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Luna Robbie shares a comprehensive, heart-forward guide on how to prepare for a visit to a legal brothel. From emotional readiness and communication tips to hygiene, budgeting, and etiquette, she offers practical advice to help curious clients co-create luxurious, satisfying, and respectful experiences. Whether you're planning your first trip or returning for more, Luna invites you to follow your heart—and follow your parts.

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00:00:00:07 - 00:00:22:23

Luna

Welcome to How to Brothel a go woo yourself mini series episode three how to prepare for your trip to a legal brothel. What are the practical mental, physical, emotional and financial steps for the hours, days, weeks or month? Sometimes years? I just had a client who waited 13.5 years to come back and he's like, I'm not going to wait that long to see you again.

00:00:22:23 - 00:00:52:22

Luna

I was like, great, please don't let whatever amount of time leading up to a next level experience of luxurious pleasure at Sheri's Ranch, the premiere legal brothel in Nevada. This is a pick your own adventure sort of situation, and following these tips will lead you to maximum satisfaction per your requirements. So listen to this. Let it wash over you and set yourself up to have the best time ever one.

00:00:53:00 - 00:01:14:12

Luna

Decide to go commit to that decision and then chill. I'm the type of person that like do it or don't do it. What is your to say do or do not? There is no try. Like once you get there, like be happy that you're there. Just decide. Convincing in any context, but especially at a brothel. Convincing is not sexy.

00:01:14:13 - 00:01:32:06

Luna

It's not sexy for you. It's not sexy for us. Go when it's a fuck yes. If you're thinking about it, means you probably have a good reason to be curious. Listen to it. Trust yourself. What I always say to people is follow your hearts and follow your parts, and you will be good to go. And I really believe that, right?

00:01:32:06 - 00:02:00:00

Luna

I mean, my origins are as a very analytical brain person, military, medical professional, parents. And I got a big, beautiful brain. And we are all of us in the United States, at least in this kind of left hemisphere dominant analytical, linear thinking sort of society where we achieve stuff by collecting stuff. You can throw that out the window here, okay?

00:02:00:02 - 00:02:20:05

Luna

Trust yourself. Listen to yourself. Listen from here, all the way down to there, everything in between. People talk about listening to your gut. Well guess what? Neuroscience now lets us know that there is a gut brain connection. There's no such thing as separating mind from heart, from body. It's actually all connected if your mind is in your body.

00:02:20:05 - 00:02:47:17

Luna

Just so you know, two decide what you want. I recommend picking a focus. Are you in the mood for a long, luxurious session? You need to do your feet. Do you have a kink or fetish you want to explore or celebrate, or just experience with someone new or someone trusted who you're going back to visit? Do you want a blowjob because you never get them in the relationship that you're in?

00:02:47:18 - 00:03:18:09

Luna

Are you looking for deep, real intimacy? Do you want partnership that can hold you in pain or grief, or a tenderness recovery, or finding a new edge? Or do you need someone to guide you through a moment of growth or a time of confusion? All of that is possible, and sometimes all of that ends up happening in the same session and the clear you are on what you need, the better you'll be able to communicate it to the lady of your choice, the better that lady will be able to fulfill your desires and co-create with you.

00:03:18:12 - 00:03:38:01

Luna

Okay, so be sure to articulate specifics. You will need to be able to verbally communicate at least a little bit with the courtesan you work with. If it's too hard, write it down. Use my checklist. If you are worried that sharing this out loud could be tough for you, you can also just use that to prepare. You can literally practice in front of a mirror out loud.

00:03:38:01 - 00:04:00:11

Luna

Record yourself on the phone. Don't record yourself if that sounds scary to you, but practicing words out loud if it's hard for you, right? I've had multiple people, you know, we're chatting in the bar. It's fine. We go back to my lunar temple and then I can't speak. And I get it. My origin is one that has lots of difficulty talking about sex with partners.

00:04:00:12 - 00:04:17:04

Luna

We can hold your hand through it, but only so much. If you can't communicate at all, then it's hard to actually make an agreement out loud. So use my checklist if you need for fetish, kink and Bdsm negotiations, you got to be extra prepared. So tell us, what exactly are you looking to experience? What are you looking to feel?

00:04:17:04 - 00:04:34:15

Luna

And that's for kink or not kink. But with a kink negotiation, I always start with what is the feeling that you were trying to achieve? What is the sensation? What's the experience that you want to have? Get as specific as possible and I recommend journaling ahead of time. You can rip it up, burn it up. No one else ever has to see it, you know, write it, type it out.

00:04:34:15 - 00:04:51:01

Luna

I do think writing by hand is better. Check out James Pennebaker work on writing and reducing trauma and all of that. But I'm a lifelong journal, and there's something magic that happens when you write stuff out by hand. But whatever works for you, right? You can voice memo in your phone. However you organize your thoughts. Just get specific.

00:04:51:03 - 00:05:13:18

Luna

Think about emotionally. How do you want to feel sensation wise? What do you want to experience connection wise? What sort of vibe are you looking for fulfillment wise? What does success look like to you? Come prepared to describe your experiences thus far and define them in terms that you understand them right? So everyone has a different definition of, you know what being degraded means?

00:05:13:20 - 00:05:34:20

Luna

Different words work for different people. Praise is different for different people. So be as specific as possible, you know, where did you get the idea is where does the turn on come from? What does that fantasy look like? And let us know what elements get you going. And when I say specific, I mean be specific and concise. We have ten, maybe 15 minutes to negotiate.

00:05:34:20 - 00:05:57:22

Luna

And while you can totally write people emails ahead of time, you know when it starts getting into novella territory, it is sort of like, well, first of all, there's a classic tale usually, usually when fetishists write long emails to strangers they haven't met yet, they're doing it to get off. So if you are doing that, that's okay. Just please send a tip or do it through a platform where you can pay for the lady's time, because that's polite.

00:05:58:00 - 00:06:18:11

Luna

You know, I think karmically, if you are in a connection with another human being of any type, there's always an energy exchange. Sometimes it includes money, sometimes it doesn't. But if you are looking to receive energy, whether it's attention, information, whatever a tour of it, it's always polite to be like, hey, I appreciate you. Here's some energy in return.

00:06:18:12 - 00:06:42:20

Luna

So you can also consider it. Include what elements really get you going, reflect on the words, implements, specifics, dynamics, etc.. What are the needs that you are trying to fill? What are the energetic needs? What are your physical needs? What about sensual needs? Are you in the pain? Are there certain contexts that turn you on or off certain curiosities?

00:06:42:22 - 00:07:08:17

Luna

Go ahead and use my negotiation worksheet if needed. Lunar Robey-coleman FAQ or Lunar rugby.com/blog get you to the same place. And please note that specialty scenes of higher risk, for example, impact play, do require you to sign a waiver. So if you're looking for something intense, there is some sort of standard waiver. I've only had one client that I've done that with, and somebody else negotiated the party, so I was a last minute add on.

00:07:08:17 - 00:07:27:17

Luna

That was very fun. So just be prepared, know what you're getting into. And if it's a first time experience, I do recommend reaching out ahead of time and connecting with the courtesan of your choice. I know that if someone is wanting to be in a submissive space with me, I consider a good submissive someone who communicates with their mistress ahead of time.

00:07:27:19 - 00:07:51:05

Luna

Again, I love a thorough description. However, please only write long, long, long, long, long emails if you are definitely planning to come in. Okay. And then lastly, just stay open. You don't need to have every detail plan you can. And like Alfred Hitchcock used to do, you know, he was such a specific storyboard or so that by the time they got to filming, it was like, oh, that's the boring part.

00:07:51:05 - 00:08:08:14

Luna

And it's Sidney Lumet who was always like, okay, we prepare for everything so that then we can be ready for that whenever anything happens on set, we're ready for it. We're so ready. They're well, in film school, they would always say, there's the movie that you write, the movie that you shoot, the movie that you edit, and then sometimes there's the movie that you're promoting.

00:08:08:16 - 00:08:32:22

Luna

Because marketing can have a whole different idea about what the film actually is. So you do not need to have every detail planned. If you do, that is okay. If you don't, that is okay. If you don't have any details planned. But that's okay. I recommend staying open. In fact, I think it's better if you don't have every detail planned and whatever your nervous system needs is the right thing.

00:08:33:00 - 00:08:56:03

Luna

As long as the energies of you and the lady of your choice can mix together, you will have a juicy, delicious co-creation. Step three budget and plan. What kind of experience and your imagination dream up budget for it. You can visit Sheri's ranch and have an experience at one, two, three, four, five, six, seven or more figures if you please.

00:08:56:03 - 00:09:22:22

Luna

Right? So everything is possible and not everything is possible for every budget. Luxury experiences have luxury price tags. Basic experiences are more basic. So if you have a multi-part multi lady high specific, super kinky, extensive fantasy budget for luxury, I will always recommend that you plan and save up if you find yourself worried about budget. If you're like can I afford it?

00:09:23:00 - 00:09:43:17

Luna

Just keep saving, just keep saving, just keep saving, just keep saving, save. It makes it more exciting for you. The payoff will be bigger and you will value your experience more when you are actually invested. There has been research that shows that people who buy things on sale or get something for a bargain literally do not value that thing.

00:09:43:19 - 00:10:07:04

Luna

So when someone comes in is like, couldn't you give me a good deal? I'm like, well, your personality, first of all, is not inspiring. And second of all, like, I'm not here to get devalue would buy a stranger who's kind of rude because it's really only the rudest people that are like, hey, but what about me? I'm like, you can get bonus points if you like, read my bio and follow all the things that say here's how to get bonus points.

00:10:07:06 - 00:10:31:14

Luna

So anyway, for yourself, show up for yourself. Value yourself, value treating yourself. That's my recommendation. Then go get to know the ladies. Look at the ranch's website, Sheri's ranch.com, and read the profiles to see who is a good fit for your desires, right? Not everyone wants a tall, natural, blond Californian. I scare the shit out of some people because they look at me, they're like, oh no, you know?

00:10:31:19 - 00:10:47:03

Luna

Or they don't want someone who's tall or I look too much like someone they hate or whatever, you know, if you feel strongly called to a particular lady, I encourage you to reach out. There's a little purple message button there. You can also say hi via email, x book, an appointment, whatever social media platform like you can get in touch with.

00:10:47:03 - 00:11:06:02

Luna

Ladies. Please note that we only have access to our ranch emails when we are physically at the ranch, and sometimes we don't get in on the first day of our tour. You know, sometimes it takes until Thursday. They've been bitter about that lately, but it's wild, wild West out there in that desert, so I always recommend saying hi and then go book an appointment.

00:11:06:02 - 00:11:23:21

Luna

You don't need to wait for a lady's response to book an appointment. Please don't miss an opportunity to connect with someone you're interested in because you didn't make an appointment. Because you're waiting for her to hear back, right? Sometimes I arrive on a Tuesday, we get our testing. Sometimes we get into our email that day. Sometimes we get in on Wednesday when we're usually moving into our rooms.

00:11:23:21 - 00:11:44:06

Luna

Sometimes it's not until Thursday, and then sometimes, you know, sometimes I have a handful or two of emails. Sometimes I have a lot of emails. So it depends on, you know, what we're doing. But make an appointment if you definitely want to see a particular lady. If you aren't sure or are not ready to commit to an appointment, then I recommend making a list of ladies you're interested in who are going to be there that week.

00:11:44:08 - 00:12:00:17

Luna

Look at the schedule. You can always search by date to see which ladies are available on which dates, and then have your list on a piece of paper. Because they don't allow phones once you're inside the ranch. And then I recommend requesting your top choice. And if you vibe great, go with her. And if you like. Oh, I'm not really sure.

00:12:00:17 - 00:12:23:11

Luna

Then request your next one. Okay, it's considered rude to request like three ladies at a time. Six ladies at like it's it's rude because it's basically asking all of these people to be on hold with you and you are not invested in the process. It's okay to have multiple people you want to meet, but I would say meet the person that you are most interested in meeting and go from there.

00:12:23:13 - 00:12:49:19

Luna

Also, do bring any specialty items that you may need, especially if you have something very specific in mind and especially especially if it's your very first time meeting a lady. For example, if there's a certain outfit you want her to wear. We all have our sizes on our range profiles. If you have a specific implement that you want her to use on you, especially if it's a dildo, you know, otherwise you're going to be at the whim of whatever dick that lady has packed.

00:12:49:19 - 00:13:06:04

Luna

Or sometimes I am like coming from a shoe in a different state. So I didn't have time to bring my whole sex toy kit, you know, let people know ahead of time if you want a certain thing, but also if you want to be pegged, bring a dildo you've used before or something of a comparable size. You know, if you want to do a fresh one, that's always fun.

00:13:06:06 - 00:13:26:06

Luna

Fresh toys are fun, but just do make sure if you want something specific that you bring that specific thing. Also, bring any personal or single use sex toys for anything that can't be easily sterilized or have a condom put on it. And specific implements could also be some sort of sensory toy, right? Like I had someone ask if I have the gloves that have little spikes on them.

00:13:26:06 - 00:13:42:11

Luna

I'm like, I know what you're talking about. I do not own that. But I did see them at a sex toy expo and I can't remember if they're like fuzzy gloves. They're very fuzzy on this side, but then they have the little spikes in the fuzz on that side. You know, if it's something very specific, you bring it or send it to the lady at the ranch.

00:13:42:11 - 00:14:11:01

Luna

You know, if you're too afraid to travel with it, you can definitely send gifts to the ranch. The address is on the internet, easy to find. Also, bring personal or single use sex toys. So anything that can't be easily sterilized, anything you can't put a condom on cock rings are a good example. I'd say butt plugs like bring your own butt plug, BYOB, p dildos that are exactly your favorite size, the one toy that helps you climax adult size hopper balls, pies and cakes and drop cloths for a splashing session.

00:14:11:02 - 00:14:29:19

Luna

I still want to have that. A milking table, specific outfits, whatever it is. I had someone bring a milking machine that was so fucking cool. What a good boy for preparing so well. Any other specific outfits for yourself, wigs, etc. I do have a couple of wigs at the ranch, but like if you have a very specific thing in mind, bring it.

00:14:29:19 - 00:14:52:01

Luna

That's part of the fun is the preparation or anything else you might think of. And if you can't bring something, you can reach out to the lady ahead of time and let her know. But again, because of how our emails work, we may not get it in time to pack. I also have had people request that I wear a certain outfit that they've seen in my photos, and in some cases I sell or give away outfits I've worn in the past, so I may or may not have a specific thing.

00:14:52:03 - 00:15:12:04

Luna

But if I do, I love it when someone gives me advance notice and I bring it next. Book your flight. Pretty straightforward. Maybe you're driving. That's fun to definitely drive yourself to the ranch. If even if you're flying into Vegas, rent a car, it's a very beautiful drive. I love driving through Red Rock Canyon like it's so, so pretty.

00:15:12:04 - 00:15:31:15

Luna

Going over that mountain is very beautiful. If you're coming from L.A. or the other, you know, California side, driving through the 127, that's one of the most magical roads in the world, in my opinion. I mean, magic is everywhere. Everything is majestic. But definitely book your flight, take a hotel. You can also stay at the hotel at Sheri's Ranch.

00:15:31:15 - 00:16:02:14

Luna

You know, it's a very specific type of charming and definitely rent a car. So if you want the most bang for your buck, do not use the ranch's car service. Do not use a lift. Do not use Uber. Do not use a private car service unless it's fully, fully private. But basically, if you take the free advertised transportation that the ranch will push on you, that will take away 30% of the time that we could otherwise spend with you.

00:16:02:16 - 00:16:19:11

Luna

So don't do that. Let's have the most fun possible. Drive yourself. It's also nice to have decompression time. You don't have to worry about your energy getting swindled by someone that you're just meeting and talking to, like, save that for us. You know, you get to go at your own pace. We don't have to worry about time if you've driven yourself.

00:16:19:13 - 00:16:48:04

Luna

And it definitely, definitely, definitely is worth it. If the cost of a car rental is daunting to you, definitely keep saving up. And I also recommend looking at Turo if you are looking for something that's cost effective. That's pretty cool. And if you can't drive yourself, reach out and we'll hook you up. Now, if you make an appointment, I would recommend confirming with your lady of choice via email or text message or whatever social platform she's on.

00:16:48:07 - 00:17:12:20

Luna

Not only fans do not ever, ever, ever on any adult content platform. Do not speak with any lady who's on OnlyFans fans, sex Panther, any of those things. They all have rules and regulations, both for yourself and the safety of the lady. You know, they're anti solicitation. They don't know that we're at a legal brothel. So if you write about meeting up in person we could get kicked off.

00:17:12:20 - 00:17:33:01

Luna

You can get kicked off. It's it's a naughty situation. So ranch email or a direct message is the best way to get in touch. But like, let us know when you've booked an appointment, because sometimes the office does not keep very good track of our appointments like they do a pretty good job. They do their best, and if you make an appointment, do confirm with the lady of your choice.

00:17:33:03 - 00:17:54:07

Luna

I recommend introducing yourself. I think it's sweet. I think it's polite. I do also like getting a mystery appointment. I'm like, oh, who were you? I do recommend also getting her a gift from her wish list or emailing her to see what she might like. Gift card wise, we're allowed to receive little gift cards. It is separate from anything you might bring to the party.

00:17:54:07 - 00:18:10:07

Luna

You know the house does not want us to compete with what we split with them. However, since Sheri's Ranch does not offer deposits, this is a way to let a lady know like, hey, I'm definitely going to make it to this appointment because, you know, certain other ranches do require deposits and you can go find out what the deposits are.

00:18:10:09 - 00:18:30:23

Luna

And they are expensive, and that's a clusterfuck because sometimes someone shows up and they have a deposit for an appointment with a certain lady, and that lady is not there. So I get why Sherry doesn't do it. And at the same time, I know that when someone has made an effort to send me a gift, I look forward to the appointment because I don't have fear about the like, whiplash of getting excited and then getting disappointed.

00:18:30:23 - 00:18:48:12

Luna

You know, a lot of people ghost because they make it so easy to make appointments. So if you want to let someone know that you're serious, it's just polite to send a little hello ahead of time and a little sweet gift. I love Starbucks gift cards for road trips. I have a wish list that's on Amazon, but I don't need more stuff usually.

00:18:48:14 - 00:19:04:02

Luna

I also have a wish list on thrown, so it's like most of my things are practical. You can cover the doctor's visit. You can cover kind of like condoms, lube, Laurel's supplies. Like I love that. Or like I only drink Starbucks when I'm on a road trip to or from the ranch. Like at home, I make my own coffee.

00:19:04:02 - 00:19:36:21

Luna

Sometimes I go to a fancy coffee shop to. I like to support local businesses, but I think, you know, letting someone know in some way, shape or form that you value them and are looking forward to them is pretty cool, and it's exciting to have that person on my schedule. Step four prepare your mind, prepare your body, and prepare your bank accounts so in the months and weeks and days leading up, and maybe for the rest of your life, if I'm in charge of it, which I'm not, I recommend you take really good care of yourself.

00:19:36:23 - 00:20:04:19

Luna

Your sex life will definitely benefit from excellent self-care, and a journey like this is an excellent opportunity to instill or renew great habits in your life. I also recommend you only tell supportive, sex positive friends about your upcoming adventure. You don't need anyone else's fear or squiggles or judgment or whatever else. If you know someone who, like, has had a similar experience or who's considering the same thing, great.

00:20:04:19 - 00:20:25:10

Luna

Do that. I kept all of my dreams about wanting to go explore the land of the brothels secret for a decade and a half plus, and it wasn't until I like, whispered it to Gigi and she was like, that's my fantasy, too. I'm applying now because I've done all this research for all these years. And then I was like, oh my gosh, okay, me too, you know?

00:20:25:12 - 00:20:48:22

Luna

And I waited until I found someone who, because of other things that we were talking about, I knew would be supportive. And that made the whole experience awesome. Someone that someone I love, who I can share the experience with. And we have grown even closer. We became even better best friends through the whole experience. So I do recommend only telling people that are kind of on the same wavelength.

00:20:49:00 - 00:21:05:07

Luna

And if you don't have those people in your sphere, well, you'll make them. When you get to the ranch. That's okay. One step at a time. Do eat well. Avoid sugar, avoid alcohol, avoid anything else that triggers your system. I mean, you do you. I'm not going to tell you what to eat. It's a very personal choice. However, sugar causes inflammation.

00:21:05:07 - 00:21:27:10

Luna

Alcohol is a little poison to all bodies, even if you are not allergic to it. In any of the forms. And, you know, it's always just good to focus on getting nutrients through whole foods and making sure that you feel well. A lot of people feel poorly because they're only eating processed foods, which is basically another form of poison, you know?

00:21:27:10 - 00:21:53:18

Luna

And also anyone that you are intimate with, any lover who is in your personal areas can tell what your diet is like. So I don't even have that good of a sense of smell. But whatever we eat comes through our pores. So if you are eating trash, we can tell. I also recommend that you move your body, walk, run, do something that brings you joy.

00:21:53:20 - 00:22:15:16

Luna

At the very least, walk. It's also really, really good for our calming systems. You know, bilateral movement helps calm the human. It's a walking meditation and it is designed to calm our nervous system down, which reduces stress levels, increases cardiovascular blood flow, helps us have an overall better life. And also the more that you move your body, the better your stamina is.

00:22:15:16 - 00:22:47:04

Luna

Not that you need to have stamina. I can do all of the hard work if needed, but it's always good. You will feel better if you are moving in your body and I try to. Do you know if I'm on a computer day, if I'm whatever, doing admin work or email 25 minutes on, five minutes off, or if you have a different system, you know, 50 minutes on, ten minutes of wiggling or trying to just wiggle your body every 20 minutes, or at least look away from a computer screen, go outside or look at a picture of green stuff if you have it, you know all the healthy things.

00:22:47:06 - 00:23:04:20

Luna

How have you gotten a physical lately? Have you gotten bloodwork lately? Have you had an STI panel lately? Is there a funny bump anywhere down there that maybe wants to get looked at? You know, just check in around all of your baselines if you need resources. Free SD check. Dawg has a list of places where you can go get checked out for free.

00:23:04:22 - 00:23:33:23

Luna

I want to list here some possible party blockers, so if you show up with certain things, we won't be able to play with you. If you have abnormal discharge, open cuts, open source, including things from ingrown hairs, depending on where it is. You know, sometimes things can be covered with a waterproof Band-Aid. The ones that are really waterproof can sometimes help us, but if it's in a place where, like, a pussy will definitely touch or it's unavoidable, or it's like on the shaft, it can be, tricky.

00:23:33:23 - 00:23:50:11

Luna

So even if it's from an ingrown hair or a sebaceous gland or something like that, warts definitely get them checked out. You know, I did have to review someone once who had a clear cluster of warts, and he was like, I got them burned off from my doctor. And then they came back and I'm like, well, keep taking care of it.

00:23:50:11 - 00:24:06:07

Luna

You know, sometimes HPV takes it a little bit to clear out of your system. It's all okay and nothing is wrong. It's just to play safely. We have to have an all clear signal. You got to look out for yeast. So if you have a foreskin, pull it back. If there's any sort of, you know, sometimes it's not even a yeast infection.

00:24:06:07 - 00:24:37:20

Luna

It's just what we call smegma, which is, dead skin cells. You know, it's like white stuff. Kind of. You can also sometimes get crusties in your ears, whatever. It's normal human things. But just if you aren't scrubbing a certain place regularly, if you're not pulling back certain folds of skin regularly. And that's true for whether someone has a foreskin or, you know, pussy lips or rolls or just anything creases, you know, thigh creases, leg creases, whatever it is, just scrub in there, do a little inspection ahead of time.

00:24:37:22 - 00:25:14:17

Luna

We got to be careful about jock itch. Any unidentifiable rashes might require different methods, you know? So if things are all clear, every lady has her own boundaries. But I play with hands uncovered. And if my partner is, I also do a hand inspection. You know, to look for open cuts or hangnails or anything like that. And if someone has an open cut, then I either have them put gloves on or I have them stay away from my pussy, depending on what their preferences, or I have them use the other hand, you know, so we just have to be careful about openings and anything that would lead to fluid exchange.

00:25:14:18 - 00:25:32:20

Luna

There might be spots or bumps or things that are totally normal and are not a risk for any sex worker. So we get a party on his usual. Those include pearly penile papules, you know. So these are little they're basically like skin tags. It can be around the head of caulk kind of different places, age spots and your care.

00:25:32:20 - 00:25:52:06

Luna

Thomas Dixon comes of all shapes and sizes. That's great. Like if you have if you have lots of labia, love it. If you have, do your balls hang low to the wall to and fro I love it. I love playing with balls. You know, it's just if there's something unusual, especially if there's something that's causing pain. Be careful and I invite you to get curious about yourself.

00:25:52:08 - 00:26:13:05

Luna

Go journal. I'm a meditator. I meditate 20 minutes in the morning and usually ten, sometimes 20 at night. I am a big fan of therapy. Find a method that works for you. Go try a new creative practice. Go take a class. I've just finished reading the book Beyond Anxiety by Martha Beck. Start there. I have a bajillion other book recommendations that eventually will be on my blog.

00:26:13:06 - 00:26:37:04

Luna

And all of this self curiosity can be erotic, but it doesn't have to be erotic either way. I really think of sex as our original creativity and when we are doing any form of self-expression as a human, provided it's something that's coming from a place of joy. I think that's what is healthiest and the best and will help us kind of like in our next step of growth or evolution.

00:26:37:04 - 00:26:52:22

Luna

Even if you're not, like, trying to grow, do you want to grow into a new connection of pleasure? If you're visiting a brothel? I would hope so. You know, even if it's a repeat, even if you've been there before. But if you've been there before, you're probably not listening to this. So. But maybe. Who knows? Who knows? I always like to hear.

00:26:52:22 - 00:27:12:11

Luna

I always like to hear from you. Who are you? What? What do you find interesting? What else do you want to know? So no matter what my favorite phrase, follow your heart and follow your heart and let your inner wisdom reign. I also invite you to notice what your internal voices are saying. Are there conflicting narratives? Internal family systems therapy?

00:27:12:11 - 00:27:36:04

Luna

So if any of you have seen the movie Inside Out, there's joy. There's fear I think I haven't seen Inside Out to yet, but I think anxiety comes into it, and I think this is related to the work of Jill Taylor, who's a neuro anatomist who wrote the book Whole Brain Living, and she has a broken down into, I mean, she and Richard Schwartz, the creator of IFS, have to I mean, it's kind of overlapping.

00:27:36:05 - 00:27:58:23

Luna

She recommends his work, and I haven't read his books yet, but I am familiar with Internal Family Systems, which he is the originator of. And Jill Taylor talks about how we all have four parts. So left hemisphere, right hemisphere rights, creative, left as analytical and linear. And we have a left thinking, a left feeling, a right thinking and a right feeling.

00:27:59:01 - 00:28:20:16

Luna

And those parts do not necessarily agree with each other all the time. And there's some interesting studies in the 70s from epileptic patients who had their corpus callosum cut. And so literally the right and left half would like be trying to do different things. So it's normal to have, you know, different voices in your head, distinct from schizophrenia or multiple personality disorder.

00:28:20:16 - 00:28:48:13

Luna

It's just we are all, you know, we all contain multitudes and listen to them do some journaling, get it figured out, especially if you're nervous or anxious ahead of time, because it's so cool when people come in prepared and ready and willing and, you know, in trust with me. And it's it's so funny because I can really tell when someone has engaged with my work, or maybe even just my profile on the ranch website, versus I recently had someone who came in and was like, this is how he started the negotiation.

00:28:48:16 - 00:29:09:20

Luna

I got to know that you're going to be honest with me. And I was like, okay, well, clearly you are new to me. And funny enough, two other ladies had recommended me to him separately, and I was like, whoa, whoa, whoa. So that stuff turns me off. I'm likely to snap at people. Are I again when people are like, is it real?

00:29:09:20 - 00:29:31:17

Luna

I'm like, yeah, if you annoy the fuck out of me, I will really snap at you because I life is too short for me to pretend there's too much, like, wonderful out there. So, I try to be calm, but I also, I just want, I want people who are open to the experience. For me, it's not fun.

00:29:31:17 - 00:29:50:04

Luna

If I have to spend someone's time when they've come to book for me, like quieting down that creature, do it ahead of time so that you can be present with me so that we can have the most fun playing. That's that's where I thrive. I'm like, Will you calm down and enjoy mutual touch and pleasure or whatever would negotiate, you know, lower your stress.

00:29:50:06 - 00:29:55:03

Luna

What do you need? What do you need?

00:29:55:05 - 00:30:16:03

Luna

What do you need? Ask yourself, listen, if an answer comes up, if nothing's clear, try different things. But I encourage you to treat yourself, especially if that's not in a habit. It doesn't have to be extravagant if you're just starting out right. I do recommend saving up if you're coming to the ranch, no matter what budget you have, like let yourself have some freedom there.

00:30:16:05 - 00:30:40:04

Luna

But just ask yourself how can you practice receiving more and more? Right? There also are studies that say that when we speak to ourselves in the third person, particularly if we're in an activated state, you know, taking the fly on the wall perspective. This is from the book Chatter by Ethan Cross. Helps us think of ourselves more as a friend and helps us kind of have a larger perspective which can calm some of the cognitive fear.

00:30:40:04 - 00:30:56:18

Luna

So if you're getting all twisted about, oh, no, I want to be a little brothel or a little girl, using your name can help. And speaking to yourself in third person, what do you need? What would make you call me right now can help hone your grooming habits if you have a foreskin. I already said this, but make sure to pull it back and gently wash with soap.

00:30:56:18 - 00:31:14:07

Luna

Rinse with water. Do this regularly if you want to shave or groom your pubic hair, this is not required. First of all, I know some people are like, definitely do it. I am not one of those people. I find it not required. I like hair, I think hair of all sizes and pushiness is a great if sign. If it's gray, it's fine.

00:31:14:07 - 00:31:37:21

Luna

If it's red, it's fine. If it's any color, it's fine. If it's thick, it's fine. If it's scraggly, like it's all perfect. And if you wish to shave or groom, please use razors that are created to avoid nicks. So I have one that's basically made with plastic instead of metal. I also have another one that's a little closer shave that's made for, you know, old men to shave their delicate skin.

00:31:37:23 - 00:32:05:17

Luna

So practice, practice, practice before the big day. Otherwise, just come as you are. Do not for the first time, take a cheap drugstore razor to your pubic hair, because then you'll show up and we're going to have a lot of issues around playing safely. So know your body, practice ahead of time, and just practice being comfy with yourself however you are.

00:32:05:17 - 00:32:25:17

Luna

And you know, I go through phases sometimes I like the sensation of having a little hair. But mostly I love on my pussy lips. Especially like I love a really smooth, bare feeling. For me, it's about sensory experience more than like look or like societal norms. You know, I will forget to shave sometimes, you know, when I'm home alone.

00:32:25:19 - 00:32:44:12

Luna

And if I'm going to be with lovers, I want hair to be out of the way so that I can feel sensation and if you keep a beard, oil it, brush it, care for it. How? However you do, you know, it's, It's great to have a beard. Just take care of it and make sure that smells nice for us and for your face.

00:32:44:12 - 00:33:09:13

Luna

If you shave, either do that right before you arrive, like morning of day of like hours before, or let your shadow grow out long enough so that you were not accidentally like exfoliating or chafing your partner to an uncomfortable degree, right? Like you can definitely give us skin burn, especially if you want to go down on someone. But it's like, you know, I've had people with like scratchy start like trying to kiss me here and I'm like, well, that's okay.

00:33:09:14 - 00:33:35:00

Luna

No, okay. And please, please, please scrub every nook and cranny of your lower parts and any skin folds kind. Can't talk about this with soap and a washcloth thoroughly, especially between your butt cheeks. I wish I didn't have to say this. And also, it's okay, you know, unless you have a bad day and wipes there could be some sticky residue depending on what your diet is like.

00:33:35:00 - 00:34:02:19

Luna

You know, depending on your fiber intake, you will have an opportunity to shower right before our party. So especially soap and the washcloth that your lady gives you, use it. Scrub with it, especially between those cracks. Right before we begin, I think, dude, you would not mind me telling this horror story, but one time she had a client who showered very fast, like so fast that before she knew it, he was sitting ass naked.

00:34:02:19 - 00:34:26:14

Luna

Which is also not polite on her couch and left a brown stain. And that's in. There was no cover on the couch. I mean, she had a couch cover that was our own cup. You know, we bring our own decorations, but there was no sheet. There was no towel. The room had not been fully set up. She just wasn't, you know, watching him because we don't expect to have to watch adults, but sometimes we do.

00:34:26:16 - 00:34:44:05

Luna

And so that's just a lesson to, you know, just make sure that you're extra squeaky clean and that goes for any situation where you might get intimate with someone. Right? It's just, it's fun for you. It's fun for them. Unless that is someone's specific kink, which does exist. And that's cool as long as both parties agree to it.

00:34:44:05 - 00:35:11:10

Luna

But that's the thing is, like, unless we've negotiated a very specific kink thing, a club, everything, and do not leave brown spots on people's furniture before you arrive. Also, get your sleep on lock. I have a link on my website Luna robby.com/faq to the Huberman Lab toolkit. Andrew Huberman is my number one favorite podcaster. I love him, I love how he breaks down learnings for people.

00:35:11:10 - 00:35:26:00

Luna

My life has changed so much because of his podcast. His toolkit is incredible. I get morning sunlight in my eyes every day because of it. You know, within 30 minutes of waking up, low angle sunlight in the morning, low angle at night helps your circadian rhythm unlock. If you were a shift worker and you work through the nights, he's also got resources for you.

00:35:26:00 - 00:35:47:07

Luna

So sleep is one of the most important things for mood, for cognitive function, and for your ability to enjoy yourself, especially if you're traveling from somewhere you know, waking up with the sun and eating on a regular schedule is a way to kind of like let your body sync with the local rhythm. In the United States, probably the farthest that you're going to have is East Coast to West Coast time.

00:35:47:07 - 00:36:11:10

Luna

So that's a three hour different, but be well-rested when you arrive. I've had people show up and they're like, exhausted. And I was like, do you want a nap and check in later? They're like, no. And I'm like, why not? So it's like, I think you will have more fun if you're well-rested. And I really encourage you to apply all of this long term preparation to the days, especially leading up to your visit.

00:36:11:10 - 00:36:32:22

Luna

Food, sleep, stress levels. All of that is especially important if you have to travel, especially if you have to travel a long distance. And I can't say this enough. Or rather, I want to say this over and over and over and over again. Hydrate hydrate hydrate. Make sure you hydrate, especially in the desert. And it is so dry.

00:36:32:22 - 00:36:53:04

Luna

And we need you to have enough hydration so that blood can flow to all of the places that it needs to flow to have the best party ever. I will have water bottles available for you. You can get water at the bar when you arrive. We will have water available once we are in our party together and leading up to it you will feel better.

00:36:53:04 - 00:37:18:04

Luna

The last thing you want is a headache when you show up, you know. So make sure to hydrate. It's okay if you have to pee a lot, that's okay. Let it run through your system. Don't drown yourself. Hydrate a normal, appropriate amount, okay? And you got to be sure that you can access your money. Consider whether or not you need to visit the ranch during business hours of your local bank, in case pesky fraud alerts are an issue.

00:37:18:04 - 00:37:39:07

Luna

Sometimes that has been a party blocker in the past, especially if you are from a bank that is like a small local branch in a time zone that's different. You may want to consider having a party during their business hours if that's an issue. I have also had clients who let their bank know ahead of time that they're looking at making a certain level of purchase, and it didn't matter.

00:37:39:07 - 00:38:02:05

Luna

Like it didn't. They were their card was still declined. So make sure that you can access your money. Cash is also okay. I've had a lot of people also bring cash and then decide they want to have more than what they brought. So just have access to your funds, however that works for you. Sherry's, I will say, is notorious for having terrible cell coverage, especially on certain carriers.

00:38:02:07 - 00:38:22:07

Luna

Verizon is the worst. I ended up getting a new phone that T-Mobile, but then it started working less good once I got it. Because my Verizon phone does not really work. There's like two spots in certain places. One room that I stay in kind of gets a little more signal, but can be really hard to even send a text message sometimes.

00:38:22:09 - 00:38:40:05

Luna

And there's a lot of SOS mode out there. I don't know if that is by design or just it's so in the middle of nowhere because it really you go down the road half a mile and it's completely different. So cell service is a wild card. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. So just be prepared before you get there.

00:38:40:07 - 00:39:02:03

Luna

Five carry out your plan. You've done all the plans one, 234. You planned. Carry it out. Visit the ranch. I invite you to let the turn on start even before you leave for Vegas. Or if you're going straight to the ranch, let it start. Whenever you embark upon the journey. And what if you edge yourself for a week leading up to your trip?

00:39:02:05 - 00:39:25:22

Luna

What if you spend a few minutes every day? From the moment you make your appointment to the moment that you arrive, imagining the feeling of receiving everything you want? And are you willing to be wildly surprised and deeply satisfying life? I hope so, because if you are, then probably will be. It was about six months ago that I started just saying to the universe, I'm like, play with me.

00:39:26:02 - 00:39:45:23

Luna

I am willing to be wildly, delightfully, satisfyingly surprised. So that's kind of one of my little nuggets, my mantras. And, it's incredible how inviting my brain to pay attention for that makes every tiny little joy feel like, oh, thank you for playing with me, universe, you know? So just be willing. You don't have to know the answer.

00:39:45:23 - 00:40:09:10

Luna

You don't have to know the how. Just stay focused on the what and the feelings of it, and allow yourself to believe that it's possible. Drive yourself. We've been through this through the beautiful desert and or mountains. Use this time to drop into your body. Your desire, your excitement hydrates more upon arrival. Have your ID or passport. If you were from outside the U.S ready, definitely bring your passport if you are not a US citizen.

00:40:09:10 - 00:40:29:22

Luna

Otherwise your driver's license will do. If you're headed to the bar or if you are a walk in, just hope in a chat with ladies in the bar to see who you vibe with. Although I do recommend you prepare and like see who's working, whatever. But if that's your style, you will be going in the left door. So if you're facing Sheri's Ranch on the left, or is the bar on the right door, that's for appointments.

00:40:30:00 - 00:40:48:11

Luna

Once you enter, the security guard or hostess will check your ID, so have it ready. If you enter through the right door, you'll be walking into the parlor. That is where appointments wait for the lady of their choice, so the hostess or customer service representative will still check your ID there. So still have it out and then you get to meet the lady of your choice if you're in the bar.

00:40:48:11 - 00:41:02:06

Luna

Like if you were like, oh, I didn't want to set an appointment or I wasn't sure about my schedule. Even if you don't want to do a bar call, which is where they call all the currently available ladies to come chat with you, you can make a request when you walk in, and if you have an appointment, you can also walking through the bar.

00:41:02:06 - 00:41:20:06

Luna

You know, sometimes people wander in that way, but just let whoever greets you know that you have an appointment and let them know who it's with and what time, and then they will direct you accordingly. And if you do not have an appointment, but you know who you'd like to talk to, that's when you make your request. You can do that to the hostess or the bartender can let the hostess know.

00:41:20:08 - 00:41:40:20

Luna

And again, my recommendation is that request your top choice first and chat with her if and only if you do not really vibe, then request your next choice. You know, requesting multiple people at once kind of takes up a lot of ladies time because they're not allowed to negotiate. They're not allowed to. It kind of hinders the normalcy of the process.

00:41:40:20 - 00:42:03:06

Luna

And it, is energetically strange. So, I mean, you do you but if you want to be polite, especially if you want to just like take up a lot of lady's time and you're not really having serious intentions, it is really polite to tip or just to let them know it's it's okay. Because like, I love chatting with people, especially if I have a day where I don't have an appointment and I will chat with people because I'm a brothel.

00:42:03:07 - 00:42:17:06

Luna

As you can probably tell, I love the ranch. I love, you know, seeing if people have a good experience. I try to be in the bar as much as possible. Sometimes it's too loud or smoky or, you know, I get over sensory stimulated and it's very open. They redid it and I would do it differently, and that's okay and that's okay.

00:42:17:06 - 00:42:35:11

Luna

But I try to, you know, always go out there if I see someone come in just to at the very least be like, hey, has anyone said hi to you? Are you having a nice time? Do you have any questions? Do you want to, do you want to go on a tour or do you want to go on a tour so you can do a multi lady request, but that does require an investment of all of the ladies time.

00:42:35:11 - 00:42:58:14

Luna

And if you do this, do not request more than two ladies at a time, like just and I would say be prepared to tip them if you want to receive their time, whether or not you party with them. That's just ultimately polite to let us know that you appreciate us, especially if you, like, go back to a ladies room and take the time, you know, because just walking up and down those halls takes a while, and it's ten minutes chatting at the bar, 10 to 15 minutes in a negotiation.

00:42:58:14 - 00:43:20:08

Luna

So if that doesn't work out, we're often using 20 to 30 minutes of our time, and it's nice to receive, well, tips of all sizes are always appreciated. Do be prepared to wait a few minutes unless you've called ahead to make an appointment. Like it takes us a minute to shift gears. You know, sometimes I'm in the kitchen eating in a robe or whatever, and I got to walk back and get my shoes and go to the bar and get you where I got to put on an outfit, or I just stepped out of the shower.

00:43:20:08 - 00:43:38:07

Luna

Like, I love surprises. I even in the middle of the night, I will always wait. Please only have a big budget if you're waking me up in the middle of the night, like and and only arrive in the middle of the night if you are sober. Because if you are drunk as a skunk and it's the middle of the night like a 330 wake up for someone who's drunk, that's an instant.

00:43:38:07 - 00:43:57:16

Luna

No, because we are not allowed old rules wives to party with anyone who is inebriated. It's also a consent issue, so we can't do it. I know some people like to drink. That's the whatever. I am not a person who drinks alcohol, so it's okay. If you do. I won't get upset. I'm okay with that. And if you seem drunk, I don't like that.

00:43:57:16 - 00:44:18:01

Luna

And just know that if you're drinking beer, it makes your breath smell and that's fine. We're not kissing, but I have teeth brushing supplies available if we go to party. And it's nice if you use them, because alcohol really does make breath smell weird. So if you want to try the speed dating option in the bar where ladies will randomly approach you, you may ask for a bar call.

00:44:18:03 - 00:44:37:11

Luna

I would say avoid this if you are very nervous. Let the hostess know if you're nervous and stick to requests, or sit there and wait until your nervous system settles down, and then let them know that you're ready to start talking to people. It is extremely rude to request a bar call if you have no intent of partying.

00:44:37:11 - 00:44:54:10

Luna

If you're not sure, that's okay. But if you're like, I'm not fucking partying, I'm just here to take a tour, then just say, I'm here for a tour. That's totally okay. And it's polite to let ladies know that too, right? Again, we like to chat and we like to know kind of like what the angle is totally polite to tip every lady you talk to.

00:44:54:10 - 00:45:10:22

Luna

Tips of all sizes are always appreciated, never expected, but just it just makes us feel special. Most of us who work there have some version of a money thing. Well, I would argue that everyone who participates in capitalist society has a money kink. But you know, those of us who are in the direct exchange line, it's really sweet.

00:45:11:00 - 00:45:31:18

Luna

It's just another way of expressing value. And that's really nice. So it is polite to keep the conversation short if you know that you're not interested in someone, like if you're like, I do not vibe with this person, you can politely say, hey, thank you so much for your time. I think I'm looking for a different type. I really appreciate you coming up to say, you know, nice words, whatever your version of that is.

00:45:31:18 - 00:45:54:16

Luna

I definitely have had rude people look at me and go, no! And I laughed in their face because that was so hilariously rude and dehumanizing. It made me wonder what sort of trauma they've experienced in their life. It's so funny when people are like, sex workers are traumatized and like, everyone's traumatized. Sex workers are a whole lot more likely to have done some healing and or be healers.

00:45:54:16 - 00:46:16:08

Luna

You know, there's a consciousness that is required for someone to, like, go against the norms of society in the most judgmental places, especially Sherry's, is, you know, kind of the epitome of, how do I say this elite. Like, it's it's definitely a privilege to work there. And no matter what, it is polite to be a good conversationalist.

00:46:16:10 - 00:46:45:19

Luna

So add value with your interactions. If you're only going to talk about you, please make it interesting. I love hearing other people's stories, but I had a very weird guy one time who started. He was in his 60s and he started telling me in a unblinking stare. He started telling me about how in college, he would have gotten straight A's and been the valedictorian, except this one teacher gave him a B, and I was like, I did not sign up to be your free therapist for decades.

00:46:45:19 - 00:47:04:15

Luna

Like, what, four plus decades of you ruminating on this? And why did you launch into that? As soon as I sat down, I don't know, you know, so I mean, that was a certain type of interesting, but I am all for the type of interesting that creates connection. Right? So I love to ask people, what gets you excited in life?

00:47:04:15 - 00:47:21:02

Luna

What are you passionate about? I love hopes, goals and dreams. Sometimes it's too intimate for some people. Sometimes it's too vulnerable for someone to even say what they have fun doing. Or sometimes I've accidentally caused people to collapse into a shame spiral when they realize they don't do anything for fun. And I'm like, no, you're here to have fun though, right?

00:47:21:07 - 00:47:42:11

Luna

So, you know, have a have a good idea of what you are willing to talk about and what you want to talk about. That's like any small talk for any business situation. Just be curious and open and willing, right? Even if you're nervous, it's okay. But just just be kind. Just be polite. Add value. And if you sense yourself like spiraling, it's okay to.

00:47:42:11 - 00:48:00:12

Luna

In the conversation, just say thank you so much. I can feel myself spiraling and I just need a minute. I've definitely had people do that and that's okay. We don't take it personally. My preferred alternatives to a bar call are if you see a courtesan in the bar who is available, either she's sitting with other ladies who are obviously dressed in clothes.

00:48:00:12 - 00:48:20:07

Luna

Where were they're working as a courtesan. If you see someone who is chatting with another prospective client or couple or whatever, do not approach. That's very rude, very, extremely rude. But if you see someone sitting alone or in a group of lady friends, it is appropriate to approach and be like, excuse me, refillable to chat, that's always nice.

00:48:20:09 - 00:48:39:21

Luna

The other thing that I encourage say someone's like, oh, I don't want to be date, that's too much. This works really well for couples as well. I call it a bar line, so they still sit in the bar and ladies come up one by one. It's kind of a cross between a bar call and a line up, which we'll get to in a second, where ladies will approach you in the bar to say hello in a minute or less each.

00:48:39:21 - 00:48:52:19

Luna

So it's like, hi, I'm Luna, here's me. And do you want to know anything about me? Do you have any questions? Here's my specialties. Here's whatever I want. You know what I usually like? Ask them a little question. But if you're nervous but you just don't want to get a feel for people's energy, that's a fun way to do it.

00:48:53:01 - 00:49:17:00

Luna

And then you can request someone to chat with them more. And if you want to have the famous real life in-person Tinder experience, you can request a line up. I actually love line up. Some people are like, oh, don't you think it's dehumanizing? And I'm like, no. Like, I think our human animal brains and bodies are really intelligent, and especially if someone's nervous.

00:49:17:02 - 00:49:34:23

Luna

I think it's a great way to, you know, swipe left or right on the person of your choice. And you can always pick someone different if it doesn't work out like it's not like you only have one chance. It's like, oh, oh, if the energy is totally off, you can abort that mission and try a different one. But I like it because there's it's a little bit formal.

00:49:35:04 - 00:50:00:08

Luna

The guest would sit on the couch in our parlor, ladies who are on shift and available line up at the outer edges, and then we all walk out at the same time. And then one by one, we introduce ourselves and then the person picks. I do not recommend this method for couples because in my experience, couples need to chat with each other and it's so awkward when one or the other is like, I don't know, babe, you pick.

00:50:00:09 - 00:50:21:08

Luna

You know, it's just as awkward when it's like, I don't know, babe. You pick either one. It's awkward. So a lineup is great if you want to see everyone. I love being next to all of the lady friends you know, and lineups are usually I think it's like up to midnight. Like, it's like if you're there between like 10 a.m. and midnight, that's the best time to do a lineup.

00:50:21:08 - 00:50:46:06

Luna

You will not get a middle of the night lineup, usually depending on who's working. Sometimes whoever's working forgets that we don't do lineups past a certain time so it can get crazy. But, but lineups are really fun to see who's who's available. And if you want multiple ladies, you know, say you're there for two girl or three girl party or maybe a magician, whether you want a threesome or more awesome.

00:50:46:06 - 00:51:07:04

Luna

I do recommend starting with your top choice lady and then plan on adding friends once you have gone back to discuss specifics, especially if you are brand new to the ranch and have no idea about budgets, definitely start with one and then build from there. If you've already been like, we've already met the lady of your choice and you want to bring in another friend, then totally go back with both of them and negotiate.

00:51:07:04 - 00:51:24:18

Luna

GJ and I do a lot of initial negotiations together. It's also because we are such best friends, but whatever happens is perfect, right? You know, there have been times where I've been excused from a negotiation and a two girl party when it was like, oh, actually, okay, we don't quite have the budget, we want more time, blah, blah, blah.

00:51:24:19 - 00:51:47:07

Luna

That's okay too. You know, we let our ego go. It's not really personal. It's just like mainstream entertainment. Like, actually, I think I've even felt more judged as an actor, even though, like, I guess working as a legal courtesan is more physically intimate. But, you know, it's the most impersonal, personal judgment. And it's okay to want what you want.

00:51:47:09 - 00:52:04:23

Luna

It's it's all okay as long as you're kind and respectful and polite about all of it. And once you've chatted and connected a bit, it is time to negotiate. Now, if I am meeting an appointment in the parlor for the first time, or even if I've already chatted with someone in the bar, I always begin my negotiations with a human check in.

00:52:04:23 - 00:52:21:17

Luna

I say, okay, come and check in. How are you feeling now that you're here in my room with me? Something like that. I do try to match tone to the person. I try to just, you know, fall in with the vibe, whatever it is, unless the vibe is very nervous, then I try to offer an alternative invitation. Sometimes I start with a little breathing exercise.

00:52:21:19 - 00:52:43:23

Luna

If you're not familiar with four, seven, eight breathing, it's excellent. I also recommend breathing through the nose. I said this earlier, breathing in and out through the nose will help calm your system. Mouth. Breathing activates fight or flight system, so we want to have the rest and digest parasympathetic stuff going on. And there is a whole in-depth episode post.

00:52:44:00 - 00:53:02:11

Luna

It's number five legal brothel negotiation tips. So I'll just give you the overview here. First I do a human check in. How are you feeling now? Let the lady of your choice know what your feelings are. Briefly. You know this is not a therapy session. It can be a therapy session, but like, save that for the party. Once you've made your agreement, I'm like, we can totally talk about this.

00:53:02:11 - 00:53:31:23

Luna

I would prefer to do it without clothes on. Personally. Next step desire discovery. How are you interested in connecting today? Right now? Get specific. That is the moment where you talk about intimate details. What exactly do you want? Please be more specific than well, I'd like to have fun. Oh, you know a good time. I'm like, well, in order for us to actually agree on something, we we get specific, you know, that will dictate all of the next steps.

00:53:32:01 - 00:53:49:01

Luna

And that's how we get really, really clear on the connection. And then we talk about it and we find our mutual overlap. You know there's it's always a conversation I say we find our overlap between desire budget. They're basically two different types of sessions. There are ones where we lose track of time and ones where we keep track of time.

00:53:49:01 - 00:54:09:05

Luna

That's the general framework. And so my goal is to always prioritize what gets you the most excited, like when you are on your way to the ranch and you're imagining something and you're imagining the good feeling that will come out of it, I want to know what that is so that we can prioritize that piece and sometimes that shifts for people once they realize what's available.

00:54:09:05 - 00:54:34:08

Luna

Or they're like, oh, I didn't know research. I didn't save up whatever, you know, and magic can happen at any budget as long as the attitude is kind, respectful and enthusiastic. Every lady who I know personally is turned off by entitlement. Some ladies are better at hiding that. Most ladies are better at hiding that than me. I that's where I get the most reactive.

00:54:34:08 - 00:54:56:17

Luna

Like both in my personal life and professional life, regardless of context, regardless of sex work. Like if I'm podcasting, I'm just as likely to get upset if someone is being rude. I don't like rudeness. Oh so weird. So once you've made the agreement in the negotiation, the last step before going to the office and making it official is the visual health inspection.

00:54:56:18 - 00:55:17:06

Luna

We do also use hands. So this is when you drop your undies, and we use an alcohol wipe to check for any always cuts, nicks or anything we might need to know to play safely. So I will don a pair of gloves. I like to say that it's the the mini medical roleplay that is included. I have accidentally freaked some people out by referring it to that way, but I think it's playful and fun.

00:55:17:06 - 00:55:37:19

Luna

I also think it's so fun because it's like. It's like with wedding photography where they're like, it's the first look like. I think that's the first time a groom sees a bride. I've only ever shot one wedding and it was a courthouse wedding because I've had too many requests from people that were like, you know, more about capturing the images that look pretty than having an actual good connection.

00:55:37:19 - 00:55:56:00

Luna

So I don't like that. But but all that is to say, it's our first look. It's our first to a moment. And so I do like that. And you as is our perfect you know, I've had people be like, okay, it's, you know, they're worried about their size one way or another. They're worried about, you know, a mole.

00:55:56:00 - 00:56:12:20

Luna

They're worried about their hair. Their word is okay, it's okay. Especially if you've checked yourself out ahead of time. And you know, there are no open cuts or sores or things that would cause an issue. Or maybe you nicked yourself shaving and you put a Band-Aid over it. It's all okay. Bring fresh Band-Aids to, you know, they can come off, but.

00:56:12:22 - 00:56:37:17

Luna

And a fresh one, it has to be a fresh one. But those waterproof Band-Aids are very, very excellent. So after we've done the inspection, once you've passed the test, pants back up, we go down to the office and we get to head towards fun. At the office. We make it official. This is the booking process. This can be the most jarring experience for some people simply because it's a more public space.

00:56:37:17 - 00:56:58:00

Luna

It's certainly not how I would light it or decorate it. And you know, it's the varying levels of smooth depending on the day. So sometimes if you bring cash, it's a much faster process. Usually if you bring card, there's a little bit of a process, but either way is fine. Cash, credit card, a mixture, multiple credit cards, all of that is okay.

00:56:58:02 - 00:57:15:01

Luna

I will let you know ahead of time. Credit cards require you to sign a receipt and also another piece of paper. And we do two thumbprints. All of the paperwork does get shredded. This is not kept. It's simply to make sure that people don't call and say, it wasn't me. I don't know, I don't know who did that, you know.

00:57:15:01 - 00:57:40:12

Luna

So the ranch does have cameras up. It is not long term recorded. It stays within the facility. No one else will ever see you. Okay, so then the hard parts are over, and it makes way for the hard parts that are fun to arise, if you know what I'm saying. Or whatever. You know, if it's time for a slip and slide, if we have different parts depending on what the parts are, it's a it's a wet and wild time now.

00:57:40:14 - 00:58:00:00

Luna

Hard, wet, wild, whatever it is, we get to have playtime. So I really encourage you to allow yourself to savor the experience. Corporate does require us to require you to shower. If we are getting personal, you know, if it's a party where you are just watching the lady of your choice and touching yourself, we don't necessarily have to do a shower.

00:58:00:02 - 00:58:19:17

Luna

However, if there is going to be any general or like physical personal body contact, you do have to shower even if you just showered right before you got there. Like we are required to make you shower. So if you're heading to a specialty room of your choice, you can do it there. If you're heading back to the ladies room, you can do it there and then you get to party.

00:58:19:17 - 00:58:43:00

Luna

Per the agreement that was negotiated. There are circumstances in which in the midst of a party, you're like, actually do want to have this activity, actually do want more time. Actually, I do want this. But just know we will have to put clothes on and go back to the office and make it official unless you have cash with you, because there have been instances where ladies were like, okay, we'll just pay for it afterward and the card is declined or they can't go through or whatever.

00:58:43:00 - 00:59:00:15

Luna

And that creates a sticky situation. So we are required to either have the money physically in hand ahead of time or go to the office and put clothes back on, which is fun. It just really can break up the flow. So I think it's really good to just get clear ahead of time on what you think you're going to want.

00:59:00:17 - 00:59:22:07

Luna

Then after you have had a wonderful, fantastic, connected or whatever you want, maybe a stranger play, maybe it's total blindfold. Maybe you're in a cage, who knows? Whatever experience you negotiated. Once you have completed that experience, it's time for the comedown. If I'm in a kink session, I require aftercare. I always need a couple minutes of cuddling afterward.

00:59:22:07 - 00:59:43:02

Luna

You know, my background is formally kinky. And so for me, the beginning, middle, end formality of a session is always very nice. And humans in general have nervous systems that respond well to structured storytelling, whether it's a physical experience or a movie or a book or whatever. And so I really like that. It helps me feel like we are complete and connected.

00:59:43:02 - 01:00:10:12

Luna

And, then I always give you the opportunity to shower again, you know, in case you want to, feel fresh and clean or if you're going somewhere where you don't want to smell like me. However, I think it's really hot when people just want to wear my scent out. I think it's so hot. I do shower between all clients and lovers in any context, unless I have, you know, in my personal life, if I have a lover who's very into, you know, having someone else's scent left on me, those are the exceptions.

01:00:10:12 - 01:00:30:05

Luna

But yeah, you'll have the opportunity of showering. Please be respectful with this. Like I am pretty boundary to about it. And I know some ladies who aren't and they're like, they took like 20 minutes in the shower afterward. Like that is rude. Especially especially if that's how long your party was. You know, it's just polite to be efficient.

01:00:30:05 - 01:00:52:04

Luna

Don't rush yourself out. You know, you don't need to rush yourself. And at the same time, a lady can always feel it. If there's someone who's just trying to squeeze out more of a bargain, like there's a very specific energy. And so just make sure that you're bringing your most respectful, appreciative self to, I don't know, every single moment in your life like, why?

01:00:52:06 - 01:01:14:08

Luna

Why be anything but right? And I think that when we give generously, it's easier to receive generously. So that's my personal recommendation. And do remember, tips of all sizes are always deeply appreciated. It's okay if you negotiate to your maximum budget, but it also is really, really nice to receive a little tip at the end or a big tip at the end.

01:01:14:08 - 01:01:35:01

Luna

You know, especially if your lady has gone above and beyond, especially if she's been generous with you in any way beyond what you negotiated. It is so polite and deeply appreciated to let us know that you value the experience. And you know, it's also nice to let us know that you value and appreciate us by leaving a review on the Sheri's website.

01:01:35:03 - 01:02:01:23

Luna

Please be polite about it. You know we don't want gratuitous details. I do usually masturbate to my reviews just because remembering the time is hard. Remembering the person is hot. Like for me, it's very, very, very fun. It's also cool if you leave a review on Google and mention us by name, just, you know, the more that we are out there in search engines, the more that we can create spaces that are shame free, non-judgmental, and open where people feel safe to be themselves.

01:02:02:01 - 01:02:26:03

Luna

There are message boards and places like I guess there's like brothel review message boards that I'm just learning about, and a lot of those have a very different energy. And I know a lot of ladies, I don't. I actually have not looked to see if I'm reviewed on any of those. I don't know, but I know some ladies who have felt very distressed because past clients went and wrote things about them that are not true, especially especially problematic things like, oh, she'll do anything for any budget.

01:02:26:03 - 01:02:47:17

Luna

And it's sort of like, that's a no, that's a fuck no. That's a why would you do that, you know? So be again appreciative, generous, polite respectful. If you're listening at this point, you probably are all of those things, you know, and sometimes people just don't realize the repercussions of their actions. So just remember, other human beings are full people.

01:02:47:18 - 01:03:03:23

Luna

They're not just side characters in your ape plot, you know? And please also be the hero of your own story. Please don't be the villain of your story. Please don't be the second fiddle to anyone like you are the hero of your own story. Just remember that so is everybody else in this world. Finally, it's the farewell for now moment.

01:03:03:23 - 01:03:18:21

Luna

You know, friends never say goodbye. I like to say later we do walk you out. There's an exit interview because the ranch likes to check in with you and make sure that you had an okay time. I have had, you know, that one guy that I into the party early, and then he ended up excusing himself. I didn't even have to come out.

01:03:18:23 - 01:03:39:18

Luna

He was like, that was the silliest, minimal amount of money I've ever spent. And I was like, well, sir, we were both part of that experience and you made your adult choice. And so he was very grumpy, to the hostess about me and I was the end because I am not typically a person who gets upset at people like, I'm.

01:03:39:18 - 01:04:03:14

Luna

I'm, Again, wide net of, yes, openness, non-judgmental. As long as there's respect and kindness. And so when I like exited that guy, several ladies came and were like, Luna, are you okay? What happened? What happened? What happened? You know, so there is an exit interview so you can let the ranch know how your experience was. We leave you on the couch in the parlor where we do line ups, and the hostess or customer service rep will come check on you.

01:04:03:16 - 01:04:19:15

Luna

If you're staying in the hotel, you can skip that part. But I think it's just a nice little final piece. Sometimes people are like, what do you mean I can't leave? And I'm like, well, not you. You can leave and you can leave soon. They just like to see how we did. And they want to make sure that you are taken care of and feel good.

01:04:19:17 - 01:04:43:00

Luna

Then. Step six reintegration I love getting an email after a session. You don't have to, but I think it's sweet, right? Your courtesan email. I recommend journaling and or debriefing with a willing, supportive, sex positive sex work positive friend. Hopefully it's you know, it can be a therapist, it can be someone. It could be an it can be an online space.

01:04:43:00 - 01:05:01:11

Luna

I feel like life is a good spot for that. If you are that type of kinky or, you know, other, other sort of spaces and remember, just keep it respectful and positive. If you have anything negative that you want to share or a process, do that in therapy, do that in a private space. And then just remember, maintain the high baselines that you developed in your preparation.

01:05:01:11 - 01:05:39:18

Luna

Like let this be an opportunity for personal and creative growth in a large way. How can you extend that experience of pleasure into your everyday life right. I really think in terms of ripples of love, ripples of joy. It's not just this present moment. I mean, it literally is. We only have literally this present moment right now. And the ripples of this present moment create every other present moment in our future, which if you experience time the way that I do in my current 3D body, even though I know time is not linear, I experience it linearly, so allow it to be the best possible experience for you.

01:05:39:20 - 01:06:03:13

Luna

Allow yourself to embrace it fully. Allow yourself to appreciate what you co-created for yourself. Allow yourself to appreciate the gift that you gave yourself. You know, again, if you were raised in an environment where sexual shame or judgment or you have any fear about like, oh no brothel and this and that, I invite you to let the fuck go of that, you know, otherwise make a different choice and let that be okay.

01:06:03:15 - 01:06:25:07

Luna

But just savor it beginning, middle and after. Like, let it be hot. I don't always say this, but I like to think that when people who have gotten to know me a little bit look at the moon than it even sends a little sparkle to them, letting them remember the time that we spent together, the time that I care about them, letting the glow of moonlight wash up on them.

01:06:25:09 - 01:06:47:01

Luna

I love the moon because it reminds me that even if I cannot see something, that thing maybe there, you know, there's a constancy and also a changing ness to it, right? So let it be delicious in the rest of your life and then let yourself noodle on. What else would you like to experience going forward, whether it's at a brothel or anywhere else?

01:06:47:03 - 01:07:10:05

Luna

What sort of creative growth or exploration do you need next? Step seven plan your next trip and bring a friend. Maybe that's supportive. The sex positive friend who you told about your wonderful experience wants to join next time. Maybe their spouse, maybe your spouse, maybe the four of you together. Maybe more of you. Maybe you get a group trip.

01:07:10:05 - 01:07:27:16

Luna

Maybe you do tell a friend who's getting married and they have their bachelor or bachelorette party there. I don't know, all possibilities are endless, but let it be fun. Let it be easy. And even if you are like, oh, I'm complete, I cross that off my bucket list. If it's safe for you, tell other people you meet. Spread the word.

01:07:27:16 - 01:08:01:17

Luna

Because I really, truly believe that legal sex work is some of the best, not just sex education, but interpersonal education, care and delicious space holding that is completely different from a committed life partnership. You know, it is just a different thing to fully invest in yourself, to deeply receive, to deeply feel focused upon. Or, you know, sometimes you want to focus completely on someone else.

01:08:01:17 - 01:08:29:06

Luna

Whatever the experience is, allow it, enjoy it, return to it, or find ways to help spread the ripples of love, you know? And then number eight, this is not exactly a step, but this is just to let you know how my favorite clients have prepared for me. I love receiving clear, respectful communication. I love a desire to connect the way that someone communicates with me really illustrates their desire to connect.

01:08:29:08 - 01:08:55:20

Luna

When I get an email from, like some gibberish email that's like dick are big or whatever, you know, like, like emails that are fucking weird. And then they just say, how much I'm like, delete. That's a no no, thank you. Not interested. Like because that person is not talking to me like a human being. And I will not do human things with people who are treating me not like a human.

01:08:55:20 - 01:09:24:10

Luna

I know. Shocking, right? I love when people set an appointment with me. I love being able to plan for that. I love edging before that appointment. I love when they age. Before our appointment. I love when people make an effort to get to know me through providing value, whether that's with their words, through sharing photos of themselves, through appreciating my photos on only fans, through compliments, through granting my wishes, through my wish lists.

01:09:24:10 - 01:09:53:01

Luna

You know, it's just sweet. It's kind. It doesn't have to be over-the-top. It's just thoughtful stuff. I also love when my clients have healthy boundaries, and you know, it's okay to want to be on the same page about the scope of our joyful co-creation. I'm happy to clarify as needed, you know, and I think it's pretty clear to, you know, the people who come back to see me again and again, like they know that they are supporting all of my creative work.

01:09:53:01 - 01:10:21:11

Luna

They know that they're supporting my mission in life to make the world a sexier, more loving place. One ripple of love at a time. They know that I love variety. They know that I love the time that I spend with them. That's why they come back to see me. If I have a lover who comes back to see me again and again, it's because we vibe and so developing that trust to invite mutual adoration, the light and vulnerability in a clear container is one of my favorite things, you know?

01:10:21:12 - 01:10:42:00

Luna

And I always just love if people show up with kindness and a good attitude. So those are all of the things. Maybe not all of the things, but those are all the things I can think of right now. To talk about how to prepare for your trip to a legal brothel. If there's anything that you still have a question about, please feel free to write me.

01:10:42:00 - 01:11:06:19

Luna

I will be updating these as I get additional questions. You can write to me through my website Luna ruby.com. And in the meantime, please follow your hearts and follow your hearts and you'll be good to go. And if you do, follow your heart and follow your heart and it leads you somewhere very interesting, particularly if it's sexy and hot, consider being a guest on how to woo visit, how to woo AI and submit your information there.

01:11:06:21 - 01:11:08:21

Luna

Until next time, big love.