courtesans appreciative amounts of tribute before trying to touch. To avoid asking staff if they are available for courtesan services and vice versa. We covered this. This includes hostesses, security, bartender drivers, customer service reps, etc..
00:59:33:05 - 00:59:33:15
Luna
Do.
00:59:33:15 - 01:00:02:06
Luna
Practice asking questions when you don't know how things work and always practice kindness. Number three avoid complaining, trauma, dumping, and digging for personal information, especially in an introductory chat. Not only is this not a great way to connect with a new person, therapy, roleplay, and personal interrogations are a specialty offerings that require a negotiation. And if you're in a place where your trauma defines your identity, I do recommend working with a qualified licensed therapist that you vibe with hardcore.
01:00:02:08 - 01:00:20:10
Luna
Go try it. It will change your life. Do practice building trust in a way that supports the connection that you're seeking and includes a back and forth. What do you love? Where is your mutual overlap? How might you enjoy connecting today? And if you are not interested in connecting deeply with the lady at the ranch, it is polite to release her early on in a compassionate manner.
01:00:20:10 - 01:00:25:17
Luna
I gave some examples earlier for avoid smoking in a lady's face unless that is.
01:00:25:17 - 01:00:26:16
Luna
The specific.
01:00:26:16 - 01:00:54:03
Luna
Kink party that you negotiate. Do practice connecting to others without a substance or a prop. My personal recommendation it is life changing. Let the physical connection be the endorphin releaser. Five avoid homophobic behaviors. The specific strain of rudeness could look like someone who is obsessed with the fakeness or the realness of the names. Also, gawking or other behaviors that are normally associated with patrons are.
01:00:54:03 - 01:00:55:02
Luna
A zoom.
01:00:55:04 - 01:00:57:04
Luna
Conversation that mainly consists of like.
01:00:57:09 - 01:01:12:05
Luna
I can't believe this exists. I can't believe you do this. You really do this. How on earth do you do that? Anything like that, you know, just try something else instead. Do practice treating all people like people, living in alignment.
01:01:12:05 - 01:01:23:16
Luna
With your choices, sharing per your comfort levels in a way that shows respect. Getting curious about the parts of yourself that push other parts of yourself into deep discomfort, you know, explore those parts through journaling or with a therapist.
01:01:23:16 - 01:01:25:16
Luna
Do you hear a theme I do?
01:01:25:18 - 01:01:45:00
Luna
Instead of forcing an unsuspecting human being to process your unexamined feelings, especially for free, or at least tip them? If you realize that you have accidentally stumbled into this pattern like it is polite, it is just kind to show other people that you value them, especially if it's emotional labor. Maybe also practice doing.
01:01:45:00 - 01:01:49:14
Luna
This with anyone in your life. I don't know, avoid hydrophilic.
01:01:49:14 - 01:02:12:00
Luna
Behaviors or fetishization, or pretending that you're a coworker when you're not, or using words like whore, hoe, hooker, prostitute, etc. without context and without information about how the actual sex worker in your presence feels about that word, and without establishing a rapport again. Gray area. I definitely have had some, like well-intentioned clients be like, I'm a whore to, you know, that?
01:02:12:00 - 01:02:12:14
Luna
I'm like.
01:02:12:14 - 01:02:18:09
Luna
Oh, everyone has this thing coming up with me that is that's.
01:02:18:09 - 01:02:42:02
Luna
In my okay zone. And it does have to do with tone. It does have to do with other information factors. So it's always best to check in. You know, it's fun to identify with the parts of ourselves that we see in others and share that that's totally fine, and it's just nice to check in loving a sex worker so much just because they are a sex worker can definitely miss their humanity just as much as any fear based interactions might.
01:02:42:04 - 01:03:03:19
Luna
So I recommend do practice getting to know the unique individual before you and follow their lead. When it comes to preferences for connection and slutty talk or ask if you weren't sure. Seven avoid breaking agreements with your partners. So I'm talking not just about like, lovers. Someone at the ranch, I mean, like your life partner, your spouse, whatever.
01:03:03:21 - 01:03:05:01
Luna
Try to renegotiate before.
01:03:05:01 - 01:03:25:01
Luna
You break an agreement, right? Also, avoid telling a sex worker when you are all avoid bringing a courtesan into any drama related to someone close to you, discovering your location or catching you via location services, or a phone call or a FaceTime. Like, let that part of your personal business be your personal business. Like, I'm not here to judge you if you're getting off on that.
01:03:25:01 - 01:03:30:01
Luna
Oh, I'm doing this to my spouse that will.
01:03:30:01 - 01:03:33:10
Luna
Actively turn me off. And if you let me know about.
01:03:33:10 - 01:03:36:00
Luna
That, I, I may not.
01:03:36:02 - 01:03:39:04
Luna
That may not be a yes for me. Just because it's.
01:03:39:04 - 01:03:41:04
Luna
Like.
01:03:41:06 - 01:03:56:03
Luna
Not my vibe sex worker is really only need to know the details that are relevant to our time together. And the ranch is not a backdrop to your reality show. No courtesan has signed up to be anyone's priest or judge or jury or executioner. Okay?
01:03:56:03 - 01:04:00:09
Luna
Like we're we're open, mind loving creatures. Do practice.
01:04:00:09 - 01:04:04:16
Luna
Getting honest with yourself and your partners about your desires and living in integrity with the choices that you.
01:04:04:16 - 01:04:05:13
Luna
Make.
01:04:05:15 - 01:04:30:07
Luna
I fucking love married clients who visit me with their partner's blessing or even better, with their partner. And again, I certainly am not saying, like, if you're married, I don't want to know about your wife. If she doesn't know about it. It's the way that information is communicated. There is such a huge difference between the people who come in and they're like, I love my partner so much and I don't know what else to do.
01:04:30:07 - 01:04:34:15
Luna
And xyzzy, this is why we can't talk out loud about it. And the people who come in and they're like.
01:04:34:17 - 01:04:40:00
Luna
Shit, I didn't know you here. Oh, I've let him get nasty with you.
01:04:40:00 - 01:05:03:17
Luna
Like, especially before we've gotten into anything. It's the nuance and tone there is very important. Eight avoid convincing or needing to be convinced. Boundary pushing a new to you human is rapey, not sexy. If I have to boundary push you to get you into a party, I won't do it like I'm not. I'm not the courtesan for you.
01:05:03:17 - 01:05:16:17
Luna
If you need to be convinced, if you're not comfortable with what you want, it might be hard for you to enjoy your experience and could lead to feelings of shame and regret later, which I personally have no desire to participate in. I certainly don't want to be part of a story that's like.
01:05:16:19 - 01:05:20:20
Luna
That naughty whore made me. I couldn't help myself like, I want to.
01:05:20:20 - 01:05:29:19
Luna
Help you, help yourself, have fun and feel good about it. I do not want to help shame stories or self-judgment later on, so practice owning your desire and curiosity.
01:05:29:21 - 01:05:37:07
Luna
What if. What if it's okay that you want what you want? Nine.
01:05:37:09 - 01:05:59:11
Luna
Avoid wasting time with nervousness and last minute miserly ness. Decide to invest in your personal pleasure and allow yourself to enjoy the entire process. If you discover that you are extremely nervous upon arrival, give your system some time to settle before connecting with your courtesan. Totally normal? Totally fine. Arrive early if you have an appointment, you know. Be kind to yourself and to others.
01:05:59:11 - 01:06:02:04
Luna
Be generous of spirit no matter what.
01:06:02:06 - 01:06:03:03
Luna
And be kind like.
01:06:03:03 - 01:06:08:05
Luna
Truly be kind to yourself. Are you treating yourself as well as you would treat one of your best friends?
01:06:08:05 - 01:06:09:19
Luna
At least?
01:06:09:21 - 01:06:13:00
Luna
What would happen if you became your own best friend? I'm not saying.
01:06:13:02 - 01:06:13:13
Luna
Be.
01:06:13:15 - 01:06:17:15
Luna
Totally self-sustaining. That's the trap of the modern world. I'm saying.
01:06:17:17 - 01:06:19:18
Luna
What if you refused.
01:06:19:18 - 01:06:27:04
Luna
To criticize yourself because you wouldn't treat a friend like that? And if you do criticize your friends? I know there are some people that really defend the right to do this. I just don't love it.
01:06:27:05 - 01:06:32:09
Luna
It's not like I'm like, but like, what if you did support yourself on niceness?
01:06:32:11 - 01:06:36:05
Luna
What if do practice goodwill and appreciation?
01:06:36:07 - 01:06:38:10
Luna
I love when we.
01:06:38:10 - 01:06:47:15
Luna
Negotiate an agreement easily and quickly so that we get to spend our administrative buffer time cuddling and having fun instead of haggling over dollars, you know?
01:06:47:15 - 01:06:49:19
Luna
So if we don't use up all.
01:06:49:19 - 01:06:58:13
Luna
Of our time in negotiation, that gives us, you know, or the shower, like again, shower thoroughly, wash yourself. But we have buffer time built in between sessions. And so if we.
01:06:58:13 - 01:07:03:07
Luna
Get to do that part faster then I would like to assuming.
01:07:03:07 - 01:07:04:07
Luna
We're having a good time.
01:07:04:07 - 01:07:05:09
Luna
Hopefully we will because we're.
01:07:05:09 - 01:07:28:16
Luna
Connecting and touching and that will be nice. I'll always spend a few more minutes cuddling, like if if we have not gone up to or over our limits in the other areas, right. So the clearer you are on your desires, the more fun we get to have a number ten avoid my number one turn off telling a sex.
01:07:28:16 - 01:07:32:21
Luna
Worker they should be paying you.
01:07:32:23 - 01:07:35:11
Luna
The first time someone said this to me, I was like.
01:07:35:13 - 01:07:38:18
Luna
What? Like I literally like I had a bad reaction.
01:07:38:18 - 01:07:45:23
Luna
And then when that person came back the next time, I was like, do you remember what you said to me last time? And I was much less flexible. I was so.
01:07:46:01 - 01:07:46:14
Luna
Deeply.
01:07:46:14 - 01:07:54:16
Luna
Turned off and felt, and I, I now understand that it's way more common. But that first time I was like, excuse me.
01:07:54:18 - 01:07:58:16
Luna
And it was already someone who. Early days, early days, I had.
01:07:58:18 - 01:08:11:13
Luna
Been really flexible because I took pity on this person for their story and all of this, and then I did not feel appreciated. And that person also tried to take my extra time. And then when I experienced joy and pleasure, they're like.
01:08:11:15 - 01:08:14:21
Luna
You should be paying me. I'm so good at this.
01:08:14:23 - 01:08:30:10
Luna
I have grown since that initial experience, and now when someone says that to me, I will simply smile sweetly and I will say, oh, is that how this works? And I will disconnect slightly because it is a big turnoff for me personally.
01:08:30:12 - 01:08:35:05
Luna
Instead, just show your appreciation. That's that's all you know.
01:08:35:07 - 01:08:43:10
Luna
If you want to have a fantasy about it, great. Negotiate that. But if you want me to pay you, we are living in two completely different universes, which.
01:08:43:12 - 01:08:46:12
Luna
Could be interesting, you know, and I'm I'm color me.
01:08:46:12 - 01:08:48:16
Luna
Curious. I am definitely a person.
01:08:48:16 - 01:08:54:08
Luna
Who has followed my curiosity down some deep rabbit holes, and I, I do recommend.
01:08:54:08 - 01:09:15:06
Luna
Living your life that way. So do negotiate if you want to live out a horror fantasy. So I recommend applying these. Basic courtesy is not only to courtesans, but to every person you interact with, where applicable and tell me what you discover. And as always, follow your heart. Follow your part. Let me know what results and send me messages through Luna robby.com.
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