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Luna offers a candid, detailed introduction to the world of legal brothels in Nevada, sharing personal insights from her experience as a legal courtesan at Sheri’s Ranch. She covers everything from what makes a brothel legal, testing protocols, and negotiation logistics to emotional safety, etiquette, and common misconceptions. It's a compassionate, stigma-busting overview designed to inform and empower curious listeners.

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00:00:00:04 - 00:00:23:07

Luna

Welcome to How to Brothel a Go Woo Yourself Mini-Series episode two legal brothel 101. A most surprising thing that I learned when I started telling people that I work at a legal brothel is that not a single one has been faced. I don't know if that's because they're just being polite at me. I don't think so. My friends mostly were like, oh yeah.

00:00:23:09 - 00:00:45:07

Luna

Yep, that that tracks. They saw my long, you know, long game, long time coming. And no one was surprised. Only a handful of people who I have spoken with actually knew that brothels are illegal outside of Nevada, here in the United States, and many people do not know exactly what a brothel is. Like, a lot of people are like, oh, where is that in LA?

00:00:45:07 - 00:01:03:11

Luna

And I'm like, I would never know. Legal and consensual. That's that's my that's my phrase. If it's legal and consensual, I will not York your yam. I will celebrate what you're into. So a lot of people are also not aware of the stigma that can come with working as a legal courtesan. Some people, but not the ones I've talked to directly.

00:01:03:12 - 00:01:24:06

Luna

Maybe some of the people who have visited the ranch. That is definitely where I learned that whore phobia is a thing, and many people also seem mildly miffed about why I deliver the information, like I'm letting them in on a personal secret. I have stopped doing that, actually, since writing this article, I've just been, as I am increasingly public about this information.

00:01:24:07 - 00:01:48:19

Luna

I just say it like it's normal and people kind of go along with it. But even in the beginning when I was like, well, since I saw you last, I've been working, you know, people were like, okay. Yeah, yeah. So this is a starter guide to understanding legal brothels in the state of Nevada, which is the only place that brothels are currently legal here in the United States.

00:01:48:21 - 00:02:11:20

Luna

So what is a brothel? Here are some definitions. Was this from the dictionary with was from whatever came up first on Google? I don't remember. I didn't write it down, but brothel it's a noun, a house or other premises where people pay to have sex with sex. Workers in parentheses. Prostitutes. Now many legal courtesans will get very offended if you use the word prostitute.

00:02:12:06 - 00:02:33:10

Luna

Even though it literally says prostitute on the sign that's by the door of Sheri's ranch that says that we are required to use condoms, which we are. All of that is to say, it is polite to use the phrase sex worker unless you have been invited to do otherwise. Do not call sex workers derogatory names, even if you think you're on friendly terms.

00:02:33:10 - 00:02:54:16

Luna

Like it's kind of one of those like unless you're part of the club, don't do it sort of things. As I've gleaned, everyone has their own experiences and opinions, and I will be inviting my lady friends to come on with me to share their personal expertise on all of these matters. So this is, my personal version, and it's an ever evolving, ever changing draft of this blog post.

00:02:54:18 - 00:03:23:12

Luna

The origin is from the mid-16th century, originally brothel house from late Middle English brothel, which here says in a quote, worthless man, comma prostitute related to Old English Braille sun decay deteriorate harsh origins. Okay, so we can see the shame and stigma that are baked into everything. But that's why we're here. To kind of evolve humanity as we are always evolving.

00:03:23:14 - 00:03:46:09

Luna

Also known as a bordello, a ranch, a house of ill repute, a house of prostitution, disorderly house, medicine clothes. Oh, my favorite lingerie brand. I just got full body tingles. I love mass on clothes. It is nice, like, it's nice stuff. And it is goddess appropriate lingerie. So if you want to get me a gift, send me something from mass on clothes.

00:03:46:09 - 00:04:10:12

Luna

My sizes are up. Usually I wear a small 4 or 6. Whatever. It depends, you know? Okay. Medicine clothes, whorehouse, cat house, drum knocking shop. Oh, I didn't remember that one creep joint crib and the euphemistic ones are massage parlor, although many massage parlors are actual massage parlors. And I would say that happy endings massages are different from what you can do at a brothel.

00:04:10:14 - 00:04:40:01

Luna

Certainly in the legal spaces in Nevada, archaic forms are body house, house of ill fame, bag, meal and stew. Isn't language fun? I have also been known to call it by any of the following things. Hot girl, summer camp, all year long. Full service creative retreat, center for creative exploration, modern or reverse convent. I do think of myself as a sex nun sometimes.

00:04:40:09 - 00:05:08:08

Luna

Certainly every goddess there is a healer, and right now there are goddesses. It is very partly due to the laws. It is not gender non-normative or trans friendly at this point. So again, we're all evolving. Hopefully we do that together. Healing station and my favorite pleasure Oasis and my favorite oasis, the resort at Sheri's Ranch in Pahrump, Nevada, is a brothel that consists of 24 rooms.

00:05:08:10 - 00:05:30:20

Luna

Although we are licensed to have up to 25 ladies, I call my room personally the Lunar Temple because it is a space of worship and love and niceness, and I also believe in making a cozy, beautiful space wherever I go. We also have three specialty rooms, five VIP bungalows which are separate little houses in case you want your own four walls so you can scream as loud as you want.

00:05:30:22 - 00:05:52:06

Luna

And we have one giant playland, which is basically a 5000 square foot indoor adult Disneyland like a mini Disneyland. And Playland has so many things that you could possibly want for role playing. So there's an office space if you want to be a big bad boss or naughty secretary, there's a living room space if you want to, like start in the living room cuddling for your girlfriend.

00:05:52:06 - 00:06:17:09

Luna

Experience. And then there's a bedroom and a geisha style bedroom, so it's got some vaguely geisha esque decorations. The classroom is top notch. It has a big, sturdy desk and many, many desks. And while I have yet to have the classroom orgy of my dreams in there, feel free to make it happen. I can tell you that, some excellent lessons have been taught and well received in that space.

00:06:17:11 - 00:06:36:04

Luna

There are also two locker rooms like locker room showers, a thing of urinals, which yes, I have now peed in the urinal thanks to that, a sex wing in front of a big mirror in the other locker room, a massage table so you can live out the massage fantasy in the cool location. And then it has its own Jacuzzi, dry sauna, and steam room.

00:06:36:06 - 00:06:51:19

Luna

So it's a huge space. Super duper fun. I'm always trying to get a bachelor slash bachelorette party I like, I like the people are doing them. Combine these days to go in there and have like a big, you know, orgy tastic session. So far, you know, so far I've only taken solo people in there, but it's great.

00:06:51:19 - 00:07:11:13

Luna

So all of those specialty rooms are on a property where anyone who is 21 and over can visit a courtesans room and have a business meeting to legally discuss the exchange of professional risk, where sex for money, it's super safe, it's super fun, it's super clear. And while people get nervous, most of that nervousness is because they don't know what to expect.

00:07:11:13 - 00:07:39:11

Luna

So we're solving that here today. And here's a note. Definitely bring your ID and if you are from anywhere outside the United States, bring your passport. Because a copy of your passport is not good enough. They have to be able to verify your documents. So bring your passport if you are traveling from out of country. In case you did not know, it is against the law in all other places that are not legal brothels in the United States to offer or ask for sex for money.

00:07:39:13 - 00:08:07:06

Luna

Aside from a couple of loopholes that are related to surrogacy work that is typically overseen by a licensed therapist, and those are completely different types of sessions, just so you know. And from the sex surrogates that I have spoken with and interviewed, it's a really a different vibe. Like those sessions are completely different vibe. However, I would posit that healing, if that is what is needed from the session, is definitely available both through surrogacy work and or brothel work.

00:08:07:06 - 00:08:34:08

Luna

You know, it depends on what you're dealing with. I love that I get to decide, through all of my years of personal research on communication, connection, relationships, and humans, I get to decide as a practitioner what someone may need and how to affect them. Whereas I understand that surrogacy work, and because it is overseen by a licensed therapist, has a much slower pace and it has a whole bunch of different considerations.

00:08:34:10 - 00:08:59:02

Luna

So legal brothels offer more freedom and flexibility for the guest to choose the experience that they desire. And you don't have to go there to heal. I would say it is inherently like liberating, healing, joyful. Of course, it always depends on the mindset that you bring in your own behaviors or own history. So the property at Sheri's Ranch also includes a bar and a hotel, although these hold separate licenses from the actual brothel itself.

00:08:59:02 - 00:09:18:16

Luna

So if you go to Sheri's and you own LLY visit the bar, you have not actually been in the brothel. If you walk through the bar to the hotel, you have to walk through the parlor and that is the brothel license. So this is why Sheri's hotel guests can visit ladies in the legal licensed brothel areas to partake in services, which is what we call partying.

00:09:18:18 - 00:09:43:14

Luna

But ladies cannot go to the hotel. I'm here to tell you that illegal brothel is so much more than a rental lady experience. Sheri's ranch is a safe, open minded place for visitors to have a luxury experience of hiring a caring love goddess i.e. a hands on interactive professional sex worker, an expert, someone to play with, a professional play friend.

00:09:43:14 - 00:10:05:18

Luna

You might say, sometimes I say I'm a professional Playboy, and a legal brothel is a place where you may simply let a lady or few of your choice know exactly what you want, and you can get straight to the fun. You get to skip the initial investment of first, second, third, fourth, fifth, or however many dates might be required to get to intimate bits with someone that you are potentially attracted to.

00:10:05:20 - 00:10:24:02

Luna

And at the oasis that is Sheri's Ranch, you can bare yourself, your soul, your needs, your kinks almost right away, after a perfunctory discussion where you come to an agreement of mutual overlap, then before you know it, you're enjoying play time with other people on this planet who love and are experienced when it comes to the naked joys in life.

00:10:24:04 - 00:10:41:11

Luna

Now, let me be very clear. Do not walk straight into the bar and tell the hostess or bartender who's checking your ID what you're like. That's that's not who'd out of that conversation. The bar is for like PG 13 discussions. We can kind of hint at stuff, but to get specific, go back with the lady of your choice and talk about it in her room.

00:10:41:11 - 00:11:01:15

Luna

That's the only place that we can really share explicit details, even through email. Like, I get a lot of emails from people that, almost read like erotica and I have. We'll get to the communication guidelines for that. But pretty quickly you can talk about exactly what you need. So again, don't come to the ranch and start telling the bartender or hostess who are checking your ID naughty, explicit things about what you want.

00:11:01:17 - 00:11:20:02

Luna

If there is something specific that you're seeking, look at the website ahead of time to see what ladies will be working on that day. And then go from there. I'm sure you can prioritize pleasure. You can let go of worrying where the relationship will go. You don't need to think about changing or restructuring your life to accommodate a new person.

00:11:20:08 - 00:11:56:08

Luna

And even the most luxurious sessions are a total bargain compared to what one might spend in the course of courting or marriage. And you get to pick exactly the type of experience that you desire. So whether you see a lady once and treasure the fleeting connection or hold it in your mind forever, or return to nurture and be nurtured again and again with the same lady with new ladies, it is always an exchange of energy and a mutual investment in another person, and this hopefully creates permission for you to receive deeply, which a lot of people are not receiving enough.

00:11:56:08 - 00:12:20:15

Luna

They're working themselves to death or in distress mode or into heart attacks, and they're not necessarily nourishing themselves. So I really do think of it as a pleasure oasis of joy and and healing. You know, I know that's a loaded word for some people, but I love it. So whether you're looking to try something new, revisit something you love, make a fantasy come true, regain your balance in a transition moment, a pleasure tutorial, or simply you want to treat yourself in the most delicious way.

00:12:20:17 - 00:12:39:07

Luna

A legal brothel is a place where you can get specific about how you would like hens mouths and intimate parts to create an experience of pleasure and joy in safe, legal, adult ways. So that's that's the initial what is a brothel now? What makes a brothel legal and what are the laws? I'm not going into great depth here.

00:12:39:07 - 00:12:58:20

Luna

I am not a lawyer. I am not giving you legal advice in any way, shape or form other than wait until you're in a ladies room or whatever the appropriate places are. The other ranches to get specific. Do not ask prices ahead of time. We literally can't tell you the laws of the country, state and county where brothels exist govern the specifics.

00:12:58:22 - 00:13:23:00

Luna

So Wikipedia says that in the United States, brothels are currently illegal throughout the United States, except in ten rural counties in Nevada. Prostitution outside of the 19 licensed brothels operating in six of those ten counties is illegal throughout the state. All forms of prostitution are illegal in Clark County, which contains the Las Vegas Paradise metropolitan area, so sometimes someone will come to the ranch and will be in a negotiation.

00:13:23:00 - 00:13:42:04

Luna

They'll be like, no, well, I could get it for on the strip. And I'm like, oh, don't talk to me about illegal things here. You can go over there. And if you want to do that, you can risk getting stabbed or robbed or swindled, because that's usually what's happening there. In the coming months, I will be contacting other ranches directly to get better information from them.

00:13:42:06 - 00:13:59:23

Luna

So if you would like to fund or add to the research of this mission, feel free to send me a message that is totally welcome. And if you've been to any of those other places and want to tell me what your experience was like, great, I love that. So testing requirements and fees vary county by county per local ordinance.

00:13:59:23 - 00:14:22:18

Luna

In Nye County, where Sheri's Ranch is, a sex worker must have a green light on these tests before they are legally permitted to get their sheriff's card and be eligible for work. So we do once a month for the blood test, which covers HIV and syphilis, and once a week for swabs which cover gonorrhea and chlamydia. Coming into a new tour, the ladies pay out of pocket $150 for testing with bloodwork and swabs.

00:14:22:20 - 00:14:47:18

Luna

If we then work, and they are upping that rate on in June. I'm recording this in May 2025. In June, it's going up, I think, to $160 and 130 or 40. So then we have a retest at the little bit less if we're not doing blood on the second week and at sheri's, ladies work 1 to 2, or if it's split across months, sometimes three weeks at a time, and the testing fees are deducted from our next paycheck.

00:14:48:00 - 00:15:10:18

Luna

You know, the initial one we have to bring cash. And if you're wondering, for the ladies who work in the adult industry and do porn, nope. It's a different set of tests because administrative reasons that are not totally logical. But hopefully in the future we can get everything on board under the same umbrella so that it's easy to go from adult film to the brothel and keep everything you know safe.

00:15:10:19 - 00:15:34:10

Luna

Now, there is no testing requirement for visitors of legal brothels. However, it is very nice and like next level. Good boy and good girl, good human, good man, good woman. Whatever you prefer. Good person. Really, really lovely and thoughtful. When clients report that they have regular testing practices with all clear results, I love that and I think that is always prudent to do in your life.

00:15:34:10 - 00:15:54:15

Luna

You know, the nonprofessional recommendation is get tested every three months if you're sexually active, at the very least between partners. But also, I think just always good to check at least once a year, even if you're monogamous. And we are required to do a genital inspection where we look for bumps, cut sores, or plug your ears for a second.

00:15:54:15 - 00:16:12:21

Luna

If you are squeamish. Any kind of gunk that is part of the process before finalizing a booking. So if you have come from a background where you're too shy to look at your genitals, I highly encourage you to check yourself out visually. Go to the doctor you know if you have any questions or concerns about what you see.

00:16:12:23 - 00:16:38:13

Luna

Because I've had some situations where complete virgins I had to send away because their hygiene was not safe for us to party with. So it's not just STIs like yeast infections or something that we can't really literally fuck with. And PSA, if you have a foreskin and were never taught to pull it back and wash with soap and water in every shower, and hopefully you're showering regularly, please start doing that.

00:16:38:13 - 00:17:13:15

Luna

You know, I've also had some almost clients who their foreskin was so tight that it could not be pulled back to reveal the head. And so that's some stuff that can be problematic for the owner of said foreskin later on down the road, but also just for hygiene purposes and for safety with partners, especially, you know, outside of brothel land, if you have a partner that you're fluid bonded with and, you are a penis owner who is fucking a pussy owner for cleanliness purposes, we need everything to be wash nice and clean for us.

00:17:13:17 - 00:17:39:06

Luna

So another part of the legal brothel system is that we have work cards. Once a legal brothel worker's testing is cleared, we are fingerprinted and background checked at the sheriff's office every single quarter. Currently, it's a $150 plus almost $10 worth of fees because they just implemented this new online payment system where you have to pay for their fees and everything ahead of time.

00:17:39:07 - 00:18:00:02

Luna

The sheriff's office is very particular about how we fill out their forms, even though the forms are very unclear. A couple times ago, I was reprimanded because I didn't list Sheri's Ranch as an employer. Because that is confusing, because we are independent contractors. And when I was like, oh, I'm a little bit on the autism spectrum, could I please maybe write a helpful email to the person that creates your forms?

00:18:00:02 - 00:18:17:08

Luna

Because also you put birth place next to citizenship, and I didn't know you needed the city and the state in the of yelled at me. And so there was one lady there who last time I came and she was like, you always cause a problem. And I'm like, literally, I'm not causing problems. I'm just asking questions, trying to be helpful, you know?

00:18:17:08 - 00:18:32:20

Luna

And everyone has their background. Just so you know, there's a bunch of hoops that we have to jump through. And sometimes the people that we have to speak to to do them are kind of rude to us. That lady didn't like at the most recent time that I was like, hey, do you know that shouting our legal names out loud, I'm fine.

00:18:32:20 - 00:18:59:12

Luna

But like that could cause a safety threat to someone. And she was like, so anyway, I am in fact an independent contractor. But the Nye County Sheriff's Office was very nonplused with my earnest, confused attempts to gain clarity. They do not care about w-2s and fours versus 1090 nines. And they also, as I said, Naughty Girl owed me for not writing the city and state of my birth as well as the country, even though the place of birth on the spot form was very tiny and nonspecific.

00:18:59:12 - 00:19:18:18

Luna

And like if you put it next to a passport, it's the same size and all. And I wrote USA here, and that's fine. It would be the same thing like nationality, birth, location, whatever. So all that is to say, sometimes the sheriff's office is rude and they say things like, well, the ranch has our contact information and they can request changes on your behalf if they feel it's necessary.

00:19:18:20 - 00:19:48:00

Luna

So it's interesting because those are the ways where, like my background is mainstream entertainment. I'm an artist. I have, you know, I've worked a lot of regular jobs, and it's interesting to see how the industry treats ladies who work at ranches. So I totally forget the horror phobias real until I stumble into it. When I try to act like a normal person in a sex work space and get treated differently from when I'm operating as a photographer, podcaster, and I can't fix the world.

00:19:48:00 - 00:20:04:15

Luna

But I can be the change I want to see in it, which in this case includes telling you why I love legal brothels so very much. So now how do legal brothels work? Here's an overview of what you need to know. And again, I have many more in-depth things and if I leave something out, let me know and I will fill it in.

00:20:04:15 - 00:20:22:10

Luna

And this is all just a draft. Everything we do in life is just a draft. And since I started thinking of things that way, had a lot more fun and everything goes a little more smoothly. To recap, a legal brothel in Nevada is the only place a person can lawfully negotiate the exchange of intimate sexual services for money in the United States.

00:20:22:12 - 00:20:40:01

Luna

At the brothel, you and a lady of your choice can only talk specifics of activity and price in the room of that lady at the ranch on the day of your party together. If you're thinking of visiting in six months and you come by for a recon mission like I'll take you on a tour, you can come back and see my lunar temple.

00:20:40:01 - 00:20:53:19

Luna

It's very beautiful. You can look at my menu, but I won't negotiate with you if we're not going to party that day, because we will just have to redo the process and whatever we say, you know? I mean, we can agree, we can verbally agree, but it's basically meaningless until we go to the office and make it official.

00:20:53:21 - 00:21:08:07

Luna

So it's best to just, you know, wait till they leave and then get specific, but definitely come by for a recon mission. If you're nervous, if you're not sure about it, it's very, very funny. And I, I also will invite a lot of tourists, even if they're not interested in partying. I'm like, but do you want to be in the room of a lady?

00:21:08:07 - 00:21:25:09

Luna

Like, just at least come see it? And I will say, tips of all sizes are always appreciated, never expected. But because we are not paid because we're independent contractors, unless we are booking a party, it's just a nice way to show us that you appreciate our time, you know? And we are used to getting valued at a very high level.

00:21:25:09 - 00:21:45:01

Luna

So, it's really sweet. And if someone really is like, income restricted and has curiosity, I will always, you know, be as generous as I possibly can if I'm available. And at the same time, if you have gas money to drive all the way out to the middle of nowhere, or flight money to go, or even to Vegas to book any sort of hotel, you probably can afford.

00:21:45:01 - 00:22:08:18

Luna

A little bit of a tip. Pricing and payment. Everyone's favorite question all of our services, which take place in parties, which are the play sessions at the brothel, are negotiated and then they're split in half with the house, which is the brothel, or significantly more if you use the free car service. And I will let you know that they take 30% off the top and then split at 5050 with us and they advertise it as a free service.

00:22:08:18 - 00:22:27:19

Luna

And I think it's morally atrocious. And we're not supposed to tell people that, but I feel like they won't listen to this. So I'm going to tell you, it makes it so difficult for us to be flexible when we are only receiving the 35% of the money that you are giving, and it's just not a good use of your funds.

00:22:27:19 - 00:22:46:07

Luna

In my personal opinion. So rent a car, find a driver. Lyft and Uber still take 10%. If you find a driver that is willing to wait for you, I don't recommend it. Lots of people have gotten stranded by Ubers too. So just rent a car. Find a friend. Find a driver. Don't use the free limo service. It's not free.

00:22:46:09 - 00:23:10:19

Luna

Pricing is not allowed to be published or discussed ahead of time. Technically speaking, all budgets are welcome and different budgets will definitely yield different parties. We do have a minimum threshold, which I don't think I'm allowed to say. You can go find it out pretty easily at the house. But in general, surprise, surprise, basic experiences have basic price tags and more luxurious ones have more luxurious ones.

00:23:10:21 - 00:23:34:18

Luna

Planning ahead and saving up are definitely encouraged, and guests who budget and save up tend to value the experience the most and have the best time. Guests who feel entitled and are looking for a bargain are the worst. And you know, so some people come in wanting a certain thing, but they're like, not really comfortable with themselves. Or they're like maybe uncomfortable with their at a brothel at all.

00:23:34:18 - 00:24:01:22

Luna

And they're, they're trying to lowball a goddess and rudeness will not get you very far. A good attitude goes a long way. Cash and credit card both work. Billing shows up discreetly. We cannot accept Venmo or electronic payments. The ranch is not set up for Apple Pay. I believe that has to do with payment processing guidelines, because for anything adult, it's considered high risk and so they are charged like 20% fees.

00:24:01:22 - 00:24:21:16

Luna

It's the same with OnlyFans and these other spaces online, because anything in the adult category, including sex toys. I went to a conference last year and was hearing about the bit different payment processes. So even like sex toy websites are subject to the 20% instead of the normal 3% credit card processing fee. So. And no, there is no discount if you bring cash like they're just isn't.

00:24:21:18 - 00:24:39:21

Luna

Yeah. So no Apple Pay, no Venmo, no Cash app, no square, no stripe. So even though the business is legal in Nevada, standard payment processors have a horror phobia built in. That's the system that we live in. And, you know, that's just part of it. So come prepared. You can bring multiple cards if you have a small bank, call them ahead of time, etc..

00:24:39:23 - 00:25:01:11

Luna

Now selecting your cortisone, there are many different ways to meet ladies appointments, lineups, requests. My favorite is a request or an appointment. Or you can just let us approach you at the bar. It's kind of like speed dating and for more details, see How to Prepare for Your Trip to a Legal Brothel. I'm putting in all the details there, but I still want to give you a little overview here, in case you don't read that one or listen to that one.

00:25:01:13 - 00:25:28:13

Luna

In terms of safer sex practices, we are tested weekly, as mentioned, and are required by law to use barriers for all safer sex practices. Condoms and barriers such as Laurel's or dental dams are required for safer sex. It is the law. Flute exchange and anal sex are legally not permitted. Okay, it is against the law. We are not swabbed in our assholes and fluid exchange is not allowed.

00:25:28:13 - 00:25:56:13

Luna

So pussy juices come spit. We can't swap those things. Okay, I have heard of exceptions being made for extremely luxurious circumstances, but it's safety on the line are jobs on the line. And just like the whole point is that it's legal, right? So I personally am like, why would you come somewhere where it's legal to do an illegal activity?

00:25:56:15 - 00:26:16:05

Luna

Where's the logic? You know, it's a lot of effort. No locations at the ranch where we can play. So we, the ladies are allowed to leave the ranch premises. There was a lockdown rule that used to keep courtesans in Nye County in-house after testing, however, that was removed in 2020 thanks to one of the former ladies, Courtney, who worked at our house.

00:26:16:07 - 00:26:45:12

Luna

But we are not allowed to leave the premises with you. We cannot meet you anywhere outside of Sherry's ever. We are not allowed to accept an invitation to a cool trip or an event, etc. that is not legal, gray areas which do not include intimate interactions are public exposure events like expos, avians, or exotica. Also, performances. Since many of the courtesans are many forms of talented artist, you know, some of them are musicians, some of them are dancers.

00:26:45:12 - 00:27:12:16

Luna

There's like all sorts of wildly impressive talent at the house. You are, of course, allowed to attend public events as long as you behave like a normal person or audience member. Okay, so that means respectful appreciation, tipping when appropriate and keeping private details about relationships private, right? So just because you and I may have had an intimate connection, this is true in any context.

00:27:12:16 - 00:27:34:15

Luna

If you've had an intimate connection with a person and you're in public ground, other people keep those naughty details to yourself. Certainly don't lure them out. I feel like it should go without saying, but also we don't know until we know. So there's there's the rule. All of that is to say the whole point is that people work at and visit Sherry's because it is a safe place to come together and come together.

00:27:34:17 - 00:27:58:14

Luna

So just be cool. And if you're uncertain about a social boundary, please just ask the lady of your choice. Just ask. Instead of guessing, you know, just ask every little thing. But like use good common sense. Be really thoughtful. Try to put yourself in another person's shoes and just be open to learning and open to adjusting. And in general, anything that resembles stalking or telling people that we have a personal relationship or that we're getting married or something like that, that's in the avoid.

00:27:58:14 - 00:28:20:07

Luna

So don't go there. I always tell people that it's just like meeting me as a photographer or a writing consultant. The creative work can get personal and the connection that we create is real. It is intimate. I always tell people that it's like meeting me as a photographer or writing consultant. The creative work can get personal, it's intimate, and the connection that we create is a real connection.

00:28:20:09 - 00:28:43:00

Luna

I love when creative clients recommend me to their friends. However, none of my photography clients have ever assumed that they are going to be invited to a holiday dinner at my family's house just because we had an incredible shoot, you know what I'm saying? And ladies, do pay room and board and move into and out of the rooms every tour.

00:28:43:01 - 00:29:01:22

Luna

And for details you can see the upcoming post. What is it like to live and work at Sheri's Ranch next? What are you allowed to do it a legal brothel in general. As long as it's legal, consensual and within your budget, you can have your hearts and parts desires. Coming soon are details of all the different parties available.

00:29:01:22 - 00:29:20:09

Luna

If you have a specific question, let me or the courtesan of your choice know you know. In general, it's listed on our profiles what we do. If you have a very specific question, if it's about anal or kissing or fluid exchange, that's a no. That's pretty clear. But everything else, a lot of ladies are very up for things.

00:29:20:09 - 00:29:42:10

Luna

And if you're looking for someone with a specific skill or expertise, go check out their profile or ask them if you want a very specific detail. I always like to offer an overview of my menu so you can see activities without prices. You can find that on my blog at luna.com/evac. Are legal brothels in Nevada safe? So that was the other reaction that I got when I started telling friends and people I would meet that I work in a brothel.

00:29:42:10 - 00:30:05:17

Luna

They're like, are you safe? Are you getting trafficked? They're very concerned. And I would say, yep, brothels are way safer. And for me personally, much more gratifying than my experiences with normal casual dating. So here are some reasons I feel safe. There is clarity, as Brené Brown says, clear is kind. We get clear on what we want to do together, and then we get to kindly co-create mutual pleasure.

00:30:05:23 - 00:30:29:09

Luna

We agree on our activities. I don't have to wonder if you're suddenly gonna stick a mouse or a finger somewhere. We didn't discuss, and safer sex practices are a given. I got super duper tired in casual dating when my boundaries were getting pushed by dates after I had a friend secretly take off a condom, a practice known as stealthing, now illegal in California.

00:30:29:09 - 00:30:48:11

Luna

It was not at the time while he was behind me, even though we had had a safer sex talk and had agreed on condom use. That's not friendly behavior and that is not okay. And that is why brothels are safer. I also love knowing that I have a panic button, and that everyone in the house is looking and listening to keep us safe.

00:30:48:12 - 00:31:14:06

Luna

I have never had to use any of the emergency safety mechanisms, but I have had to yell at one person in particular was a very loud yell. The other ones were less loud, but I've yelled at people in a negotiation when they were very, very rude and not getting out of my room. That was the most extreme case, and by the time that person was walking out of my door into the hallway, security was already coming down the hall to see what was up because a lady next door was like, Luna, I need help.

00:31:14:10 - 00:31:40:22

Luna

Go! Room 20, our legal brothel safe to visit? Yes. The ranch takes security and privacy very seriously. The whole point is to offer guests a safe and comfortable, discreet place where they can have a blast connecting in a way where they are free to be their whole selves in a judgment free zone. Phones are not allowed in the bar, and they do need to stay put away during parties unless filming or photographing a scene has been explicitly negotiated.

00:31:41:00 - 00:31:58:17

Luna

There is security on site 24 seven. There is secure payment processing and discreet billing. The whole point is it is a legal place for you to get your needs met in the exact way that you need the met. The building is in the middle of nowhere, so you are highly, highly unlikely to run into anyone. You would know.

00:31:58:19 - 00:32:20:21

Luna

I have literally never seen strangers run into each other at the ranch, and I imagine that if you did like at any sex party, you know participants are bound to secrecy by the code of discreet conduct and respect of privacy that's built into these spaces. There's like a mutual agreement to, like, be cool. You know, guests also get the safety and benefit of professional expertise.

00:32:20:23 - 00:32:54:10

Luna

Barrier use toys, lube and soap will be used safely and effectively. So our personal hygiene is never at risk, nor is yours. We avoid food exchange and we courtesans are tested weekly. Again, like I said, to make sure that we are all clear when it comes to STIs and just a sex positive no. I love to spread the idea of saying all clear rather than clean, because the idea of clean and dirty creates stigma, and it's like there's no such thing as risk free sex, but like get tested and just get it all clear signal so we know what we need to do to play safely.

00:32:54:12 - 00:33:10:09

Luna

It's also a safe emotional container. So you understand that you don't have to take care of us beyond the length of our agreement, and we leave each other better than we found each other. It's super clear and beautiful. If you are a couple, it's a safe container to first explore, adding a third who can hold space for you and facilitate.

00:33:10:09 - 00:33:29:04

Luna

This is especially helpful if you're figuring out if you even like that concept, right? Because it's a whole nother thing to bring in. Like the emotions of another human. You have to find someone. You both like all of that, and then you're sort of like managing a relationship. If you have a partner and you're in any kind of a don't ask, don't tell situation, this is also a place for you.

00:33:29:06 - 00:33:51:09

Luna

And if you have a partner who is into knowing details about these things that they wouldn't necessarily want to try with you. I have literally had friends hop on facetimes with spouses during their parties, and my very best friend juju met a big gay couple. So two men who were both bisexual, where one was treating the other to a lady for his birthday, which was really fun and hot.

00:33:51:11 - 00:34:13:05

Luna

So we are not official therapists. Well, probably someone there is a licensed therapist. I know that Camille has a therapy certificate and I'm a therapy nerd, right? Like I've read all the books I can talk to you about CBT, not cock and ball torture, but also that. But cognitive behavioral therapy. Dialectical behavioral therapy. I'll talk to you about eMDR.

00:34:13:05 - 00:34:44:06

Luna

I'll talk to you about IAF's internal family systems. I'll talk to you about Ray, you know, external family system that just family systems therapy. I'll talk to you about analysis and why it wasn't effective for me and why long term it can lead to more rumination. But we are not official therapists. However, like bartenders, hairstylists, and cab drivers, we often find ourselves emotional alchemists that offer space for you to explore yourself with a friend and in deeper intimacy than an analyst couch or a virtual eMDR session can offer.

00:34:44:08 - 00:35:02:18

Luna

You know, and I have spoken to colleagues who are sex therapists and regular therapists, and they have opened up to me, you know, especially when I share about my full service work. And they're like, man, you know, due to the professional standards, it's like really hard sometimes because I wish that I could just like give my client a hug.

00:35:02:20 - 00:35:26:17

Luna

And that's the thing. It's like a lot of people who are struggling, especially in the realm of intimacy, the non physical methods that we use to treat people don't work for a human nervous system like it, like the nervous system can't rewire its patterns without having direct experience with safety. The thoughts can get rewired. It can create space and potential for new things.

00:35:26:17 - 00:35:56:12

Luna

But direct experience of safety is the most powerful way to help an old pattern loosen up. Guests always receive the experience they negotiate, as long as the guest does their part in fulfilling that bargain. So I can heavily influence. However, I cannot ultimately control another person's ejaculations or orgasms. I can only trust that you will stick to your side of the agreement and respect my physical boundaries.

00:35:56:13 - 00:36:15:10

Luna

I'll enforce that. You know, I give people one warning. They get one warning because I get it. And you maybe you forget and you start to go and I'm like, nope. And, the second time that there's an attempted infraction is done were over. I have only ever ended one party early because of naughtiness, and I didn't even fully end his session.

00:36:15:10 - 00:36:29:03

Luna

I was just like, well, you've made it clear that you're not going to respect that boundary. So we can lay here for the remaining 40 minutes, or I can just, you know, give you a massage or and after about five minutes, a massage, she was like, oh, I got to get out of here. So, you know, just stick to the agreements.

00:36:29:03 - 00:36:49:05

Luna

And if you are a person that can drink a lot and hide it, don't don't go to the brothel. So I can only trust that you will stick to your side of the agreement and respect my physical boundaries. And as long as we are all acting in good faith and bringing our spirit of joy and play and exploration, you will receive what we agreed on.

00:36:49:05 - 00:37:08:17

Luna

Which is my favorite part of getting intimate in kinky ways, right? One of my should we call it a gateway drug? Not really a drug, but one of my gateways to this work was kink. Another one was photography. I love clear, clear containers of what the game is, and then we just get to have fun playing in it instead of so much casual dating.

00:37:08:17 - 00:37:27:18

Luna

And you know, I talk about this with my friends who are not in sex work and they're struggling with relationships or clients who come to me for relationship advice. So much of the issue that people are facing simply has to do with the fact that people are unclear about what's on the table, and then they're unclear about how to interact with one another.

00:37:27:18 - 00:37:48:06

Luna

You know, especially if they don't talk about it with their partners ahead of time. And then there's like the pressure of masculinity and the pressure of femininity and all of these things that tangle people up. So the brothel is a space where we can just have the clear joy of, okay, what do you want to do now, today?

00:37:48:08 - 00:38:11:02

Luna

And how much do you want to do it? It's like improv. You kind of know what the game is. You kind of know the structure, and then you loosely play inside of it. And it's so often negotiation is the first step to building trust in any kind of intimate partnership anywhere, any context. And trust is what creates the space for real vulnerable hot connections.

00:38:11:02 - 00:38:35:08

Luna

So, in all of the people who I have interviewed, the hundreds of people that I've interviewed on Pod and the hundreds more that I've talked to off pod, the recurring theme in everyone's best sex is safety. So the brothels, a very safe place. People want to know the worst parts, homophobic culture and stigma. It's gross. It's sad.

00:38:35:08 - 00:38:56:17

Luna

It's bad. I don't know, it comes from shame and a bunch of societal structures that I am just learning to understand. I also don't like entitlement of some prospective clients. You know, it is so interesting to me that someone may arrive with this feeling of entitlement or being better than another person. I think in any context that's like not really cool vibe.

00:38:56:19 - 00:39:19:11

Luna

Another thing that for me is the worst part is not having access to my own bathtub kitchen or my stovetop espresso maker. So I mostly do instant decaf. I will sometimes drink the Lake Ranch coffee. It's like the Folgers, you know, Folgers bags. I'm pretty sensitive to caffeine these days, but I really love taking a bath. That's why I get really excited.

00:39:19:11 - 00:39:36:13

Luna

If someone wants to do a bubble bath party, or we end up in a VIP bungalow because there are bubble baths out there, that's one of my favorites. But not being able to take a bath to wind down and the inconsistency of the hot tub. Although lately it's been working. But damn, it's a roller coaster ride. Sometimes. There is a wonderful hot tub there.

00:39:36:15 - 00:39:57:20

Luna

The ins and outs of group living can sometimes be the worst part, but also sometimes the best part. And the unique situation of living where you work. Again, it's something that I kind of I love the intensity, but I am a creator that oftentimes, you know, when I'm on set for a film project or something, oftentimes we are we the creatives are living in that kind of creative collaboration.

00:39:57:20 - 00:40:28:06

Luna

So I like that intensity. But for some people it's really, really hard. And for me, the other hardest part is missing my cat. So the best parts I love clarity that helps us connect and collaborate. It's the best. I love a safe environment that is conducive to maximum pleasure. I love interesting people. I love mutual curiosity. I also am biased, but I really feel like I attract the best or the best for me.

00:40:28:06 - 00:40:49:23

Luna

Clients. It's so cool, especially when people have read my materials or listen to the podcast. It's like finding play friends I knew were out there and I just hadn't met yet, so that's one of my favorite parts. I also get to see what I feel like are real, intimate parts of people, because they feel permission to be vulnerable and open and honest with me in this secret space, you know?

00:40:49:23 - 00:41:13:22

Luna

I mean, it's funny because I myself do not really want to keep my own secrets, but I am an expert global secret keeper, right? So that started for me with photography sessions, just regular actor headshots, people who just like open up because I got really good at creating intimacy very quickly because I would do short 15 minute sessions so I could calm down the nervous system, remind them to breathe, and I can just like walk people through this emotional experience.

00:41:13:22 - 00:41:38:01

Luna

You know, that's perfect for them. And for me, it's always about like lining up the energy of the person with the physical. If it's the photography thing at the ranch, it's about lining up the energy of the person with their goals, with my energy, with their body, and kind of doing that exploratory mission. All that is to say, private spaces allow people to creatively express themselves openly.

00:41:38:01 - 00:42:03:11

Luna

And I think that is the coolest part of being a human on this planet in a 3D physical body. You know, I feel so sad for people who spend their time on this earth while we're alive, you know, trying to gather widgets, whether it's money or stuff, you know, stuff grabbers and using that to measure their success. Whereas, like, what about the joy of being in a body and feeling like how cool you as a human being are?

00:42:03:12 - 00:42:20:18

Luna

Right? And so for a lot of my clients, the acceptance and joy they feel with me, I hear later that that has led them to like really wonderful things. And it was cool when that was happening through photography. Like I would have clients would be like, oh my gosh, the character you made up for me in the character that you fed me.

00:42:20:18 - 00:42:43:10

Luna

Like, now I'm writing a pilot and I'm submitting that now I have literary representation and I got a new manager and I got a new agent. Like, that was cool and gratifying. And it's even cooler when I get messages from podcast listeners or past guests that let me know how hearing about sex has changed your life. But it's even better when one of my lovers has like, hey, our time together changed me for good in this way.

00:42:43:12 - 00:43:11:03

Luna

That is truly one of the best parts for me. I also just fucking love a gorgeous location with breathtaking desert and mountain views, wildlife, and so many excellent moon rises. It's so beautiful out there. It's a very specific type of beauty and it totally appeals to my sci fi loving heart. So that is legal. Brothel 101 coming next.

00:43:11:05 - 00:43:31:00

Luna

How to prepare for your trip to a legal brothel. That's number two. And then we'll get into etiquette at legal brothels in Nevada. Pricing at legal brothels in Nevada. Legal brothels. Negotiation tips. Email etiquette for legal brothels in Nevada. Activities at legal brothels. Why I love being a legal courtesan. You just got a taste of that. And my legal brothel communication practices, preferences and priorities.

00:43:31:00 - 00:43:47:16

Luna

So those are the ones that are currently written. All those other topics are coming soon. What is it like to live and work at Sheri's Ranch? Who are the brothel clients? Okay, those ones I have drafts of, but we're working on. It's all a work in progress. Threesomes. Couples, two girls. Virgins. Quickies. Basic. Classic. Girlfriend experiences. Overnights. Multi-day.

00:43:47:16 - 00:44:06:10

Luna

Try something. New parties, kink, Bdsm, fetish roleplay, ass worship and pagan foot worship. Creating safety. I am so excited for that episode. I might have to bump that one up. Why? We probably won't get married. It is okay if people fall in love, right? Like that's it. And love is a big, broad word. We'll get there. Is it real or are you faking it?

00:44:06:10 - 00:44:26:18

Luna

I'm always like, it's such a common question. Is this even real? I'm like, well, I mean, we know from recent politics that reality is totally subjective. And also, can't you trust your own experience? Also, like, I personally don't possess the skill to fake it like I. I always like to say my yes. My net of yes is so wide.

00:44:26:18 - 00:44:49:00

Luna

If someone falls outside of my yes zone, they're a fuck no. Get out of my sphere zone, you know, or they're, Go fucking work on yourself. And when you are ready to be kind, polite, respectful and connected, come back and talk to me like a person. You know anyone who has. I'm a kind of sexual. So anyone who is kind is invited into my personal sphere in the right context, right?

00:44:49:02 - 00:45:10:08

Luna

Can I get you a gift? Self-love. How do you treat yourself? How long should I last in bed? I'll just give you a little sneak preview. Any amount of time is good and if you have a different goal, there are lots of fun ways to experience that. Explore Tantra. I hate that they call it premature ejaculation, but if you come sooner than you want it.

00:45:10:08 - 00:45:28:10

Luna

It's so funny because like, people are so worried about coming too soon or so worried about not coming at all. And I'm just like I always say, I chase your pleasure, not your orgasm. And that we have Suzanne from episode what, 52 some long time ago episode to think. And I also want to tell you someday why all shapes and sizes are awesome.

00:45:28:10 - 00:45:35:19

Luna

So that's this episode of How to Brothel. Thank you for listening. Please remember to follow your heart and follow your heart and you will be good to go.